Ay Por Favor: Peter Covers for Marysol

I put with Alexi Napola and Marissa Patton an iHeartRadio podcast.

Ola, Hi, guys, how's everyone? So Marathon will not be with me here today because she's having a fabulous time on a cruise with her hobby in Europe.

She's actually renewing her vows Peter, Hi.

Put fouer Mariso, did you hear that? But we're missing you and it's not going to be the same without you. Peter will try to fill in for you, and it's going to be a lot of fun because I've actually never co hosted with my son Peter. I've never done a podcast with him. So wa Mohamed, Let's see how it goes for us. You guys be the judge of it.

I hope you like it. I think that a good question to start off would be, what do you think is the best piece of advice that I've.

Ever given you?

I wish I would have taken all of your advice, but unfortunately that's not how it works. You know, I've had to, you know, go through a lot of hardships and you learn, unfortunately. But I always had your little voice in my head, like, don't do that, Peter and English or Spanish it Spanglish, so you always guided me in the right direction, even though my actions never you know, really matched with it. But as the years have progressed and everything, I'm very grateful for your advice. I know you only meant the best and stuff right.

Well, I think as a mom, right and especially being Latina, I feel that we're always giving advice and you know, whether you take it or not, it's just about you listening and then realizing. You know, I realize also that you have to go through it yourself because I actually had to do.

The same thing. My mom gave me a lot of advice that I didn't.

Take at the time, and after looking back, I was like, oop, like I wish I would have listened to my mom. And I can think of like one thing, you know, specifically like my mom when you know your mom, you know, and my mom, which is your aguela, would always tell me as many times as you want, like you can get married and divorced as many times as you want.

Thank you for finishing this sentence.

Okay, so you even remember my mom's advice, of.

Course, but you see it so it's thinking in because you.

Know what I like, who you married so you can have and you didn't have children, So basically, Peter's just finishing the line so you can get married and divorced as many times as you like, even though we like it to be one. But who you have children changes your entire life, and there will be part of your life.

For your entire life.

And I think that we know that because you know, your father still plays you know, a big role, you know, in our lives. So, like we said, that was one of the advices that I think of my mom all the time. And it's true, you know, you it's somebody when you have children, it really changes your life and you really you adopt him and his family as your family as well.

And I'm glad.

You'd say, well.

I didn't take it.

I married your dad, but in a good way, because look, I have two beautiful children. I have you and your brother, you know, And that's how I see it. It's it's actually like how you see things, right, You can see things.

However you want to see them. But no, I don't think she's.

No because you know, we worry about right, which is like what I worry about with you two now.

It's like you know, yes, you're super in love and you get married and blah blah blah.

But then you have kids and it's really forever, like your relationship might not work out, but once there's children involved, everything changes. And I think that that's you know, a very good advice, you know, but again, you never I never took it.

You know.

It's kind of like, oh, you know, I'm in love, I'm still gonna get married, I'm still gona have kids and whatever. But you know, at the end, it's kind of like, you know, you pay for everything, like by a bordeaux, you know, and you learn from it. It's really not in a way like I know back then, you know, the parents used to say that like oh, you know, like you're going to pay for it, But you know, I like to see it like a life lesson, you know, and you learn from it. And I think that you you do listen to my advice.

And maybe not at the moment right when.

I tell you, but I feel like, you know, it's it's somewhere in there and it's like it sings in and I think and you know, in the last year, for example, you've been listening to it.

You know.

We have a small, close type family, so I don't just take it as advice. I take it as everything speaking to you just some you know, I think that.

We're like in a relationship now, you know where you're obviously older, so we're like we're friends and I give you advice, you know, not only as your mother, but like as a friend, as a woman.

Like somebody that she doesn't set me down on the counch to be like Peter. No, we talk, we go to lunch. It's completely different.

Right, the dynamics are have obviously changed because with age and maturity, and you know, we we've established that my mom, you know, so my mom was just like kiatrist and you know that Peter, we missed her so much because my mom was so therapeutic, Like she would be talking and giving us advice and therapy without us even realizing it.

So we literally had like our free psychiatrists the whole time, you know, giving us, giving us advice. But even my mom, as a psychiatrist, knew that even though people paid her to give her such good advice, she would give it to me for free and I wouldn't take it. So with some moral of the story that we have to go through like our own life, lessons and learn from it ourselves.

