How to Become a Better Version of Yourself

0:00 [SPEAKER_00]: Wherever you are able to restrain your anger or manage it, direct it, and be able to take control of a more in your life, then you are emotionally purifying yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: This is emotional intelligence, emotional purification. [SPEAKER_00]: You don't let your emotions take control of you every time.

0:19 [SPEAKER_00]: And there is a huge difference. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you'll be online, and then somebody says something that you don't agree with. [SPEAKER_00]: And then you feel the need to jump and continue a debate and a spiral that never ends. [SPEAKER_00]: And then you enter into an argumentation where even your Salat is neglected and sometimes the people with their emotions they have to be right.

0:37 [SPEAKER_00]: They have to be right. [SPEAKER_00]: So endless argumentation and then it turns into cursing, into swearing, into belittling. [SPEAKER_00]: Why are you? [SPEAKER_00]: This is not a emotional purification you are, making your emotion toxic, emotions become toxic. [SPEAKER_00]: This is mastering your triggers and learning communication with intelligence, emotional maturity and reason rather than exposing it was cloning into rage and letting your ego take the better of you.

1:04 [SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, the fourth one is physical purification, what is physical purification [SPEAKER_00]: In order to cultivate Tukla, learn these four human dimensions. [SPEAKER_00]: Four dimensions to cultivate Tukla in your life. [SPEAKER_00]: And we'll finish it with this and give some examples.

1:22 [SPEAKER_00]: You cannot just say, I've got Tukla. [SPEAKER_00]: And magically you have Tukla. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to cultivate it. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to work it, nurture it. [SPEAKER_00]: Like the way you cultivate and nurture a seed in a beautiful soil. [SPEAKER_00]: The beautiful soil is your heart, which a lot created you with from birth.

1:36 [SPEAKER_00]: It's called the Fitra. [SPEAKER_00]: And then as you grow older, different things in life and environments may ruin that soil or keep that soil nice. [SPEAKER_00]: The seed of e-man of faith is there. [SPEAKER_00]: You need to nurture it and grow it and keep growing otherwise it will die.

1:50 [SPEAKER_00]: Just like beautiful soil and a beautiful fruit tree. [SPEAKER_00]: the fruit trees, your imman and your practice is on the outside, which is your taqwa and the soil is your heart. [SPEAKER_00]: So you must continually cultivate it. [SPEAKER_00]: And the four aspects that you cultivate it with in Islam is called does skier, does skier to nefs, which is the road to perfecting your taqwa.

2:09 [SPEAKER_00]: The first dimension of the skier to nuffs to reach Tokwa is called intellectual perfection. [SPEAKER_00]: The second one is spiritual perfection. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry, let me repeat. [SPEAKER_00]: The first one is called intellectual purification. [SPEAKER_00]: The second one is spiritual purification.

2:26 [SPEAKER_00]: The third one is emotional purification. [SPEAKER_00]: And the fourth one is physical purification. [SPEAKER_00]: What is the difference between all of them? [SPEAKER_00]: Intellectual purification, it is from the Qur'an where Allah says in the Ahsallahu alaihi wa dihi l-naulama It is only those who have knowledge, among his servants that truly fear standing or of Allah, so that further 35 verse 28.

2:53 [SPEAKER_00]: This means cleansing your mind. [SPEAKER_00]: from superficial text-bidden literalism. [SPEAKER_00]: You go online or you read a book or you go to school or you go to work or your among family or friends. [SPEAKER_00]: And all you hear is literal judgment. [SPEAKER_00]: They take a verse out of context, they take a Hadith out of context and they throw it at you.

3:13 [SPEAKER_00]: Where it loses meaning. [SPEAKER_00]: or intellectual purification is to learn and ask and seek knowledge to understand the difference. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, first Allah ala dhikri in kuntumulat alamun. [SPEAKER_00]: So ask those who possess knowledge if your souls do not know. [SPEAKER_00]: And do not accept or refuse something without investigating it if it is your religion.

