How To Do Hard Things

What happens when the world sees you as a hero, but you feel lost inside? Abby Wambach, a trailblazer in women’s soccer, shares how facing life’s challenges after retirement helped her discover truth, healing, and self-love.
Summary: Abby Wambach spent years chasing excellence as a world-class athlete, only to find that winning gold didn’t bring the inner fulfillment she craved. In this powerful conversation, she reflects on addiction, shame, identity, and the hard-earned lessons of self-love. Her honesty reveals a new kind of strength. One rooted in vulnerability and the courage to be fully seen.
This episode was supported by a grant from The John Templeton Foundation on Spreading Love Through The media.
How To Do This Practice:

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Acknowledge the belief that achievement or perfection will make you feel whole.

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Notice when success doesn’t bring lasting happiness, and let yourself feel that disappointment.

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Share your struggles honestly, even the ones you're ashamed of.

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Choose to live openly instead of hiding parts of yourself to fit others’ expectations.

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Ask yourself where your beliefs about worthiness and shame come from.

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Keep coming back to love and accept yourself, especially the parts you were taught to hide.

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Today’s Guests:
ABBY WAMBACH is a two time World Olympic gold medalist, FIFA world champion, and bestselling author. She is a member of the National Soccer Hall of Fame and a six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award.
Follow Abby on Instagram here: @abbywambach (instagram.com/abbywambach/?hl=en)
Order her book We Can Do Hard Things here: treatmedia.com
Listen to Abby’s podcast here: wecandohardthingspodcast.com
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