Single and Home This Weekend? You’ll Wanna Watch These!

Hey, everybody.

It's I Do Part Two. I am your celebrity mentor, Bob Guinea, joined by two great fellow Bachelor of the Nation alums, Deanna Pappas, who I always say her name correctly, and, of course, Joan Vasos. So, ladies, I Do Part Two. We all have been through our own schtick and our own stuff. But it's the weekend. It's the freaking weekend.

And I know one of the best things to do on the weekend for some of us would be to Netflix and chill, which we know what that means. And for the others would be to curl up on the couch, pop some corn, watch a good movie or a good TV show, which we are going to talk about today. So if you're in Chapter 2, we wanted to take this time to recommend some things that we think you should be watching this weekend. And, you know, we've had an opportunity to kind of talk through some things. But before we get into our recommendations– We have all, we are all divorcees, right? We've all been through it. We've all had either divorce or loss. Um, and, and we've become single at different stages in our lives than maybe

the folks who get married right out of high school and stay together for 60 years.

Right.

So when you were going through your time of loss for, for, for Joan and divorce for Deanna and myself, were there TV shows and movies that you were drawn to? If so, was it a specific genre? And then were there some things you were avoiding at the same time? And ladies, take it away.

I think you and I, in some of our little chats, kind of feel the same way that I think I was avoiding feelings. So I was trying to watch a really mindless TV. I was so worried. I had all these things going, playing through my head. My kids had just lost their father. They were grown, but still, it was a huge loss. It was a time in their lives where they still needed their father so much. I had boys that needed mentoring. I had girls that need their daddy. You know, I had a brand new grandchild.

And so I felt all this guilt and I felt all these feelings. And so I was avoiding them as much as I could because they were in my head all the time. So kind of my time to watch TV is in the evenings when I kind of like retreat to my bedroom and just try to decompress. And the last thing I wanted was anything that was going to remind me of this stuff. So I did stupid things like HGTV and like any like, you know, old sitcoms and like Big Bang Theory. I think I've watched every episode of that like a thousand times just because I needed things that didn't remind me of like what I'd been doing all day.

Yeah, I think that grief and, you know, we have all had this conversation. Bob, you and I had this conversation most recently. Grief comes in many different forms and different waves. And while I was not trying to avoid the feelings, I think I did an exceptional job of feeling every last wave of grief, good and bad and sad and angry and all of the things. There were times where I just needed to just check out. And I love a good binge session because I'm actually kid-free this weekend. So I'm so stoked that we're doing this because I am still finding my footing as a single mom.

You know what I mean?

And I use the word single very clearly. I am a single woman. I am a single mom. And so when the kids leave, I'm still finding my footing in a sense of like, I'm not dating anyone. So it's not like I have someone to spend quality time with on the weekends.

So when the kids leave, I am still.

you know, wrestling with those feelings of like, okay, they're here for a week.

By the time they leave, I am exhausted. I have cooked, I've cleaned, I've wiped butts. I've done all of the things for a week. And then it is that like inner torture, you guys, like the second they leave, I'm like, oh, oh.

I miss the kids. Where are they?

You know what I mean?

So I am still trying to figure it out and kind of gauge filling myself up when the kids are gone.

And for me, that does look.

Like the first day that they leave, I usually just isolate and lock myself in the house. And I find something really good to binge.

Because I just need to check out. I just need to mentally check out. Yeah.

And I understand that. I mean, I think it's interesting though. Mom's Moms and dads are wired a little bit differently. You know, like, you know, they always talk about mom guilt.

Right.

And there's that thing where, you know, like you just said it, Deanna, like the whole week you're doing, you're probably amped it up even more than when you when you had a partner to parent with.

Right.

Like you've probably taken it to the next level knowing you. Where it's like, you know, where before you would just, you know, throw it, you know, I was watching your post the other day about your ramen noodles.

They're so good, Bob.

I was thinking about you, though, because you're so sweet. And it's like, you know, I bet, you know, it's become a thing now where you're probably putting together gourmet meals for the kids, whereas before it wouldn't have been that way, right? Or it would have been, okay, chicken nuggets every night or something. But it's like, you know, now that you only have them like for that week, you probably are putting on the, you know, it's putting on the Ritz type of thing.

It's balls to the walls for seven days straight. And then the kids leave.

And the other thing that I underestimated is, like, I can describe many things about my marriage that I could take it or leave it, but there at least was a second set of hands.

By the end of the day, you know, you're just tapped, right?

We have these tiny humans that we're trying to raise and just make them good people. That's what I want, good, kind people.

And I do.

I put every ounce of me into that. So I underestimated when I got divorced and became a single mom how overstimulated I would be by the end of the day. And now my kids are a little bit older now, so they're a little bit more self-sufficient. But I just find that when they leave, I don't want to cook.

I don't want to clean. I don't want to take care of anyone else. or anyone else's big feelings, I need to fill me up in that period of time so that when they do return in a week, I can go back to being a really exceptional mother.

Which I am.

Yeah. No, I get that. I do. I mean, I didn't have kids when I got divorced. So it was, you know, having children now, later in life and post-divorce, is a totally different experience for me.

Right.

But, but I do know, like I go, I go host things on the weekends and stuff like that. And I don't, other than me missing them, I don't feel the mom guilt. Right. So like I go and I'm like, Oh, I'm going to go have this really fun. You know? And then when I come back, I'll be even a more energized and excited dad or something. But I know my wife, I know Canyon would probably be feeling so much guilt, you know, going away and just doing the dumb stuff that I do. But you know, when you said that Joan about what you were watching, I will tell you, I watched friends reruns all the way through.