3:35 [SPEAKER_00]: meaning, don't just go with an interpretation that you are not sure of until you have investigated and asked. [SPEAKER_00]: Of course, the majority of the religion is very clear to us alhamdulillah. [SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes there's what we call shabu-hat, which means doubtful things, not many people that have got enough knowledge about them, until you know, stay away from it and do the compulsory things, which are very clear to us.

3:55 [SPEAKER_00]: You're five daily prayers, you're Zakat, you're fasting, you're Hajj, [SPEAKER_00]: the Hailal and Haram majority of it is clear. [SPEAKER_00]: We're talking about the things that are dealt between that requires more knowledge. [SPEAKER_00]: So purify your intellect. [SPEAKER_00]: It also means refusing to read raw translations without the rigorous framework of the classical jurists and masters of Olemma.

4:16 [SPEAKER_00]: If your intellect is poison brothers and sisters, whether it's by internet noise or by people who just throw text at you without knowledge or you don't follow someone who's got qualified [SPEAKER_00]: You don't investigate or interpret things to it as you desire your tackle will become toxic and rigid There's a story.

4:37 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if it's true. [SPEAKER_00]: My father told me about it, but the lesson the moral is good It says that one man was reading Adiths and he came across a narration that says you've got an Arabic Because Arabic has dots on it and and little vows and things [SPEAKER_00]: So it was about copy, and here at Al-Muslimokir Sultan, Muslim is a bag of cotton because he misread the dots and everything.

5:02 [SPEAKER_00]: And he went about preaching to people and telling them the prophet peace be upon him said, the Muslim is a bag of a bag of cotton. [SPEAKER_00]: And then because he didn't make sense to him, he said, this means that the Muslim is light, is lighthearted, is easy going, and white means his pure and clean.

5:19 [SPEAKER_00]: Until he met a scholar and he said to him, [SPEAKER_00]: and Muslim okyus on Fatiha. [SPEAKER_00]: Muslim is intelligent and intelligent and strategic and smart. [SPEAKER_00]: Secondly, it's not even a Hadith. [SPEAKER_00]: Where'd you get it from? [SPEAKER_00]: You just read in some book someone said it.

5:38 [SPEAKER_00]: neither are hadith nor did he read it right and he turned it into a religious text. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes some people you may follow on the internet and think that they sound good and intelligent, sometimes they might sound God fearing because they use big words but without knowing, take it easy, take a step back and seek somebody who's you know is knowledgeable and you can trust.

5:57 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, spiritual purification. [SPEAKER_00]: If you want your talk, what to be cultivated? [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, if you want your talk, what to be cultivated? [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, then indeed, that is from the talk of the hearts. [SPEAKER_00]: This is talking about Hajj and rituals of Islam and the tenets of Islam, sort of the Hajj.

6:16 [SPEAKER_00]: When you practice the aspects of deen and worship and you uphold them and take them, [SPEAKER_00]: Seriously, and you do them right, then it is cultivation of the Tokua of the heart. [SPEAKER_00]: And you don't look at Salat as a simple whatever think. [SPEAKER_00]: If you want to cultivate your Tokua, let's use Salat for example.

6:35 [SPEAKER_00]: Your vigilant for your Salat time. [SPEAKER_00]: You try your best to pray it on time. [SPEAKER_00]: And when you come to pray it, [SPEAKER_00]: You always manage your time and your life and your work to make time for it, to the best of your ability, to the best of your ability. [SPEAKER_00]: And when you pray it and you have time to pray it relaxed, give it a bit of time as well.

6:53 [SPEAKER_00]: Don't take it for granted. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't put other things that are superficial, that you can avoid, you can avoid and put your Salat next until it goes into the other time and then you pray it in the next Salat and you join it. [SPEAKER_00]: You work around it. [SPEAKER_00]: And if you fall in into it, repent to Allah and try to do better.

7:10 [SPEAKER_00]: The point is, the heart needs to be cultivated with God. [SPEAKER_00]: And as soon as you start to take for granted, acts of worship, what happens? [SPEAKER_00]: You will start feeling the God and your heart going less. [SPEAKER_00]: This is what people today say, I don't know why my Eman is going low.

