Why Allah Made Women Different Than Men

0:00 [SPEAKER_00]: It's not what I'm going on until I have to catch you. [SPEAKER_00]: You and your wife are the same words tonight. [SPEAKER_00]: She walked away, understanding, and reading them completely differently. [SPEAKER_00]: Many men look at that as a flaw. [SPEAKER_00]: I've dealt with hundreds of men in this regard.

0:14 [SPEAKER_00]: Men that love their wives, they take care of them, they try their best. [SPEAKER_00]: But they think that their wives are from another planet. [SPEAKER_00]: Listen, that confusion has a reason. [SPEAKER_00]: In Shalab by the end of this video, you'll see what that reason is and how you can benefit and bring structure to your family, leading as a lost supinal of data has legislated.

0:34 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, the fitter of the woman is different than that of the man. [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, we both have souls, but the implementation of that and how we interpret things will be different. [SPEAKER_00]: In Charlotte Brothers, what I'm going to do in this video is tell you the five benefits of knowing her nature.

0:50 [SPEAKER_00]: And what each one of them is quietly trying to tell you, so we can listen. [SPEAKER_00]: before we mention these five benefits we want to talk about the verse that is foundational in this particularly, a loss of panel with dialysis and a chapter of Zuchruf, chapter number 43 verse 18 I want a UNESSA with a Heliati with Huafil Khaisami later we'll be in [SPEAKER_00]: And is it that they attribute to Allah?

1:15 [SPEAKER_00]: One who brought up an ornaments and in their dispute, they're very unclear. [SPEAKER_00]: Later we'll be. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah's Fantata here is giving a description of a female, but he's using this description because he's saying, do they attribute to Allah being the angels? [SPEAKER_00]: That which has this type of characteristic being they are raised in ornaments and garments, meaning young girls when they grow up when they're younger.

1:40 [SPEAKER_00]: they were gold and silver and all these ornaments. [SPEAKER_00]: UNESCO of Helian, Helias Beauty. [SPEAKER_00]: And the second characteristic, Hoafi Lichesami, Lathamobine, and they are very unclear when they dispute. [SPEAKER_00]: Meaning that their emotions may overpower them to where they're not clear and what they want, or they're not clear in their presenting their case, because of the emotions out of their.

2:02 [SPEAKER_00]: Now, Muslims look at this and take it as a mandate, and this is what is important, not as a form of deficiency, but as a form of difference, and that difference of the female that from the male is something that the male, if he wants to be a leader, and be the man. [SPEAKER_00]: be a man, he looks at this and he says, this is a characteristic within them that they want to beautify themselves, they're raising this beauty, they want to look pretty, but at the same time their emotions may not allow them to make sound decisions, particularly does not express any form of deficiency, it's a mandate that men need to understand.

2:35 [SPEAKER_00]: So the first benefit brothers is that a law designed her differently on purpose. [SPEAKER_00]: And this is as we said in Mandate, it's quietly telling men that it is not for you to treat her like a man. [SPEAKER_00]: You do not realize that she does not think and respond like a man. [SPEAKER_00]: So this premise, [SPEAKER_00]: This is a Mokadima.

2:54 [SPEAKER_00]: This is so important for men to understand from the very beginning. [SPEAKER_00]: Basically, as a lot of Pano-thalases and another verse, well, Aisa Zekuru Kailuntha and the male is not like the female. [SPEAKER_00]: Showing that there is a clear stark difference and based on those differences, there will be different characteristics.

3:10 [SPEAKER_00]: From them is that she does not respond and think like you. [SPEAKER_00]: So you knowing this have to act accordingly to the best of your ability. [SPEAKER_00]: You know, David Busch. [SPEAKER_00]: Psychologists and every listeners, I call it just someone say he wrote the book, every listeners, psychology and he also wrote a book called the Evolution of Desire and he mentions in here when he did a study across 37 cultures.

3:33 [SPEAKER_00]: He found that the women consistently prioritize emotion security, relational closeness and social bonding. [SPEAKER_00]: These are three things that they prioritize as women. [SPEAKER_00]: These are not cultural misbut rather it is a reality and across cultural study that shows their human nature.

3:51 [SPEAKER_00]: It's their fitter out, their human design as they would term it, but it's something that is natural within the female. [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet ﷺ also said, it's also been inside Echraidon. [SPEAKER_00]: He said, be good to one, be gentle with women, have mercy on them. [SPEAKER_00]: For really, they are created from the rib.