And it was because for me, it was funny. It was, um, I didn't have to think too much. It was very high level.

Right.

So it wasn't like I was having to, you know, see something that's going to make me cry. You know, it was like, I'm going to stay happy. I'm going to stay light. Um, and I found myself drawn to that. I did, however, find myself musically going down weird rabbit holes. Like that was when, um, Oh my gosh. Uh, the band, the script had just come out, you know, and it's like, uh, you know, that song, when your heart breaks, don't break even.

I'm like, I know, right?

You just never know which personality you're going to get fresh out of grief and divorce. Like, am I going to be a crazy person or am I going to be a sad person? Am I going to be a kind person? Will I be joyful, happy, and free that day?

I don't know.

I really avoided like love stories. And one of my top 10 favorite movies is The Notebook. It's that like, It's that one for me that every time it comes on TV, I will always watch it. It doesn't matter how many times I've seen it. I will always watch it.

But I could not.

And really, y'all, I'm almost four or five years post-separation.

Divorce was final three years ago.

I'm just now to where I can read a love story or sit and tolerate a love movie because I'm so... I don't know, maybe I'm cynical and I'm jaded now.

I'm like, oh, it's bullshit.

That's not real. There's no way they like each other that much. There's no way they can stand it. There's, you know, like I, I'm jaded.

So like, I have to like, I went through my crime, crime docu-series time where like everybody was getting murdered.

Oh, there you go. That's, See, I always worry, like I tell a lot of my buddies, I'm like, you know, you know, you're in trouble when you come home and your wife's watching, you know, murder. This is what happens when, you know, your wives who kill their husbands type shows.

Yeah, with antifreeze in their coffee.

Yeah, a true psychotic would watch it right before bed.

So I was kind of the opposite of you, Deanna.

I don't have a problem watching love stories because like I still have my love story.

Like he was my person. I lost him because he passed away.

So I still love a love story, but I look at it through a different lens now.

Like I think, will this ever happen to me again? Not like I'm jaded. I know it can happen.

Now I look at it and I go like, did I have my one and only, you know, or, you know, am I, am I with the right person now? Like I, you know, I it's hard to have had the one and then try to find somebody else.

Like it's hard to, Like, get those feelings back.

It's impossible not to compare, isn't it? Yeah. Yeah, it is.

And I really try not to because it's not fair and you can't ever live. And you know what the other thing about when you lose somebody, you forget the bad parts.

Yeah.

So it's been five years for me and I only remember the great things about John, which is crazy because our– our marriage wasn't perfect by any means. I mean, you know, we had lots of, lots of stuff that we went through. I mean, you know, we were always in love, but we went through some shit and everybody does. And I only remember the good stuff. Like I remember him like in, like it's at such a level now that it's really unrealistic the way I remember him.

So it's so not fair to compare.

Man.

I wish that was the case. I only remember the bad stuff, Bob. I only remember. I'm like, sorry, I have to rack my brain to be like, how did I end up with that person?

Yeah. Well, I mean, that was, and that's the difference, right? I mean, like, you know, in my divorce too, what was interesting was we, we just grew apart, right? We were living on opposite coast. We never had like that, you know, that catastrophic moment or anything like that was more like a, wow, what a bummer when I were here, you know? And so it was never like, I still speak fondly of her and I know she does of me.

And so it's like, you know, that kind of situation is a little different than what you went through too, Deanna, obviously. But I was going to say, Joan, not to be flippant about what you were saying, but I remember saying to someone, they were dating someone who had lost their spouse, like they had passed away. And I remember saying this, we were talking one night and I said, man, it's really difficult to And again, I don't mean this. I hope this doesn't.

You won't offend me.

I was like, it's really difficult to compete with a ghost, right? Yeah, people say that. And I was like, you know, because when people pass away and that's, I think, the biggest difference between loss and divorce. There is that dividing line where, you know, when someone dies, it's like there's so all these things we didn't get to do yet, right? Whereas when you get divorced is all these things that I wish we hadn't done. or whatever, you know, it's like just differing angles of those feelings.

Or like death, you don't choose that. You don't choose like that kind of loss.

And the thing is, when somebody passes away, when somebody dies, your future kind of goes with them.

So, like, I remember, like.

All my future revolved around John and I being together and the things that we were going to do together. And our kids were growing up. And our last child was in college when he passed away. You know, he graduated right as John passed away. And so, like, all of the future kind of disappeared.

So, it left.

And, like, with him, like, my future looked like a black hole. I just had no concept of it. When you get divorced, I imagine, and I could be wrong, you guys can tell me, that you see a future that's happier. You're like, okay, I have to be away.

From this thing that's been making me unhappy.

Eventually, yeah.

I just have to get to the next side and find that happiness. I still have a hard time seeing what the future looks like still because I spent so many years with him.

We were together for over 30 years.

Yeah, that's a lifetime.

It is.

It was, yeah.

It's interesting how you all have the same grand– scheme of the word in grief, but the different layers of what we have each experienced. We've walked a similar path in the fact that it is this one thing, but there are so many different branches to it.

You know what I mean?

Yeah. No, it's so true. Well, I know that we have all had our moments, obviously, but I think in particular, we've probably gotten through them with some good binge watching, right? And some good movies and some good TV shows. And Joan, you mentioned one. Well, we have one in common. I know you have another one that you mentioned that you had watched that you really enjoyed. And why don't we talk about that one first? Sure. So it's a book club.

And I think that It was kind of an iconic film.