7:23 [SPEAKER_00]: Either they're practicing their dean out of just fear and obsession with fear, or they're practicing their dean with just too much ease to the point where they're neglecting it. [SPEAKER_00]: So, wherever you can, of actions of worship, increase them in doing to the best of your ability.

7:38 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, where he praises the people who follow the religion, he says, where they're going to be, and they follow the best of it. [SPEAKER_00]: So, in the religion, there's minimal, medium, and high, it says they follow the best of it. [SPEAKER_00]: And Allah spent a lot of assistance.

7:53 [SPEAKER_00]: Brothers and sisters, emotional purification is the third one. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, for example, Walka, they mean al-Lawaii wa l-Layafina, and in those who restrain their anger, and pardon mankind. [SPEAKER_00]: hard and people, in sort of the earlier I'm around 3, 134, wherever you are able to restrain your anger or manage it, direct it, and be able to take control of it more in your life, then you are emotionally purifying yourself.

8:19 [SPEAKER_00]: This is emotional intelligence, emotional purification, you don't let your emotions take control of you every time. [SPEAKER_00]: And there is a huge difference. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you'll be online and then somebody says [SPEAKER_00]: And then you feel the need to jump and continue a debate and a spiral that never ends.

8:39 [SPEAKER_00]: And then you enter into an argumentation where even your Salat is neglected and sometimes the people with their emotions they have to be right. [SPEAKER_00]: They have to be right. [SPEAKER_00]: So endless argumentation and then it turns into cursing, into swearing, into belittling. [SPEAKER_00]: Why are you?

8:54 [SPEAKER_00]: This is not a emotional purification you are making your emotion toxic, emotions become toxic. [SPEAKER_00]: Emotions is when you have a right, and you can't sort of forgive for now, but no, your Emotions says, I must get my right, even if I'm going to fight about it. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you don't have to, sometimes you can let go, I'm not saying every time, you should fight for your rights, but I'm saying there are situations where you know that it's going to lead to something worse, especially like someone you love or someone within your family.

9:20 [SPEAKER_00]: Especially when you're very close. [SPEAKER_00]: For example, we return back to a husband and wife children and parents. [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to see more of each other's frustrations. [SPEAKER_00]: So if we don't exercise mercy and compassion in there and try to hold our emotions intact, yeah, household will always fall apart and your children will fall apart.

9:37 [SPEAKER_00]: So we have to exercise emotions my dear brothers and sisters and purify them. [SPEAKER_00]: This is mastering, mastering your triggers and learning communication with intelligence, emotional maturity and reason rather than exploding into rage and letting your ego take the better of you.

9:53 [SPEAKER_00]: My brothers and sisters, the fourth one is physical purification. [SPEAKER_00]: What is physical purification? [SPEAKER_00]: This is when you align your actual real world conduct, your character and your actions in the real world with the boundaries of justice. [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't. [SPEAKER_00]: Even if you don't like it, even if you're going to lose something, is it just, be just?

10:15 [SPEAKER_00]: Act in accordance with the contact that is right. [SPEAKER_00]: Fe and just, Allah says, [SPEAKER_00]: and do not let your hatred over people or a spite, serve you away from being just, no, be just that is close to the God-fearing God-consciousness and closest to Allah, so it will matter if there is 5-8.

10:44 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, have Allah through whom you demand your mutual rights. [SPEAKER_00]: And when you have mutual rights, between you and your wife, your husband, your children, your parents, you and your neighbours, all of that, [SPEAKER_00]: have d'acqua while exercising those rights, meaning give them their rights, and focus on what you owe, brothers and sisters.

11:04 [SPEAKER_00]: If your d'acqua wants to rise, you're mostly wants to rise. [SPEAKER_00]: Your rank of righteousness wants to rise. [SPEAKER_00]: You want to be a better person in the eyes of Allah's Panoad de Ailer and the eyes of people as well and to relax a little bit and so that your guilt and your consciousness [SPEAKER_00]: is not always way too on you.

