My parents brought me RARE gluten free treats… so my partner ate them out of spite! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3070

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0:10 My parents brought me rare gluten-free treats, so my partner ate them out of spite.

0:16 Maybe he's just testing them for poison.

0:18 I will try to word this as neutrally as possible, but I obviously have biases and I'm also very emotional right now. Keep that in mind. I, 22, have celiac disease and live in a country where gluten-free products are available in stores, but are also really crappy compared to most other countries around. The available options are dry, crumbly, obviously also very expensive, and generally just poor quality. If I want good gluten-free treats, I have to order them from other countries online or go there myself. I am lucky enough that my parents travel a lot and will usually bring some gluten-free goodies with them from their trip.

0:52 I also have a partner, 29, who is not celiac or gluten-free, but will often choose to eat gluten-free products to avoid getting me sick. This is something I very much value. We've been dating for one and a half years and live together. She lives by a one-to-one principle, as in she gets something, I get something, specifically when it comes to food. She has a very bad relationship with food, including past food insecurity. and really is working to better her eating habits. This all leads us to today.

1:20 By the way, this comes from The Orange Knights, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash ok story time subreddit.

1:25 I'm Sophia.

1:26 I'm Keon.

1:27 And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do. So let us know what you would do in the comments. And Opie says... My parents were so kind as to bring us an assortment of gluten-free baked goods from their latest trip. And when we went over this afternoon, my mom handed them over to us saying they're to share.

1:45 After getting home, I decided to try one of the treats, a chocolate muffin, and got emotional about just how delicious and moist it was. It was so good, I repeatedly checked the packaging to make sure it was actually gluten-free. I ate half, and there was a second muffin left in the package. I go into her bedroom after, because I know how she is when it comes to food, and ask if it's okay if I buy her muffins tomorrow.

2:08 And in turn, she doesn't eat my gluten-free ones. She does not understand, and repeatedly says she wants to try these. and that my mother bought these to share. I have little understanding because she can go to any store any day and buy whatever muffin she wants. I literally cannot. I am willing to share everything else I got, but not these muffins. If I want these specific muffins, I would have to fly to another country or see if they're available online. And if they are, they will be insanely expensive. This all evolves into a huge fight. That's ridiculous.

2:41 Okay.

2:41 That's ridiculous.

2:42 Let's take a pause here.

2:43 Yes.

2:43 Do we think Opie's being greedy or she's in the right?

2:47 If I'm, you know, if I'm at a party and there's really good, let's say there's really good salmon and there's also, you know, steak or chicken wings or whatever. And there's a certain amount of salmon that I can eat or whatever. And my partner and I go over and they're like, oh, everything's to share. But there's only, let's say like one piece of my partner's not going to be like, oh, I want half that piece. Like you have to give me half that piece. They said that it's all to share.

3:15 It's to share.

3:16 Yeah. Because I, yes, there's only one piece, but I can only eat the salmon. He can eat the chicken. So I think that's ridiculous that your partner is getting upset about a chocolate muffin that she could probably find.

3:27 An even better one.

3:28 I was going to say, she could probably find an even better one or like triple chocolate, non-gluten free, you know, where you guys live.

3:36 Yeah.

3:37 I understand. I feel like I agree with you. I feel like I'm on OP's side if, you know... So if it's something I can't have.

3:43 Yeah.

3:44 And I get this, but my partner can have whatever. Let's come on. Maybe like a bite like to try it.

3:50 If you want to try it, I'd be like, hey, can I just try it?

3:52 Like half of like not even half, maybe like a quarter, something like that. Just to try it because I get it. My partner's also trying to eat what I eat.

3:59 Yeah.

3:59 And I that's something on the table that I like.

4:03 Which is that is even crazier to me because the whole impetus of her eating what Opie eats is to help Opie. And then for her to be like, no, I want it.

4:13 I want it. She just loves gluten-free stuff. She's like, it's better.

4:17 Yeah. I think Opie's partner is a bit of an a-hole here. I agree. To try, understandable. Totally understandable. But to like, hey, there's only two muffins.

4:26 Yeah.

4:27 And it tastes, it tastes so good. It tastes like childhood. Like I can, I can actually eat this before I had celiac or I can actually, it tastes so good. This is not fair.

4:36 Yeah. And the partner's like, give it to me. Goleming over the freaking muffin. This all evolves into a huge fight. We have previously had fights about me not wanting to share a special gluten-free food because I do not get it often. That's so reasonable. I think we've discussed, I think we know who the person in the wrong here is.