Just because the actors and actresses that are in it are like the elite Hollywood. So it stars Diane Keaton and Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen, Mary Steinbergen, Craig T. Nelson, Andy Garcia, and Don Johnson.

Okay.

So the men are all handsome and awesome. Well, not all handsome, but they're all like iconic. And the women are like.

Kind of my generation, maybe a little bit older than me. Maybe not.

I don't know.

I didn't look up their ages. I think Jane Fonda is a little older, but I hope to be her one day. And so the actors and actresses are iconic. But the theme of this movie is so good because it spans across.

So many themes of love.

So there are four women who met in college. And you see just a glimpse of that, like who they married, what they did, career path.

One becomes a judge.

Three of the four get married and it shows them now 40 years later at their monthly book club event, which really is very little about books and way more about drinking wine and challenging each other about where they are in life and like what they're doing. And one of the books they decide to read is Fifty Shades of Grey.

Yum, yum, yum, yum, yum.

Yeah, good book. Bob, did you read that? I just have to know. Do men read that book?

Men did not read. Well, I shouldn't say that. I didn't read that one or The Vampire Thing. I didn't read that.

No, I loved both of those, Bob. It gave women everywhere the gift of sexuality.

It's just like it just put it right out there in the open. It's like the door is now open. So anyway, so they read Fifty Shades of Grey, and it eventually has them all kind of questioning their own intimacy and what they're doing in life. And so it takes you through the journeys of almost all kind of loves, except for somebody that had just a normal, lovely.

Easy marriage kind of thing.

So it starts out with one of the themes is a woman who was never married. And of course, I know you can probably guess this is Jane Fonda. And so she had never been married and she finds, she happens to out in the wild meet a man that she had had a relationship with when she was much younger and him trying to rekindle that relationship. And her clearly had never been married, was kind of a corporate woman, had this fear of commitment. And even though you could see that there was this huge connection and she was allowing it to be physical, but wasn't really allowing the emotional part of it to happen and how she navigates that later in life. Like this is her second chance and she figures it out at the end of this movie.

I don't want to like spoil it for anybody, but it's just really interesting how she navigates it. And then there's Candace Bergen, who is, I bet you can guess, she's like the federal judge. And she has been married, but they're divorced. And he is with a younger woman, she discovers. And how like that is such a hurt on your ego. And she decides with these pushing of her friends that she decides she's going to date online.

And it shows the funny online dates, which I know we've all had. And it's that it should probably just be a podcast all by itself. People's bad dating stories. And she's right in the middle of those and how she meets the, you know, the young new girlfriend who they end up being engaged and all this. So then that's another thing. Then there's this thing that I really related to. So Diane Keaton plays a woman who recently lost her husband. He's been gone for a year. She has two grown daughters and her daughters are treating her like she's really old. And they're saying, you should come live in Arizona with us. And they're trying to convince her of this. You don't feel like she's old. She feels she's funny and she's fit and she's drinking wine

with her friends, but hasn't gone down the path of dating again. And she's kind of allowing them to talk her into that she's getting old and that they're going to need to take care of her. And they convince her to come to Arizona to see the basement apartment they've made for her. And she meets a man on the plane. And so she meets him out in the wild.

It's the dream.

It's the dream to meet out in the wild. Does it ever happen anymore? I just want to know.

So she's on this plane. And I always picture it could happen on a plane, right? So she meets him on the plane. And she really likes him. And she is making an effort without telling her daughters that she's good.

And she meets up with him.

And they track her down during a date and derail the whole thing. And she leaves the guy. She's feeling immense guilt about dating after only being... um, after only being, you know, widowed for a year and about the, the daughter's making her feel guilty. Like you've only been widowed for a year and how could you do this? And she's feeling this terrible guilt and leaves the love interest behind and how this all comes around to her. Now, coming back to the fact that she's really not old, she does have a second chapter. She's entitled to it.

And she tells her daughters that, and you know, she has her second chapter. And then lastly, we have the woman who's been married for the whole time. She's still married to the guy, but they're going through like life changes, like as you get older. So this is all about women getting older and about like the relationships and they're getting older and he's retiring. And all of a sudden he is not interested in having sex anymore. And she thinks it's her and she's trying to dress up in sexy outfits and she's trying to recreate their connection. And he isn't going for it because it's all in his head.

She even sits in my Viagra in one.

Part of it.

And he's walking around, you know, with this thing happening down there and he's like pissed at her. He's not happy about it. He's not excited to have sex with her. He's mad at her.

So it just goes through kind of all the themes and how they all come around. And you know what?

The biggest thing for me in this thing is that it's all about community. So they have each other to like bounce things off of and to challenge them. And it makes me think about my group of friends. And, you know, I have groups that I go out with, you know, at least once a month that, you know, we kind of check in with each other and we keep each other accountable that we're not letting our lives just become boring and that we, you know, are still doing things in our second chapter of life that are meaningful and keep us involved and give our life meaning.

And it seems like, like, of all the things, I loved all the love stories and the love connections and how they kind of all figured things out, but I loved their community. And that they relied so much on each other and that they got each other to the place they needed to be.

That's nice. I like that. I did not get to read Fifty Shades of Grey, nor did I want to.

Bob, you should read it and give you and Canyon some ideas, man.

Maybe they don't need it.

Canyon read it. Canyon read it.

But you were happy.

She loved it.

Here's volume two.

Yeah, Bob, you.

Reaped the benefits of that one. Let's be honest.

It's not a bad idea to be the guy when your wife comes home from that book club.

A couple glasses of wine.

