How to Find "The One": The Science of Dating with Tim Molnar

Modern dating can feel exhausting. On one hand, there’s the seemingly endless swiping that leads to dating app burnout; on the other, there’s what can feel like the insurmountable challenge of meeting someone in real life.
But what if finding love is less about fate — and more about strategy? Dr. Laurie sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Tim Molnar, author of Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance (books.apple.com/us/book/date-smarter-a-strateg…), to explore what the research really says about how to meet the right person, build genuine connection, and avoid common dating mistakes.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance (books.apple.com/us/book/date-smarter-a-strateg…)
“Receptivity to Sexual Invitations from Strangers of the Opposite Gender (psycnet.apa.org/record/2010-21508-008)”
How to Bounce Back from Life’s Curveballs (with Dr. Maya Shankar) (podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-bounce-ba…)
“Computations of Uncertainty Mediate Acute Stress Responses in Humans (nature.com/articles/ncomms10996)”
“Implementation Intentions and Goal Achievement: A Meta-Analysis of Effects and Processes (psycnet.apa.org/record/2007-19538-002)”
“Forbes Health Survey: 78% Of All Users Report Dating App Burnout (forbes.com/health/dating/dating-app-fatigue)”
“Foot-in-the-Door Technique Using a Courtship Request (pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19102478)”
“Getting Beyond Small Talk: Study Finds People Enjoy Deep Conversations with Strangers (apa.org/news/press/releases/2021/09/deep-conve…)”
“Grammar Is Super Important to Online Dating Sites, So Try to Speak English Good (mic.com/articles/137103/grammar-is-super-impor…)”
“Swipe-based dating applications use and its association with mental health outcomes: a cross-sectional study (pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32127048)”
(00:02:17) Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance (books.apple.com/us/book/date-smarter-a-strateg…)
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