Season 30 Premiere: Let's Get COZY! | Season 30

0:04 [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Homemaker Shake Podcast. [SPEAKER_00]: This is Season 30. [SPEAKER_02]: Angela's Age! [SPEAKER_02]: Yes! [SPEAKER_00]: The Re-Zero for 30 seasons. [SPEAKER_00]: Each about 10 to 12 weeks give her take. [SPEAKER_00]: We have been rescuing the art of homemaking from the daily grind red lips.

0:26 [SPEAKER_00]: No denim jumpers. [SPEAKER_00]: I am Angela Reid of Parisian Farm Girl. [SPEAKER_00]: That's Shay Elliott, Top Shays Italian Kitchen. [SPEAKER_00]: That's right. [SPEAKER_00]: See how I did that? [SPEAKER_00]: I saw you hold your breath. [SPEAKER_02]: I know. [SPEAKER_00]: You were like, is she gonna get it?

0:39 [SPEAKER_00]: I struggled all the time. [SPEAKER_02]: Here we are. [SPEAKER_02]: Season 30. [SPEAKER_02]: So by the time that this airs, Angela and I will be back back from our respective trips from our trips. [SPEAKER_02]: Let's hope that. [SPEAKER_02]: we get back. [SPEAKER_00]: I love everything goes well.

1:02 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my. [SPEAKER_00]: I am, uh, yeah, I'm at that point. [SPEAKER_00]: I, you know, gosh, you leave in a few days. [SPEAKER_00]: I leave in 24. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm at the don't stop your ankle. [SPEAKER_00]: Snage staged. [SPEAKER_00]: Every step I take on a pebble. [SPEAKER_00]: Mm-hmm. [SPEAKER_02]: Paris is not as easy to navigate when you have a boot.

1:26 [SPEAKER_00]: No, that would not, that would not be good. [SPEAKER_00]: That would not be good. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so if you're new around here. [SPEAKER_02]: homemaker she started in 2020 and this is the podcast where we are coming alongside you to rescue the art of homemaking from the daily grind red lips no denim jumpers we joked back in the day that you know this wasn't like 80s home school mom.

1:53 [SPEAKER_02]: the word, the homemaker ethos has expanded so far beyond that. [SPEAKER_02]: Although the 80s and 90s fashion did come back a little bit since then, but that's okay. [SPEAKER_00]: They tried to revive that denim jumper and I said get the behind me saying like, that's just horrid. [SPEAKER_00]: Sorry, that is not a good look for [SPEAKER_00]: I know you.

2:21 [SPEAKER_00]: That is not a denim jumper. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just saying, to our British listeners, we don't mean a denim sweater. [SPEAKER_00]: We mean this shapeless thing. [SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm. [SPEAKER_00]: That was top [SPEAKER_00]: It was not the year I was born. [SPEAKER_02]: Well, listen, it was just a little speaking of speaking of years that somebody was born.

2:54 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_00]: My heaven. [SPEAKER_00]: Go ahead. [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I was scrubbing through some of these comments to share with you guys today. [SPEAKER_02]: And I ran across one that I'm failing to find now, but I'll look at it closer when we pull it up. [SPEAKER_02]: But she said she'd been listening to us.

3:08 [SPEAKER_02]: She's like, I love you guys so I'm listening since during COVID when I started, now was 14. [SPEAKER_02]: You know, it was like, are we a thousand years old, but what? [SPEAKER_00]: That's amazing. [SPEAKER_02]: It was interesting, you know, so we, we had an episode last season where we were talking about, put it togetherness and, you know, older women and all this kind of stuff.

3:34 [SPEAKER_02]: And I had a cooking community call a few months ago and there was a woman in it. [SPEAKER_02]: And she was a grandmother and she was joining us. [SPEAKER_02]: I would say the majority of cooking community members are around my age, somewhere between 30 and 50. [SPEAKER_02]: She was older.

3:50 [SPEAKER_02]: And she said, you know, it's really strange when you get older, because you're usually the oldest person in the room. [SPEAKER_00]: And you just look around, and you're like, I'm the oldest person here. [SPEAKER_02]: And just what a strange sensation that is. [SPEAKER_02]: I was like, well, you're probably also the wisest stuff, right?

4:07 [SPEAKER_00]: Hopefully, Laura Welling, good things come with age. [SPEAKER_02]: Um, but yeah, here we are season 30. [SPEAKER_02]: How do you feel it summer's over? [SPEAKER_00]: No, that's not the best thing for you. [SPEAKER_00]: No, it's not. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's not it's so yeah, we're recording here in late August and I'm still like, what's the UV?

4:31 [SPEAKER_00]: Find a UV on my phone. [SPEAKER_00]: The UV on my phone. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's um, we are August here, you know, I think we've been sort of preparing for the season because it's super a terminal because of the wildfires here in North Central Washington. [SPEAKER_02]: This guy has been [SPEAKER_02]: covered in smoke.

4:52 [SPEAKER_02]: I mean, it was just been covered in smoke since the end of July. [SPEAKER_00]: So we had that early July, like, where I'm like, what is it? [SPEAKER_00]: Season of mist? [SPEAKER_02]: That's what it is. [SPEAKER_02]: It feels like you're like, oh, okay. [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I guess we're done with sunshine.

5:06 [SPEAKER_02]: So everything's very muted, very, very kind of dold. [SPEAKER_02]: It has that a ton of no feel. [SPEAKER_02]: And um, and now here we are. [SPEAKER_02]: We're actually, now here we are. [SPEAKER_00]: Actually, real deal with you, a ton of no feel. [SPEAKER_02]: Which is good. [SPEAKER_02]: Everyone loves October, right?

5:24 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: Sure. [SPEAKER_00]: Until like this 17th, then I'm just like, bring on June. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, what, really? [SPEAKER_00]: No, it just drizzly and it's sad here. [SPEAKER_00]: OK, let's sad and windy and drizzly and sick. [SPEAKER_02]: In our show, we were going to talk today about really enjoying each month and letting this season, [SPEAKER_02]: be and savoring it.