Look what I learned, honey.

You want to try it?

Paint our room red.

A little tipsy and with a whip.

I don't know. Why do we have a red room? This is strange. But yeah, I think it's so funny, you know, I mean, it's, it's interesting too. Cause I love that Don Johnson's in that movie. And then his daughter is in 50 shades of gray. Yeah.

I know like kind of a weird crossover. Um, and I love, I love that connection too, but it's a good movie. And Don Johnson is hot as can be even like, like the pep, like salt and pepper beard and gray hair.

He is still hot. And Andy Garcia. Oh, I just, I don't think he's like super great looking, but he's so damn sexy.

Both still studs. He's great in Landman, too. I think Andy Garcia is great in Landman, too.

He is so good.

So I think that they hit everything just right in this movie.

It does a great job of watching the parallels of different lives and not missing anything that we all kind of experience in real life.

You know what I mean?

I say that because we're not living a movie, but it really gives us the experience of real life and also the friendships.

You know what I mean?

The peace and friendship, the way that women bond when they're going through. And I'm sorry not to discredit men, Bob, but the way that women bond and we walk alongside each other and lift each other up on days when we can't do it for ourselves.

I love this movie. I think that was a great pick, Joan.

It was really good.

I'm so glad I got to talk about it today. So maybe kind of bring it back. I think it came out in like 2018 or something. So maybe it'll bring it back to people's mind and people will stream it.

You can stream it. I watched it on Prime last night. It was for like five bucks.

Deanna, you have one too that you had as a go-to, didn't you? Yeah, I did. You know what?

Okay.

So I told you no kids this weekend and I'm going to do all the things to fill me up. And that starts by being, you know, On my couch in one direction.

Looks like a comfortable couch, by the way, if that's your couch behind you. Right?

I love that couch.

And there's room for Bob and I.

Bob, you ready?

You guys can all come over.

I can put one there and one vertical and then one, you know what I mean? What's fine. I'm a good sharer. I'm a good sharer, you guys.

I'll bring apps. Yeah, there you go.

Yeah, I am always looking for the next good binge. And what I am turned on to right now is a show on HBO called Divorce.

Okay. Okay.

Aptly named.

I know.

All right.

I'm not so sure it would be something that I would have jumped on, but I am always looking for suggestions of good shows. And I'll tell you what, I really liked it. I love Sarah Jessica Parker. She's one of the main characters. I am the girl who grew up on Sex and the City, loved her, loved the show, loved these women.

You know what I mean?

I do struggle with seeing Sarah Jessica Parker in different shows and movies and not just seeing Carrie Bradshaw.

You know what I mean?

So Sarah Jessica Parker plays this woman, Frances, and she's married, but she's having this affair. She participates in her divorce, and it kind of blows up. There's some really big names in this show, and I kind of love when they do that. Just give us one or two people that we know from several things, and then build.

The rest of the characters. I have.

issues, and I love to build relationships with the people that I am watching.

In a show.

I need to feel attached, you guys. Maybe it's because I'm old and single.

Who knows? But I need to feel attached to these people.

I struggle with infidelity storylines, and that is kind of what is taking place on this show. It ran for three seasons from 2016 to 2019, so I had never heard of it before. But this is what I will be binging. For the rest of the weekend, you guys, I loved the character dynamic between the friendships and as well as her and her husband. So I am the type of person when I am binging a show, I need to be hooked by episode two, three tops or I'm out.

I can't finish it. I need to.

Feel like I know somewhat of what is going on and feel attached to the show. And I will say, I only got into the first episode.

And they're quick.

They're not long, like maybe, I don't know, 30, 45 minutes.

Really easy to watch. But within the.

First episode, I got so much information, right, about herself, her marriage, her friendships. Like everyone's lives seem to be falling apart. And they're at that stage of life where they have been married for, you know, 20 or 30 years. The newness has worn off. The opening scene is like her brushing her teeth and her husband comes in.

He's like, oh.

There's not a bathroom and it's taking too long. And I had to poop in a Folgers coffee canister. And you can just see the complete, like she's Sarah Jessica Parker is unbothered in this moment, but you also see her doing, you know, she's, she's like a normal woman. She is like looking at her eyes. She's, you know, looking, pulling her skin back, seeing how she's just getting older.

Right.

She lifts her shirt.

She's looking at her boobs and those girls never hang like they used to listen.

You know what I mean?

I'm almost 45.

So I just like off the bat related to her and her character. And she's been married to this man who's obviously, you know, he's older.

He's gained a little weight. The sex isn't as hot. You know what I mean?

The things that happen in marriage and long-term marriages and stuff like that. And then they go to their friend's house for dinner and it's just straight chaos.

It's her birthday.

Everybody's really drunk and there's some dancing and she's fighting with her husband who she literally cannot stand. They cannot stand each other. He stands up and gives a speech and he's like, This woman is the worst, but like happy 50th birthday, babe.

I got you a dog.

And she's like, what the, you know what I mean? So the friend accidentally shoots the husband and that's where chaos ensues in this episode. And so from that moment, I was kind of hooked because for me, I believe it shared the reality of how challenging it can be in partnerships. And don't get me wrong, I believe in companionship and partnership. And I know we opened up this episode talking about that and some of those good memories.

I'm not sure that I have ever experienced a real, loving, healthy relationship. So I don't know that I know how to do that. I don't know that I've ever had my greatest love. I would like to hope that that happens for me, but I'm not so sure that I have experienced that yet. And so what I loved most is like you see these people experiencing, you know, what is real. Sarah Jessica Parker is having an affair with a guy who you wouldn't picture her with. He's not attractive.