4:08 [SPEAKER_00]: And Verily, the most crooked part of the rib is the top portion. [SPEAKER_00]: If you were to try to straighten it, you would break it. [SPEAKER_00]: So be gentle with women. [SPEAKER_00]: He ends up being gentle with women. [SPEAKER_00]: Notice in the beginning and the end, he gives the ruling on how to treat them.

4:23 [SPEAKER_00]: Be gentle. [SPEAKER_00]: Why? [SPEAKER_00]: Because they are created differently. [SPEAKER_00]: And that's what he says. [SPEAKER_00]: They are created from the rib. [SPEAKER_00]: And then he says that when he says here, the most crooked part is the straight part. [SPEAKER_00]: If you were to try to straighten it out, you would break it.

4:38 [SPEAKER_00]: If you were to try to straighten it out, you would break it. [SPEAKER_00]: This is important because it shows that you have to leave them alone in their nature. [SPEAKER_00]: When there may be a little too emotional for you, know that she's in her nature. [SPEAKER_00]: When there may be this, she wants to beautify herself a little more than you would expect that is in her nature.

4:56 [SPEAKER_00]: So you understanding that it's important that you know how to appropriately deal with it and respond to it in a conducive fashion. [SPEAKER_00]: Benefit number two brothers is her emotions that we talked about. [SPEAKER_00]: Her emotions is the same emotions that raised you. [SPEAKER_00]: This is quietly asking you to honor what you once depended on.

5:14 [SPEAKER_00]: Being your mother, the Prophet ﷺ when he was asked who has the most right of my companionship, he said your mother asked again mother, then he said then who he said your mother, he said it three times, to show you that the affection in the Rahma, the mercy of the mother is unlike any other.

5:31 [SPEAKER_00]: and that is what a loss of Pinal without it has created. [SPEAKER_00]: So she does not when it comes to disputes, as we see in the second portion of the verse, where I said that an in-dissue, she is very unclear, greater, more being. [SPEAKER_00]: She's not clear in this view and she argues it may be that emotions that take over therefore not being clear in her dispute.

5:50 [SPEAKER_00]: Her argumentation is not cold, it is something that is full of emotions. [SPEAKER_00]: She defaults two feelings and defaults two emotions when wanting to speak or wanting to argue. [SPEAKER_00]: Something that would make her more emotional. [SPEAKER_00]: At this point as a man, you need to know it is not a deficiency and you should not hold it against her.

6:09 [SPEAKER_00]: Does not mean you don't set boundaries and you don't have your clear boundaries in communication, but know that her being like that is not a form of her being deficient or lesser than a human being. [SPEAKER_00]: A loss of pain with dialysis and the Quran. [SPEAKER_00]: and we have enjoyed upon man to take care of his parents.

6:27 [SPEAKER_00]: How many of us who own who went out of that one? [SPEAKER_00]: His mother carried him increasing her in weakness upon weakness. [SPEAKER_00]: This is a foundation for us as men to understand that women have a totally different reality. [SPEAKER_00]: and the bond with that baby is unlike any other.

6:44 [SPEAKER_00]: We don't know what that's like. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, maybe as the baby, you know, as soon as you were born, you breastfed, most of you. [SPEAKER_00]: That connection with the mother and the son or the mother and the daughter. [SPEAKER_00]: We don't know what that's like. [SPEAKER_00]: In the same token, we have our own.

6:58 [SPEAKER_00]: If we try our best to establish that connection between our son and our daughter, [SPEAKER_00]: which they won't know what it's like as well. [SPEAKER_00]: That's why it's important to embrace the difference. [SPEAKER_00]: And from the difference, the benefit here is to understand that their emotions is the same emotions that raised you when you were a child and you had no one else.

7:17 [SPEAKER_00]: They got me interested too. [SPEAKER_00]: They mentioned that the mission is term called emotional attenement. [SPEAKER_00]: And that is when one is able to recognize a response to the partner's emotional state. [SPEAKER_00]: When you recognize their emotionally distraught, [SPEAKER_00]: Like, masterman, we talk about when the woman may be on our particular vacation during that time of the month, he recognizes that emotional change and shift, and he's able to respond to it in an adequate way.