5:49 [SPEAKER_02]: And we're like two minutes in here. [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm just I'm over it. [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm talking about I'm not listen. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about that. [SPEAKER_00]: Like in the show notes, I mean like in relation to [SPEAKER_00]: taking like this fourth quarter and just not pushing ahead so fast okay you know like taking the parts of October that you really love and enjoying them like Christmas is still out there you know I just think we mm-hmm [SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's kind of just like when they put the back to school up after the fourth July.

6:28 [SPEAKER_00]: Just thinking calm down. [SPEAKER_00]: I still need a bathing suit. [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, so just letting October be October. [SPEAKER_00]: Let November, be November. [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't know. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, we'll talk about it when we circle around after comments because I have more to say on that.

6:43 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: All right. [SPEAKER_02]: Well, we're glad you're here. [SPEAKER_02]: Normally, we come up with a season theme that we just feel like is going to put a B in your bonnet and give you kind of a phrase to going to something that you can just sort of sink your teeth into, right?

6:59 [SPEAKER_02]: Like, I got to make my bed. [SPEAKER_02]: I got to be the manager of my home. [SPEAKER_00]: I've got to dress for success. [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever. [SPEAKER_00]: I can't remember all this. [SPEAKER_00]: It does for success. [SPEAKER_00]: We've never done this. [SPEAKER_00]: We should dress for success.

7:15 [SPEAKER_02]: maybe we should. [SPEAKER_02]: This season, we just are going to we're going to just tuck in and we're going to have a cozy season. [SPEAKER_02]: We're going to have 12 weeks, whatever, however, we're going to have 10 weeks of cozy. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: I wanted to say like, [SPEAKER_02]: creating cozy magic, but people are weird about the word magic.

7:36 [SPEAKER_02]: But what I mean is by that is, I've always said this, I do believe that women have this particular superpower to create magic in their homes. [SPEAKER_02]: And what I mean by magic is something that feels ethereal, something that feels like, like, [SPEAKER_00]: Like magic. [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

8:02 [SPEAKER_01]: What are the words of yours? [SPEAKER_00]: It's, I don't know. [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, cozy is palatable. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: So it feels like it's beyond just creating an atmosphere because the atmosphere that we create in our home. [SPEAKER_02]: Gosh, it goes deep into the people that come into our home, into our children, into our husbands, into ourselves, into people, friends, family, whoever [SPEAKER_02]: We create that.

8:32 [SPEAKER_02]: That is like a great burden and a great blessing. [SPEAKER_02]: And it always reminds me of that quote like to whom much is given, much is required. [SPEAKER_02]: because when mom or or homemaker can create that just like presence in her home that feeling in her home that that that cozy that safe that loved that warm.

9:01 [SPEAKER_02]: Oh man it affects everybody and affects everybody. [SPEAKER_01]: So that's what we want to do. [SPEAKER_01]: That's what we want to spend some time developing this season. [SPEAKER_00]: Cozy magic. [SPEAKER_00]: Cozy magic. [SPEAKER_00]: Cozy magic. [SPEAKER_02]: um you have a special space and you want to make it beautiful some of the most powerful ways we transform our spaces is with light and scent and the gorgeous candles and fragrances from salt and light by Sammy will do just that oh my gosh you guys I have their candles all over my bedroom I cannot get enough of how thoughtful and refined the scent smell Sammy and Ben are on a mission with their family run business [SPEAKER_02]: to help you make your home less toxic.

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10:29 [SPEAKER_02]: It's the easiest way to transform your space into something magical this season. [SPEAKER_02]: You can shop salt and light by Sammy. [SPEAKER_02]: That's s-a-m-i.com and use the code homemaker chic for [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, should we start off with some comments? [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

10:50 [SPEAKER_02]: Do some, let me ask you a question actually before we start. [SPEAKER_02]: So, how was the store? [SPEAKER_02]: Tell us, give us an update on the store. [SPEAKER_00]: Um, well, it was a great first season. [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I don't think I can complain. [SPEAKER_00]: Tell people what, sorry.

11:05 [SPEAKER_00]: I just said the store. [SPEAKER_00]: Can you tell both? [SPEAKER_00]: They're just checking in what I mean. [SPEAKER_02]: Sorry. [SPEAKER_00]: Sure, sure. [SPEAKER_00]: So I opened, um, so I've had every day Shattow.com for quite a while and doing live Instagram sales and selling online for, you know, four or five years now.

11:22 [SPEAKER_00]: And, uh, so I opened the brick and mortar this year. [SPEAKER_00]: And, plus very exciting. [SPEAKER_00]: It was very spontaneous and very exciting. [SPEAKER_00]: So, she's asking how it went because it's a tourist-driven community and things have really, [SPEAKER_00]: Wow and down now, but we will still be open on the weekends.

11:42 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm hoping through most of winter probably not January and February, but. [SPEAKER_00]: kind of got to sort that out because it's a three season building so we're gonna we're gonna figure it out but I think it was a great first season the response from the community was beautiful and I got to meet so many podcast listeners and shocked me it shocked me and they you know what either tell me like right when they walked in or just as they were leaving oh [SPEAKER_00]: You know, so really, really amazing.

12:18 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm, I'm, I'm floored at how many podcasts listeners came in. [SPEAKER_02]: I love that. [SPEAKER_02]: That was nice of you guys to do. [SPEAKER_02]: Thanks for doing that. [SPEAKER_02]: Super supportive and super kind. [SPEAKER_02]: I'll tell you, I miss brick and mortar businesses. [SPEAKER_00]: I miss every time my little bell jingles I think of you because I have a it's not on the main door where you come in because it's just a greenhouse door but the other door has a bell in it flaps in the wind and I just [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I just, that was the, working in the flower house, we called it the European flower in garden house is what we called it.

13:00 [SPEAKER_01]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: I just really delighted in it. [SPEAKER_02]: I really did. [SPEAKER_02]: I loved the, I think it was just because of Meg Ryan and you've got mail. [SPEAKER_02]: I think I just wanted the shop around the corner. [SPEAKER_02]: You know, where you know your customers. [SPEAKER_02]: And yeah, you have the little jingle bell and you get to decorate for the seasons and you're just far from around.