He's hairy.

Like he's kind of got a belly on him, but she's like getting down. She tells her husband chaotically she wants a divorce. And then she comes home and he finds out about the affair. And that's where the episode ends in episode one. He locks her out, chains the locks on the house.

She rolls up. The snow is falling. It looks very pretty.

And he's like, hey, babe. I called your buddy and like, I know cats out of the bag.

So you can go screw yourself. And he is like angry.

And he was like, I'm going to tell the kids they're going to hate you to have a good life. And that's where the episode kind of ends. And like, I haven't been cheated on in a really long time, but I do unfortunately know what that pain and that betrayal feels like. And for me, I felt that coming off of him. Like he was like bitter, resentful, angry, and he is.

Like letting her have it. And the episode ends right there. She kind of leaves.

And I wanted her to kind of like bust through the door and break the glass and like come in like a heroine, but also she's not right. She was having an affair and, on her husband and it's just straight chaos and I guess I'm at a season in life where like my life is super peaceful right now so if I can have some chaos vicariously through this set of my television show then sign me up HBO I'll do it.

I want to watch it now. Yeah.

You totally hooked me.

And I'm thinking, do I have any hours this weekend where I can put into this? Cause I'm a binge watcher. Kind of sounds a little like you. I like to watch like five episodes. They're like, do you want next episode?

I'm like, yes.

Next episode.

Yes. Yes.

Don't call me for the next six hours. I am busy. Do not disturb.

I think we're all like that. Netflix is all monsters.

I know, I know, but you know what?

You really can get like, kind of like, You're almost like part of the story, like because you're watching so many hours and I'll look at my clock.

I'm like, oh, God, it's 2 a.m.

Oh, I should brush my teeth.

I got to go to bed. This is ridiculous.

I did that last night, actually. I know that last night, two nights ago, I got stuck watching something that is nothing along the lines of what we're talking about called Mayors of Mayor of Kingstown.

Oh, I've heard of it.

Is it good?

I've watched one episode, I think.

Yeah. I think it's why I couldn't even get my thoughts together yesterday to do anything and watch anything. But yeah, it's really good. It's got Jeremy Renner in it. And it's based in Michigan, actually. And it's kind of crazy.

And it's like a crime thing, isn't it?

Right? Yeah. It's kind of crimey.

Yeah.

I like crimey.

Yep. I think all divorced women go through a little true crime saga.

And it's Just imagining things were different.

Yeah, I say it all the time to Canyon whenever we're fighting. I'm like, you know, your parents know. Your parents know that if I go down a flight of stairs, I didn't do it on my own.

You didn't trip.

I'm like, just put on a good trial. Like, that's all I need. Just a good trial to watch someone.

We'll be watching Bachelor. Pushed downstairs.

It was a dark January night.

We'll side with Canyon. It's fine. We're going to side with her anyway.

I know you guys will.

We like you a lot, but she's the great addition.

Yeah, we love your wife. So sorry, Bob, you're out.

It's so great.

How she's like always included all the events. Bob comes, you know, because he has to be there. But like she gets to come and we all get to like be with her and have.

A good time. I'm the reason for the invite, but she's the reason why we're actually there. Yeah, we know that.

All right.

We have one we share now, Joan. And this is one I loved. Jennifer Garner, Five Star Weekend. So this is one that I think is, I don't know. This is one that I got all the feels watching this one too. And I loved it because basically, long and the short of it, it's on Peacock. Long and the short of it is, this is one that a woman's wife, or I'm sorry, husband dies unexpectedly. And, um, and she decides kind of like what we were talking about earlier, Joan, with, with, where you were at when your husband passed, you were like, I don't want to sit here and, and go down these rabbit holes and be depressed. Right. So she's like, I want to have the greatest weekend ever.

Yep.

And she's become like this famous, uh, chef type of baker and does all these awesome things. And, um, and so like, she's making all this great food and her friends come in and it's all these friends from different stages of life. One in particular. who's from almost like a fan, right? Who is very recently in her life. Yeah.

Twist that we will, we will address, but we'll, you know, there will be spoiler alerts guys. So if you're going to want to watch five star weekend.

If we address that theme, yes, people know you need to go.

Yeah, we'll get there. We'll give you the la la la hand signs, but why don't you take it away, Joe? Tell us about this one.

So she decides to host this weekend on her own. I think her daughter is going through some stuff. She kind of kicks her daughter out of the house a little bit, but her daughter keeps returning. But she is like trying to heal. And again, like a sense of community. So it's all about like inviting some community back in.

And for some reason, she decides that she's inviting people from different parts of her life. So from like childhood, college, professional life. And now this person that has been a fan of hers online. So she does a lot of her cooking videos online.

Maybe all of them. I think maybe she's an online person. Like a blogger, like, yeah, yeah.

An aspiring food person like myself.

Yeah, like she's doing these beautiful, like decorating the table kind of things.

She really is good. It's fun to watch.

And so she invites these people from the four... parts of her life and they don't really get along very well. They're all kind of competing to be her best friend. And so like the high school one is nasty to the college one and dah, dah, dah, dah. And in the long run, she's kind of fed up with them all.

She's sick of them and they're all in different bedrooms of the house. The house is gorgeous.

She lives, I don't know, like on long, I know like.

In the Hamptons or something. Is it Martha's Vineyard?

I was going to say Hamptons, Martha's Vineyard. She's on a beautiful ocean on a cliff. It's gorgeous house. She has a great life, except for she's lost his husband that she was deeply in love with.