So that was my mom.

So my dad, for example, my dad would always tell me like I had to have a degree, no matter what. I had to graduate, you know, from college, and I had to have a degree because a degree was so important. So my dad always really reiterated the fact that a woman must have a career and be self sufficient and that would really be you know, life changing. And you never knew, you know, because obviously back then, you know, your parents always wanted for you to be married forever, but really not as a career. You know, they wanted to maybe will want to be a stay at home mom and a housewife. You still have to have a degree and something to fall on. So I think that's the best advice that my dad gave me, and I

totally took it.

I regret not going to law school because.

My father passed away and I was accepted into law school and everything, but I had the conflict that I didn't know that I wanted to, you know, be an attorney and work all these hours and maybe not spend as much time with my kids. So I just decided to get my master's in special led and have a career where I can, you know, take my kids to school in the morning, spend more time with him, have summers off. So that was a personal decision, but my father always the best advice was like, you have to go to school and have a degree, which I also told you.

I feel like all the advice that A will, A, Nancy and my dad gave me.

And I'm sure I'll give some of it to my kids one day.

I hope.

So, I hope so, because you know, all we as parents do is, you know, we try to protect you and save you.

And and I think.

Especially us, like Latina moms, I think we're a little bit more overbearing, aggressive one in the delivery or in the advice right because someone we passionate.

We're very passionate, you know.

And I think that and that it shows I have some of the questions that I feel like, you know, some of the people listening to us and that have been watching you, you know, and been watching me you know on TV and the Housewives, and have been watching you since you were a young boy. Every teen experience is growing paints. But do you resent the fact I think we've talked about this, like you and I sometimes do you resent the fact that you had to grow up on national TV because honestly, it was something I wanted to do, and you were still a young boy, and I never really asked you and your brother I kind of did. I said, oh, you guys want to be on the show.

I was cast for a show, and I was the one that recommended it to you.

Like, hey, you told me about it, and I.

Already knew all of that entailed, and I was already casting, doing the casting for a TV show, and I knew everything that was going to come with that. So since the beginning, I honestly never had a problem. And I had to model and made for the camera and commercials, editorial, all this stuff, so it really it made no difference to me, honestly, right, No.

You were pretty comfortable with it, you know. I think also though you were really young and you didn't know. I remember when this talk came about the show. My concern was that it was going to open our lives to be so public, and with that a lot of things from maybe our past or our family's past was going to come out. And since I had always raised you in a way to protect you from all that, I said, well, maybe now's the time to have the conversation with you and tell you a few things you didn't know about our family because I was afraid that it was going to come out. So that's what was holding me back. But truthfully, you know, I never asked you or your brother. Your brother was only thirteen years old,

whether you know, it was okay, and I mean not that at that age you would have really, you know, had like power over me. But I think if you both would have said no, like we hate it, we don't want to be part of this, then maybe I wouldn't have done it. But you know, because already as growing up as teenagers, it's tough to be on a show like that, you know. And sometimes I feel like, well, you know, you don't resent me, That's what I want to know.

I think you're just different Bread And honestly, it doesn't matter. He loved it. He was young, and he loved dressing up. He yeah, he was like, yeah, I'm on a TV show, what's up?

Yeah?

So he still loves it, by the way, and Frankie is a favor. He's always been like that kid that loved the camera, that you know, that loved people, that loved expressing himself and.

Yeah, I mean I thought it was fun. To be honest, I got I mean, it's a great platform. So whatever you're doing, whether it was music, modeling, baseball, whatever it was, I saw it as something cool. There's some kids get nervous or this. What are they going to think? Oh I didn't. Me and Frank you were just like, we're just not like that, and we were could have been anything TV show, And I.

Mean I felt the same, And as a parent, I did it, you know, thinking it was going to be something good and positive for both of you. And I think as a parent, you know, as long as you when you make the decisions that it's always you know, something positive about it.

That's that's why I did it.

I thought it was going to be something good for our family and for us. Like you said, you know, you were an athlete, you were modeling, you know. I thought it was going to be a great platform for you and your brother the same. Your brother liked to sing and and perform and do all that kind of stuff. So I really did it for those reasons. I had the magazine at the time. I thought it was a great platform as well. But you know, sometimes it doesn't always turn out that way right, and sometimes, like everything in life, there's pros and there's cons.

