What It’s Like to Have a Parent with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

In this episode, I walk you through:
• What patterns are common in narcissistic vs. borderline personality disorder
• Why the diagnosis itself isn’t what matters most
• What it feels like to grow up as a child dealing with a parent with these dynamics
• The key differences in behavior, motivation, and emotional impact
• Why these relationships feel so confusing, intense, and destabilizing
We also talk about emotional volatility, lack of empathy, and why being emotionally vulnerable with these parents isn’t a good idea.
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