13:18 [SPEAKER_02]: And wipe it off countin'. [SPEAKER_02]: Perfect, right? [SPEAKER_02]: Just doing stuff. [SPEAKER_02]: I love that. [SPEAKER_00]: Piddeline in the store. [SPEAKER_00]: Do you guys want to talk about doing something? [SPEAKER_02]: Oh yeah, we have like 17 businesses in our head. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, but, you know, time and money and all that, it's, I gotta tell you, it's a really nice change.

13:42 [SPEAKER_02]: I can see it. [SPEAKER_00]: I just really enjoy. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, first of all, I have a lot of beautiful things and to get them off my dumb shelves and my basement and get them styled and have people come in and be like, what? [SPEAKER_00]: Because it's, you know, very specific look, very different.

14:01 [SPEAKER_00]: And, um, [SPEAKER_00]: Just the, the rapport with people, what I typically do, you know, because they're, most, they're either locals or they're visiting, you know, and so when people visit here, they visit because they're just in love with this place. [SPEAKER_00]: And so I let them come in and then at my favorite thing to do is like, come out around the counter and go find them in the store and just say, are you visiting or do you love your [SPEAKER_00]: Fuller part-time and asking them what their dinner plans are and recommend restaurants and offer them a glass of wine Like that's get all like schmoozy out on the floor.

14:40 [SPEAKER_00]: I love that [SPEAKER_00]: I had a lady come in the other day and she's been in like three or four times and Doris, how are you? [SPEAKER_02]: I said I feel like I should give you a hug, she's like give me a hug, you know, so yeah, it's just like that. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's a beautiful oil painting like on day one.

14:55 [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like how's the painting? [SPEAKER_00]: Where do you have it displayed? [SPEAKER_00]: Love a love a love. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah, super fun. [SPEAKER_00]: It's I'm really enjoying like that. [SPEAKER_02]: The Shmozy bit. [SPEAKER_02]: That's the world I want to live in. [SPEAKER_02]: That's the world I want to live in.

15:13 [SPEAKER_02]: Are you just like, see people? [SPEAKER_02]: And you know, you have you ever like gone on Etsy and looked at whatever, friend, janties. [SPEAKER_02]: And you're on like page 17 and you're like, I don't care. [SPEAKER_02]: Like it's such a different experience than go into a store and being like, oh, look, there's four paintings, which one do I like the most?

15:39 [SPEAKER_02]: And it's sort of strange because in some ways that accessibility and option of the word. [SPEAKER_01]: Variations. [SPEAKER_02]: Right? [SPEAKER_02]: Like it gives you lots of options. [SPEAKER_02]: Another, it's kind of crippling. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yeah, for sure. [SPEAKER_02]: 35,000 stores online, but there's only one ending place to work out.

16:07 [SPEAKER_02]: Need for you to go. [SPEAKER_00]: Great. [SPEAKER_02]: Do you know what I mean? [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: I miss that. [SPEAKER_01]: I miss that piece of things and it's tough. [SPEAKER_02]: Do businesses where you are, do they stay open for, do they, do they make it small businesses?

16:31 [SPEAKER_00]: um, it depends. [SPEAKER_00]: You can see one open and you'll go, oh, that is not gonna do it. [SPEAKER_00]: It's not gonna make it. [SPEAKER_00]: You kind of just know it's a bad name. [SPEAKER_00]: It's in a bad location. [SPEAKER_00]: It's really boring inside, you know, like you just kind of know, like not to disparage somebody's really hard work, it takes a lot of work to launch a business, but you can kind of tell.

16:55 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: Um, and then the ones that go, oh my gosh, they just go. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we have like think about, listen to this like success story. [SPEAKER_00]: So during COVID, you know, we were all going to the farmers market and whatever we could do out outdoors and how many people started making sourdough during COVID.

17:16 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so I go to the same farmers market and do little table pops up and she's making sourdough and she's making some beautiful love to Brad, right? [SPEAKER_01]: six years ago. [SPEAKER_01]: Now, there is a business in town. [SPEAKER_00]: Like, and it looks on the weekends in the morning, it looks like a farm auction.

17:45 [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know what I mean by that? [SPEAKER_00]: Like, on a country road, we're all the vehicles are parked down the road. [SPEAKER_00]: Because the parking lot is so full, they have to park down the country road. [SPEAKER_00]: The line is completely out the door. [SPEAKER_00]: into the parking lot wrapped around the parking lot.

18:02 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, we're talking like a 40 to 80 foot line. [SPEAKER_00]: Every day every morning. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, we can. [SPEAKER_00]: Wow. [SPEAKER_00]: For sour dough bag. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm good. [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it is a aging success story. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: And then we just had this year because people talk.

18:20 [SPEAKER_00]: Like, I have people come in my store and they'll say, just so you know, people are talking about you. [SPEAKER_00]: They're like, that's a good thing. [SPEAKER_00]: You know, like there's a new, there is a new, this year, sourdough pizza place. [SPEAKER_00]: That's all anybody's talking about.

18:37 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, did you try the new sourdough pizza? [SPEAKER_00]: I heard it's really good. [SPEAKER_00]: Did you try the new sourdough pizza? [SPEAKER_00]: I heard it's really good. [SPEAKER_00]: You know, so. [SPEAKER_00]: I think that you come in with a fresh idea and it looks good, the community response.

18:51 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I love that. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, thanks to all our listeners who went and visited Angela. [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you. [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you. [SPEAKER_02]: That was amazing. [SPEAKER_02]: It's really sweet. [SPEAKER_02]: You guys are such a wonderful group of people. [SPEAKER_02]: You've been so super supportive to us, super supportive to our sponsors, which you can find in the show notes as always or over on our website as well as always.

19:11 [SPEAKER_02]: So all the links and codes are [SPEAKER_02]: over on homemaker chicpodcast.com, if you ever forget them. [SPEAKER_02]: Your support of them is what keeps the show going. [SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, thank you for that. [SPEAKER_02]: We appreciate it. [SPEAKER_00]: And that's to take away from what, yeah, sorry, you're real static again.

