S9e24: 6 reasons why you're not achieving your goals post-stroke.

The year is coming to an end and you might feel discouraged because you didn't accomplish all the goals you had set out for yourself over the year. Well, don't fuss over it. Next year, 2025, is going to be different. Do you know why? Because now you're much more aware of what you want and what you don't want.

You gathered all the information, all the Intel over the last year. You seem to have procrastinated and you get down on yourself. But I want you to realize that you just want the best result. So you're not procrastinating. But now you got it. You're not getting discouraged because the upcoming year is sure to fire up those goals and get you ready for them. Join me today as we are going to record the episode on how to understand your goal setting after stroke and not get discouraged.

Welcome to Stroke Surviving the Odds of the podcast, a show that's all about inner growth after stroke. It's filled with tricks and hacks. How I got to survive this world as a stroke survivor myself. I suggest that when you're listening to my show, you flip the story into your own individual one. 26 years of different treatments and therapies led me to where I am right now, and it's actually not a bad place.

So if you like psychology, a little bit of conducive behavioral therapy, a sprinkle of radical acceptance and mindfulness, plus some NLP, you're at the right place and you're going to like the show. Hi guys, I'm Karina and I survived a brainstone section in 1999. I was 25 at the time. It led me to comma in a locked in syndrome. Back then there was no concept of social media and podcasting. There was nobody like myself to help maneuver this new reality post stroke and I swore that when I was going to be ready, I was going to help just one person around the world feel better about their situation.

This show is now in the top 2 for stroke survivors. Guys, please let me be your guide because there is definitely so much life to live after stroke. Before we start, I'd like to suggest you grab a pen and paper because the faint is of ink is better than the best memory. Let's start today's episode on go understanding your goals after stroke and not get discouraged.

I'll see you in a bit. Do you agree with me that before knowing what you want, sometimes you got to figure out what you don't want and what you should or should not be doing? So I'm going to make this very easy for you guys and for myself. I'm going to be going a little bit backwards so you guys can better comprehend what I mean.

I'm going to give you a funny fact. After our stroke, the capability of understanding is a little bit delayed. Yes. For myself also, it has been like that. I simply got accustomed to it because I've been in the game a little bit longer than you, but it still happens quite often. So I'm going to go last first if that might help.

Are you getting what I'm saying? I hope that I'm not being obnoxious when I'm laughing because it's not cracking me up funny. But we have to take it with a little bit of grain of salt and, and, and maybe a little bit of sugar and not see it for as terrible as an event as it is or as it was. Because now you are a survivor, you are a fighter, you are moving on.

You're not in that victim mode anymore. You're in what's next. This show is all about what's next. I'm going to give you 6 reasons why you're not achieving your goals the way you want to, and I'm going to give you the problem as well as the solution. But before I start, I would like to say that it's impossible, guys, impossible for us to succeed at something that we fear because usually we don't do what we're afraid of.

I'll give you an example. I'm afraid of diving. I'm afraid of submerging my head in water. Therefore I never dove in the pool or whatever. And the fact is that I probably never will. That mentality of mine is not exactly good, but at the same times I'm picking my battles, I would rather fear something else. If it's fear of public speaking, you have and learn how to public speak.

That's much more important than diving in a pool. You know what I mean? So you pick and choose what you want to be afraid of. But sometimes you got to realize that fear is not real fear. If you do, the acronym is yes, the acronym of Fear is False evidence appearing real. It's not just an acronym, it's absolutely true.

So we're going to do our six reasons why we might not be achieving our goals, understanding them, and maybe next year kick ass and get them done. Grab your pen and paper. This is when you're going to start writing. The first one I found is lack of motivation. Consistency is key to achieving motivation. The more you do it, the more you want to do it, the more you find ways that you can do it.

Because God knows as stroke survivors, we adapt and we make things happen the way we can do it, not the way it has to be done. Because there's no such thing. It has to be done the way you want it to be done. So in order to have a strong start and not lose momentum, it's really, really important to be consistent.

And when you have consistency and you have repetition, that means you're doing it over and over and you keep practicing and you don't stop, Guess what? The motivation is going to be staying there. I give the example, you're at the gym, you know that you're at the gym. Are you going to be lifting 100 lbs right away?

No, you're going to start with A10 pounder. That's the exact same thing. But the solution to remedy the lack of motivation is really to cultivate self-discipline. Self-discipline is consistency. And how do you do that? Through daily incorporations. Yeah. Incorporate these little habits of yours that you want to develop. Is it holding a pen?

Is it tying your shoes? Is it holding a cup? The more you do it, the better you're going to get. So you start small, gradually increase. And how you can do that time blocking. No, no, no notification. Guys. If you're concentrating on something, concentrate. If you're going to your family for a dinner, then don't concentrate and enjoy the present moment.

Be present, be in the now and hold yourself accountable. You know, I'm big on accountability, so if you lose motivation and you have not been consistent this year, next year's going to be different because you've learned your lesson and you're saying no, this is me. If it goes well, it's on me. If it goes bad, it's also on me.

That is accountability. What do you think about that? I know you can't talk to me right here, but you can reach me on any of my social media platforms. I am going to be putting my link tree in the description. And Spotify has this amazing new thing right now where you can leave comments and I get a notification.

