REBROADCAST: Let a Win Be a Win in High Conflict

This is a rebroadcast. This episode originally aired May 11, 2023.
The definition of a “win” is different in high conflict situations as opposed to ordinary conflict. Not recognizing that a win looks quite different can inadvertently escalate conflict or take a few steps backwards.

In today’s episode, Megan and Bill talk about:
• defining what it means to “win” in high conflict
• do you need to reach an expected outcome to have success
• temptation to keep going when you should stop
• when do you know if you’ve won
• choosing your battles
• avoid opening up emotions
• focusing on keeping people focused on thinking and doing

Links & Other Notes
• BOOKS• 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (amazon.com/Types-People-Ruin-Your-Life/dp/0143…)
• Calming Upset People with EAR (amazon.com/Calming-Upset-People-Bill-Eddy/dp/1…)
• It’s All Your Fault! (amazon.com/Its-All-Your-Fault-Everything/dp/19…)

• ARTICLES• Tips On Offering Mediation To A High Conflict Employee (highconflictinstitute.com/hci-articles/tips-on…)

• Our website: highconflictinstitute.com
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan (highconflictinstitute.com/podcast)
• All of our books can be found in our online store (highconflictinstitute.com/store) or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site (highconflictinstitute.com/podcast) as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault

• (02:16) - How to Avoid Sabotaging a Successful Interaction

• (03:25) - Definition of a Win in High Conflict Situations

• (06:02) - Choosing Your Battles

• (07:57) - Praise vs. Opening Up Emotions

• (10:17) - Making Progress, Not Perfection

• (13:03) - Fuhgedaboudits

• (18:32) - Blame as Indicator

• (21:21) - Coming Next Week: Exposure and Humiliation as a High-Conflict Strategy