Yeah, I mean the only ones that are opposed to doing the show always are the husbands. And I think we all know that.

But I mean as a child, as a teenager, you were okay with it. It's not like my mom made me do it.

No. I mean eventually, you know, it kind of gets annoying you oh hell ives, oh like your son. So after a while, you know, kind of gets annoying. But that it comes with it. You know, your pros and cons. Any little thing you do, you know you have to double think what you're doing and what you post and all that. And I definitely made a mistakes when I was younger and I didn't think about any of that, and that was definitely difficult for me. And it took me a while to kind of like grow up and you know, get some sense into my head. But you know, so I would say that was the most difficult part for sure. And then as life starts to get more serious and intense and problems come about, those problems become public,

so you know, all the worst things like that kind of just like intensifies it. A lot more people come up to you, you know, and something, oh, Lex, how are you feeling? You know, It's it's a lot, but it makes you stronger. And I feel like once you persevere and you're able to go through that, people see that, and there's people out there that need to hear that or are in similar situations.

So but it's something as a mom that I've always like thought too, like, well, maybe if I wouldn't have done the show, like you know, your lessons wouldn't have been so public, or maybe those things wouldn't have even happened, you know, as a result of the show, and as a result of our family being more public, sometimes they kind of like pick on us or like, you know, they make things worse instead of better. And I think that that's why it's so easy for me to talk on these topics that we're going to talk about today, as far as you know, Hayley Beaber and Jonah Hill and the other things we're going to talk about today, because you know, all these people are growing up in the public eye and now with social media, there's no secrets,

and everybody's just like made it a point to be oversharing and to you know, take o their personal lives you know, onto social media.

You know, at least they pay us for it. I'm kidding, but it's true.

I mean it's kind of like, you know, I feel like if you want to be like, if you want to be so public.

About it, then just having a reality show, right.

I don't know, but like it's ridiculous when you see all these successful, happy people whatever they want to just post it on the Instagram and all this.

Right, Well, I think funny about our family now that you say that, is that, for example, one a reality show. But we're I'm pretty I'm pretty private when it comes to like social media. On Instagram, I post the minimal and we're going to be talking about that today, you know, as far as the other topics we're going to talk about.

And people are like, but you're so open, like on your show when you're in a reality show, and like, why don't you like post more on social media?

And I said, because I don't like it. I don't enjoy it.

And I mean, I think a lot of the social media now is like is a fraud and it's fake. And I've spoken to Marisol about this and other times you've done the podcast, and it's something that I'm not comfortable about yet. You put the camera in front of me, like when we're doing the show, and I'm so genuine and transparent and just you know, and just honest. And that's a different, you know, a different platform or I guess, you know, than social media.

So I've always wanted to ask you that.

I know we've talked about it sometimes before, but I just want to make sure that you don't resent me. I know when sometimes in your life that things have happened to you in a way you're like, mom, that's because I was on the show with you.

Oh yeah, on the show. I mean probably would.

Have not done that kind of attention.

And usually, by the way, it's negative attention, right, because nobody wants to read about or hear about how great you're doing in life and how successful you are and how you know, people just like to hear like the bad news.

Unfortunately, that's what it is, right.

You grow thick skin, and you know, and like you said, you know, through pain and life lessons and maturity and all that, you just you know, you it's growth. I mean, like that's what happens. And you've been doing this for a long time, so it's kind of like okay, so okay, who cares what else?

I mean?

You know, it's just like you know, you handle it pretty well done, you do. Some people don't believe me, and there's some like you know, older people that don't handle it very well.

Just our family history. You think of reality TV show is going to make me flinch?

Okay, it's just right. Well, my life has been like a telling overla.

So we know that it is on TV. So I think, right, you have a lot of stories, stories, but a lot of insight to give to people, and if it wasn't for the show, you.

Wouldn't, right, right, So with that you take the good and the bad. And that's like what I say.

