S10E13: The ART of RECEIVING.

0:00 My beautiful stroke survivor welcome. I'm Kirby Knight, the host and creator behind Stroke Surviving the Odds of the podcast. The mission of the show is to help you move forward past the events of the stroke. It's here to help you reclaim your life, reclaim your identity, perhaps things you have lost either emotionally or cognitively, physically or financially.

0:30 You're going to be getting it back. I suggest you grab a pen and paper because the faintest of ink is better than the best memory. I have a couple of things to tell you guys. We have the audio podcast, Spotify, iTunes, Apple and Google podcast. Make sure you download so you can listen to it while you are recuperating.

0:55 But I also have video podcasts where once a week I have interviews with guests. So it's on YouTube. I'm going to leave you the link. Make sure you subscribe. That way you're not going to miss any content I could be leaving on YouTube. Guys, last thing, share with Sugar Bear. The more you share, the more the algorithm pushes the show to the forefront and the more people around the world we get to help. What do you say we get today's show on the road? Do you remember A couple of episodes behind, I talked about how you can manifest your rehabilitation and your recovery.

1:39 Do you remember that? And there was three things that needed to be done in order to do that. Do you remember that? Well, the answer is easy. Ask and you shall receive. Know in your heart that things are going to happen your way, but also receive. So today's episode adds a couple of layers into it because I'm going to be going in depth on receiving.

2:08 Yep. When we're young, we're taught to give, give the ball, give your toys to your brother or sister or friends. Share. We are taught to give, give, give, but we're not really shown how to receive. So today I really want to bring that to the forefront. You see, manifesting is the art of bringing about. It's all about action.

2:40 When you manifest, you got to take the appropriate action to bring about. It's not about going abracadabra meaning what you see. What I see I create, but rather it's to work towards something and then create it. Whether it is healing, rehabilitation, recovery, anything under the moon, manifesting and receiving go together. Many can ask.

3:13 Many people are pros at asking. Many know with all their might, all their hearts, that they're due to become something else. They're due to overcome something, AKA the stroke. But very few are capable of receiving, receiving guilt free, open hearted. And this is what I really, really want to talk about. I found that over the years with my own work, my own recovery, with the work of my clients, how I've seen them progress, Even people that are not stroke survivors, that are my colleagues or my close friends, people are having a hard time receiving.

4:09 And that's an art to me. Receiving is having is, excuse me, how can I say it's allowing yourself to meet life halfway. Does that make sense? It's being able to receive again willingly, guilt free without having to explain yourself. And as stroke survivors, I don't know about you, but I find that even 27 years down the road for me, I've had some people point out and I've pointed it out to myself that I sometimes over explain over I'm I'm going to do what I want.

5:02 I'm going to March up the beat of my own drum, but I'm always going to have that doubt that seeks someone else's opinion. Do you feel like that? Because if you do, well, hell, you're not alone. I'm here with you. Like I said before, most of us, most of us are taught, are taught to give and to never mind sharing, but give, you know, and as stroke survivors, I'm not just talking about giving things, you know, as stroke survivors.

5:46 I was thinking about that before and that kind of made me decide to do this episode. We don't have a lot of energy. We don't have a lot of, we have a biological clock as stroke survivors and that clock is completely different. So our energy level has to do with the time. Like example, my capable time during the days between 6:00 AM and 4:00 PM, that's my opening hours.

6:24 Anything after that, I'm going to start doubting more and more. So time is very important for stroke survivors. We don't have a lot of energy to waste, so we want to give it towards the people that bring something to the table, bring something to my table. But at the same time, as time goes by during the day, we are affected punitively.

6:58 And don't get me started about stroke brain and how the body gets tired as hours go by and during the day. But it doesn't matter because you're probably wondering, Karina, what are you talking about? What does that have to do with receiving? Aha, I'm going to be talking about that. You'll see. It's all going to come together.

7:26 Give me a break and give me a minute. Do you agree, guys? Now I'm going to talk very seriously here. Do you agree that when we talk receiving, receiving is the exact reason why we ask the universe, and it's exactly why we work so damn hard when we talk about receiving? You might be thinking I'm in a wheelchair right now or I'm walking with a walkthrough, but my kid is getting married this summer and I want to be able to walk my child on the aisle without being in this situation and I want to be able to walk normally.

8:12 So you work your ass off in therapy to get that, and you send out to the universe that that you want. Yeah, I need. I want to be walking down the aisle as independently as possible. It's important to know that the universe doesn't always give us what we want, but what we need. I want $1,000,000.