19:30 [SPEAKER_00]: So if I'm talking over here, okay, go ahead. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, we have to take away from one season to another. [SPEAKER_00]: But like it is fourth quarter. [SPEAKER_00]: And this is when businesses like our sponsors are, [SPEAKER_00]: they're counting on you.

19:42 [SPEAKER_00]: So, to choose them to do business with us. [SPEAKER_00]: So, we thank you for the fans. [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, very good. [SPEAKER_02]: Very, very good. [SPEAKER_02]: OK, sometimes making the switch to natural ingredients is a big sacrifice. [SPEAKER_02]: And sometimes it is a big upgrade. [SPEAKER_02]: Tupes and co is a natural skincare and makeup company that makes saying yes to these non-toxic products easy.

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21:00 [SPEAKER_00]: Should we dive into some comments? [SPEAKER_00]: Please. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: You guys were a little delayed on the library comments from last season, but they did come in. [SPEAKER_02]: When we start a new season, we have to, you know, obviously there's no comments on this season yet.

21:19 [SPEAKER_02]: So all the comments that we read start with season 29. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, so let's see. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, we had a conversation last season about my linguistic convergence. [SPEAKER_00]: which is she's an ability to not mimic accents when she's speaking with somebody who has a particular accent.

21:42 [SPEAKER_02]: and crowning countries that I noticed your linguistic convergence when you interviewed Emily from Tupes and Co. By the end of the podcast, you and Emily both had a southern accent. [SPEAKER_02]: I want to know, I want to hear from you. [SPEAKER_02]: The only other person that I met two people like this in my life, where it is truly almost physically impossible.

22:05 [SPEAKER_02]: It's very, very strange. [SPEAKER_02]: Mike, I mentioned, great for learning languages. [SPEAKER_02]: Really great. [SPEAKER_02]: Really difficult for having conversations with people from the south. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, you choose one. [SPEAKER_02]: Do you have them pulled up? [SPEAKER_00]: do you want to library one?

22:28 [SPEAKER_00]: Sure. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_00]: Hi, ladies. [SPEAKER_00]: In response to your library, woes, non-fiction is organized by subject using call numbers to locate i.e. [SPEAKER_00]: look for 635 regarding books. [SPEAKER_00]: Fiction is not so easy to organize by subject, so it makes much more sense to organize by the author's last name.

22:47 [SPEAKER_00]: take David Copperfield, would you put this in adventure or coming of age or romance or classics? [SPEAKER_00]: It's too difficult to organize fiction like that. [SPEAKER_00]: But your beef was it was organized by no, I think that was my wife. [SPEAKER_02]: No, it was the author's last name.

23:04 [SPEAKER_02]: If I don't know what I'm looking for, how do I find a book? [SPEAKER_00]: If I want a romance book. [SPEAKER_02]: So you might not get it perfectly, right? [SPEAKER_02]: But you might be able to narrow it down like the top two genres for a book. [SPEAKER_02]: Like, oh, it's science fiction.

23:19 [SPEAKER_00]: But how was yours or your classics? [SPEAKER_02]: Our author is a nice name. [SPEAKER_01]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, so you're basically just walking the shelves. [SPEAKER_02]: You pull a book off a shelf. [SPEAKER_02]: It could be science fiction. [SPEAKER_02]: It could be romance. [SPEAKER_02]: It could be adventure, right?

23:36 [SPEAKER_02]: It could be travel. [SPEAKER_02]: We don't know. [SPEAKER_00]: And this was just your classic section, right? [SPEAKER_02]: No, it was the whole fiction section. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's fiction. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: How would you find a book? [SPEAKER_02]: Like, oh, I don't really know what I want to read.

23:48 [SPEAKER_02]: What should I read? [SPEAKER_02]: How would you find that? [SPEAKER_00]: Well, ours are organized by like genre. [SPEAKER_00]: I know. [SPEAKER_00]: That's what I'm saying. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, classics. [SPEAKER_00]: And then they're like in alphabetical order by title. [SPEAKER_00]: Mystery, classics, romance.

24:06 [SPEAKER_02]: There was another comment that said, once you know a few worthy authors, you have a great starting point. [SPEAKER_00]: So you just have to, yeah, you have to just kind of memorize the authors. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: So anyway. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_00]: I want to read this one because I kind of had a rant last season about older people and how they're either, I think I used to the world delicious.

24:25 [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yes. [SPEAKER_02]: Delicious. [SPEAKER_02]: Or crotchety. [SPEAKER_00]: Or crotchety. [SPEAKER_00]: And it's true. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: Alexandria said, I'm 31 in homeschool my four kids. [SPEAKER_00]: Now, but when I was while I was still working, I had so many interactions with crotchety elders.

24:41 [SPEAKER_00]: I'll never forget the day of woman in a luxury retirement neighborhood blessed me out because she signed up for our HVAC maintenance plan and it had increased by $9. [SPEAKER_00]: She screamed at me at how I had no idea what it was like to live on a fixed income. [SPEAKER_00]: I was a single mom of two at 23 and I didn't have two nickels to rub together.

25:02 [SPEAKER_00]: I obviously just took it. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, first of all, Alexandria, that was rude. [SPEAKER_00]: Second of all, I have never heard the expression blessed me out. [SPEAKER_00]: I like it. [SPEAKER_00]: I like it. [SPEAKER_00]: Dressed me down. [SPEAKER_00]: That's what I used. [SPEAKER_00]: Dressed me down.

25:20 [SPEAKER_00]: But blessed me out. [SPEAKER_01]: That's a good one. [SPEAKER_01]: That's a good way to put it. [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, yeah. [SPEAKER_01]: Uh-huh. [SPEAKER_01]: Uh-huh. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: Why are you just don't be me? [SPEAKER_00]: Don't, maybe, maybe since you are old, you should know that Alexandra didn't raise the rate herself.

25:41 [SPEAKER_00]: She just answers the phones. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, here's the comment from Kelsey and Hi-Ladies. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, it's sorry. [SPEAKER_02]: This is Sarah. [SPEAKER_02]: Not Kelsey. [SPEAKER_02]: Join to count. [SPEAKER_02]: Let's get that straight. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh my gosh, okay.

