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You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
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Tenderoni Hotline #51: Did I Make It All Up or Am I Actually Hurt? | Paperback Book Series
Tenderoni Hotline #51: You can spot when someone's being lousy to other people from 3 miles away. You're like an emotional bloodhound who knows when your friend is lying, when your coworker is stressed, when your mom is about to lose it. Bu
Ep #402: Eldest Daughter Syndrome: You Were Never Supposed to Do It All
#402: Are you exhausted by how incompetent everyone around you seems, yet somehow still feel responsible for making sure everything gets done? What if your irritation isn't simply a personality flaw, but a response to everything you were ex
Tenderoni Hotline #50: You're Not Loving Them, You're Managing Them | Paperback Book Series
Tenderoni Hotline #50: Your value isn't in your productivity. That uncomfortable feeling when you stop moving, stop doing, stop managing everyone else's life? That's not laziness talking. It's the voice of a nervous system that learned earl
Ep #401: Take Me at My Word (Part 2): When Helping Becomes Pushing
#401: What happens when your good intentions leave someone you love feeling unheard? When you keep offering suggestions, asking if they're sure, or trying to convince them to change their mind, even after they've given you a clear answer? I
Tenderoni Hotline #49: How to Stop Shrinking Yourself for Others | Paperback Book Series
Tenderoni Hotline #49: This episode explores how childhood messages about being "too much" create lifelong patterns of self-shrinking that affect every area of your life. When you spend years making yourself smaller to fit other people's co
Ep #400: Take Me at My Word (Part 1): How to Stop Second-Guessing When Others Question You
#400: Have you ever clearly said what you want, only to have someone question it, suggest something else, or act like they know your preferences better than you do? This week, I explore what happens when we are not taken at our word, especi
Tenderoni Hotline #48: Are You Performing? | Paperback Book Series
Tenderoni Hotline #48: There's this bone-deep fatigue that seeps into you when you've been performing yourself for everyone else instead of living your life for you. It's different from being tired after a busy day. It's the exhaustion that
Ep #399: If He Wants To, He’d Google: Stop Doing His Emotional Work For Him
#399: What happens when loving someone turns into managing their growth, their choices, and their willingness to change? This week, I’m exploring the way we can end up taking responsibility for someone else’s development, emotional state, a
Tenderoni Hotline #47: Are You Living For Everyone Else? | Paperback Book Series
Tenderoni Hotline #47: Ever have that moment where you realize you've been living your entire life for everyone else? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. You’ve just been emotionally outsourcing. In this book series, I name the pattern
Ep #398: My Book Is Here in Paperback: Why I Wrote End Emotional Outsourcing
#398: What if the patterns you’ve been blaming yourself for were actually survival strategies you learned for a reason? This week, I’m celebrating the paperback release of my book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent
Tenderoni Hotline #46: Why Boundaries Feel So Hard + Why You Keep Procrastinating
Tenderoni Hotline #46: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system car
Ep #397: Catharsis Is Cute. Integration Changes Your Life.
#397: What happens after the breakthrough? After the ceremony, the therapy session, the retreat, or the moment where everything suddenly makes sense? Why do we sometimes return to the same patterns even after something profound has opened?