11:22 [SPEAKER_00]: One of the aspects you can do is that when it comes to rights, focus on what you owe. [SPEAKER_00]: Try your best not to focus on what they owe you. [SPEAKER_00]: Now I know, in some cases, you need to fight for your rights on what they owe you. [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm saying that in certain cases where you're close to someone and you know that conflict is always going to happen, it's easy to [SPEAKER_00]: It's less likely to have conflict.

11:46 [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, we get along with strangers because we don't see each other, and we don't see from each other's falter or anything much, right? [SPEAKER_00]: But when you're close to someone, it's good to exercise a bit more mercy because you're otherwise you're going to be drained. [SPEAKER_00]: You're not going to have anybody beside you.

11:59 [SPEAKER_00]: But here is the beautiful foundation. [SPEAKER_00]: How about [SPEAKER_00]: First and foremost, put in your head to focus on what you owe people, because guess what? [SPEAKER_00]: On a day of judgment, Allah is not going to ask you what people owed you in the first degree. [SPEAKER_00]: What He is going to do is going to take care of people who have pressed you.

12:15 [SPEAKER_00]: Allah is going to compensate you for every person who wrong you. [SPEAKER_00]: Without you saying a word, mark my words while Allah is laughing. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, now you're a limorabbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb [SPEAKER_00]: and the door of the oppressed person, the one who is being wronged, their door is there is no veil between it and Allah.

12:34 [SPEAKER_00]: That person who is oppressed doesn't need to say a word. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah, on the day of judgment, that's what day of judgment is for. [SPEAKER_00]: For the ones who are wronged to be compensated, you don't have to say a word. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah will take care of it. [SPEAKER_00]: but Allah will judge us to the tea, to the nitty-gritty.

12:51 [SPEAKER_00]: When we have taken someone else's right, so as a great scholar that I read about Imam Ashshankyuthi, one of the past scholars, on his deathbed, he said to his son, [SPEAKER_00]: Yabunayi in Allah alayyas al-Aqayyom al-Qiyyamatilim al-Ampdashhtim Farahoun My son on the day of Judinal Laws going to not going to focus on asking why did you not curse Pharaoh but he will ask you about the rights and dignity of every Muslim or every person that didn't deserve it that you violated cursed, denigrated and so on.

13:19 [SPEAKER_00]: So, focus on what you owe and I'll tell you something brothers and sisters in a family, especially in a marriage the system of Islam is such that if everybody focuses [SPEAKER_00]: and what Allah commanded them to give to the other, to do for the other, it is a system where what you give in its place there is a return for both of you, mutually if you do that.

13:39 [SPEAKER_00]: You give there's a return automatically. [SPEAKER_00]: So it balances it out. [SPEAKER_00]: Have talkware through whom you demand your mutual rights. [SPEAKER_00]: My brother's sisters, when these four aspects of talkware are cultivated and unified, [SPEAKER_00]: You don't become a harsh literalist who barks or does it people.

13:54 [SPEAKER_00]: You become a person profound in the foundations of balance. [SPEAKER_00]: You become a sanctuary of safety for the people around you. [SPEAKER_00]: My last few words, talk about my brother's assistant's actual liberation, not restriction. [SPEAKER_00]: When you cultivate the internal radar of your talkway, in secret and in open, look what I am, it's guidance completely frees you from three modern traps.

14:16 [SPEAKER_00]: What are these three modern traps? [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, it liberates you from cultural burdens and social pressures. [SPEAKER_00]: If Allah SWT tells you don't do this, His messenger salallahu alayhi wa salam told you don't do that. [SPEAKER_00]: It is not there to make life hard on you.

14:32 [SPEAKER_00]: It is there to relieve you. [SPEAKER_00]: For example, remember in the Hadiths we spoke about, we spoke about certain grooming that is halal and certain grooming that is haram for women and for men. [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about certain interactions between genders, this one's halal, this one's haram.

14:47 [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about certain actions that Allah and His Messenger has told us to stay away from. [SPEAKER_00]: All of these, what's their purpose? [SPEAKER_00]: What's their purpose? [SPEAKER_00]: To relieve you of pressures of life and the environment that you don't need. [SPEAKER_00]: For example, look at the social media how people are always about showing off and fear of missing out.

