5 Ways to Kill Your Envy and Get Happier

Dante had a particularly gruesome punishment for the envious: their eyes were wired shut. In this episode of Office Hours, I explore why envy is such a powerful happiness killer—and how to stop feeding it in your own life.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
7:15 Dante’s Divine Comedy
11:56 Definition of envy and its purpose
18:46 Benign and malicious envy
24:13 The effects on the brain when you’re feeling envy
28:30 What people envy
33:25 5 ways to be less envious and much happier
45:06 Q&A: Four classic temperaments
46:34 Q&A: Developing your PhD research question
48:40 Q&A: Romantic love: addiction or happiness?
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: arthurbrooks.com/the-meaning-of-your-life
• Arthur’s newsletter:arthurbrooks.com/newsletter
• The Happiness Scale:learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale
• Dante’s Purgatorio, Canto 13: dantelab.dartmouth.edu/reader?reader%5Bcantica… (dantelab.dartmouth.edu/reader?reader%5Bcantica…)
• Josef Epstein. Envy: amazon.com/dp/B00VQVKUPC?lv=shuf&channelId… (amazon.com/dp/B00VQVKUPC?lv=shuf&channelId…)
•Envy: An Adversarial Review and Comparison of Two Competing Views: journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/175407391…
•The Role of Subjective and Objective Social Status in the Generation of Envy: frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/1…
•When your gain is my pain and your pain is my gain: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19213918
•Is envy harmful to a society's psychological health and wellbeing?: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29316510
•Envy: Functional specificity and sex-differentiated design features: psycnet.apa.org/record/2012-11291-001
•What to Do When Social Media Inspires Envy: daily.jstor.org/what-to-do-when-social-media-i…
•Mitigating malicious envy: Why successful individuals should reveal their failures: psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-11196-001
•How gratitude inhibits envy: From the perspective of positive psychology: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33300284
•Bragging and humblebragging in online reviews: sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160738…
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