Monday Moments From Episode - Ladies, the Minute You Mention Money, It’s Over!

It's your girl, Sarah Shorter, host of the It's Giving podcast. And welcome to Monday Moments. In case you've missed a juicy throwback episode, tune into this small clip right now. And you never really know what you'll get other than the real, the raw, the raggedy, and the rants. Make sure to click the link in the description below to hear the rest of the episode. Now let's get into it.

You said some things. You triggered a lot of people like you normally do. So there's this podcast. Is it good moms, bad decisions, bad choices or something? They said something real crazy. I just want to address that.

You sent me the video?

Yes.

Okay.

Good mom, bad choices kind of gives you an idea where their heads are.

One thing to be baby mama at once, but don't you dare allow another man to baby mama you twice. That is 1000% your fault.

At this point, it's a choice. And then stop teaching that to our daughters.

I am so sick and tired of people trying to pacify the fact that it's just okay to be a single mom.

They ruined it for themselves. Yes, they did. They definitely did. They absolutely lowered.

Their wife value on the market because they were frivolous with their body.

What the f * * *? Their wife value? What are we, f * * * ing Carfax? Am I a property?

First of all, Sarah, go on tonight. The fact that you beige women, I don't really know how you sleep at night, bitch. Because the way in which you are actually degrading black women by perpetuating this idea that our value is somehow linked to whether or not we're married. Single moms get remarried every day.

Hi, hello, it's me.

This type of narrative makes women stay in unhealthy dynamics, abusive relationships. Because they're so afraid of being a single mom.

She said if they were all drowning, I would save my husband and let my kids drown because we can make more kids.

First of all, go have some kids.

And come back.

I just feel like You don't really like women.

That's why.

You don't. You don't really like women, which means you don't really like yourself.

Wow.

Ooh, child. I saw this video, actually.

And I think I commented something along the lines of, y'all are being reactive and I'm being proactive. And the funny part is, is this podcast, they asked me to come on their show twice last year. And the only reason why I haven't gone to do their show is because they shoot in LA and they said we could do a virtual too, but I would rather, I would rather, I like being in person. So it's funny that you asked me to come on your show and then you got all this to say, like, I'm calling me to be word and I hate women and all these different things.

Now, this is the thing. When I saw this clip, I went to their pages, right?

I'm pretty sure that both of them have daughters. And my issue is your podcast is called Good Mom's Bad decisions.

Bad choices. Bad choices.

Well, I think maybe it should be questionable moms and bad choices. Because for you to have daughters and be like, shut up, that's the first thing that I noticed. You said shut up after I said, if you get baby mama twice, it's a choice. No, I will not shut up. If you're not teaching your daughter, somebody has to. And I hope that maybe if they grow up and they might see or hear voices like mine, because your voice is the voice that ends up, they're probably single moms.

And one said that she just got married. Who knows what her situation is?

I don't know. But this is one thing that I would say.

I'm sure their comments are flooded with other women that are hurrahing them because.

That's what women do.

They deflect accountability by playing the victim. And they want to tell me and they want to villainize someone.

I hate women. No, I'm not a girl's girl.

I am a woman's woman. I'm going to talk to you straight. I am going to keep it real. And if you are out here telling little girls, telling our daughters that it is okay to go sleep with multiple men and have multiple children by multiple men, you hate women. In fact, you probably hate your daughters. You probably hate that you see the man that got you pregnant and left you in that child, which is why you have no problem telling me to shut up because you are not willing to stand on the truth.

I will die on this sword. I will die on it.

And you know what homegirl that said that she, I don't know how many kids she had. I don't know what her situation is.

She got married. She is the exception. Let's keep it real. If she has multiple children by multiple men, she is the exception.

Right.

Cause single mothers do get married, remarried all the time.

They do. Right.

They definitely do. It's not to say that they don't. But what degrades our black women is to continue to be a statistic. What degrades our black women is to continue to perpetuate the lie and the story that it is okay to just shoot to be a single mom.

You really think that these moms are shooting to be single? Like that was the goal?

No woman on the earth wants to be a single mother.

That is the point.

I think it's a hype. I think it's a hype to have a baby daddy. It's the hype to have a baby daddy. These women love to complain about their baby daddy.

No, I feel like they love to complain because they're not healed. They love to complain because it's easier to complain than to fix your own bad choices, as the podcast is called.

I have so many questions.

I feel like, personally, I would be ashamed as a mother to be out here telling other women that it's okay for you to shoot to be a single mom.