4:54 Truly. I mean, I think sharing is caring. I love sharing my food. You've witnessed it. I love sharing my food as long as my friends can have it.

5:01 Exactly.

5:03 But this is one time where this is something so special to me that I can only eat. Come on, let's be real here.

5:10 If I were Opie's partner, I would be figuring out how to make these so that they could have them all the time. At some point, I walk off because I was crying and she accused me of being manipulative. A few minutes pass and then she comes to me, throws 20 bucks at me and says she's buying the muffin. I tell her to keep her money. I just want these two muffins. She then goes to the kitchen and begins eating the muffin in front of me. If this is a thing that happens a lot, I am reconsidering this.

5:39 Yeah. If my partner throws money at me, like, I don't know, like a paper ball for a muffin let's be honest she didn't throw the money like it was like oh paper go it was just like it was a crumpled.

5:51 Bill crumpled bill that she threw at you not looking good i'm so mad at her that i can tell her that she can look for a new partner and eat their food because i'm done i'm currently writing this from the couch where i will sleep tonight i do not want to end my relationship over a muffin but am i in the wrong for not wanting to share one muffin No.

6:11 So you can pull up the comments on that one. I want to see the comments. Sometimes I love these stories that we don't get comments. I need to see comments.

6:17 I need to know. I need to know what the people think. Yeah. We've got not the a-hole. Your girlfriend is genuinely cruel for this.

6:24 Yeah.

6:26 Someone says not the a-hole. She lacks empathy and that's something I wouldn't want in a partner. She is the a-hole. I have several food intolerances and my partner thankfully understands that and doesn't eat my food. Yeah. That is expensive or complicated to cook.

6:38 Very easy. Okay, great. I was going to say, comments should be agreeing with us. It's not about the muffin.

6:44 No, it's not.

6:45 It's not about the muffin.

6:47 Truly.

6:48 Yeah. And she's going to make you think that it is.

6:50 That you're breaking up over a muffin?

6:52 She's going to keep going, oh, you're breaking up over me? Or you're breaking up with me over a muffin? And that's not what's happening here.

6:58 It's the lack of respect, OP.

7:00 Yeah, yeah. It's genuinely so ridiculous.

7:05 And that's the end of this story. We're good to go. On to the next one.

7:08 My boyfriend's sister claims my baby as ours and I can't take it anymore.

7:13 That's not our baby.

7:15 Before I begin, I would like to point out that my boyfriend has a very small nuclear family. His mom passed away about a year ago, and his older sister passed away when he was 15. Now, his family pretty much only includes his sister and his dad, who more recently has become present in his life after his mom's passing. I, 24, have been with my boyfriend, 26 male, for about four years.

7:36 In the beginning of our relationship, I always found his sister, 25 female... to be a little odd. However, most of the strange things she would say or do were pretty tame, and I ignored them for the most part. My boyfriend and I ended up renting a small house with his sister after their mom passed away. While living with her, I honestly think that I got to know her too well, and now I have very few positive things to say about her.

7:59 Uh-oh.

8:00 I'd also like to point out that while losing their mother was a devastating loss, these issues existed long, long before that. By the way, this comes from Funny Monk, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.

8:14 I'm Keon.

8:15 And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we do. So let us know what you would do in the comments. And Opie says, My problem with her began because of the way that she treats her cat.

8:26 Oh.

8:27 She will not scoop her cat's litter box or refill her water fountain until you ask multiple times, Do not let this woman.

8:34 Have a cat.

8:35 Do not let this woman near any animals.

8:37 And even then, it's not guaranteed. My boyfriend and I have two cats, so this was an issue that I brought up frequently as I was caring for a cat that wasn't mine. At that point, it's your cat.

8:46 At this point, you have three cats.

8:48 Yeah.

8:48 It was incredibly frustrating as she claims this cat is her whole world. She'd be broken without this cat.

8:54 If that's your whole world, oh no.

8:56 I think her world is broken.

8:58 I heard, I think her world's crumbling. Is this Pluto?

9:01 I'd like to note that she's also a nurse, which made this very frustrating. Nothing ever changed. She was an incredibly disrespectful roommate. She would leave moldy Tupperware in the sink, let her food rot in the fridge almost every single week. Her room was always filthy, and when she'd clean it, she would take her moldy cup collection and stack it by the sink, never ever coming back to clean it.

9:22 I like to recycle, and I clean my recycling. And she would leave dirty plastic food containers on counters or in the sink for me to clean. I would move out.