15:09 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's like a rat race, everybody's going to come in to get more viral and who's going to get more views. [SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of people will cross the boundaries. [SPEAKER_00]: How many men? [SPEAKER_00]: For example, started off on social media with pure good sincere intentions of our calling to Allah, teaching about the den, helping the community, pastoral care, all that stuff.

15:28 [SPEAKER_00]: Couple years down the track, you find they've lost the plot. [SPEAKER_00]: Suddenly, the entering to areas that you think hold on is that really Islamic, what they're doing, is that really Islamic, what they're saying? [SPEAKER_00]: Because maybe the money, maybe the marketing, maybe the views, maybe the popularity, got to them.

15:42 [SPEAKER_00]: You see some sisters, some of them were on [SPEAKER_00]: In Nicarb covering the entire face, the only first started off good, few years down the track, everything is off, not just the Nicarb, the hijab, the lot. [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't see them, but I've got daughters, I've got sisters, I've got friends who have you know, sisters and stuff and wives who say this, we hear it, isn't it true?

16:02 [SPEAKER_00]: We read about it in the articles and you know, Russell Salalale was said to him, he warned us, you know, he said, be careful of the [SPEAKER_00]: There will come times when a person is a believer in a day and a disbeliever by night, believe a by night, disbeliever by morning, because they saw some provision or some attraction of the dunya of the world and so they sold their religion for it.

16:22 [SPEAKER_00]: And these people, they're stuck, their time is taken, their spouses' life is taken, their own body is no longer dignified, they're doing things that their reputation is run [SPEAKER_00]: And they're constantly bombarded, and the psychological state is just not happy. [SPEAKER_00]: Islam comes to free you of this unneeded stress and psychological weighty burdens.

16:49 [SPEAKER_00]: Not to fall into self-image issues. [SPEAKER_00]: Islam told you you don't need to do that. [SPEAKER_00]: is it up for you? [SPEAKER_00]: No, we have to say I'm going to do it. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't care. [SPEAKER_00]: And then you find that something that started off small turns up to be a huge obsessive compulsive disorder about image and about looks and about this and that people have gone to the point now of plastic surgery for example and they don't need anything.

17:09 [SPEAKER_00]: They're completely fine but they're not happy with their beautiful nose. [SPEAKER_00]: Lahi, I've read articles of people who got so obsessed with their looks because of social media and the plastic surgery and whatever and then ended up committing to take in their life. [SPEAKER_00]: Some of them are just not happy until they ruined their whole image.

17:25 [SPEAKER_00]: Some people got disease and infections because they can't stop. [SPEAKER_00]: And this is what Islam comes to stop us from. [SPEAKER_00]: I can go on and on with it. [SPEAKER_00]: Moving on to number two, the talk where my brothers and sisters also relieves you of irrational guilt. [SPEAKER_00]: When you understand what Allah spent all at once from you and you are comfortable and you're happy with it and it all is clear to you.

17:44 [SPEAKER_00]: And you choose to follow it and you know that Allah wants best for you, you know I'm going to need to feel guilty. [SPEAKER_00]: Your conscience, that also I said, I'm just to say, do you know what if Him is? [SPEAKER_00]: Do you know what sinful behavior that weighs you down is? [SPEAKER_00]: Remember when I said, if Him is another word for sin in Arabic, but it's a type of sin that weighs you down.

18:00 [SPEAKER_00]: You feel your way to down, you don't know what it's from. [SPEAKER_00]: And he said, Al Ithan, the type of sin that weighs you down, man, how can if he never see what Karitha and Yataliah are laying in this? [SPEAKER_00]: It is what continues because to scratch at your conscience and you don't want people to know about it.

18:14 [SPEAKER_00]: You put on another face. [SPEAKER_00]: That's the world we live in today, social media world. [SPEAKER_00]: So, it relieves you of guilt. [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, Docwell completely strips toxic individuals of their ability to manipulate you. [SPEAKER_00]: When a man with Docwell opens the Quran and reads her example, men are the Cold War mourn, are the protectors and maintainers of women.

