S9E18: Reasons why you have clutter. (p1)

Good morning beautiful survivors. This is Karina, the host and creator of this top 2 podcast. The show is all about moving forward past the events of the stroke. I want to show you that there's so much more life to live after stroke and your life is not over, it's actually just begun. I'm sharing all my tricks, hacks, how to's, how I got to survive this world.

As a stroke survivor 27 years ago I exactly survived a brain stem dissection that led me to coma in the Lockton Syndrome. Evidently I'm here with you. So grab a pen and paper and remember that the faintness of ink is better than the best memory. Come and join me here today as we are recording our show. Before I officially commence, I would like to clean house a little bit and remind you to like, follow and subscribe on all in every platform that you are listening to your show. I'm all over Spotify.

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There's a few things that you might want to write down. I know that when I listen to a podcast like such as this one, I like to take some notes because I have aha moments along the way. So I'll invite you to do the exact same thing. So that's done. Why do you think we get today's show on the roll?

I don't know if you guys can hear, but behind me I have deep house music. Usually I like to record with relaxing music behind me because it actually helps send to myself. But I'm putting a little bit of house music right now because I want to have a beat, because I love to have a good beat going on when I'm on the roll and I am cleaning. Decluttering.

There's a difference between cleaning and decluttering. Did you know that? Cleaning is making sure there's no dust, no residues, no fingerprints? But when you declutter, that means you remove stuff, stuff from around you that are taking space in your space and in your mind. Clutter is often a symptom of something else. Did you know that?

I just said that it's a symptom of something else. So I'm going to give you some example. Physical clutter example is unfinished DIY projects. I'm known to do that. I start something, I love to finish it if it's not too big, but as soon as it's too big, it goes back in the closet. Unfinished. Are you someone like that? That you maybe have too many tools in the garage? Too many hammers?

You have 11 hammers. Do you need 11 hammers? Maybe you have 7 wooden spoons in the kitchen. Do you need those 7 wooden spoons? Those are things that can be removed from the environment. Maybe you're someone that guilt purchases. It fills A void and you know when we go to the store and there's always all these little trinkets around the cache while you're either waiting in line or the girl's pita ning and you're looking around. Those are called impulse buys.

Those are for people that will buy just at the last minute. Or why not just add it to the carriage? Just add it to the carriage. Or people buy stuff, expensive stuff often, and then they feel guilty that they bought it. The operative word here is stuff. Stuff. I'm going to give you a concrete example. Think of a Turkey.

What do we do to a Turkey on Thanksgiving? We stuff it, right? We put as much things as we can. Cranberries, onions, celery, spices, apples, all kinds, right? We stuff the Turkey. Well, exactly. Stuff is adding to our environment very often to fill a void. Then there's sent, then there's sentimental overload.

I had a neighbor where I used to live. He had five. How do you call those tables in the middle of the living room? He had five of those tables. One belonged. The man was, I will say in his mid to late 70s. One of those 5 tables was his mom's. So that means that table was really antique. I'm sure it was gorgeous, but he had five, but he was holding on to it because it was mom's.

Maybe you have AT shirt you sleep in and that was your college T-shirt and you don't want to let go of that T-shirt because it's so comfy, right? The more you wear something, the more you wash it. The more you wash, the more comfy it is because of all that fleecy and that that's different soaps and that we use. So it's just perfect.

It's full of holes, but you don't care. It's your college T-shirt and you can't get rid of it. That could be a security issue. Think of a Kitty blanket. Think of our kids when they walk around, they have a a specific toy that they like. My daughter had this mini pillow that I got one of her kids to put in her crib and she would call it Bo. Everywhere she went, she had Bo.

She didn't have a blankie, she had Bo. But it made her feel safe. And what happens when our kids don't have their things? Bo, Bo, I want my, you know, they, they, they, they scream, they want their toy, they want their blankie. Those are security. But we are adults. Some of these security things that we hold on to don't need to be One last example of attachment. Hmm.

You know when, umm, there's parents and they give all their life to the kids. They are the kids are the life of the parents. They they do everything for the kids, but then the kid goes to college out of state and the parent is an empty nester, which sounds great, but they're having a hard time. They're struggling.

They wonder what's left in life. Who am I? Nobody needs me anymore. Who am I past parent? And then they're screwed because they have a very hard time sometimes accepting that life is as such. The beat behind me makes me want to move and groove. So if you're someone that's wondering, do I have clutter in my life? My home is exactly the way I want it with But do I have clutter?

I don't have clutter in my house. Ask yourself this question when when you look in your space, in the drawer, in the closet, in the pantry, in a pile of mail, in the garage, in the kids toy box. Ask yourself, how does all does looking at that make me feel? And it doesn't have to be terrible, but I'm sure you could let go of a couple of items. Sentimental, of course, I understand. But our sentiments are in our heart and in our memory in the events that happen.

