Gaslighting and Self-Doubt: Why You Can't Trust Yourself When You Were Raised by a Parent with Narcissistic or Borderline Personality Disorder

That moment where your brain short circuits because your parent just looked you dead in the eye and insisted the situation you’re describing never happened at all.
When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, gaslighting isn't just a buzzword you read about on Reddit. It's the ever present way your parent avoids taking responsibility for their actions.
And it's why, as an adult, you can sit across from someone you love, know exactly what they did, and still walk away wondering if you're the one who got it wrong.
In this episode you'll learn:
• What gaslighting actually is
• The difference between an emotionally immature parent, a narcissistic parent, and a parent with BPD when it comes to gaslighting
• Why your brain literally cannot make sense of someone calmly insisting a shared event didn't happen, and what it does to cope
• How chronic gaslighting turns into long-term self-doubt that gets in your way of breaking the cycle
If you've spent your whole life worried you might be the dramatic one, the sensitive one, the one who remembers things wrong, this episode is for you.
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