7:42 [SPEAKER_00]: He may buy something for, he may not bring up something that may cause rift at that particular time. [SPEAKER_00]: So he is well aware of that, and this is one of the single most common predictors of [SPEAKER_00]: And let's not think that the fact that you don't know her emotions or don't tune into them is that this is more of a man.

8:02 [SPEAKER_00]: I think this is a common misconception. [SPEAKER_00]: Having that emotional attimate can increase the romance, which will increase her admiration of you. [SPEAKER_00]: And as you know as men, we love admiration. [SPEAKER_00]: Actually, it's a requirement for us respect and that level of admiration.

8:18 [SPEAKER_00]: So when we are attuned to their emotions, they appreciate that. [SPEAKER_00]: Someone that is not and voluntarily not a tuntary motion doesn't care. [SPEAKER_00]: This is emotional illiteracy and it could build towards the disconnection. [SPEAKER_00]: This is so crucial for men because when you do this to your wife, she may see it as you be litany her feelings.

8:40 [SPEAKER_00]: You don't care about them. [SPEAKER_00]: You don't ask how are you doing, how are you feeling, are you okay? [SPEAKER_00]: You show her the concern look, you find her love language and you implement that, showing that you are aware of her emotions, you're aware of where she's going through, you have [SPEAKER_00]: But she sees that you are making an effort and that you care because the one that is Mocking that emotions That mocking her emotions and mocking her as a woman.

9:04 [SPEAKER_00]: That's not exactly strength [SPEAKER_00]: It's not exactly strength and it can lose respect quickly from your wife. [SPEAKER_00]: Reason number three, or benefit number three is that she entrusted you so lead with gentleness. [SPEAKER_00]: She entrusted you so lead with gentleness. [SPEAKER_00]: That you are the one that is generally initially the leader.

9:25 [SPEAKER_00]: So you have to lead with gentleness, be gentle with her because what's quite, what's quite being asked of you is she carrying the weight of her trust and not crushing that what you're carrying. [SPEAKER_00]: Trust is something that is very, very heavy. [SPEAKER_00]: As we see, it's Muslims, a Tawkulada law, trusting in a lawsuit behind in Wadala, is what will allow you to pull through.

9:45 [SPEAKER_00]: So when C trusts you, it's very important to take that it's very seriously and to recognize the responsibility of the trust of the mother of your children, your wife. [SPEAKER_00]: So the household, it is important that you recognize that you can set the tone for the household. [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, she may be a thousand more than you, maybe.

10:04 [SPEAKER_00]: But you are the one that can allow it to be a battlefield or to be a place of peace. [SPEAKER_00]: I know it doesn't seem like that. [SPEAKER_00]: But your response is very, very important for the leadership of the home and the tempo of the home. [SPEAKER_00]: Allah Subhanahu Wa'Tala says Wa'ala Shiluhun Nabilm'a'ruf for incorrect to move on the fa'asa'a'a'a'a'a'a'a shaytan wa'iyaja al-Allahun Fihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihih

10:31 [SPEAKER_00]: For if you just liked them, perhaps you would just like a thing that a loss of Pano-Dala makes good therein. [SPEAKER_00]: So a loss of Pano-Dala is acknowledging that you may not like everything that she does. [SPEAKER_00]: But due to the fact that you think outside of the box and you're thinking more on a macro level and looking at the general benefit, you have the huge responsibility and opportunity to set the tone.

10:55 [SPEAKER_00]: because she's trusting you initially to lead the house, to be the one that is responding in a way that is conducive to the bigger picture and not immediately lashing back at her to prove some type of point or to win the audience, to win the argument. [SPEAKER_00]: Even though she may argue with you and even though she may say something in a way that is disparaging, no for a fact that there is an element of trust there to see how you're going to respond.

11:20 [SPEAKER_00]: This is why responding emotionally, [SPEAKER_00]: can lessen the impact of your leadership, because you're a spot emotionally that means that your emotions can be at the same levels as hers, that you're not responding by thinking logically and wanting to get to a solution. [SPEAKER_00]: Even at the same time, you regard her feelings, you listen to what she has to say, you don't always have to solve her problem, but listen and eventually provide a solution.

11:49 [SPEAKER_00]: So, part of this is important, recognizing that she trusts you and to feel the weight of that trust and be gentle with her. [SPEAKER_00]: The problem is that the best of you are those are best of your families and I am the best to my family. [SPEAKER_00]: She doesn't know when you will know you like her.