Okay, Well, you know, I'm sharing my life and I'm being vulnerable and I'm opening up my life and you know, different things that have gone through in my life and hopefully I can inspire people and help people, and that's why I do it. And you know, when when I don't have that story anymore, nothing good to offer, then you know, I'm just I guess it'll be the time that I won't do it anymore, because you know, I feel like I have a responsibility as a public person.

To do that, you know, And that's like what I try to tell you too. So my social media is very like boring. It's just like whatever. I don't really care for it, and I tell you to, you know, to post as little because you know, unfortunately people only want to make a comment like something mean and bad.

I'm like, and I've always had the rule, if you have nothing to say nice, then don't say it. I'm another question for you, Like, I don't even know if I've ever asked you this, do you what was your reaction that we're talking about a little bit about everything. What was your reaction when you saw cocaine Cowboys?

We were always trying to like get the when I say, we as me and my dad, and I was really the only one that supported it. My mom supports will always support them. You know. Well, I don't know about the story. I don't yeah, yeah, yeah, well we can get into that after you just happened to be part of it. So but so basically, no.

I'm just like, how did you feel when you saw that?

Because you're we're talking about about youth growing up as a teenager on national TV, but then now your father comes out on Netflix without anybody knowing by the way, when I saw the trader with myself and I dropped to the floor. So how did you feel? What was your reaction when you saw cocaine cowboys?

Zero reaction?

Really?

Since high school? Oh your dad, Pete? Your dad? Is they? Since ninth grade, it's been like this, so it came out everyone already knew, Oh it's Peter's dad. Oh, they already knew half of the stories.

You know, But how did you feel? Seeing like you're the.

Only thing that made me feel a different type of way was finding out all these stories and putting all these like puzzle pieces together that were like not there. Had all these questions in my head when I grew up. Why did I go to Spain? Why was I here? Why did we move here? Why wasn't why wasn't my dad at my baseball games? Why was you know? So all these things I just didn't understand while growing up.

And I would see like other families and this and that, and I was like, I was just I always told you.

That your dad was in school, he was like in a ten year program in college.

No five year program.

Yeah, And then I start like so little by little watching it you know, I started to hear all these stories and I'm like, WTF, and basically, were you ashamed that?

For example?

I was like, like, I've said this before, Like I was ashamed before about that story about you know, about many things in my life have been ashamed, and I think being on my reality show has helped me talk about a lot of things that I felt uncomfortable and ashamed about before, you know, in my family and about decisions that I had made and how I had lived my life. But now after your brother's accident that I started writing my book, which is not finished by the way, When I started writing things down, it was therapeutic and actually felt better, and I said, wow. I'm like, so I've gone through like all these things in my life and I've gone back up and I've come back even stronger, and I've been a great mom and doing good and

being good, you know. And I was just kind of like a victim of falling in love with somebody that happened to have that life, which, by the way, I don't know about it. To me, a lot of the stuff was new too. I was like, what.

A lot of people come up to me, They're like, hey, your dad's a gangster. But you know who the real gangster is, your mother.

And I'm like, yes, but yeah, I don't really consider myself that I do.

But you're real and you held it down, and yeah I did. People really took that into account and noticed that, you know, and yeah.

I'm always going to hold it down. And even when things are terrible, like you see a smile, put on my red lipstick and I go out there and I figure it out, and you know, and and I fight for everything I have because that's that's how it is.

You know, you have to do that. That was another advice my my parents gave me.

But I was never seen.

Never let people see what you're going through. You go through it on your own. You put that smile on your face and you go out there and you do what you have to do.

But we were always pushing waiting for someone to pick up the project. So as soon as it happened, it was like dream come true and we were ready to go.

I mean, I think it was. I thought it was important for him to say so out of the story.

I didn't like that he didn't get paid for it, or that, you know, it took advantage that way. Again, him being you know what else or whatever. But you know, I've always like I wanted to ask you that, like, how do you feel like? You know, we're besides that, you know, we're on this reality TV show, and then your dad, you know.

Has Ya he's on Netflix.

A docuseries, you know on Netflix.

So it's like, okay, like you know, not Peter, you know, because you know your mom and dad you know this, but you know, like I want to see how how you felt.

So you're You're good with it, You're.

Even though there's terrible things that I wish never happened, but another day, it's your family and that's your blood and they love you no matter what, and so you should.

You should love your father, you know, unconditionally. You know that that that's what it is.

