Don't Be Harsh Toward Someone Who Is Struggling

0:00 [SPEAKER_00]: When you treat a struggling person with harshness, public humiliation and cold judgment, you're not guide them back to a loss of Hannah Wetter Island. [SPEAKER_00]: You act as an unpaid employee of Satan. [SPEAKER_00]: You push them straight into the arms of the devil. [SPEAKER_00]: You force them to rebel and abandon things like the Sunnah, the community.

0:20 [SPEAKER_00]: And they seek shelter in false ideologies, like Hadith rejection, and then eventually even caught a hand rejection. [SPEAKER_00]: So there'd not be one of those my dear brothers and sisters. [SPEAKER_00]: Arassus al-Assalam's teaching to us is a fundamental law of human behavior. [SPEAKER_00]: When you treat a struggling person with harshness, public humiliation and cold judgment, you're not guide them back to a loss of Hannah Wetaire, you act as an unpaid employee of this of Satan.

0:47 [SPEAKER_00]: You push them straight into the arms of the devil. [SPEAKER_00]: You force them to rebel and abandon things like the Sunnah, the community. [SPEAKER_00]: And they seek shelter in false ideologies, like Hadith rejection, and then eventually even caught an angrejection. [SPEAKER_00]: So it would not be one of those my dear brothers and sisters.

1:02 [SPEAKER_00]: And in reality, they are the ones creating the next generation of Hadith projectors if this is the way that we are going to treat one another. [SPEAKER_00]: A second incident, which is even deeper than this one, at the time of the Prophet ﷺ, whom Allah SWT said about in Nukwaran, [SPEAKER_00]: lakwada j'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a'a [SPEAKER_00]: for whom ever hopes for the best to get close to Allah and the hereafter, meaning he will be your model till the last hour.

1:47 [SPEAKER_00]: A bit of an, a bit of an, a bit of an, a time the Prophet ﷺ coming out from the Hajj, does it come to the Prophet ﷺ while he was giving out charity and giving out. [SPEAKER_00]: food and stuff to the people as messengers do, being a hashbedo and desert man who is used to the desert of fighting for your survival.

2:05 [SPEAKER_00]: That's his character because he's raised in the desert. [SPEAKER_00]: Arrasal Muhammad al-Assalam knows this, he knows the human behavior, and he treats each one knowing their background. [SPEAKER_00]: He comes up to the messengers al-Assalam, [SPEAKER_00]: and harshly pulls at the Prophet peace be upon him's collar, harshly so tightly that he made the Prophet peace be upon him lean with him because of the pain and he made a mark, a red mark around the Prophet peace be upon him's neck, saying to him, give me messenger of Allah, give me as well, don't forget me.

2:33 [SPEAKER_00]: Muhammad al-Hattabra, the Allah, no stands up with his sword, and he says, I will kill him for harming the messenger sallallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallaihi sallai [SPEAKER_00]: He took him after three after giving him and treating him like as if he was his own home.

2:53 [SPEAKER_00]: The better one comes back out knowing that he's outspoken and he stood in front of everybody. [SPEAKER_00]: He wants to make a statement. [SPEAKER_00]: He says to everyone, nobody treated me like the way Muhammad ﷺ treated me. [SPEAKER_00]: Oh Allah, I make this right in front of everyone.

3:05 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh Allah, I have mercy on Muhammad peace be upon him and on myself. [SPEAKER_00]: And I have mercy on anyone else. [SPEAKER_00]: But the proper peace be upon him still continued. [SPEAKER_00]: He said, Allah's mercy is far more greater and wider. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't restrict it. [SPEAKER_00]: And then he goes, okay, that's all Allah, for you, in other words.

3:21 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh Allah have mercy on Muhammad ﷺ, my Prophet and myself and everyone else. [SPEAKER_00]: Even deeper than that, more profound. [SPEAKER_00]: And this story is heartbreaking, actually. [SPEAKER_00]: Is the story of his own wife, Aha Isha, Aha Isha, Unmul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul-Mul- [SPEAKER_00]: in which Allah revealed the verse, but Allah, at the Min Allah, at the declaration of innocence from Allah.

3:48 [SPEAKER_00]: This was sent because of her. [SPEAKER_00]: She was accused of adultery the story as long. [SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, she had no idea that people were accusing him. [SPEAKER_00]: The entire community started to gossip about it. [SPEAKER_00]: Some of the more elite and pious companions, they stayed quiet and some of them defended her.

4:04 [SPEAKER_00]: But others, they even took part in the gossip, and they said, look, it's getting too much. [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of people who are talking about it. [SPEAKER_00]: The story was that [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet Peace be upon him had taken with him on an expedition and she was the women used to be placed in an oasis.