8:50 I still didn't get it, but I have every single thing around me that I need. My fridge is full, I have friends, family, I have a pet, I work, I have a good roof over my head. I have you guys, that's what I need. So I want to ask you, are you guys open to receiving? This is a rhetorical question. That's why I want you to have a pen and paper because I want you to answer the questions to yourself.

9:33 And I find that after stroke we become more visual. We need to see. So answer yourself. Are you willing to receive? Are you open or are you someone that's like, Oh no, no, no, no, it's coming my way. I see it, it's right here, but I don't deserve it. I'm not worthy of it. Or maybe you're someone that says, but it's not what I wanted.

10:10 Like a little spoiled brat. Can you recognize when what you've been working so hard, whatever it is in life, stroke or no stroke, are you able to recognize it? You know that self worth and self design, self worth and self deserving, they have to be aligned, guys. They have to be aligned. So a lot of these negative feelings you might be feeling about yourself, it's all about ah, not about mindset. That's not what I was going to say, guys, but it's about the way you speak because the words you speak become your actions, and that's exactly what I'm going to be talking in the next segment.

11:23 When a person is confident, how do they stand? They stand straight, right? They're not slouched. They're straight. When you are in the power of receiving, it's a posture that's inside of you that resonates and exudes confidence. I can accept I am worthy of having things or compliments or thoughts without having to explain myself or prove myself to anybody.

12:07 Another mantra you could say I don't have to struggle to receive. Some people think they have to work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work and everything has to be a struggle. It is not like that. The universe is not like that and you don't have to be like that. Now, when an artist, think of it, an artist, they're not born artists.

12:38 They're born with talent, not as an artist, right? But the more they practice their art, the better they get, yes. So you can practice the art of receiving. Stroke survivors are extremely resilient people, but I have found that a big chunk of stroke survivors like us have a Superman complex. Yep, we want to save the world.

13:19 Never mind saving yourselves. We want to save the world from feeling bad, from thinking bad, having bad things happen. We want to save everybody at the detriment of us. That's just what I found, guys. It's my opinion, my podcast, my opinion, but I definitely want to know what you think. So leave me a comment, but I have a very important question to ask. And that's when you're going to take your pen and paper out again, if you would not deflect a compliment. Somebody says, I love your haircut. Oh, your first response is, oh, I gotta get a cut. I need I need to do my color.

14:15 Or do you just say thank you? Being capable of accepting a compliment is just saying thank you. I just broke your head for 10 minutes telling you that you don't need to prove yourself to anybody. So when people tell you, oh, you've been walking a lot straighter, can you just say thank you? Or do you feel like you have to say I'll be walking better when I don't have my cane or when you minimize your knees?

14:56 When you minimize that you might want or you rather might need help. I can do it myself. Except the help guys. Except the help. Be humble because we attract bees with honey, not with vinegar. If you're open to receiving help, you help. You can't complain that nobody wants to help you, right? We all know people that are like that and as stroke survivors, many want to crawl back under the rock they just came from. They don't want to be visible.

15:48 You don't love yourself, you don't find yourself attractive anymore, never mind deserving. But can you really complain that people around you treat you as invisible when that's how you treat yourself? So how about you're not like that anymore? And how about you accept attention? You say I am here and kindness.

16:30 Kindness comes from the heart. Are you always the one that's doing things for others because you want to stay in control? Then you can't complain that nobody gives you kindness or gives you time or gives you anything for that matter, because you're always the one who's doing it. So by saying the mantra I am worthy, I deserve encouragement and love and help and kindness and I am open to receiving it, I am worthy and I deserve and I accept to be loved as I am.

17:29 I am worthy and I deserve others encouragement. They're not criticizing. Why should I be criticizing? I willingly accept encouragement. These, you see, these are things that if you add that to your vocabulary, you are going to be attracting and noticing much more good in your life and you will no longer be transparent as maybe you feel, because you are so much more than just a person, a human, a thing that exists. You are alive, you are full of life. You are dimming your own light.

18:28 No more. From now on, you're going to be shining. You are the shining star and you accept compliments, encouragement, love. Maybe not the way you want to be loved, but it's love and I know that you get a lot of it. Just take notice and write it down. It's going to help you take notice. Guys, this is what I have for you. I hope you enjoyed and you took a little bit of information today and a little bit of information leads you to big transformation.

19:21 Remember to like, follow and subscribe or download share. These are things you can do that are free. That is being kind. And when you are kind, others are going to be kind to you. Remember that. OK, I love you immensely and I'll be talking to you soon. Bye, guys.