But we're not. That's not the conversation.

I just wanted to know how you felt when you saw I was surprised because this was something that he talked about and that I went and I did an interview kind of to like support. They wanted to interview me, and I said, of course, I do you want anything to help you out?

Why not?

And they asked me some questions and then seven eight nine years later, it's on it's a Netflix, so like for me, and it was kind of like at the same time that our show had come back season four, so I was like, Okay, I wasn't waiting for this or expecting this, but then again, you know, yeah, neither.

My life is like that, so that's fine.

No. It was the reason why I say I was really happy is because finally something paid off for him, because.

A lot of times people never have that chance, never have that opportunity. So I'm happy for him that he got to say his story. Yeah, well, speaking about what we want to know about, do you want to know anything about Hailee Berry?

Hailee Berry?

Wait no, Hailey Bieber? Sorry, missus Bieber, missus Bieber.

Okay, well, apparently they are Auandola of a first trap if she's doing what she's posting bikini picks, Like what do.

You think that happened?

For example, she posted the pic of like the little teeny waity bikini and then she deleted it moment like instantly. People want to say it's because he's controlling and he made her like take it off, like oh yeah, Gita, so you know, like.

Deleted, Yeah, she was going to the story would be completely.

With a Canadian Canadiano. But you know, I don't want to think that. I don't want to think why are we always blaming other people? So why are we blaming Justin bab for telling her like, take it off, take it down, because he's controlling, you know. Sometimes you know, maybe she had a shot or she had like too much to drink, and she was feeling some sort of way so she posted like you know that that picture and then she's like and then you're feeling like insecure and you're like, oh, let me delete it, right. I mean, that's how That's how I want to see it. But I feel like Laine, like they're always looking for a problem.

They're like, oh, he's it's you know, it's just In Baber that Like he's so controlling, he made her take it off, take it down. I mean, I feel like Kaylee Beaver's had it really difficult as far as being married to Justin because I felt like everybody loved Selena Gomez so much. Okay, she was never gonna like be Selena and she was never going to get receive that love that everyone had with Selena and Justin when they were together.

I mean, they were always in the friend group between like Candle Justin David Candle, He's he's slept with all of her friends and little Mary and Haley.

They ask her, that's what I always say.

I've never heard that one.

We say it, okay here in Miami, that's what I say my friend group.

Okay, well I don't want to hear it, but.

That's what it is.

But yeah, but again, you know, I think that you know that she's young, she's a model.

This is what she does.

You can have a change of heart, a change of you know, the moment, and you're like, oh shit, like I shouldn't have posted that, let.

Me delete it. But I don't.

And I think that it's because he's controlling, you know, And I feel like she has a lot of pressure. Like all her friends are like posting half naked pictures, you know what I mean, even like you know, Gomez was like posting pictures of like her boobs. So it's kind of like, you know what, me, all my friends are doing the same thing that are my age, So let me be a little bit more provocative.

Yeah, I don't know. I just think we should just get rid of the Instagram.

Truthfully, I would give it up right now? Can anybody come just shut down the whole thing? No, I don't need it, you know. I think it's like a lot of these girls need the validation. You know a lot of people on social media. That's what they're looking for. That's validation. Get get it, get Haley. What do you think they're going to tell Haley? Oh my god, you're so high? Oh my god, the emoji, the file.

It's how many privileged girls that go to good schools come from good families. They have all the connections, they could do whatever they want, but nothing makes them feel better than looking like woll now.

But really, well, you know, it's a very sad thing for me. It's a very sad thing.

And instead of coming out with more apps and more stuff like that, they need to find a way shut them all down because no boil. I can't like honestly, it just makes me like very sad. So of course I follow Sophia Regatta, and Sophia and Joe are going their separate race. I get you know, is it a seven year rich? I think in those are we agreeing that the seven year itch exists? Went between Sophia and Joe, It obviously did, because they're announcing that they are separating.

I did find it strange though, And you see that's where people are looking at the fact that he said, you know, Felicuo Sophia and the picture was a blurred picture.

That's kind of like a sign.

I didn't see the picture either, but now I'm looking at it and it's like a blurry. It's kind of like it was in the past. It's kind of like an indication. Oh deeople.

Still he knew exactly what he was doing.