So you can leave me a comment on today's episode on what you would like to have as a goal next year and prepare yourself. Don't wait for January 1st, prepare yourself right now and start small right now. So when January comes around, you're actually going at it a little bit bigger. Our number two reason I mentioned it before, it's fear of failure. Now embracing a growth mindset in in embracing the possibility that you could do it.

How what did I just say? Being consistent, right, and incorporating these little things every day. Failure is a learning opportunity, guys. It really is. That's when we learn not to do it again or to do it again actually. And in order to fix that, well, you know what, you need to seek support if you're afraid of failure.

Maybe you've been like that your whole life. Maybe you were like that when a child because you were trying stuff and it was never good enough for your parents. Seeking support. You know what? I have had a social worker for 20 years. Seek a mentor. I am a mentor for you. There's plenty of other mentors. If you have a trusted friend you want to talk to, your best friend that you've known you forever and ever and you know that they're going to hold you accountable, that's another thing you could be doing.

Are you guys writing these things down? Good job, good job. Don't stop. Reason #3 is going to be that you're too vague, you're not clear enough. Example, if someone wants to lose weight, that's not clear, I want to lose weight. My question to you, in order to be clear, in order to lose that weight, in order to break down everything, well, how much weight do you want to lose? How do you want to lose it in how many weeks? And take the amount of pounds, 10 lbs / 1 LB a week. That's 10 weeks.

You know what I mean? Have a plan. Basically this means having a plan. Have a plan that you can stick to, that can guide you and keep you on track, that you can constantly revise, maybe monthly. OK, how am I doing right now? I'll give you a concrete example. We now have GPS in our cars, all of us.

We have Agps. Well, how many times do we hear rerouting, rerouting, rerouting? So it's the same thing for you. Your GPS is that you want to lose your 10 lbs, but maybe something happened along the way that you're simply having a detour. You're rerouting. You're not stopping to go to where you want to go, you're just taking a different Rd. that you wanted to in the 1st place.

Does that make sure? Does that make sense guys? You remember before when I said I pick my battles and I choose what I fear and the fear of diving is not as important as a fear of public speaking for example. I pick and choose what's important to me personally. Now, another reason why. So this would be reason #4 another reason why you might not be achieving the goal you want.

Maybe the goal is not big enough. Not big as in humongous as in you want to run a marathon next year. But maybe the goal is not important enough for you. Is the goal important enough for you to stay motivated, hold yourself accountable? Do these things in your daily life, Talk to somebody that can support you and make sure. Do you have a plan?

Do you have a route you would like to take? And you have to know that around, excuse me, along that route, shit's going to happen. Stuff is going to happen, guys. You might have to take a different Rd. a different way to do things. So really, the lack of commitment, the loss of commitment, maybe that goal is just not important enough to you and it's OK.

It's like my goal of diving is not that important to me, so I'm not committed to it. Does that make sense #5 Oh my gosh #5 is an unrealistic goal? Now, if I'm thinking of what's important to me, what's important to me is walk. UN for me with unsupported, no cane is walking, taking public transportation, working in sales, walking all around the department. I don't mind limping.

If I was to be unrealistic, I would say I want to run a marathon. The reality is I'm not just limping. I'm having pain. I'm having this, I'm having that. So the goal of me running a marathon is, again, not important to me, but it's something that I would like to do. So I'm going to put it on the list. If it's on the list and it's unrealistic, then why is it on the list?

And it's going to discourage me because I didn't do it. Basically, if you don't put it on the list because you know it's unrealistic, it's not important to you. You see, before putting a goal on a piece of paper, you know, I love a good list. You know, I love A to do list. I have a gold list. I have a bucket list.

I have many different lists. I like. I like it all right. Before I put it on the list, I have to ask myself, is it something that is really important to me? Is it something I can be committed to? Is it something that is going to, I'm going to keep motivation because I want that goal. If the answer is yes, keep going man, keep going.

It might take you a year, 2 years, five years. It doesn't make a difference. Guys, what's good for you, You know, you're your best advocate. You are the best advocate. Nobody can tell you what to do or how to do it or when to do it. Only yourself. Last but not least, a lot of us suffer from that.

I'm guilty too, for my stuff. Analysis. No. How do we? How do we say it? Paralysis by analysis. Yes, Sir. Re Bob. Paralysis by analysis. That means you think about it too much. You think about it so much that you're not doing nothing because you're just thinking about it, and thinking about it makes you so scared, and you're so afraid of failure that you're just not doing it.

You're so afraid of failure, and no matter how big the goal is important to you, you're just thinking about it. What are my 3A's, guys? What are the 3A's we learned in Season 2? Acknowledge. Make sure that you know the stroke happened, you believe it happened, your life has changed, your money's changed, your family's changed, your relationship changed, but you're alive and you're happy to be here.

You acknowledge. You don't deny. You accept, accept. You don't need to like to accept and #3 is action analysis by paralysis. Basically. You're not doing any action. Stop that shit. Stop it. Literally stop it and you'll be much better with that. Guys, this is what I have for you today. I hope that I made sense. I think I did and this was actually a good episode for me. Also, I told you I get just as much of my episode that you guys do so I really really really love and I need to do this like following subscribe yes, you can subscribe now to the very best episode of all my my seven seasons. You will be having my description. My link tree in the descriptions. Donations are at KL Survivor 101

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