18:33 [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't read it that he's the master of a throne, because he has Docwell. [SPEAKER_00]: He knows what Allah really wants from him. [SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't let his ego and his cultural understanding overwrite that they've seen and what Allah spent the other told him. [SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't go and start to attack his own wife and divorce her because he insists that his wife has to be like a subservient woman to him in every shape and form in everything.

18:56 [SPEAKER_00]: As she has no rights. [SPEAKER_00]: I've heard of men because of they've been fed a mix between culture and the verses of the Qur'an and they mix its meaning. [SPEAKER_00]: thinks that his position in the family of being the upright person who protects and maintains, which of course, in exchange requires the wife to follow him and to listen to him in certain areas of the family, they over stretch it, they say that means whatever I tell her she has to obey me with everything.

19:27 [SPEAKER_00]: Not realizing that Islam is put boundaries, no not everything, she's still a human being. [SPEAKER_00]: For example, a lot allowed her and said that her property is hers. [SPEAKER_00]: Her money is hers now. [SPEAKER_00]: You've got to give me your money. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to give me your money.

19:37 [SPEAKER_00]: You have to spend it on my parents. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to pay for this. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to pay for that. [SPEAKER_00]: I've heard of terrible stories behind the curtains. [SPEAKER_00]: Where women are saying, I work. [SPEAKER_00]: I do everything my husband does nothing. [SPEAKER_00]: Nothing or he could work, but he doesn't, says I'm in charge.

19:51 [SPEAKER_00]: Is that what it means? [SPEAKER_00]: Talk what of a loss of Hanna or what the Ailer means that it relieves the toxic discord between families. [SPEAKER_00]: It happens between parents and children too, where they overstep. [SPEAKER_00]: And that's why a loss plant the Ailer tells us, Akwaniya or Lil Elberg or you who have intelligence, have got consciousness.

20:09 [SPEAKER_00]: I've been ambassador to the line of example who said in the Siddharthob body that the degree that Allah says in the Qur'an and Allah has given men a degree above their wife. [SPEAKER_00]: What does it mean? [SPEAKER_00]: Because people misinterpret it. [SPEAKER_00]: I've been ambassador to the Allah.

20:24 [SPEAKER_00]: He says, the husband, he says, that the degree means the husband must wave his own personal rights while fully serving his wife. [SPEAKER_00]: If you're going to have a degree of protection and maintenance, which requires that your family follow you and your wife, you know, she lets you make this final decision in matters and follows you with that, then it means that you as a leader of the house requires you to give up some of your rights.

20:48 [SPEAKER_00]: That's what a leader does. [SPEAKER_00]: They can't ask for every part of their rights, but of course within measure. [SPEAKER_00]: I've been our best says this and he says it means that just as I love my wife to beautify herself for me I love to beautify for her. [SPEAKER_00]: He says mutuality he sees that and beauty is not just in looks also in the way we talk to each other the way that they treat each other, the courtesy, the kindness, the the even the consultation.

21:10 [SPEAKER_00]: Russell Alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal alaisal [SPEAKER_00]: Remember the Umm Musa'a'lam at the Allahu'a'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na'na

21:31 [SPEAKER_00]: or where the Prophet ﷺ says that there's one of you not feel ashamed to treat his wife harshly at the start of the day, physically abuse her or be harsh towards her during the day, and then accept to lie with her at its end, lie with her embedded, send after treating her physically and harshly abusing her in the day.

21:52 [SPEAKER_00]: They had his in Bihari, five to four. [SPEAKER_00]: If a man inflicts emotional trauma, he has broken the divine contract, a wife who afflicts [SPEAKER_00]: she has broken the divine contract too. [SPEAKER_00]: We hear of many sisters, unfortunately, who cross the boundary and mistreat their husbands, while they know that they're doing the wrong, and cause their husbands to even sometimes even take their own lives or just something terrible happened to them.

22:14 [SPEAKER_00]: It goes both ways rather than sisters. [SPEAKER_00]: So we have to both fear a lost panorotide. [SPEAKER_00]: My final words in conclusion, brothers and sisters, the talk話 of a loss of panorotide is a balance, not perfection. [SPEAKER_00]: It means to have fear of Allah when you see Him or Haram.