25:58 [SPEAKER_02]: A couple of years. [SPEAKER_02]: So to go Angela mentioned that when she has to get coffee beans from the pig, the caffeine is really bad. [SPEAKER_02]: I mean, she's totally right here. [SPEAKER_02]: But it actually might be mold content that's doing that. [SPEAKER_00]: Probably is. [SPEAKER_02]: A lot of grocery store beans have mold that isn't noticeable in taste, but can affect you very poorly.

26:18 [SPEAKER_02]: It might not be the caffeine. [SPEAKER_02]: It might be yabine. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's true. [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's true. [SPEAKER_00]: I have spent, I used to order like really swanky coffee to try to avoid that. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't really know as much of a difference, but yes, mold is a problem with coffee.

26:36 [SPEAKER_00]: Okay. [SPEAKER_02]: Can I ask you a question that might sound critical, but I don't mean it as such. [SPEAKER_00]: Me? [SPEAKER_00]: Yes. [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to criticize me. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to.

26:50 [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to.

26:56 [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to. [SPEAKER_02]: It's going to.

27:05 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm [SPEAKER_02]: They're used to be a season. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm pretty sure it's recorded on the podcast somewhere, where you had like a 30 day meal plan. [SPEAKER_02]: Big trip do the thing 18 bunches of cilantro at the beginning of the month or whatever.

27:26 [SPEAKER_02]: Are you are you not doing that? [SPEAKER_02]: right now or what I wasn't over the summer yeah no I mean and as you still get your know it's just a wagon I fall on an office oh okay yeah I mean that's that's fair that happens yeah yeah are you still spending time in the kitchen [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, are you finding joy and what are you enjoying in there right now?

27:49 [SPEAKER_00]: Not much. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, well, we're going into a season of cozy and I'm just thinking about it. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, no, I, and I am looking forward to that. [SPEAKER_00]: You, like, you, as you can imagine, the store like as glamorous and lovely and everything as it was. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

28:06 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, can you heighten the scenes? [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, because I'm out of the house, okay? [SPEAKER_00]: So I do have like a new kindle schedule. [SPEAKER_00]: No, like, respect for for moms that we're out of the house because I work my tail off in the house. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm an entrepreneur in my house.

28:27 [SPEAKER_00]: Right, well, that's different. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to say it's easier, but there is like when you're gone and then you're walking in the door to make dinner that's really different and that takes a level of organization and like coordination that I'm not really interested in in the summer because I live a little bit more like a gypsy, you know, load up the truck, go to the beach, come on kids, let's go, you know, [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, lots of variables, or yeah, could contribute into it.

29:04 [SPEAKER_00]: And but then for the full, then, you know, then you're like, oh, some of my roles in bread and pot roast. [SPEAKER_00]: And you get, you get more cozy into it. [SPEAKER_00]: But I definitely am more like out of the home in the summer period, even before the store, because I go to the beach.

29:23 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, okay. [SPEAKER_02]: I was just curious if you were still. [SPEAKER_02]: If meal planning is still helpful when your kids reach a certain age or if that's something that Mothers of younger children do because it just gives them some semblance of control and, you know, when they're dealing with toddlers or whatever like [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, right now like it like so, you know, we're recording this so far in advance, but the plan is, everybody has jobs, everybody's always coming or going, so we're down to like certain nights of the week where we together as a family, which is sad, it's just a different world.

30:02 [SPEAKER_00]: Um, it happens and so and I have like the new fridge. [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't gone on the first grocery run with the new fridge yet So I don't know will like how much I will have room for It won't be like having a 10 by 10 walk-in cooler. [SPEAKER_00]: It's gonna be different right. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, um, I've been trying to say, I know we're back around on that.

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31:45 [SPEAKER_00]: Normally, when we recorded our episodes like two days before they air, like we are right there along. [SPEAKER_00]: So I feel one and so yeah, feels kind of to us even. [SPEAKER_02]: Right. [SPEAKER_02]: This one's kind of a funky one because there's just literally like four weeks in a row where we're both out of the country.

32:00 [SPEAKER_02]: So right, just doesn't happen. [SPEAKER_02]: So normally we really are like mentally and fist like we're right there in the season with with you guys. [SPEAKER_02]: But it is interesting that transition back to [SPEAKER_02]: back to like I guess just stepping into autumn and you just you feel this you do feel this like just gentle desire for a little bit more structure yeah it's you know and really interesting and yeah again I think I've said it before like I don't know what that feels like in Southern California [SPEAKER_00]: But like, yeah, I know what it feels like here when you wake up and it's 58 instead of 68, you know, if I'm in the morning or whatever, it has a very, it has a very particular feel and flavor to it.

32:44 [SPEAKER_02]: If I could stay in that like blissful. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, the season's changing. [SPEAKER_02]: If I could stay in that like mental space for the rest of my life, I would be so happy. [SPEAKER_02]: Okay. [SPEAKER_00]: I love that feeling. [SPEAKER_02]: love that feeling. [SPEAKER_02]: It's what we need.

33:03 [SPEAKER_02]: I'll tell you what summer's hard for us. [SPEAKER_02]: Summer's hard for work. [SPEAKER_02]: Summer's hard for creators. [SPEAKER_02]: It's everything goes down. [SPEAKER_02]: Everything's challenging. [SPEAKER_02]: People are off living their lives and that's great. [SPEAKER_02]: It's not great when your income is day-stop people.

33:23 [SPEAKER_02]: Being there. [SPEAKER_02]: So we always end up working extra extra hard during the summertime anyway. [SPEAKER_02]: But in a particularly low point a couple of weeks ago, I said just do like Sometimes it feels like trying to go to Mars. [SPEAKER_02]: What we're trying to do like this is our income, right?

33:41 [SPEAKER_02]: And we're doing it at home with four with four children underfoot. [SPEAKER_02]: They're not napping. [SPEAKER_02]: They're not. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, they're she's hanging out in the play pen. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, no, I'm like who wants to go to the shop with me today? [SPEAKER_02]: Like, you know, yeah, they're they're like their full present people [SPEAKER_02]: right there and I just said this isn't saying.

