I Was Almost a Killer, Here's How I Got There...

There’s a point where you can’t blame your past anymore. You have to look in the mirror and decide who you’re going to become.

My guest, Shane Goodbar, has lived both sides of that truth.

Shane was sexually abused as a child, learned to hide behind a mask, and eventually found escape through alcohol and drugs. What started as a way to numb the pain spiraled into addiction, broken relationships, multiple DUIs, jail, and a moment where he came terrifyingly close to taking another man’s life.

But this isn’t just a story about addiction. It’s about accountability, recovery, fatherhood, faith, forgiveness, and what happens when you finally stop seeing yourself as the victim of your own life.

In this episode:
• How childhood sexual abuse shaped Shane’s identity and need to escape
• Why drugs and alcohol became a way to stop feeling
• The rock-bottom moment that finally broke through years of denial
• How a two-year therapeutic community completely rebuilt his life
• Why recovery meant learning to love the man staring back in the mirror

What stayed with me most was Shane’s willingness to own all of it. Not excuse it. Not hide from it. Own it.

Because no matter how lost you’ve become, your past doesn’t have to be where your story ends. But eventually, you have to take the first step.

Key Moments:
00:00 The man behind the mask
03:18 Hiding childhood sexual abuse
06:02 When drugs became the escape
09:41 Living two different lives
13:15 Addiction starts taking over
17:46 The relationship that changed everything
21:07 Becoming a father changes the path
24:49 The lie he told himself about fatherhood
27:07 His fourth DUI and arrest
30:04 Ten days after leaving jail
33:09 When rock bottom finally hit
36:03 Facing the man he had become
39:01 Learning to love himself again
42:03 The identity crisis facing men
45:12 Finding God after years of pain
48:26 Why surrender finally brought peace
51:03 His message to anyone still lost
53:02 What recovery actually gives you

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