12:05 [SPEAKER_00]: So being the best of your family is something that a lot will recognize and that in Charlotte she will recognize as well by being gentle, having mercy, being patient and forbearing, recognizing when she is on her vacation and changing it up a bit to when you respond in a way that is gentle.

12:20 [SPEAKER_00]: that shows that you care, that you do not want to have arguments and raising voices, and sometimes the children may hear that. [SPEAKER_00]: Gentile leadership is not weak leadership. [SPEAKER_00]: It is leadership that is strategic. [SPEAKER_00]: It is leadership that is understanding the situation.

12:35 [SPEAKER_00]: It is a leadership that will lead you to form a leadership that will lead you to being wise. [SPEAKER_00]: in the responsibility that Allah is giving you. [SPEAKER_00]: So benefit number four is how she responds is a direct reflection most of the time of your leadership. [SPEAKER_00]: What it is quietly asking you is to stop blaming her all the time and stop looking at her and to look at those other three fingers that are pointing at you to do yourself audit.

13:03 [SPEAKER_00]: That is why in Islam we have the Mojasaba and Marakaba. [SPEAKER_00]: the holding yourself accountable and the self-monitoring. [SPEAKER_00]: This is why, in Masterman, we have what is called the pit stop, that after work or after coming from a stressful situation, you don't bring that home.

13:17 [SPEAKER_00]: You take a stop, you hold yourself accountable, review your day, decompress, deep in deep program at times, in order to come home with full energy being present to them. [SPEAKER_00]: Because what can happen is that entrepreneur, or that one that went through a business deal, [SPEAKER_00]: When he does that, he's able to stop and release all the clutter and distractions by sitting in nature, sitting in his car, doing something that does not require a lot of cognitive function, just sitting and relaxing, drinking his favorite drink.

13:49 [SPEAKER_00]: When he does that, he decompresses. [SPEAKER_00]: He's able to recharge and go home with his family. [SPEAKER_00]: Because if not, when he goes straight from work to home, stressed out his wife sees that he's distant. [SPEAKER_00]: She may ask him what is wrong, and he shuts down. [SPEAKER_00]: He says, don't worry about it.

14:05 [SPEAKER_00]: She'll eventually give up. [SPEAKER_00]: and then she may snap just as you have snapped when she asked you what was wrong. [SPEAKER_00]: Your children may do the same thing and they see that your response is negative or to dry or it's not positive enough for them to see that you really want to have a conversation with them or you're welcoming their energy as the leader of the home.

14:28 [SPEAKER_00]: When they eventually shut down, [SPEAKER_00]: you looking six months later as to why they don't ask you that question anymore, or as to why when you walk in the home, no one is saying, Son, I want to take them, how are you doing? [SPEAKER_00]: They all scatter to their rooms. [SPEAKER_00]: That is a reflection of that response of those series of responses that you had all those months on in and you don't even realize it.

14:50 [SPEAKER_00]: Brothers, it's important and this is a very important leadership tactic. [SPEAKER_00]: is unfiltered data about your leadership. [SPEAKER_00]: Most of the times, now I'm not saying her emotional responses to you is always your fault. [SPEAKER_00]: But a masterman, a man that holds himself accountable first, practicing the Islamic mandate, looks at himself first before even looking at her and what she's done, why are you responding like that?

15:20 [SPEAKER_00]: You look at it, you say, okay, you listen, you say, okay, noted, right? [SPEAKER_00]: take the time to sit and reflect. [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, what have I been doing to where she's responding like that? [SPEAKER_00]: Right? [SPEAKER_00]: This is how a leader acts and holds himself accountable.

15:38 [SPEAKER_00]: Not to say that she's justified all the time for that emotional response. [SPEAKER_00]: Remember, we had Masterman, we talked about the woman that's on her vacation. [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a deficiency, it's that time of the month. [SPEAKER_00]: And she forgot to inform you, you forgot to ask, you being wise, seeing that response that, okay, this is happening, you have to be wise.

15:58 [SPEAKER_00]: You notice how many times I said a wise in this? [SPEAKER_00]: because the leader is wise. [SPEAKER_00]: So when she maybe shut down anxious or reactive, those responses are probably a response from how you've been acting over the past couple of months and she's had it. [SPEAKER_00]: or their response is from something that has happened to her.