Tenderoni Hotline #45: Nervous System Regulation Tips + How to Stop Losing Yourself in Others’ Needs
Tenderoni Hotline #45: In this episode, we’re diving into how to stop emotional outsourcing, that habit of looking outside yourself for safety, belonging, and worth, and start reclaiming those from within. I’ll share how to recognize when y
Ep #396: How to Stop Running From Your Feelings
#396: What if your feelings aren’t something to control, fix, or get rid of, but something trying to guide you back to yourself? This week, I explore what it really means to stop running from your feelings and why so many of us have learned
Tenderoni Hotline #44: Why You Get Triggered When Someone Says “Calm Down” + Why Your Body Feels Sick Before a Call
Tenderoni Hotline #44: Hello, my love. If you’ve ever been told to “calm down” and felt your anger spike instead of settle, or found yourself feeling anxious, nauseous, or completely overwhelmed at the thought of making a simple phone call,
Ep #395: Suffering: The Second Arrow You Don’t Have to Shoot
#395: What if the pain you’re experiencing is real, but the suffering you’re carrying on top of it is something you can choose to put down? This week, I explore the Buddhist concept of the second arrow and how we often add to our own suffer
Tenderoni Hotline #43: Why People Get Defensive About Your Feelings + What Emotional Outsourcing Really Means
Tenderoni Hotline #43: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system car
Ep #394: Self-Compassion: How to Stop Beating Up Your Past Self
#394: What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t your past choices, but the way you continue to judge yourself for making them? This week, I explore why self-compassion is such a powerful part of real change and why beating yourself up for w
Tenderoni Hotline #42: What To Do If Someone Ignores Your Boundary + How To Get Out Of The Victim Mindset
Tenderoni Hotline #42: What happens when you finally set a boundary you've been terrified to say out loud, only to have someone ignore it completely? And how do you know when you're stuck in a victim mindset that's keeping you from creating
Ep #393: People Pleasing: What Keeping Others Happy Costs You
#393: People pleasing can look like compassion, generosity, and care, but what happens when it comes at the cost of your own needs? This week, I dive into why people pleasing happens, how it becomes a pattern that shapes our relationships a
Tenderoni Hotline #41: How to Stop People Pleasing Habits + Nervous System Healing for CPTSD
Tenderoni Hotline #41: If you know you’re a people pleaser but cannot seem to stop, this episode is for you. In this Tenderoni Hotline, I answer two listener questions that go straight to the heart of emotional outsourcing and nervous syste
Ep #392: Ritual vs. Routine: Why Meaning Matters More Than Productivity
#392: Have you ever wondered why routines feel impossible to maintain, even when you know they’re supposed to help you? What if the problem isn’t your discipline, motivation, or ability to be consistent, but the way you’ve been taught to st
Ep #391: How to Stop Self-Abandoning Without Becoming a Jerk
#391: This week, I explore the question so many of us struggle with: how do we stop overextending ourselves and self-abandoning… without losing the parts of ourselves that genuinely love supporting others? Tune in this week to learn how to
Tenderoni Hotline #40: Are You Ready for Real Love If You're Still Healing + Why focusing on yourself is not selfishness
Tenderoni Hotline #40: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tender Hotline, the soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most intimate and layered questions about healing, nervous system care, and re
Ep #390: When Helping Hurts: Codependent Habits in the Healing Professions
#390: Have you always been the person who knows how to help? The one who notices everyone else’s needs, steps in quickly, and feels responsible for making things better? In this episode, I explore why so many people in healing professions s
Ep #389: Failure Is Your Best Friend: How to Learn, Grow, and Keep Going
#389: Have you ever felt like failure defines you? Like missing a goal, making a mistake, or falling short is proof that you’re broken or incapable? In this episode, I explore what failure really is and how our interpretation of it shapes w
Tenderoni Hotline #39: Why You Feel Off After Talking to Your Mom + Why You Pull Your Hair Without Realizing + Why You Can’t Stay Present
Tenderoni Hotline #39: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning hom
Ep #388: A Guide to Healthier Self-Talk & the Power of Your Mind
#388: Do you ever notice how the way you talk to yourself shapes everything - your mood, your decisions, and how you show up in the world? Join me today to learn how to notice your habitual self-talk, pause to observe it, and begin shifting
Ep #387: Perfectionism: From A+ Pressure to B+ Energy
#387: Are you exhausted by the endless drive to be perfect? Do you find yourself constantly overthinking, overproducing, or feeling like nothing you do is ever enough? This week, I dive into the patterns behind perfectionism and why strivin
Tenderoni Hotline #38: The Hidden Link Between Chronic Pain, Trauma & People Pleasing with Nicole Sachs
Tenderoni Hotline #38: What if chronic pain, anxiety, burnout, and people pleasing all stem from the same underlying pattern? In this episode, I sit down with bestselling author, psychotherapist, and mind-body medicine expert Nicole Sachs t