They're not in a piece of furniture that we hold onto in the corner of our basement. Unfortunately, I I may sound cold, but that square footage in your basement could be used for something more practical for yourself. Maybe you always wanted a little craft corner. Maybe you wanted a paint corner with an easel and some paintbrushes and you have want to have a little setup.

Maybe you want to build a couple of walls around that corner because you want it to become a dark room for your photography pastime. Who knows, but you're holding on to the square footage of items right now. What I just did is I did the triple whammy, guys. I talked about the mental, the emotional, and the spatial causes of physical and emotional clutter.

Now I just want to quickly talk about mental clutter. Hmm, what is that? Well, basically mental clutter are things that you talk to yourself, you stay to yourself, or you want to say to others but you don't. That becomes clutter, yes, and you don't need that shit in your head. One way to get rid of that is to write it down. All you have to do is write down one word that comes to mind. Once you have released what's in your mind, how are you going to feel?

One word of how you're going to feel how? How liberating is it? I know I feel great when I clean. When I rather I declutter and I tidy up, I feel light. When I'm in a blah mood, I often go around the house and even if it's only a drawer in my kitchen or a drawer in my desk or my my sock drawer, even just going through it is liberating and I feel lighter and I can't wait to get rid of it and get it out of my house.

Well, mental clutter is the same thing. Your house is your body is your mind is your head. If you have all that mental clutter, it's taking a lot of space, a lot of space between all the hats you have to wear. Remember that. So it's to your advantage to really scoop it up. I look at a lot of videos on TikTok. I love watching cleaning and decluttering planting videos and there's something common in all these different things. They are tidy, they're not clean and they say it. My house is not clean.

But when you look at it, but the baseboards aren't done, the windows aren't done, but my house looks put together. Or my garden, not my garden, but my, my. What's the name of that place where we keep flowers and plants? Not a sun room, but you know what I'm talking about. A lot of people that are doing a lot of planting and propagating. There's soil.

They pick up the soil, they pick themselves up. They don't leave any trash lying around of all that garden stuff. But they have what they love around them. And that's what I wish for each and everyone of you, to have what you love around you. And maybe the episode today is going to give you the will to just do 1 little thing you're going to tell me. But Karina, I'm a stroke survivor and I only have one hand and I'm in a wheelchair.

Fantastic. Can you will yourself to your dresser? Can you maybe sit if you only have one hand, get someone to put a chair or to put all the junk from that drawer onto the bed and you sit on the bed and you go through it. I promise you are going to feel so good. Being a stroke survivor is not a reason, is not a reason, guys to not go ahead and live and go ahead and and do things like everybody else.

All we do as stroke survivors is do it differently. We adapt. We are chameleons, but so many people don't adapt because they don't want to. That's when I say what you resist, persist. Say it with me, baby. What you resist, persist. So it's to your big advantage to really, really get someone to help you. They don't need to do it for you. You take care of your own stuff.

The worst thing you can do as a stroke survivor is have someone do it for you unless it's extremely necessary. There's a lot more, a lot more to say, and I don't want to talk about it too much. Today I'll tell you what, I'll make a Part 2 because I love this topic. And tomorrow I'm going to give you some of the solutions of how to deal with all this. But for the time being, I'd like you to answer those two questions.

One is to write down how one word, how great it's going to feel when you don't have clutter. And I would like for you to write mind clutter, spatial clutter, emotional clutter. I want you to write that down because I want you to be read yourself when you're down. I want you to see that you're doing the work.

You're not just sitting on your ass or sitting on your couch eating BOM bombs all day. You are working your butt off. And the second question I want you to break down is when you look at your space, your drawer, your closet, your garage, your pantry, anywhere you have, how does it make me feel? Maybe you were bedridden and your bed is in a room.

It's the room is tough to capacity and the bed is there. And I know that hospital beds take a lot of room when you see lights. I know that. So if you're someone that has a hospital bed, you need to have a clear path around it. So how does it make you feel around you? If you are bedridden, then maybe you're going to have to ask someone to give you a hand.

But they can. You can schedule a time, schedule a day and you're in bed, but you can point or you can write or you can tell them what to do with the item. I always say teamwork makes the dream work. Well then, if you're a stroke survivor, chances are you're part of a team. Yep, you and your caregiver are a team. All right, tomorrow's another day. Tomorrow's another part of today's podcast. I hope you enjoyed.

I hope I gave you a little bit of clarity on the reasons why you have been the way you have been with some of the clutter around you. And I gave you a little bit of motivation to just see what's going on. This is today's show. I will see you tomorrow. I love you immensely. I have to go.

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