Learning to Trust Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment

In this special episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can become more self-reliant, and learn to trust ourselves. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. They start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. Forrest introduces a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.
You can watch this episode on YouTube (youtu.be/z3rUFJHVWsc).
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: Why some people have an easier time trusting themselves than others
4:30: An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable
9:50: Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility
14:10: Sticking up for yourself
19:55: Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless
25:00: Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment
30:15: Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others
35:00: Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal
41:35: Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world
48:55: Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity
55:15: Recap
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