34:04 [SPEAKER_02]: I mean imagine got being a dentist and like your kids were like hey what's for lunch? [SPEAKER_00]: Well you're working on a tragedy. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no it's true. [SPEAKER_02]: Hey what's for lunch? [SPEAKER_02]: Don't forget can we do a play day? [SPEAKER_00]: Right. [SPEAKER_02]: So I have one like you know Stuart takes the kids to our home school call out he's the director of that call up now so like [SPEAKER_02]: This goes on to his play.

34:27 [SPEAKER_02]: He's gone Tuesdays and Thursdays, which gives me two full days to just Bob. [SPEAKER_00]: I do know what I would do with two full days to say. [SPEAKER_00]: I can't I can't wrap my head around that. [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know the bathroom. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just like, hold it. [SPEAKER_02]: It's an awful way to live.

34:46 [SPEAKER_02]: It's terrible. [SPEAKER_00]: That sounds, but it sounds really nice. [SPEAKER_02]: No, it is. [SPEAKER_00]: I just clean through the music really loud. [SPEAKER_00]: I just like, you're yourself. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: I feel the whole thing would work. [SPEAKER_02]: I feel the whole thing would work.

35:03 [SPEAKER_02]: And I don't mean this as a complaint. [SPEAKER_02]: I really don't. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm curious how other people are finding life right now. [SPEAKER_00]: No, it's a good question because is it just like getting older and it's like the Peggy Leesong? [SPEAKER_00]: Is that all there is? [SPEAKER_00]: Is this it?

35:26 [SPEAKER_00]: It's just going to keep getting harder. [SPEAKER_02]: And I don't mean that as a gripe. [SPEAKER_02]: It is. [SPEAKER_02]: No. [SPEAKER_02]: It's questioning. [SPEAKER_02]: It's just on awareness. [SPEAKER_02]: What's morning? [SPEAKER_02]: What if this emotion is like morning? [SPEAKER_02]: This sweet little chubby family I used to have and like what if it is that and one of it is like Middle-aged work Stuff right where you're just like, okay, yeah, we're decades into this work effort and we have decades still ahead of us So it's a little don't and I have an awesome job [SPEAKER_02]: an awesome job, like I'm not working in the coal mines here, okay?

36:13 [SPEAKER_02]: I'm super grateful. [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just curious, yeah, like how are other people? [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know, how are other people finding it? [SPEAKER_02]: I was telling Angela the other day on a call. [SPEAKER_02]: Please tell me in the comments if you guys have [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

36:38 [SPEAKER_02]: I remember so vividly being able to picture the life that I wanted to build. [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted little babies. [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to be a mom so bad. [SPEAKER_02]: And when they were born, I just thought God, I was made for this. [SPEAKER_00]: Just my gosh. [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I saw over them and just like, I delighted in it.

37:05 [SPEAKER_02]: It was so hard, but I And I relished in it as much as any mom could. [SPEAKER_02]: I really do think that We we changed our whole life so that I could be with them and then I knew I wanted a home. [SPEAKER_02]: I knew I wanted a cozy little cottage. [SPEAKER_02]: I knew what I wanted it to look like.

37:27 [SPEAKER_02]: I knew what I wanted it to feel like. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but that's, but now that was 20 years ago, okay, where I will cast that vision kind of like every decision we make, it's to these ends. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's been just much time as we can as a family to get our kids in the garden and their hands in the dirt.

37:48 [SPEAKER_02]: Yes. [SPEAKER_02]: Let them watch the spring lambs be born and gather walnuts in the fall and like know the smell of fresh fresh y'all I could see. [SPEAKER_02]: I could taste it. [SPEAKER_02]: And now I'm like, but now what? [SPEAKER_02]: I can't see 20 years down the road. [SPEAKER_02]: No, I don't know.

38:04 [SPEAKER_01]: Is this what I'm trying to do? [SPEAKER_01]: I think it's what I'm trying to do. [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's a really, no, I feel that. [SPEAKER_00]: I feel everything you're saying very deeply. [SPEAKER_00]: And it has to be a reality for other people. [SPEAKER_00]: And [SPEAKER_00]: It's like, and then, you know, all that and, you know, your body's changing.

38:33 [SPEAKER_00]: And you're literally sometimes you look in the mirror like, I know who I'm supposed to be. [SPEAKER_00]: I know who you're supposed to be. [SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm looking at. [SPEAKER_02]: We talked about this. [SPEAKER_00]: Who are you? [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about this. [SPEAKER_01]: Remember?

38:48 [SPEAKER_02]: You're what you're supposed to be. [SPEAKER_01]: Remember, we talked about the last things. [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, thank you. [SPEAKER_01]: Did we use those words? [SPEAKER_02]: Yes. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, you're as you're supposed to be. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but what I'm saying is that, you know, the other day you said the T word, the townhouse, sort.

39:11 [SPEAKER_02]: testosterone? [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, no. [SPEAKER_02]: So, well, you know, when you have these random thoughts where you like explain, I will, I will. [SPEAKER_00]: Because you, you have days where you're like, oh, this is why people buy a townhouse. [SPEAKER_01]: This is why they have a big garage sale and just [SPEAKER_00]: You know, and you're like, just that, did I just say that?

39:34 [SPEAKER_00]: I did not say that out loud. [SPEAKER_00]: Did I just think that? [SPEAKER_00]: No, I didn't think that. [SPEAKER_00]: You didn't think that. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: And so that's what I mean by you looking, you're like, wait, who, who was that? [SPEAKER_00]: Was that bad, man?

39:45 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, because you don't know your person. [SPEAKER_00]: You don't know the stage of the game. [SPEAKER_00]: You can't envision it. [SPEAKER_00]: It's confusing. [SPEAKER_00]: It's confusing. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: That's what I mean. [SPEAKER_02]: I felt this a lot over the summer and no she's not buying a townhouse, no I'm not buying a townhouse but I felt this over the summer when I was transitioning to Shay's Italian kitchen and it was you can imagine like most people, most people were super great about it, it was weird.