And that story kind of unravels. And that becomes very interesting because they're learning that the story that she has in her head isn't the one that really existed out in the world. And they're kind of trying to help her through it.

And things are just going bad. one, and they all have their own stories. So they all have their background.

One's having marital problems with a very domineering husband who keeps calling her and like, why aren't you answering your phone?

You know, and like mean to.

Her and she's really subservient. And now she's coming out of her shell. She's blooming a little bit amongst this like great community of these other women. So it just is such, it was another one that I think I watched eight episodes in, I think one night. I couldn't stop watching it because The way that the story unfolds, it unravels in a really good way that you have to watch the next one, but you can't just leave it there.

Okay.

Jotting this one down. Tell me the name of it again.

Five star weekend.

Yeah. It's even a good one for guys.

I mean, I want to hear that.

Yeah. You know, I, I'm one of those guys. I love rom-coms like I'm that guy. Right. So this, this like was one of those things that, you know, um, I don't think they necessarily make any of these types of shows for men specifically. I've never seen one anyway. Okay. But it's like, I actually like this kind of stuff because, you know, you're watching it and I love the guy who, you know, never left the vineyard or Hamptons or wherever it is that they're at. And he comes around to fix things. And he's like the one that got, she was the one that got away for him.

Right.

And so he's there and he's perfectly fine being by himself. He doesn't, he's not like, he's not like pining for her, but at the same time, You could tell he still loves her and he's got this very special place in his heart for her. And, um, you know, so you're like watching all these relationships unfold and it's like, it's just, it's just very, I mean, I know it's still kind of, it's still a movie, but it's very real. Like it's very relatable, you know, this is weird for me, but I will tell you guys, honestly, like if you were to tell me the, the spoiler right here, it would not ruin it for me. And I would still watch it.

And in my mind, it doesn't ruin it for me ever, but we won't ruin anyone. We won't, we won't do a spoiler. But we'll just say this. There's a huge– there are several twists. But there is a huge twist that occurs with one of the friends that is there for the five-star weekend. And it is definitely worth the watch because it does catch you off guard. Like it kind of all of a sudden you're like, what? Where did this come from?

And you see it sneaking up throughout the episode and then you're.

Like, oh. Yeah. You're like, this can't be true. Okay.

I'm going to watch it. You guys see you've sold me. I will watch it. I will add it to my list after I finish Divorce.

I want you to text us and tell us what you think.

Okay. Okay. I'm going to watch it this weekend in all of my free time.

You know, I'll say this too. Jennifer Garner might very well be a younger Diane Keaton. Like Jennifer Garner plays herself.

You're right.

Doesn't she? Yeah.

Always smiling, always positive. Like, okay, we can do this. Even when things are going down the drain, she's still positive and we can do this.

Yeah.

She is so nice. I flew her once when I was pregnant and she rubbed my belly. She is the nicest person.

Yeah.

I know her. I know her through Greg Grunberg.

I'm totally jealous right now of both of you.

And she is such a sweet person and she gives of herself to her charity. She gives of herself to her community. I mean, you're right, Deanna. Her children.

Her children.

Yeah.

She is like the epitome of like living her best divorce life.

Yeah.

Right.

She provides a house and a home. She don't need no man. Sister's thriving.

But she's still there for her ex-husband when he needs her, even though he went off to marry Jennifer Lopez for a couple of weeks, you know? I know.

And then undo that. Done with her now.

Yeah. Yeah. It's like unbelievable, but she's always still there for him too. Like they still have a friendship. It's like, you know, it's like the perfect, I don't know. It's the perfect storm, I guess.

Yeah.

She's not bitter.

I was going to tell you guys. So I know you mentioned The Notebook earlier, and I have to tell you this story. So I had never watched The Notebook.

I have never watched it, by the way.

Don't you guys have that movie when it's on TV? You will always watch it.

Well, I want you to know I have watched it now, and I want to tell you how this came to pass. So I meet Canyon, my wife, and at the time she was living in Vegas. because she was opening, um, she, she was the director of opening operations for this company and they were doing, they were opening a casino, a new casino hotel property. And so she had a condo there and I would come in on the weekends to see her. Right. And so I come in one weekend and, um, and she's exhausted cause she was like up all night, like doing other things. And she had to be there a certain time. So, uh, She puts it on. We lay down on her bed to watch this movie. I don't know what movie it's going to be. She puts it on and then falls asleep with the remote like

tucked in here. And I come to realize it's The Notebook. And this was like a running joke with us. I'm like, I don't, I'm never watching that stupid movie, you know. So I start watching the movie and oh my God, I hyperventilate. I'm crying so hard. Like my, I'm like, I wake her up, you know?

And I am so, she's like, did someone die?

Yes.

And I'm like, yes, someone did die. I'm like, you're a bird.

I'm a bird. Right.

Who doesn't want that?

I want to be a bird.

I want to be someone's bird.

I get it.

I totally get it.

All of those, like, toxic, but yet passionate parts of what we dream of relationships being like, they love each other.

Endlessly to the death and like the passion and the sex is amazing. And they're doing it in a house with no, you know what I mean?

It's like that, that's the unhealthy version of what I dream relationships to be like that.

You know what I mean? But I'll watch it every single time. That's the kind of love that I want.

Like, it's a high bar, right? If you get to that point, I think. But no, but it was just like, I'll never forget watching that. And it's one of the things we laugh about now is like, we were only dating at that time. And I'm like, why would you put this on? You know, I'm not crying.

I have something in my eye.

