E409- Here's Why Letting Your Dog on Furniture RUINS Everything

0:00 [SPEAKER_00]: Oh boy, where do I start with this one? [SPEAKER_00]: This one is gonna ruffle some feathers. [SPEAKER_00]: This is not even a wise tale, but this is a question and a comment I get all the time. [SPEAKER_00]: Like Tom, I know I'm not supposed to, but I let my dog up on the furniture. [SPEAKER_00]: And I say listen, letting your dog up on the furniture is not only gonna ruin your life, it's gonna ruin your entire relationship with your dog, no big deal.

0:35 [SPEAKER_00]: know I'm kidding. [SPEAKER_00]: It's the same thing as I tell people talking to your dog. [SPEAKER_00]: kills you relationship letting your dog pull you around the neighborhood kills you relationship and also say letting your dog up on your bed or your furniture will kill your relationship with the caveat.

0:49 [SPEAKER_00]: So here's the context is King and dog training. [SPEAKER_00]: I should make that a freaking hoodie. [SPEAKER_00]: I say it so many times. [SPEAKER_00]: So let's say your dog gets up on the furniture. [SPEAKER_00]: Who cares? [SPEAKER_00]: Not a big deal. [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, it's not.

1:02 [SPEAKER_00]: Here's where it could be and is for a lot of people. [SPEAKER_00]: So let's say your dog climbs up on your nice cloud couch or your bed. [SPEAKER_00]: You say, hey, get off and they go, no, that's the problem that just like letting your dog pull you, but you can say heal and your dog then walks nicely.

1:19 [SPEAKER_00]: That's not a big deal. [SPEAKER_00]: But if your dog pulls you and you say, hey, heal and they say, no, that's the problem. [SPEAKER_00]: So I wanted to go forth. [SPEAKER_00]: So if your dog gets up on that furniture and you go up and you say, hey, get down. [SPEAKER_00]: This is how it happens, get down.

1:31 [SPEAKER_00]: They go, no, definitely not. [SPEAKER_00]: They look at you. [SPEAKER_00]: You walk over. [SPEAKER_00]: They start like doing a little play-bowl like don't you but And they grab you grab their collar and they reach back with their mouth and they're like ah Get off me. [SPEAKER_00]: Let me stay.

1:41 [SPEAKER_00]: There's my bit. [SPEAKER_00]: There's my couch and you're like bro get down and they're like no So that's the problem. [SPEAKER_00]: So [SPEAKER_00]: The relationship with your dog has to be solid. [SPEAKER_00]: So all of my dogs, I mean, I would love to be honest with you guys. [SPEAKER_00]: Honestly, I would love if any one of my dogs throughout their life would just get up on the couch and cuddle and hang out [SPEAKER_00]: Put their head on your on your lap and like chill now.

2:09 [SPEAKER_00]: I sampled our Thompson did that a little bit But because he was so hot all the time being a same print hard He wouldn't last long and again like all the dogs none of my dogs really cared about it I have where I've pretty much had working dogs my adult life, but anyway, that's besides the point Actually, I lied my old dog Lola she would do that.

2:25 [SPEAKER_00]: She would be a cool call to the dog anyway. [SPEAKER_00]: I digress so [SPEAKER_00]: When you are asking your dog to get down off the furniture and they say no, that's the problem. [SPEAKER_00]: The other thing is it causes really big conflicts between other dogs in the house because of the leverage point.

2:43 [SPEAKER_00]: So, leverage point and slash the jealousy resource guarding issue. [SPEAKER_00]: So there's multiple layers of why letting your dog up in the furniture could either be no problem at all, literally, or [SPEAKER_00]: The biggest problem. [SPEAKER_00]: And that's why I'm talking about it today.

2:59 [SPEAKER_00]: So let's say you come up or ask a dog to get down, they say no, that's a problem. [SPEAKER_00]: Because now you get a rest of your first of all, your dog said no, when you ask them to do something, that's going to be an issue, because now you have to force your dog off. [SPEAKER_00]: So most dogs not a huge deal outside of just annoying, but for some dogs, I dealt with this specifically for, like, like, rockwilers in this situation for some reason.

3:22 [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what it is. [SPEAKER_00]: They have a problem with this, but you go to grab them and then they start begin mounting and it can escalate. [SPEAKER_00]: They're like, don't freaking tell me what to do. [SPEAKER_00]: This is my bet, right? [SPEAKER_00]: So there's that possessiveness.

3:33 [SPEAKER_00]: There's the talking back. [SPEAKER_00]: There's the conflict between you and your dog. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to force your dog down. [SPEAKER_00]: It becomes this whole thing. [SPEAKER_00]: Right, and that's not besides the point of the dog's just literally like being animals and Like people like people who let their dogs walk outside in New York City on to their bed or psychos.

3:49 [SPEAKER_00]: Sorry, but that's crazy. [SPEAKER_00]: That's crazy work. [SPEAKER_00]: So [SPEAKER_00]: And then the dog on dog conflict is huge too. [SPEAKER_00]: So let's say you have two dogs or more. [SPEAKER_00]: Your dog is laying up on the bed like King King Tut, right? [SPEAKER_00]: And then your other dog comes by and maybe did dog open the bed has a bone.

