How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself | Dr. D. Ivan Young - EP 800

Are you your own harshest critic? If you constantly second-guess yourself, replay mistakes, or feel like you're never doing enough, this episode is for you.

Today, you'll discover why self-compassion isn't about lowering your standards—it's about giving yourself the emotional foundation to become more resilient, more confident, and more fully present. You'll learn how your inner dialogue shapes your relationships, why high achievers often stay trapped in survival mode, and how changing the way you speak to yourself can transform the way you live.

Joining John R. Miles is Dr. D. Ivan Young, executive coach, neuroscientist, leadership expert, and author of Leading from the Heart. For decades, he's helped Fortune 500 executives, elite athletes, entrepreneurs, and public figures overcome limiting beliefs, heal emotional wounds, and build lives rooted in self-awareness and compassion.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why self-compassion is the foundation of resilience

• How childhood experiences shape the way you see yourself

• Why high achievers often struggle with self-worth

• The difference between empathy and "weaponized empathy"

• How to quiet your inner critic without lowering your standards

• Why the relationship you have with yourself determines every other relationship you build

• Practical ways to move from survival mode to flourishing

If you've spent years extending grace to everyone except yourself, this conversation may change the relationship that matters most—the one you have with yourself.

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