You should be ashamed of yourself. We need to bring shame back.

Is that what they're saying?

Or are they just saying that you're... I think they pacify it.

They pacify.

This is the thing.

You didn't hit me with a single fact.

You hit me with feelings.

I say shit like that all the time.

You didn't hit me with a single fact. You hit me.

You feel triggered because you are a part of the group that I talk to.

If you're getting.

Smashed left and right and you are a baby mama, right, by multiple different men, the truth is your wife value.

And let's talk about that. She's like, what is this, Carfax? No, it's Ho-Fax. And we're running the numbers.

And the same way that you check somebody's credit, right? You check somebody's credit before they can get a car or the house. It's the same way a man is checking your credit before he chooses you as a wife. Sure, you want to call it car facts, call it hoe facts, call it wife facts.

F-A-C-T-S. If you desire to be a.

Wife to a high value, high earning masculine man or a high value masculine man, there are certain things that will write you off and disqualify you from that. And if you don't get that, I don't know what to tell you.

I have no idea. I don't know how to argue.

I don't know how to make it make sense.

I don't know how to say it, the fact that you're upset. But this is what I do know.

Just because you're upset by it doesn't make it any less true.

Right. I agree.

People be like, oh my God, I'm outraged. Okay, be outraged. It's still the truth. It's still the truth. And that's what people do. They get outraged and try to, I know, I'm leaning in. Do you hear me?

Ladies, I will lean into the fact that if you want to be baby mama again and again and again and again and again, that's fine. I'm not judging you. I'm letting you know what your bad choices turn into. Your bad choices turn into less of a high quality man choosing you.

And if you just want to be single the rest of your life, do you, boo? Get it how you live it. I don't care. I don't, I don't, I'm not judging you. But let's keep it real. And that's the problem. Women feel so attacked. They feel so attacked by the truth. It's crazy.

And then they teach it to their daughters. And I pray to God these women don't have daughters. If they do, they should be ashamed of themselves. Shame, shame, double shame. We need to bring shame back.

Swear to God.

Hey, I'm with you. I feel like they need the same treatment these YNs need. You got to be starting with them.

That's the problem. And this is the thing too, right?

Because not everything is a trauma or something. I mean, most times it is, though. I have so many questions. Like, I would really love to know, homegirl that got married, is she a blended family? How many kids does her husband have? I would love to know, what are her parents like? And I think, because she's there in L.A., she might even be in an open marriage.

Yeah.

Who knows?

Don't take advice from people you don't want to switch places with.

Mm-hmm.

I would never. I would literally never listen to y'all.

But y'all could talk to the other single moms that love complaining about their baby daddies. If that's what you want to do, great. But we don't do that over here. We want to strive to be our best selves. And if you drop the ball and now you can be your mediocre self, do that.

I love that for you. I don't care. I do not care. I'm not going to call you out your name. I'm not going to call you the B word like you called me. I'm not going to tell you that you hate women.

I'm going to say you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to teach that to our daughters and telling that to other women. We need to stand on the truth because it's the truth that shall set you free. I don't care if it hurts, if it makes an impact.

Is it really a marriage if y'all don't know how to stay faithful to each other? I just feel like an open marriage is just an excuse to just constantly cheat on the other partner.

I don't feel like that's, if you are in an open marriage, I don't feel like that's, if that's your choice, that's your choice. But also, it's not even almost the same. It's not even almost the same. Y'all aren't husband and wife.

You're married. And that's okay.

What?

Explain that difference. I don't understand.

Husband and wife means staying power.

Husband and wife means your ride or die, ace boom coon, swing for the fences, platinum needle in a haystack.

And that's another thing too, right? When people are like, oh my God, I can't.

Believe that Sarah would choose her husband over her kids if they had to choose. Because I believe in the Bible. I believe in the hierarchy that God has placed inside of us. I believe that it's God, my spouse, my children, everybody else. And I understand if you're in an open marriage, why you can never understand that because your man is interchangeable.

You're just married. That is not, he's not a husband. Y'all sign the dotted line. Everybody, most people are doing that and most people hate their spouse. And no man, by the way, let me just throw this out there. No, no, no man that I would want. I don't know about y'all, but no man that I would want would ever be okay with me getting smashed by another dude being his wife.

That's not masculinity, which brings up so many other questions that I have for them.

So I don't want to attack them because I don't know them. But baby, if I knew the facts. Ooh, child. Anyway, I'm complete.

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