4:08 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you're in the bed with the dog. [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe your kids are in the bed with the dog. [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe [SPEAKER_00]: The dog below them has a walking around with a bone or something, and then that creates conflict. [SPEAKER_00]: It creates this, I don't want to say like social hierarchy, but literally hierarchy.

4:21 [SPEAKER_00]: Like one dog is literally above the other dog. [SPEAKER_00]: And so it can create definitely tension. [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen it create fights. [SPEAKER_00]: I've also seen again the resource guarding is a big deal with this so let's say your dog's laying the bed with you and The your husband or your partner or your wife or whatever the heck comes into bed and then that's an issue, right?

4:44 [SPEAKER_00]: So that's that's an issue and I've heard that so many times. [SPEAKER_00]: It's it's actually kind of scary how many times I've heard that like oh Yeah, I just you know, got up in the middle of the night to go party and came back and my dog wouldn't let me back into bed [SPEAKER_00]: Or my dog wouldn't let my husband back in bed or whatever.

5:00 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like whoa, that's crazy So again, that stuff starts to happen and typically you can't have one without the other So a lot of times if you have a relationship with your dog where you come up and you say hey get down And they say no and they flip you off if they fight you about it You likely have the same relationship with your dog when you come back From going pee at one am and your dog is not taking your spot showing their teeth at you So I kind of want to wash the other there, but [SPEAKER_00]: There is a lot of potential risks of violence, and I've seen a lot of dogs fight in these scenarios.

5:34 [SPEAKER_00]: But again, even if the dog is on top of the bed and then the other dogs says, oh, I want to come up and see that family member, mom, dad, whatever. [SPEAKER_00]: And then now there's, again, there's tension, there's conflict, there's potential fighting, resource guarding, it kind of just continues to grow.

5:50 [SPEAKER_00]: I mean listen I've had I can like clients, friends, family, dogs like some people don't it doesn't it's literally not a big deal But here's the honest thing when I say it's literally not a big deal It's probably because that person can say hey get down. [SPEAKER_00]: They go, okay? [SPEAKER_00]: your boss, I got it, right?

6:08 [SPEAKER_00]: So again, if you allow your dog up in the furniture, not a big deal, really it's not unless you ask your dog to get down and they fight you, or if your dogs are fighting, or if your dog's just in general, [SPEAKER_00]: are having a rocky relationship in the home, and you're allowing your dogs up on the furniture that's just one more reason for them to get in a fight.

6:30 [SPEAKER_00]: It's one more thing for them the resource guard. [SPEAKER_00]: It's one more thing for them to get grouchy over each other. [SPEAKER_00]: My couch, no, my couch. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't walk past me around, man, right? [SPEAKER_00]: There's just one more thing. [SPEAKER_00]: It's just not worth it.

6:41 [SPEAKER_00]: So, anyway, audit yourself with your dog, and again, this is like a big stickler for people, so many people are like, now this is such a big deal and whatever, it's like, it's not. [SPEAKER_00]: Like, you ask your dog to get down, they go, sure, no big deal, who cares? [SPEAKER_00]: Like, that literally, it's just whatever, who cares?

6:59 [SPEAKER_00]: But... [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of conflict that can happen and will happen and you probably do see it happen. [SPEAKER_00]: If you ask your doctor to get down and then you got to fight. [SPEAKER_00]: And it could be even like this play-bow fun like catch me if you can and that and they get the kind of the zoomies on your couch ruined like you know your comforters everywhere and they're just wiping their gross ass paws everywhere and it's like even that could be kind of an issue.

7:24 [SPEAKER_00]: Some people think it's cute and endearing but listen and it could be like that's subjective. [SPEAKER_00]: It could be for you. [SPEAKER_00]: For me, it's kind of like, I don't want to play this game because as soon as you go to grab them then they start biting your hand and that's just because they have leverage.

7:37 [SPEAKER_00]: And so, so a lot of people just think like, and here's the reason why I made this is because so many people are like in this alpha stage of, I hear that every time I try with the client. [SPEAKER_00]: And it's like, oh, you shouldn't let your dog be in the bed because that means that they're alpha with you.

7:55 [SPEAKER_00]: It's like, no, bro. [SPEAKER_00]: That's not a real thing. [SPEAKER_00]: Um, hierarchy and canines is for sure, but the whole, like, you got to spit in your dog's mouth and, you know, kick him out of bed because your, you know, alpha is just bullshit. [SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, I digress.

8:10 [SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, so that's the deal. [SPEAKER_00]: Send this to your friends, your families, your family members, anybody that's getting their dog. [SPEAKER_00]: He's kind of like a little bump like, hey, maybe you should let your dog get your dog down at the front or off the bed or send this to your partner, your wife, your husband, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, whatever.

8:28 [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe that'll be a little bump for him. [SPEAKER_00]: I just caused the fight, but anyway, anyway, guys. [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for listening. [SPEAKER_00]: As always, number one dog podcast in the world because of you guys, you guys are amazing. [SPEAKER_00]: All my dog training courses are linked in the description if you are struggling with your dog and anyway shape or form.

8:41 [SPEAKER_00]: Again, thank you. [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you. [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for listening guys. [SPEAKER_00]: Appreciate you. [SPEAKER_00]: Talk to you in the next one.