9:30 I put it back in her room.

9:31 Yeah, I'm putting it back in her room and I'm moving out of this place. Why are we living with your boyfriend's sister who sucks?

9:37 Who's also really gross. Yeah.

9:39 I would try to keep communal areas clean and she would cover the couch in her crap. Crafting supplies, blankets, pillows from her room, food wrappers, literally anything. She ruined our coffee table by leaving fast food soda cups on there for so long.

9:52 Gross.

9:53 Her boyfriend is an auto body tech and would put his work boots on the couch. Oh my god, I'm... livid.

10:01 Uh, not allowing that.

10:03 Mm-mm, mm-mm. Et cetera, et cetera. In terms of a roommate's cleanliness, literally just picture the worst possible scenario. And that's her. I would bring this issue up to my boyfriend and he'd always tell me that she's always been like that. And we can talk about it, but there's no point as nothing will change.

10:18 Then I break up with my boyfriend.

10:20 Yeah.

10:21 Then I'd be like, you deal with that.

10:22 Yeah. No, I'd say unless we're moving out, I am not living, you know, I'm not going to be in this relationship.

10:29 Don't care. That's how she always is. Great. She can change. People can change.

10:33 Yeah, I mean, like genuinely, I don't even care if she can change.

10:36 I'm out of there.

10:37 I'm out of there. Every time we'd bring it up, she would ignore and avoid me for a few days and then go back to her BS. I'd like to note that during this time, I was also pregnant. I'm out of there.

10:48 What's your boyfriend doing?

10:49 Oh my God, I'm out of there. I would never have moved in. Oh my goodness. She constantly disrespected me and made my life much, much more difficult. During the course of our lease, there were several times that I would cry because I was so incredibly frustrated. I wonder how they got fleas. Yeah, probably from her. Just her.

11:21 She wouldn't keep her room clean. Her floor was covered in clothes and she wouldn't comb her cat or give her the pills that I bought. I was trying to get rid of her cat's fleas. Anyway, all that aside, she's also very strange. She's almost possessive of my boyfriend. I'm just going to make a list of weird things she's said or done concerning my boyfriend. When I got pregnant, she kept using I, we, ours when talking about my baby.

11:44 What the actual F?

11:46 I'm out of there. I'm out of there. I'm out of there. I'm Staying there.

11:49 If that's how you treat your cat, I want to know how you're going to treat your future child.

11:53 Yeah.

11:54 Maybe this is mine. This is my child, but your future child.

11:57 Not ours. Kept doing it so much, even her own boyfriend called it out. She has never once decorated for her brother's birthday. and I decorate for him every year. When my boyfriend's birthday was approaching, kept saying, how should I decorate for his birthday? And telling me her plans. Told me that she can't wait to plan his 30th birthday party. Said that after their mom passes away, she's going to have to take care of my boyfriend.

12:20 What is going on?

12:21 What?

12:22 Go take care of your cat first.

12:23 Yeah, you can't even manage that.

12:25 And yourself.

12:27 Please, take care of your room. Tells me things about his personality as if I don't know. Example is, when he's sad, he turns it into anger. Wow.

12:36 That's also an issue. What?

12:39 Okay. We've been together for four years. Why feel the need to tell me basic traits and characteristics? When their mom passed away, my boyfriend and I were already living together. When we were all looking for a place together, she said, well, if we can't find anything, your boyfriend and I will have to share a one bedroom and you'll have to move back home. Sorry, his pregnant girlfriend?

12:59 Why?

13:00 I'm telling this to... Why are we not bringing this up to my boyfriend?

13:04 Yeah, why is boyfriend, like, okay with living with this cretin? Why would the solution be for her and her brother to share a one bed and me to move back home after living with my boyfriend for two years? We've got a little bit left to this story. Any final thoughts?

13:19 You know what's the worst part? I mean, everything is really bad here, but you know what the worst part is about this? What? The cherry on top? She's a nurse. Yeah. What?

13:27 She's a nurse.

13:28 She's a nurse. She's somebody's nurse out there. Ah, you are not my nurse.

13:34 Yeah, don't touch me.

13:35 Leave me alone. Talk to your boyfriend. See if you can get her out of there. But the thing is, what is he going to do?

13:41 Yeah.

13:42 He hasn't done anything.

13:43 I'm just saying I'm moving out. Come with me or not. I'm moving out.

13:47 It stinks in here.