40:15 [SPEAKER_02]: Ah, complexity, I guess, to deal with, where I thought about, you know, back in the day, like, right, we raised pigs, piglets, lambs, dairy cow, massive garden, put up all the food, did all the things, and I love all of that, I really do, but it was, it's a weird feeling to get to a stage where you're like, the, uh, [SPEAKER_02]: We used to raise ducks in Mac.com fee and like duck quashuto and like things all the things and I love ducks I love them so much I told you there might spirit at home.

40:49 [SPEAKER_02]: I love everything about them. [SPEAKER_02]: I don't want I don't want them right now And that's so weird because I love them that's what I mean [SPEAKER_02]: And that's exactly, I don't know who this person is because I know the person who was before who set the path forward for 20 years and but the path just doesn't stay the same.

41:16 [SPEAKER_02]: Just like your kids don't stay the same. [SPEAKER_02]: You don't stay the same and you can still love all of these things. [SPEAKER_02]: And recognize, if I brought in a little flock of 20 ducks right now to fatten and to butcher ourselves and to put in the freezer, Stewart, whatever my head like, we don't need another thing.

41:39 [SPEAKER_02]: I don't need another house plant at this point. [SPEAKER_02]: Whatever that threshold is, and I don't know if it's having teeny, I don't know what it is like, it's there. [SPEAKER_01]: It's like up to the tops. [SPEAKER_02]: And I know you feel that way when I had little kids. [SPEAKER_02]: Did you?

41:53 [SPEAKER_00]: No. [SPEAKER_00]: No. [SPEAKER_00]: No. [SPEAKER_00]: I was like, all the things. [SPEAKER_00]: All the things. [SPEAKER_00]: I did all the things. [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to do all the things. [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we did do it. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm getting older. [SPEAKER_00]: There's so much more work when they're older in a weird way.

42:11 [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not in a bad way. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if they take up more mental space when they're older. [SPEAKER_02]: My friend, Jody said, you know, it's difficult when they get older because you're playing with live rounds. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, there you go. [SPEAKER_00]: Well said, Jody.

42:27 [SPEAKER_00]: Well said, Jody. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and I think that's true. [SPEAKER_02]: You know, they have a car. [SPEAKER_02]: When they're a little, and they don't listen to what you say, and they accidentally, like, bonk their brother in the head with their dragon. [SPEAKER_02]: You know, you need to listen.

42:41 [SPEAKER_02]: You have to be careful, though. [SPEAKER_02]: When they have their driver's license, please look out for pedestrians. [SPEAKER_02]: No, really. [SPEAKER_00]: No, you know, oh my gosh, like I tell stuff, yeah, oh yeah, so you're like, oh my gosh living here with the tourists, I'm like, you know, you don't understand like all those Jaywalkers that we get so mad at now you have to watch are going to dart from behind cars and try to cross the streets and That's right.

43:09 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think I told you about this last season. [SPEAKER_02]: We have a little strip under the bridge. [SPEAKER_02]: We call the gauntlet. [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, you go. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, you got to be so careful because these people are on drugs. [SPEAKER_02]: So it's like they will just throw them and it's it's really scary.

43:26 [SPEAKER_02]: And I genuinely can't be thinking about that and like, Oh, and it's time to butcher those 50 broiler chickens. [SPEAKER_02]: I can't do that. [SPEAKER_02]: I wouldn't want to do that. [SPEAKER_02]: Even if I wanted that really bad right now, I don't think I would do that to my family. [SPEAKER_02]: because they have to come along too, right?

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44:34 [SPEAKER_02]: So if anyone has [SPEAKER_02]: has thoughts on this please share because when I've brought this conversation up with multiple people and most people say well you know you have there's still so much to look forward to right like your kids grow up if your kids get married you get to become a nona mm-hmm [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, yeah, but what, what the heck said, no, no, no, do it, where, where does she live?

45:04 [SPEAKER_02]: What is she feeling her time with? [SPEAKER_02]: Where do they live? [SPEAKER_02]: Is she flying to go see them? [SPEAKER_02]: Or do they live near her? [SPEAKER_02]: Like, then our, that's the, that's the college, like, what? [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's the, like, where you can't imagine it.

45:18 [SPEAKER_00]: You can imagine the house and the picket fence and the babies. [SPEAKER_00]: So that, there's the logistics and all of that that you can't, yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: Like where your kid's gonna go to school. [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know right. [SPEAKER_02]: How can I know that? [SPEAKER_00]: Well remember like you know after Aiden left I just had such a hard time.

45:37 [SPEAKER_00]: Like I year and a half. [SPEAKER_00]: It's been two years. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, are we at that? [SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm still having a hard time. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, okay. [SPEAKER_02]: I was like I did not finish that. [SPEAKER_00]: Now on their date, like Amelie will not be here, like, as we're recording this on Thursday and we take her on Sunday.

45:56 [SPEAKER_02]: I was not going to bring that up a thousand, you know? [SPEAKER_00]: I know, sorry. [SPEAKER_00]: But so in my limitations on the show, I remember a commenter saying that her mom talked about having multiple families. [SPEAKER_00]: And it's weird, it's like you're going, hmm. [SPEAKER_00]: I know, that's okay.

46:13 [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay. [SPEAKER_00]: You're going in reverse. [SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm. [SPEAKER_00]: Like now there's going to be for it, my table. [SPEAKER_00]: There was four. [SPEAKER_00]: Then there was five. [SPEAKER_00]: Then there was five. [SPEAKER_00]: Then there was six. [SPEAKER_00]: Like now we're going like the opposite way.

46:25 [SPEAKER_00]: And you're like, this is weird. [SPEAKER_02]: Right. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: That's when I feel the most sad is when I think about, I try not to dwell on this stuff like this because I do think God gives you grace for where you find yourself and you don't have that grace until you're there.

46:44 [SPEAKER_00]: But then you got like little ones like juniors like wait. [SPEAKER_00]: So someday it'll just be me at the table. [SPEAKER_02]: Right. [SPEAKER_02]: Oh my, please stop. [SPEAKER_00]: Right. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: This person, these people that he's known his whole life who have always been there right now are not anymore.