16:16 [SPEAKER_00]: Most importantly, you use that as data and don't be reactive as she is getting into an argument, which most of the times you will never win. [SPEAKER_00]: The Prophet ﷺ said, the best of you are those who are best of their families and I'm the best of my family. [SPEAKER_00]: No one will know you like her.

16:33 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is a metric of a man's character, how his wife responds to his leadership. [SPEAKER_00]: and how she experiences you, not on how you act in the masjid and outside with everyone else. [SPEAKER_00]: So brothers, her withdrawal is not a sign of your lack of manhood. [SPEAKER_00]: but it should serve as information that you use to look at yourself, or to yourself first, before always holding her to the stake.

17:01 [SPEAKER_00]: And this is what will make you a better man because it leads to humility, it leads to an estrange, it leads to self-review, and most of all, it allows you an opportunity. [SPEAKER_00]: to connect to a lawsuit pilot with Donna by asking him to keep you firm, asking him to keep you patient, and asking him to keep you strong as the column that he has intended for you to be.

17:24 [SPEAKER_00]: Benefit number five, brothers, is that when she feels safe, the whole house studies. [SPEAKER_00]: But sometimes we may have a misunderstanding in this, what it is quietly asking from you is that you build the environment, the foundation of the environment that she needs and watch what becomes possible.

17:41 [SPEAKER_00]: A loss of panel with dialysis in the chapter room, verse number 21, woman Ayati and Hala Kalakum in Anfusikum, Aswaj and Lita Scunu Ileha, were Jaya Ayla, Bainakum, Mawad-Detan, Warahama. [SPEAKER_00]: In the fetalic of the Ayati, Nikomiya Tefakarun, a loss of panel with dialysis, and from his signs that he is created from yourselves, mates that she may find tranquility in one another, and he is made placed between you two, [SPEAKER_00]: love and mercy, affection and mercy, barely those are signs for people who reflect.

18:13 [SPEAKER_00]: So when this verse, you see a lost mental disease, the test school in Ileaha, that he is made to find tranquility within her brothers. [SPEAKER_00]: When you're the leader and you have created the foundation, [SPEAKER_00]: for that environment for her to thrive and from feeling safe, that is when she becomes, you find the tranquility in her because you've created the environment for her to feel safe and give you that tranquility and provide you that inspiration when she feels safe.

18:43 [SPEAKER_00]: You know, a lot of some of that says, [SPEAKER_00]: means, you know, to find tranquility, but also the word Mascan, Mascan means home, and that home is the place where the woman feels safe when it's hers, right? [SPEAKER_00]: When she feels that there are no threats, external threats. [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes, brothers, even though you are not a threat to her and you [SPEAKER_00]: can threaten your stability, your cognition, your peace, you bring that into the home.

19:20 [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is when you come home, suponala, you may own a company and work and dealing with people. [SPEAKER_00]: When you come home, suponala, you find yourself, you are stressed out. [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife is even managing the bill. [SPEAKER_00]: She's managing the finances, she may not work, or she may not work as much as you.

19:38 [SPEAKER_00]: She's managing the finances and she's dealing with all that stress. [SPEAKER_00]: You come home. [SPEAKER_00]: There's tension. [SPEAKER_00]: You come home. [SPEAKER_00]: You point your finger that things we're not done and this is a common practice that you We have there's no smile. [SPEAKER_00]: There's no mercy So you're creating an environment that is tension Your children learn the word stress Because mama's always saying Bob is stressed or when they come to you you say Bob is stressed out.

20:05 [SPEAKER_00]: I can't talk right now That's how they learn the word stress [SPEAKER_00]: they eventually will give up. [SPEAKER_00]: Your wife doesn't feel emotionally safe around you. [SPEAKER_00]: She doesn't feel that she can tell you how she feels. [SPEAKER_00]: She doesn't feel that you will tell her at times how you are feeling and what's the reason for your shift to your mood.

20:24 [SPEAKER_00]: They don't know which Ahmed is going to come in the door. [SPEAKER_00]: So when the kids come home, when you come home, they hear the keys rattling, they're frightened, they shake. [SPEAKER_00]: When they hear the keys rattling, they go to their room. [SPEAKER_00]: When they hear the keys rattling, they're rushing to be seen in a way that as long as you don't blow up on them.