Look at Shakira with Jimmy Butler. Now, so who knows what Shakira.

I love about Shakira.

Jimmy Butler came with some news today in me see men Ganta.

Uh uh yeah, so let's see what what Sophie gets gets into, you know, different different in her life, you know.

So yeah, listen, I'm very happy for Shakida.

I talk about her here all the time because we love her, and I love that she moved to Miami and then she's you know, dating different people because you know what I mean, it's important, you know, as a woman especially I feel like women. I mean, in this case, I don't know she Sophia or Jodeja, Sophia or with something mutual. We don't have any information at this point.

With Shakira, it was like her husband was cheated on her, So you know, I haven't in that case, even though people think I have. It was different and it was with a different sex, so that doesn't county very different and I prefer it that way, by the way. So but in this case do not. You don't know who left too, And sometimes that makes a difference. A lot of times, I want to say it makes a difference because you know, you feel as a woman, you feel like you feel bad about yourself.

You know, your self esteem is affected.

And even though you're a mega superstar like Shakira and you're beautiful and you have a great body, and you can sing and and you have everything else going for you, it makes you feel bad about yourself when a man that you never expected that you love doesn't, you know, it's a betrayal.

And it's between her and Jimmy. It's a thirteen year difference.

She likes him young.

I like that, Maita likes the young the young one, Ladina Latina or everything.

They're saying that what went to the game, Like that's when Jimmy started to play bad Game three against Boston. So there's all these people Miami.

She went to the gate, Na, we're eliminating you because Miami heat is.

The way the playoffs come. I'm sorry.

Yeah, you can come to my house. We can watch together.

Here.

We'll be ruining for Jimmy and they able the point. Oh my god, how much fun. But you know what, So you know, some people are happy, like Shakira and Jimmy, but then some other people are sad, like Sophia and Joe, because no matter what, a breakup is always very sad. Hopefully it's amicable. Maybe maybe they could get back together.

Look at Sylvester Stallone and and Jennifer Plumb then went back together. No, Sophia has a son, Manolo. I think he's thirty one or thirty two, like you, from her previous husband. Uh now, actually she never married him, I think. But it's the father of her son. And and with Joe, she has no kids.

Maybe that was the problem.

You guys should have had kids, because they don't have kids. Joe and so I don't have kids. I don't want to, regardless, I wish some of the best. How do you feel about what's going on with with Jonah and Sarah. I know that she claims that Jonah Hill is a misogynist.

And how did you say that in Spanish?

No, missoni, no, nota It sounds like masoita, but that would be a masacist. But this is the misogynist all the land. People love to say that, by the way, anyways, but a misogynist is a person who dislikes or despises or strongly prejudiced against women. I mean, I think that's like really hard words. You know what she was calling Jonah, where again, she's just showing what what Sarah, what his ex girlfriend is trying to show is his text, and his text is stayed.

That he has boundaries, so you know, he's.

Trying to establish the boundaries in his relationship with Sarah. The fact that she would go publicly on her Instagram and take a screenshot of it and put something that was so personal between her and Jonah, which was a boyfriend at the time, I found that really rude, disrespectful and immature.

Definitely.

I mean, you're young and way younger than me, but how do you feel about that?

And to me, this has no words. I mean, I can't just believe that somebody could do that, like that should not even be allowed.

First of all, that's why I thought Jonah Hill was in the right at first, because I saw her post this and his text about the boundaries, and he was being very quote unquote nice, a little bit passive aggressive because that text, yeah, from Jonah to her, because he came off as, hey, these are my boundaries, but they were kind of like, hey, these are my rules.

Okay, So I'm going to read one of the text from Jonah plain and simple. If you need the following surfing with men boundary less inappropriate friendships with men to model, to post pictures of yourself in a bathing suit, to post sexual pictures, friendships with women who are in stable places from your wild's recent past, beyond getting lunch or coffee or something respectful.

I am not the partner for you.

If these things bring you to a place of happiness, I support it and there will be no hard feelings. These are my boundaries for romantic partnership, my boundaries with you based on the ways these actions have hurt our trust.

Okay.

So, first of all, I think that she's misusing the term boundaries. As a matter of fact, I feel like nowadays in social media, a lot of people are just misusing terms like gas lighting, like I tell you something you don't like, Oh, you're gaslighting me.