47:02 [SPEAKER_02]: When we started this show, which was like yesterday, I mean, Lee was 12 years old. [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: Like, when we say, I know from the comments, a lot of you have been listening since the beginning, and that's when I get freaked out. [SPEAKER_02]: Is when you just think about, [SPEAKER_02]: And okay, on the same, on the same kind of note, yes, you can picture yourself as like, sorry, there's some call coming in on the other, I don't know how to make a stop.

47:45 [SPEAKER_02]: When you picture yourself folder, some things that older people do. [SPEAKER_02]: They take time, right? [SPEAKER_02]: Like you had to take time to learn to be a homemaker and all the skills that were involved with that you had to study things and like read books and fail and mess up and keep going and like drawn inspiration, watch shows teach yourself to cook.

48:08 [SPEAKER_02]: Like you lived in a certain way so that this lifestyle could just sort of like come out of you. [SPEAKER_02]: Sure, more naturally, and Stuart was saying to me the other day he goes, you know, if we have good work to do, when we're older, because we're going to be pretty young when our kids are Most likely going to be out of the house, we had them young, so we'll only be 48, I'll be 48 which is [SPEAKER_02]: weird.

48:41 [SPEAKER_02]: And that's young. [SPEAKER_02]: Like there's a lot of life after 48 God willing. [SPEAKER_02]: But the things that you could invest your time in or do or build up or those some of those take prep work, they take vision, they take time. [SPEAKER_02]: So it's not as simple as like, oh, when the kids are out of the house, I'm going [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I have, like, I've said that's why I'm starting things now.

49:09 [SPEAKER_02]: That's why I started my trips. [SPEAKER_00]: So they would be totally successful. [SPEAKER_00]: God willing by the time the kids left. [SPEAKER_00]: That's why I started to store. [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't going to do that for like five years. [SPEAKER_00]: Right. [SPEAKER_00]: Right. [SPEAKER_02]: But those things, yeah, those things take time, you know.

49:25 [SPEAKER_02]: They take time and they take stunning and they take effort. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: It's not, I would call it a crisis. [SPEAKER_02]: I think it's more like a, [SPEAKER_02]: reflection of like you worked so hard you gave at the best I think it's homemakers we give our life for other people yes and that's that's what you do as homemaker you give up my comfort for yours whether it's your kids or whether it's just people that find themselves in your home whatever you give your life for theirs you give some of your comfort for them [SPEAKER_02]: That's good for us.

50:03 [SPEAKER_02]: I think that's really good for our souls to serve other people. [SPEAKER_02]: I think that's why it's really incredible, holy, holy, right? [SPEAKER_02]: Like Martin Luther says, if you're gonna change diapers, change diapers to the glory of God. [SPEAKER_02]: And that's good, that's good work.

50:21 [SPEAKER_02]: I think, what does that look like then when you've lived this certain way for so long? [SPEAKER_02]: And then you can sort of flip and you can see maybe you're not there yet and why I'm not there yet But like you can sort of see where the path is going and you're like oh so So what does that look like if I have grand babies all over I don't think I want window boxes to water Sure, I've thought about that too.

50:53 [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah [SPEAKER_02]: how so. [SPEAKER_00]: What does I mean, no, I mean, just like that's, you know, like that's, this is a big, big thing to keep up. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you know, and I'm going to want to be here there and everywhere. [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I, we have a young guy coming to stay at our house while we're in Italy.

51:15 [SPEAKER_02]: And a one week trip I can do with my eyes closed in the sense like if we're going to leave the house and like okay the dogs like wildly self-sufficient we put their food water out their outside dogs anyway right so like they just like do their thing the cats in and out the window whatever three weeks it's like stuff could die.

51:33 [SPEAKER_02]: If you're not careful, okay? [SPEAKER_02]: I have like 35 sticky notes around my house. [SPEAKER_02]: Hudson, please water this plant. [SPEAKER_02]: Untime per week, one cup of water. [SPEAKER_02]: Please water this plant, two times per week, half a cup of water, like, yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: And for now, that's awesome.

51:55 [SPEAKER_02]: And I love it. [SPEAKER_02]: And my plans are a huge blessing to me. [SPEAKER_02]: And I really delight in them. [SPEAKER_02]: If I'm, you know, if my grandkids live in Boston, I probably am not going to be able to keep my maiden hair ferns, it's all I'm saying. [UNKNOWN]: Probably not.

52:17 [SPEAKER_02]: Probably not. [SPEAKER_02]: So you wanted to talk about really letting the seasons. [SPEAKER_02]: be unletting you know the months be the months that they actually are and I guess maybe that's where we can land the conversation is we really do only have the present our past right right those were beautiful beautiful beautiful memories that we should we should feel so grateful to have and the future the question mark so building taking the time to build these our cozy homes [SPEAKER_02]: make the bread, you know, curl up on the couch.

52:55 [SPEAKER_02]: It's not all right. [SPEAKER_02]: That's what we have. [SPEAKER_01]: Right. [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_01]: So I'd like to celebrate that. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, just not rush it. [SPEAKER_02]: Right. [SPEAKER_02]: Just not rush it. [SPEAKER_02]: Let October be October. [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever we know, remember.

53:12 [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah. [SPEAKER_02]: So we're looking forward to getting cozy with y'all this season and talking about some of that magic. [SPEAKER_02]: So please share with us over on the comments. [SPEAKER_02]: We'll collect them for the couple of weeks that were gone. [SPEAKER_02]: And then we will come back and be recording in real time and like whatever three and a half four weeks or whatever.

53:34 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm hanging on. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like that. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm hanging on man. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm hanging on. [SPEAKER_02]: But we're glad you're here. [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you for the comments. [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you for sharing the show. [SPEAKER_02]: Please do share the show.

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54:10 [SPEAKER_02]: Can we make it cozy? [SPEAKER_02]: I'm Monday. [SPEAKER_02]: Can we? [SPEAKER_00]: All right. [SPEAKER_02]: Cheers.