
Ep. 337: Caring for members with unbelieving spouses
Dienstag, 22. September 2026 · 28 min
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() Biblical foundations: Ephesians 5/Colossians 3 ideal, 1 Peter 3, Matthew 10's "sword"
() 1 Corinthians 7 and the evangelistic hope of winning a spouse
() Caveat: 1 Peter 3 must never justify staying in an abusive marriage
() First step: identify whether the spouse is supportive, indifferent, or hostile
() Handling hostile spouses: non-negotiables vs. "not poking the bear"
() Prioritizing commitments and working around church scheduling
() Creative service when giving is restricted (meals instead of tithing)
() Pastor initiating contact with the husband; Jim's own teenage conversion story
() Disarming through shared interests, hired work, and low-pressure men's gatherings
() Guidance for believing husbands: godliness and sacrificial love, not demanding authority
() The pastor's real goal: help the believer live faithfully, not "win" the spouse
() Closing word and p