I mean even in my friend group.

By the way, I feel like all these girls are alway is like, you know, inappropriately using the terms. So I mean, boundaries I think are very important in any kind of relationship. You know, whether it's husband and why for like family, you know the family dynamics. I mean, there's boundaries, and there's reasons why there's boundaries, right, Boundaries and a relationship are kind of like this. They help each person figure out where one person ends and the other begins. In short, boundaries help you define what you're comfortable with and how you would.

Like to be treated by others.

It's definitely a conversation that I think all couples and all mature couples have. But boundaries are really not used to tell the people what they can and they cannot do, because then that would be controlling, Like you can't tell the person you can't do this and you can't do that, because that could be a little bit like manipulative and controlling.

That's right, But I feel like he was very clear in telling her, Listen, I'm not the guy for you, Like, if you want to do all these things, then I can't be in a romantic relationship with you, right, I mean, obviously she was already a surfer, and I guess if you look at her Instagram, she already took bikini pictures and surfing. And you know, I think the biggest problem here is that if you already have those predisposed things in your head, you should not be dating that, Like, you know what I mean, Like if I don't want to, you know, I feel like before you get into that relationship.

You should already have an idea of what to expect. What you're getting into can change someone. So if you see what she's doing this and that upsta, don't date her or deal with it and talk about it. But I mean, just for seeing Jonah Hill, no offense, Jonahill, but you seem very insecure the way you act and all these things about the go to the beach with her, serve with her. It's not the end of the world.

So I think he's in security and his boundaries. He really just wants to control her.

Okay, So you do have to make a lot of sense what you're saying. Okay, and I'm glad that you're saying something like that, right, because I'm more old school, I'm more traditional, and I'm a little bit more mature obviously, so with my relationships. I mean there's ways of course saying things right, and I think like writing them down like a to do list, you know. I think that that's really like immature too and controlling and it could.

Come across wrong.

But it really bothered me that she goes on social media to share this. So to me, a relationship is sacred. It's between you and me, it's like between two people, so like to say that publicly like that, to post something like that, no.

One did you know who she was before she posted it? No, Well, neither did anyone else, and that's why she did it.

Right.

Well, I think that that's the problem here too, right, that he is the well known and you know, and the actor and the celebrity there, and then she just happened to be his girlfriend. And this is what she wants. She started getting all this attention when she started dating him, and now she she wants to take it to another level and by doing something like that. But you see, this is where I have a problem, like if you have this kind of a problem, like, don't try to make him look bad, don't try to make yourself look good by making him look bad.

You know.

And I think a lot of women are really taking advantage of like the woman's empowering thing nowadays.

And let me too, this whole movement, and let me tell you something.

I'm like super like, you know, women, I'm all about women and empowering women and all that, But you know, I think that a lot of these women are really taking it to a different like level, like why do you have to do that?

Why do you have to put that and then make him look bad?

No, you're immature and you're stupid, and you're handling just really wrong. And it's really unfair to him because you know, he has a career. You know, you're trying to picture him in a way. Yeah, you're trying to picture him in a way like he's abusive and manipulative and he's affecting your mental health?

Are you kidding me? This text is affecting your mental health?

Omal I mean, how could you how can you take advantage?

And then the society is like okay with.

This, Yeah, so they take her side.

Yeah, because she's a woman, right, and oh my god, you should like that should be a flag.

That's such a red flag, like you need to run from a guy like this, Really you need to run.

No, my love, You're going to be many situations like this where you learn, you need to learn how to communicate and you know, and I think that he was the mature one telling her, listen, I'm not the guy for you. I support you in every way, but I'm just not don't want to be in a romantic relationship with somebody that.

Can make me happy because you know what, you know what happens, Peter Kenna.

Pili konga, because all these things are going to hurt and and you know, and disrespect the relationship. So he's being honest and he's like, listen, if you you know this is what I need, If you can give that for me, then good.

Luck with with your life. And that's it. We're good. You know.