4:17 [SPEAKER_00]: Nobody could see them. [SPEAKER_00]: That's how much respect they gave to them. [SPEAKER_00]: They weren't hiding, then they were respecting them. [SPEAKER_00]: And they would put them in the oasis on the camel and they would drive it along. [SPEAKER_00]: And he used to have a man. [SPEAKER_00]: His name was his name was Safuan, or the Allahuan, who he used to stay behind.

4:34 [SPEAKER_00]: And if there's anyone left behind or luggage or people's belongings were left behind, he'd pick her up if somebody had lost something. [SPEAKER_00]: I actually had a Delano as in her oasis they sat down to rest and she said I used to be very light still. [SPEAKER_00]: I got out to go to the bathroom into nature as you know in the desert and as I was returning back I realised my necklace had fallen so I went to get back my necklace and the whole carriage and the cut that everyone had moved along and I didn't know that they had left me behind.

5:03 [SPEAKER_00]: So I sat down and I said to Allah, to Allah, we belong to him, we shall return. [SPEAKER_00]: She thought she's going to die in the desert. [SPEAKER_00]: And then Safwan comes along and he sees her. [SPEAKER_00]: Now he knew her, he knew she was the mother of the believers. [SPEAKER_00]: So he said to Allah, we all belong to him, we shall return.

5:19 [SPEAKER_00]: This is when a calamity be falls us. [SPEAKER_00]: So he lent down and he kneeled down and he put, I should have let her climb onto his camel and he steer it along, or guided it along. [SPEAKER_00]: Now, can you imagine she arrives in Medina? [SPEAKER_00]: And with him is the proxalala Selam's wife.

5:35 [SPEAKER_00]: And the proxalala Selam has already arrived in Medina. [SPEAKER_00]: What is she doing with this man? [SPEAKER_00]: So he brought her and it was all respect. [SPEAKER_00]: Someone said something, a hypocrite man said, mate, there's something going on. [SPEAKER_00]: That's how they start, right?

5:46 [SPEAKER_00]: And then the room has started to spread. [SPEAKER_00]: The only person who did not know about the room was Ayah Ishar Adalana herself, the one they're accusing. [SPEAKER_00]: And the proxalala Selam tried to hide it from her not to hurt her feelings and he has a long story to it. [SPEAKER_00]: But the point of that story that I want to get to is this one.

6:02 [SPEAKER_00]: When I showed her the Allah, I didn't have felt the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him with gone quiet, because so many people were telling him, he's waiting for a lot to send a verse of the Quran. [SPEAKER_00]: She noticed that he's gone a little bit distant, you know, he just went quiet.

6:14 [SPEAKER_00]: Salal ala ala ala ala. [SPEAKER_00]: He didn't mistreated, just went quiet. [SPEAKER_00]: And so she said to him, are you okay with me if I went to stay at my mum's, and that's any serious? [SPEAKER_00]: She said, I went there and I didn't even know what was going. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know why the Prophet ﷺ got quiet.

6:27 [SPEAKER_00]: So while I'm sitting there, suddenly her family member told her the rumor. [SPEAKER_00]: And she said, what? [SPEAKER_00]: People are saying this about me. [SPEAKER_00]: And she fell into a state of depression from it. [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, someone like that accused of adultery. [SPEAKER_00]: The wife of the Prophet ﷺ.

6:41 [SPEAKER_00]: And the Prophet ﷺ enters the house of Abu Bakr Al-Lalhan and her mother Umwaruman. [SPEAKER_00]: And he says this to her, because hundreds of people started talking about it and he says, Ya'a'a'a'isha, if you have done something wrong, that Allah knows about, then repent to Allah and He forgives for a believer who repents all their sins if they're given.

7:00 [SPEAKER_00]: And if you haven't done anything, then don't worry. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah will declare your innocence. [SPEAKER_00]: She didn't like that statement. [SPEAKER_00]: She kind of turned away from the Prophet ﷺ. [SPEAKER_00]: And she said the following words, in Nama Ash-Gobathir wa-Huzni illallah, I am only going to complain My sorrow and my sadness to Allah, as Prophet Ya'a'a called Jacob used to say when he lost his son Yusuf Ali Hesana, dates past and then the verse of the Qura'an was revealed.

7:26 [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet peace be upon him, and test chieffully, and he says to Ayyshah, [SPEAKER_00]: Auntie Ayesha is for you, Ayesha Fakat Barra Akillah. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah has declared your innocence. [SPEAKER_00]: We recite these verses till today. [SPEAKER_00]: But Ayesha, the Allah, who I'm her, she's sitting there.

7:40 [SPEAKER_00]: She's not surprised. [SPEAKER_00]: She's overwhelmed that Allah's Fatah, Ayesha, had revealed a revelation for her. [SPEAKER_00]: But she always denies, she's innocent. [SPEAKER_00]: So her mother Umar Oman says to her, get up to your husband, the messenger of Allah. [SPEAKER_00]: And she said, now I'm not going to go to him.