22:29 [SPEAKER_00]: And it's to have hope in Allah, which means repentance, which means knowing that Allah Subhanahu wa Dahlah is not terror. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah Subhanahu Dahlah is not waiting for you to make a mistake. [SPEAKER_00]: He is law-forward. [SPEAKER_00]: He is Rahim. [SPEAKER_00]: He is merciful.

22:40 [SPEAKER_00]: He is forgiving. [SPEAKER_00]: He loves it when somebody returns back to Him. [SPEAKER_00]: He loves it when people mend their ways. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah can forgive everything that you've ever done. [SPEAKER_00]: if you return back to him and ask him to forgive you from your heart. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah is the most forgiving, the most merciful, hold on to that.

22:55 [SPEAKER_00]: And don't assume if you're Lord bad. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't say, ah Allah is not going to accept my prayer. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah is not going to accept my prayer. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah is not going to accept my prayer. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't think like that. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah says, I said, I said, I said, I said, I said, I said, I said, I have good assumption of your Lord.

23:07 [SPEAKER_00]: But fear is when something is clearly haram and you know you shouldn't be doing it, especially if it's a major sin, always be conscious of Allah, at least, [SPEAKER_00]: you won't let yourself go with that sin and start to say that's it. [SPEAKER_00]: What's the point? [SPEAKER_00]: Duckler of Allah can always keep you conscious because other things bad can happen.

23:25 [SPEAKER_00]: You can get into addictions that you can't even get out of and even then Allah's front dial is still calls you back. [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to leave your brothers and sisters with this that slip ups or human mistakes does not mean automatic the damn nation and that you are doomed or cursed or takes you out of the fold of Islam.

23:43 [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, your relationships are anchored to Allah's name, Allah four, the repeatedly forgiving, Allah wa-dood, the affectionate, and I want to leave you with an exercise. [SPEAKER_00]: Insha'Allah, this Friday, practice these four spiritual aspects of cultivating your takwa. [SPEAKER_00]: Let's start them.

24:00 [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, we look at your mind, the intellect, ask yourself, am I reading my religion to find loopholes and control others or am I reading it to find closeness to Allah? [SPEAKER_00]: Number one. [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, your emotions, ask yourself, did I use anger or emotional manipulation to punish my family this week, reflect on yourself, go back and mend it.

24:24 [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, my actions, look at your day-to-day conduct and ask yourself, did I provide safety and honour to the people under my roof or the people, my neighbours or people that are interact with, or did I act [SPEAKER_00]: Like a dictator. [SPEAKER_00]: This will all show whether you are closer to Tokua or not.

24:42 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is his app. [SPEAKER_00]: Now I gave you three, didn't I? [SPEAKER_00]: Spiritual is the last one, or the most important one actually. [SPEAKER_00]: Spiritual purification. [SPEAKER_00]: This week did I rush my salary? [SPEAKER_00]: Did I hurry my worship? [SPEAKER_00]: Did I make time for my duties?

24:55 [SPEAKER_00]: To Allah's panel at the Alah? [SPEAKER_00]: How much did I monitor it? [SPEAKER_00]: I was a harsh on myself in my active worship that I sit there obsessing and thinking Allah's not going to accept. [SPEAKER_00]: So either way you go, you'll know where you sit. [SPEAKER_00]: Tokwa is right in the middle.

25:08 [SPEAKER_00]: You assume, well of Allah, and you say, Hamdallah, my Lord will accept it. [SPEAKER_00]: And on the other side, I'm not going to say, I even if I don't do it, my Lord will forgive me. [SPEAKER_00]: You do your duties. [SPEAKER_00]: So these are the four things in shā'a Llāhu tā'al at practice.

25:19 [SPEAKER_00]: I've taken two long, excuse me once again. [SPEAKER_00]: My aska Llāhu tā'al at a grant to stop you. [SPEAKER_00]: And to make it I will save you in the hereafter. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah'a Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu tā'al Llāhu