Ep. 215: The #1 Ingredient of Self Regulation

Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan Siegel
When we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop those skills.
We can also be more understanding and compassionate when they aren't able to use those skills!
This episode explores the skills of monitoring (noticing) and modifying (changing) our level of arousal and activation as the main ingredients of self-regulation.
Remember that self-regulation can only develop with enough co-regulation. But once there is a strong foundation of co-regulation, we can encourage our kids to develop the skills to notice and change (when appropriate or needed!) their level of arousal.

In this episode, you’ll learn
• The main ingredients of self-regulation- monitor & modify
• How to scaffold up to teaching kids to monitor and modify
• How to have appropriate expectations about your child’s ability to monitor and modify, even after they have learned the skills

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
• The Whole-Brain Child (drdansiegel.com/book/the-whole-brain-child) - Dr. Dan Siegel
• No-Drama Discipline (drdansiegel.com/book/no-drama-discipline) - Dr. Dan Siegel

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