Self Mastery Starts With Honesty

0:00 So you talk about holistic success. So what does self mastery mean to you in a world full of noise and pressure? And how does somebody begin that journey to self? Mastery. Damn bro that's a great question. I think self mastery, there's, there's a lot of different elements to it. First it's it's a willingness to take a look at where you are currently and accept that.

0:27 Honest with honesty. I think my the biggest turning point in my own self mastery journey was when I decided to be 100% honest. Honesty will get you super far. It'll get you like 80% of the way there. And here's how it happened for me in the past, I had a really bad habit of telling little lies to people to get them to like me more. I don't know why, bro.

0:49 I'll just confess that it was something that I did and I went to UCLA and I joined a fraternity called Lambda Chi Alpha there. And it was like my rush, my rush term. And we were picking our Big Brothers inside the fraternity to be our mentors, right? And I put these five guys as 54321, but I told #1 and #2 that they were both my number one. I still know their names, bro Austin Kopp and Adam Hakim. Those are my two guys.

1:17 They are my top two guys. And bro, throughout the process of figuring out who is going to be my big bro, this lie came out and it was exposed in front of the whole fraternity dude. And I had to get bro. It was terrible. I felt so ashamed, I felt embarrassed. And it really, 'cause we do these, I did this instinctively, just try trying to survive. I think like everything that somebody does, it's a survival mechanism that we feel we have to do, but we don't have to do. But Long story short, man, I had to give an apology in front of the entire fraternity and I had to take a good look at myself, man.

1:58 And this is life gives us opportunities to take a good look at ourselves and change. And after that, I decided, man, I need to be 100% honest and not just to other people, but also with myself. Like, how am I feeling? What are my genuine thoughts right now? And then creating space for that. So I think honesty is an incredible first step in self development and self mastery. Honesty, honesty and the search for truth about ourselves, about the universe.

2:33 I think those are two very, very good things. Honesty is the first step. Truth is the. Direction, You know, in, in Nigeria we have we have a saying that's quite popular. They say honesty is the best policy. I agree with that. I agree with that bro, because telling lies is like weaving a spider web that you have to navigate yourself and it'll eventually catch me inside of it if I, if I tell it, you know, it's just it's not, it's not worth it, bro.

3:00 It's not worth it, bro. My my good friend Akon, he, he's from Ghana, he says anything that cost me my Peace of Mind is too expensive. Anything that's going to cost me my Peace of Mind is too expensive. And I agree 110% man. So those are my thoughts on that bro. It's interesting you're actually aligning with a proverb from from Nigeria.

3:23 So I'll say it in Yoruba and Abu translate it so they say see Yoruba lofo Guan Dungushi, Buria. Meaning if the lie is told and it exists for 1000 years, the truth will still eventually conquer it. I agree with that 110%. The truth will always come up bro. Because the experience of life is truth. We're experiencing truth everyday man. Like life itself is truth.

3:54 And if I have a misperception or a misconception about how life is, life experiences will show me that I am wrong. Like there's certain universal principles that are just so true that even if I believe they're not true, my life experiences will prove them true to me overtime, so I agree with that.