20:45 [SPEAKER_00]: Right? [SPEAKER_00]: It gets to a point to a special in their teens. [SPEAKER_00]: They won't even care anymore. [SPEAKER_00]: And who is the one at the brunt of all of this? [SPEAKER_00]: That's right. [SPEAKER_00]: You're wife. [SPEAKER_00]: Because when you storm to your room after raising your voice, she's the one that's still in the kitchen.

21:02 [SPEAKER_00]: She's the one that's sitting with the kids when they're crying or they're mad or they're angry. [SPEAKER_00]: She's the one that's texting them and telling them, look, come back home, you know, Boba didn't mean it. [SPEAKER_00]: She's the one that's saying all these things and lying to the kids at time to try to bring you all together.

21:16 [SPEAKER_00]: But she's not feeling even emotionally and safe around you because if she's going to look at anyone first, it's going to be the one that is the foundation of that environment. [SPEAKER_00]: And I think this point is very important for us to remember as men, as fathers, as husbands, is that your emotional state is a climate.

21:34 [SPEAKER_00]: It is not only a personal experience, because your emotional state will be exuded and carried out and shown in the safest place for you, your home, but guess who else is there? [SPEAKER_00]: The children, they're learning now how to survive in a home and not live in one. [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to think about that.

21:54 [SPEAKER_00]: Do your children think they're surviving in a home and not living in one? [SPEAKER_00]: I will never forget this statement at her brother, said to me, Subhanallah, and many of you know that I've said this to you and I've said it in lectures because it hit me hard. [SPEAKER_00]: You know, the brother wasn't even getting to this point.

22:08 [SPEAKER_00]: He was trying to get to another point, but he mentioned this along the way. [SPEAKER_00]: He said that, Subhanallah, when I was younger, I used to ask Mama when his Bob was coming home, but when I got older, I would ask her when is he leaving. [SPEAKER_00]: an unsafe environment from your wife will be exuded and shown and felt by the children.

22:28 [SPEAKER_00]: And when they feel that they become apprehensive to who, the one that the children know has a huge effect on their mom, to where what it can get to a point to where they will know that you, Baba, you just live together with us, but you have no ultimate gravity [SPEAKER_00]: Because your mood, your shiftiness, when you go to your room, your father, your dad, your mom's husband, right?

22:58 [SPEAKER_00]: That's what can eventually happen when they don't feel safe around you. [SPEAKER_00]: So, her sense of safety is not a luxury. [SPEAKER_00]: that, you know, that you carrier that you have, legacy that you leave with your family is something that is tied to your them thriving. [SPEAKER_00]: You know, if your family and your children thrive, that is the legacy that we want.

23:20 [SPEAKER_00]: So when she feels safe, it is a foundational element that you need to be well aware of by holding yourself accountable and seeing where you're showing up and being consistent in those actions of good, [SPEAKER_00]: you're able to accommodate accordingly. [SPEAKER_00]: It is not that you are.

23:41 [SPEAKER_00]: a servant of her but you are serving her as the leader because the best leaders are the ones that serve the ones under them. [SPEAKER_00]: They serve them by teaching them, by honoring them, by being those that they can always count on to a beautiful safe to express themselves, safe to ask you about yourself, safe to be those that when they're around you, they know that they will elevate [SPEAKER_00]: regards to how they act, what they say, what they wear, what they do, their responses to you, their responses to what happens to them.

24:19 [SPEAKER_00]: When they see you, they see a man that they can rely on after a loss of pain on what's out. [SPEAKER_00]: So there you have it brothers. [SPEAKER_00]: This is important knowing her nature. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I, this is paramount for you as a husband. [SPEAKER_00]: Even as a father, suponala, to know the nature of the female, how she is different.

24:35 [SPEAKER_00]: We established a [SPEAKER_00]: future understand the primary foundational differences between you and her and when you do that you don't approach her as a man in the way that you're dealing with each other and make no mistake whether you are going to make no mistake that you're going to make mistakes but that is where the humility services a huge, huge goal and opportunity when you respond to her in a way and you [SPEAKER_00]: or you act in a way that you know you shouldn't have acted, how are you going to respond and adjust for the better of the family to where she feels safe and that children look up to you.

25:15 [SPEAKER_00]: Baita Kallofi Kuma-Saramadi-Kuma-Rahmatullahi Wabarakatun.