I didn't see it in any negative way, but she decided to turn it into Oh, I needed to talk about this because it was affecting my mental health. All these terms that they're using today, there's real mental people with real mental health issues. I don't have mental health issues exactly. So everybody's different. But what I'm trying to say is that I think a lot of people are using you know, these terms you know about mental health, and mental health is a serious thing, and you're going to tell me what badass excuse, like, oh, I had to do it, I had to have to share with the entire world, you know the boundaries you told me because it was affecting my mental health in a negative way.

No, you're the negative one.

You're trying to make him look bad and look like a negative person when it's really you. So my question to you is like, how would you have responded or reacted if you had a partner that was making you do the same or similar demands as Jonah Hill. So like, let's say you're dating a girl and then she would tell you like, in order for you to have a romantic relationship with me, you can't.

Do a B and C and X Y Z Oh definitely since always.

You've had a lot of those women that I told you that.

Of course, Mama, Well, first you need to follow why do you only follow girls? Hey? Do you know this one? You know this? They go through every single thing.

Well, because it kind of says a lot about you.

I know, but like this is this is years of like Instagram and this, and I want something that's really serious then and like sense of like respect.

Well that's timing. That's a good point too, then, yes, and that's.

I think that Jonah and Sarah were only dating for a year, But I think that after a year, I think it's enough time, right where you can tell your partner, like, you know what.

I don't like that you post these pictures.

I don't like I think that's a fair amount of time because in the beginning you sound like a cycle.

Yeah, like you don't even.

Know the person you're right, But I think like after a year there should be like this mutual respect, right and communication where you can tell your part listen. You know, I know you do this, but like it bothers me a little bit. Now we're in a relationship, and you know, I feel kind of uncomfortable that you're doing this, and I know you're like, you know, going out with other guys, because I mean, when you're like happily in love with somebody, you don't have to be going out with other guys or doing other stuff. I think that there's like, you know, there should be mutual respect. Again, I'm like, what's good for the geese is good for the gander. I'm not saying the man could do it to the woman and

the woman. I think it's a fair thing. It doesn't matter what your sex is.

It is.

But what would you do?

You would break up with the girl too? No, you would say you were trying to talk to them. It depends on how much.

Yeah, we would talk to them, Like, you're right, I don't know any.

Of these girls. No, you don't know any of those.

They just happen to be there. I follow them, let me go through, you know, follow all of them.

You would make changes.

Yeah, it doesn't mean anything to me. Do I care who I follow? Do I know this? No? Follow and follow them, follow them all if I have to.

That's what makes you If you were like a model, and you would you know, post like pictures for models.

Different your career, your career. That's for example, Sidney Prauto, she's your girlfriend, what are you gonna tell her? Hey, I don't like those bikini pictures?

So would you go out with somebody like her? Like, that's the question.

I've had that conversation where you know, you date someone that's not used to this whole entertainment lifestyle social media, so they're just they see it as something bad there. They see it a completely different way than than we do. So, you know, let's say I we're to date a girl with two hundred thousand followers and she does Fashionova and Celsius and all these things. She makes her money, she has all her little platforms. I gonna hate on her for having all that in bikini, you know what, that's what she does. She's not doing it for She's not just doing it for that.

That's her job.

That's her job if she's an a.

But you would be okay with it.

I would be okay with it, and I will support it one hundred percent. But now if you're just you know, Jane from down the street and you want to post your ass to get forty seven likes, that's a whole different story and I'm not okay with that.

Again, well, I think that that's why it's very important for anybody that's entering a relationship.

And I didn't realize it when I was younger.

That was some other advice actually that my mom, you know, and dad would give me.

You know, when you're young and you're just dating.

Obviously at seventeen and eighteen, it's like usually the man you're going to marry or have a family with. But once you're like in a certain time in your life and that you know, a certain stage in your life, you should be dating the kind of person that's who you want to have a family and a life with.

So you're not going to be wasting your time with that. So if that's I mean, I'm not in Jonah's head or heart right now. So I don't know if he was looking for like a serious commitment, you know, to have a family and get married. But if he was, then you know he figured out it wasn't going to be her. But you shouldn't be looking for that.

It depends what you know, point you are in your life and whether you're trying to settle down, whether you just got to out of something seriously, you just want to enjoy it, so you know right now. For example, for me, whoever I end up dating, it's long term and I have to see them, and.

You're going to look at their Instagram and please share it with me so I can stop their Instagram obviously, because you know there's no time to waste.

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