And then they dated in real life. They won an MTV Movie Award. where they mimic the scene where they kiss and it's all raining. Who does not want to be manhandled like that in the rain? And they're making out and they're so hot.

And then they mimicked it at the MTV, I think it was MTV Movie Awards years ago, where she runs across.

The stage and he's so hot. You know what I mean? He picks her up and she's got the one leg up and they make out. It looks so dreamy. Sell me that. I want that.

That's what I want my second portion of my life to be like, Bob. So introduce your girl to your friends. that's what I'm looking for.

I don't have any friends like that. I can promise you that, but I wish I did.

That's why I have to be very careful.

The shows that are movies that I get obsessed with because it runs me down the rabbit hole of like, what is not realistic?

You know what I mean? Life comes in sessions and waves and it's, it's, you know, always moving and changing and relationships have to do that. And when you find a good partner or companion, hopefully you're able to do that together, but that's what life kind of teaches us, right? No two people are the same.

And when I watch movies like The Notebook, It gives me this unrealistic expectation of what I believe love to be and what I think I need in my life. And the truth of the matter is it ebbs and flows, right? Sometimes we're not on the same page. Sometimes the sex is not mind-blowing. Sometimes we are... tired and exhausted trying to keep our children alive and make good humans.

You know, life is always in session.

And I have to be really careful, me personally, with stuff like that, especially as a single woman in the second part of my life, because then I start idolizing that. That's what I think that relationships need to match up to.

Well, I feel like that's why you need to have like kind of mindless movies. Like my one that I will always watch, I have two that I will always watch.

One of them is Mrs. Doubtfire. I love that movie. And it has like heartfelt moments and it has great humor and has him loving his kids, but like, you know, willing to do anything for him.

And it's just so, so, so funny. And I will also always watch Elf. So those are my two. You watch really good movies like The Notebook, I watch Elf.

Yeah.

Mindless humor though. Elf is like, that's a great movie.

It is.

The kids and I watch that all the time at Christmas and then they think they're allowed to say bad words.

And I'm like, well, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

My kids think I'm elf. They honestly think I am.

Mom, I could see that.

I could see that. I bet you do. Oh my God.

I feel like where I catch up the most on things that I'm missing on TV is when I'm flying. And I have a long flight because I live in Maryland, so I go back and forth to L.A.

A lot.

And I most recently watched the entire, I think, almost eight seasons of Shrinking.

I probably watched five of the eight seasons. Have you guys seen Shrinking?

I love that show.

I've never seen it.

Oh, my gosh.

You have the watching of your next five weeks alone, like.

Ready for you.

You're done.

You can just write it down, program it in the TV and just get a glass of wine.

It's so good.

But tell me a little bit, like you heard me say I need to be like sold by like episode two, three. So like, give me like a short synopsis of what I'm expecting here.

Okay, it's three therapists who practice together. Harrison Ford is the head of the practice. Anyway, one of them, who's kind of the main character in the beginning, has lost his wife.

She's died. And he has a daughter who.

Is angsty, very angsty. And he is very awkward around her because she's so angsty. And they have a neighbor that she's kind of flocked to, a woman who's kind of like been her replacement mom.

And he also.

Harrison Ford is now dealing suddenly that he has Parkinson's and he's becoming a little more disabled and a little more feeble and him going through that and him finding kind of love through his doctor. And it's just it's just really I'm trying to describe like it's a comedy.

It's definitely funny.

It's a comedy. Yeah, it's a comedy, but it's got a lot of heartfelt moments.

Yeah.

You know, a lot of like, yeah. I wouldn't say it's a dramedy either because it's not really a drama, but it is.

It's not.

It's funny. Their next door neighbors are hilarious. I love them. Who's the woman? Who are they? I can't know.

I don't know any names of any stars ever.

Okay, well, I'll try it.

I feel like we didn't sell it well.

I just keep a running notes section in my phone. I just need like good shows to watch. And so I like will keep it in my notes section.

I'll give it a shot. I'll try it.

I so did not sell that well.

It's really, really good. Bob, can you redo my sales for that one, please?

No, you were so good. I'm watching it.

It really was a... Watch one episode.

I will watch it.

I will give it a shot. I will give it an honest shot. If you tell me you liked it and you thought it was good, I will give it an honest try.

I will buy you dinner if you don't like it.

Joan, I love dinner.

I love to eat. She's going to say she doesn't like it even if she loves it.

It's a win-win for me.

Yeah, there you go. Just try it.

Okay, just try it.

Let's talk about some other great ones. You guys ready? All right. I got a couple here. Actually, I was going to say Mr. Mom is one of my favorites. Do you guys remember that movie?

Oh, Bob, I love that movie.

Great movie.

So dumb. I love it.

So good.

Yeah, Michael Keaton. I use lines from it all the time. Like I literally just said to Kanye the other day, I'm like, babe, if you need me, I'll be at the gym or the gun club.

All you men have these stupid one-liners. Do women do one-liners?

No.

Men don't.

No, no, no.

No, I'm bad with sayings and movie quotes and all of the things. Do not ask me what movie it's from. It's not going to register.

So Kiana is pretty good. She's good. I've gotten her to, I've gotten her to like match me line for line from like Horrible Bosses. The movie Horrible Bosses. I love that movie. Also good, by the way. Yeah, I love it. So ones that are about this kind of stuff, though, we got, okay, this one came up earlier. How Stella got her groove back.

Listen, listen, we got to have a whole sidebar right now.

How'd you get a groove back, Deanna?

Mountain, man.

That could have a sidebar.

Tell me, Bob, tell how they got the groove back.