7:56 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah is the one who believed me and declared my innocence, I turned to him and he was there for me so I'm going to go to a lost penitalet and thank him. [SPEAKER_00]: What did the Prophet ﷺ do in reaction? [SPEAKER_00]: What would one of us do? [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, some people, if they're really zealous about their religion, they take it very literal, they're going to say how dear her turn away from the messenger of God, Allah says in the Qur'an, and whoever turns away from the messenger, they say, this is all that will happen.

8:21 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to go to the messenger of Allah. [SPEAKER_00]: The prophet peace be upon him, treated with calmness and his smile, and he took it easy and gave her space. [SPEAKER_00]: He did not call her a disbeliever or a person who has gone outside the sunnah or rejecting the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, because he understand the psychological trauma that this has caused her.

8:41 [SPEAKER_00]: So it wasn't time to use literal words of religion against her. [SPEAKER_00]: She's not in a good psychological state. [SPEAKER_00]: Had he done that, it may have made the matter worse, maybe. [SPEAKER_00]: And the last example I'm going to give you is again with Ayah Shrad al-Lawana, his wife.

8:58 [SPEAKER_00]: One time they had a little quarrel, the Prophet ﷺ and Ayah Shana had a quarrel. [SPEAKER_00]: Like any husband and wife, because the messenger Muhammad Peace be upon him is also human being. [SPEAKER_00]: He is a living, breathing human being who was of high immense character. [SPEAKER_00]: Who was a walk in Quran.

9:11 [SPEAKER_00]: living Qur'an, people copied and emulated the Prophet ﷺ in how to live the Qur'an in his life and they recorded it and it passed on to us through chains of high level of arguably, the most, the best forensic system of authenticity in the world. [SPEAKER_00]: They told us how the Prophet ﷺ was.

9:33 [SPEAKER_00]: Otherwise we didn't have noticed. [SPEAKER_00]: So he had a quarrel, him and I should have their love on her. [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, Aisha, would you like your father Abu Bakr to judge between us? [SPEAKER_00]: She said, yes, you are also the one my father. [SPEAKER_00]: Bring him along. [SPEAKER_00]: He comes in Abu Bakr of Allah, I know.

9:50 [SPEAKER_00]: He sits to listen. [SPEAKER_00]: And the messenger of Allah, I say, I'm says to her, do you understand or should I start? [SPEAKER_00]: Who would like to go first to say something? [SPEAKER_00]: So she's already in a panicking state and she's not happy about something, so she said to him just naturally, and innocently, no, you can start, but just say the truth, okay?

10:08 [SPEAKER_00]: Does the messenger of Allah, ever lie? [SPEAKER_00]: What would happen to somebody who says to the messenger of Allah, say, let me be better say the truth? [SPEAKER_00]: It's like they're saying, in other words, you know, I mean she didn't mean it, but the meaning of the word would mean you're untrustworthy, and you're better tell the truth, don't twist and turn.

10:24 [SPEAKER_00]: That's not what she meant, but it was just a very natural without thinking it came out. [SPEAKER_00]: Because she was in a state of sort of panic. [SPEAKER_00]: Abu Bakr Adalana, her father, he noticed this, so he gets up and he rebukes her. [SPEAKER_00]: He shouts at her and he lifts his hand as well.

10:39 [SPEAKER_00]: The Promised Messiah, I'm stops him. [SPEAKER_00]: I shall have the Alana runs and she hides behind the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ from her father. [SPEAKER_00]: Y'all. [SPEAKER_00]: What else are I? [SPEAKER_00]: Selam turns to Abu Bakr. [SPEAKER_00]: And he says, Laya, Abu Bakr merely had a downout.

10:50 [SPEAKER_00]: No, you're Abu Bakr. [SPEAKER_00]: This is not what we call you to do. [SPEAKER_00]: You just imagine how the compassion, the mercy, kindness, the understanding of the Prophet Sallalai, Selam to the human emotion and psychology. [SPEAKER_00]: Very careful. [SPEAKER_00]: Aziz, when I lay him out and it done, what you fall into of pain, it's bigger upon him.

11:07 [SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't like to see you struggle, ever so compassionate, merciful to the believers. [SPEAKER_00]: a book of the lion who exits the house and after a few days they're all okay until he comes past one day and sees them laughing together and joking in the house he's the from outside he knocks the Prophet's name gives him permission to enter her father comes in and says yad al sallallahu ala aayhi shaym waidada all right [SPEAKER_00]: So, last time you called me when you were having a quarrel in a conflict, why don't you call me so I can share and you're happy times as well?

11:33 [SPEAKER_00]: The point my dear brothers and sisters is this compassion in how we help each other. [SPEAKER_00]: Find our way in our day and not be ultra-judgmental and ultra-literalistic. [SPEAKER_00]: Like, we'll neutralize everything. [SPEAKER_00]: There's a bit of flexibility in my dear brothers and sisters.