I don't know how Stella got her groove back. I heard it was with a mountain man. I do.

I know how Stella got her groove back.

Do you think there's a lot of validity in getting your groove back?

I think that, well, okay, I can only speak for myself, right?

I did not ask for divorce, so I came out of there kind of really wounded. And I walked into marriage feeling really independent and powerful. And listen, I don't think I'm an unattractive woman. I, you know, but like, I think that like, I have a pretty good face. It took me some time after divorce to want to even be in the company of the opposite sex. I was not I didn't have the emotional capacity to take on another grown man who needed me to hold his feelings and his stuff. I was just like I needed to like just care for me for a really long time.

So it took me some time.

And I would say that when I was ready to entertain. Someone of the opposite sex, but also not do commitment.

I'm thinking of the best way to like say this right now.

Were you on a whitewater rafting trip perhaps? Or maybe you were on a hiking trip?

No, I was in a mountain town for work and we spent like four or five days and I was at this bar and met this cute like 30 year old woman. And I spent a few days with this 30 year old man and I understood.

This is a standing ovation.

I understood how Stella got her groove back.

Like once I left that mountain town, I got exactly what I needed.

He was very kind.

Thank God he didn't murder me and kidnap me and hang up my body parts to dry out in the woods.

I was safe.

And I spent a few days with a young man who told me I was pretty and had the most amazing experience.

Sex.

And I left there thinking, Oh, Oh, I'm not dead inside. I learned how Stella got her groove back.

There you go.

I love that.

I mean, really like you needed a healing moment and you just, it just was kind of served up to you and you, I mean, you.

Had to do it. It wasn't your fault.

I needed something at the time to just remind me of what a powerful woman I am, right? I am attractive, I am kind, I am loving given the right situation, I am loyal to a fault to.

Myself, and I just needed, I just needed to get my mojo back, you guys.

It sounds like you did.

I did. I did that.

I did.

Now I'm still single, mind you.

There's no shame in that game.

Doesn't mean you don't have your groove.

Believe me, I am not shameful in it at all. I am living my best life. You know what?

I don't come home and no one disrupts my peace. I don't have to do anyone else's dishes. And when the trash needs to go out, it goes out because I do it.

That's right. That's right. I like it. I like it a lot.

A lot of freedom in that.

Honestly, I don't even know how we talk about anything else other than, you know, now that we've touched on that. Cause I, I wanted to hear about the mountain man and we got to hear about the mountain man.

So I can see what you're doing. You're trying to avoid Bob, what we know about you. And I'm pretty sure you gave a few women their groove back to in your time. So like, don't play coy on me, Bob. Bob Guinea, do not play coy on me. I've said it many times. I heard it when I got into the Bachelor Mansion when I was a bachelorette. I asked everybody, who was the most naughty? And they were like, Bob Guinea.

No, gosh, no, no.

Oh, Bob.

I am a gentleman. And although I did find it funny to say, I may have given... a few Stella's their groove back over the time.

Where your badge of honor, Bob, where your badge of honor.

Although I will say this, you know, guys got to do it too.

Right.

Like, you know, I don't know what the, you know, Stan had to get his groove back at one point too. Right. You go through a period of time where you think you, you know, the, the feelings are not, uh, mutually exclusive, right? Like a guy goes through a divorce too. And he's kind of like, well, what the hell's wrong with me?

I got to figure out what's my vibe and who I am again. Because, you know, and I think everyone does it, right? Like you go through that transition in your life from whether it's losing your partner or divorce or whatever it might be. And you get to that point where it's like, okay, I got to figure out who I am moving forward. And maybe, maybe I am the dude who says, if you're a bird, I'm a bird, right?

Maybe I'm that guy. Maybe I'll, you know, I don't know. Maybe I'm a little more elf. Maybe I'm a little more, I don't know.

I want to be a bird. I can be a pigeon. I, you know what I mean?

There's a lot of birds out there.

A blue jay, a blue jay.

Yeah.

I'll be a bird.

Yeah. Pterodactyl. I mean, there's a bunch of different types of flying things.

It doesn't do my arms justice. You know what I mean? I'm not trying to eat them afterwards.

You do have lovely, I mean, yeah, you have the lovely wingspan.

Lovely wingspan.

Well, I hope we gave everybody listening, you know, some good ideas as to what to do this weekend, what to watch this weekend, what to drink in. And especially if you've been going through some relationship stuff, you know, there's definitely a lot of good stuff out there that you can watch that hopefully inspires you because it definitely inspired us to talk about it. I know. I love both of you women so much. And I just think, Oh, you know what? I just saw one. I think Grace and Frankie, did you guys ever watch that one?

Oh, I love it. I did watch that.

That's a whole series too, that I could watch like all weekend.

I loved it. Your girl, Jane Fonda right there.

I think I have a thing for Jane Fonda.

This is disturbing.

I love her. She's so good.

I know I've said this to both of you. I know I said it to Deanna when we were together in, in Tahoe too. It's like, you know, Divorce isn't easy, even if you want it, right? Divorce and loss are definitely not easy. And if you're wanting to date again, but you don't know where to start, well, we want to help. So send us an email, leave us a voicemail, all the info's in the show notes. So make sure you follow us on the socials. It's I Do Part Two, an iHeart podcast where falling in love is the main objective. Joan, Deanna, thank you so much for joining us. And thanks for letting me join you, I should say, on all the show recaps. I love you both. I don't get to see neither one of you enough, but hopefully we'll get

to see each other soon.

I heard you used to do better.

Bye guys.

Love you guys.

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