13:48 Yeah, I can't stay here.

13:49 It's not the cats. Maybe it's partially her cat. Maybe it's a little bit the.

13:52 Cats, but also stinks in here. Anyway, I could honestly keep going, but that is the gist of it. She's overall just kind of wacky and super hypocritical. She yells at her boyfriend for not being more mature when she's a mess. She used to be medically obese and then lost 10 pounds and started saying that nurses shouldn't be allowed to be fat.

14:10 Dude, what is this? It's not even a human being. What is this person? What is this thing?

14:14 She's an alien. I don't know. Talking to her makes my head spin, and honestly, I really don't like her. However, this is one of two of my boyfriend's family members, and a small part of me feels bad for never wanting to even see her again. I have spoken to my boyfriend about this several times, and he remains almost neutral about it, which hurts as I feel like he doesn't stand up for me enough. Anyway, this has turned into rambling, but should I just suck it up and deal with her wackiness as this is his family?

14:42 No. No.

14:44 You gotta leave or she needs to leave. You probably would be able to handle her better if she didn't live with you.

14:50 Truly. And I know we don't really like ultimatums here.

14:53 Yeah.

14:54 But this is not an environment for a pregnant woman to be in.

14:57 Yeah. I don't even think you have to say, like, I'm breaking up with you. It can just be, I need to move out. I would like you to come with me. If you want to stay here and take care of your sister, then so be it.

15:08 It's just, I know it's going to be really hard because... He only has so many family members. Yeah. So I feel like you could feel guilty.

15:14 But you could probably have a better freaking relationship with her if you didn't live with her.

15:19 I don't think he cares.

15:20 Yeah, no, he doesn't. You got an edit, though. His sister did move last week.

15:25 Oh. Thank the heavens.

15:27 Awesome.

15:27 That was an important part that I left out.

15:29 How did that happen? I don't know. What caused her to move?

15:32 I'm happy that she's gone, but I still don't want to see her or interact. And that is the end.

15:37 You don't give us a reasoning why? Yeah.

15:39 I mean, did your boyfriend say, hey, she's got to go? Did she want to leave? What was the, what happened?

15:45 What was the root of that? No matter what. Great. She's out. So much stress is gone. Yeah. Your boyfriend needs to figure things out and he needs to figure it out quick, especially for you.

15:56 And I guess the, you know, OP's question now is now that she's gone, I still don't want to have her in my life. Is that OK? And I think you could limit your relationship. Doesn't mean that your boyfriend has to.

16:07 Yeah, I think that's totally fine. Like, hey, no more in her in my life, in your life. OK, our life. That's no.

16:14 Yeah.

16:14 And that's the end of this story. We're going to go on to the next one. I jokingly gave my girlfriend a celebrity hall pass, so she actually used it.

16:23 Dang, she's got game.

16:26 I've, 29 male, been with my girlfriend, 28 female, for three years. She's a huge fan of a popular sci-fi series, and her friends are even more obsessed with it. Any guesses?

16:37 Sci-fi. Current sci-fi, I'm thinking, like, Doctor Who. Okay. I'm thinking... Supernatural's not really sci-fi.

16:47 It's in the elements.

16:48 That's more fiction fantasy, I would say.

16:51 It's more fantasy, yeah.

16:52 What's another sci-fi?

16:54 Look at me. Star Trek. Star Wars.

16:57 Oh, there's the new Star Trek show.

16:59 Star Trek and Star Wars were the ones that came to mind.

17:02 And there's a new spin-off Star Trek.

17:04 Yes, yes. Um. Let's see if it's any of those.

17:09 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

17:09 Those are the big three.

17:09 I feel like they're not going to tell us.

17:11 The big three is always Doctor Who.

17:13 Yeah. I'm thinking of stuff that's still running.

17:15 Yeah, like modern day.

17:16 Yes.

17:16 Yeah, yeah. Let's see. Put your guesses in the comments.

17:19 Oh, boy.

17:20 I've always supported her interest. I watched a few episodes with her when she wanted me to. Even though half the time I had no idea what was going on. This is me with Carly when watching Glee. Honestly, I just like seeing her happy and excited about it. About two years ago, we had a group of friends over for a game night one evening, and they all were jokingly about which cast members they fancied.

17:39 Okay, British sci-fi.

17:41 Doctor Who.

17:43 But it's still getting Star Wars, Star Trek. Those are like the two biggest ones.

17:46 It could be, it could be, yeah.

17:47 My girlfriend's top pick was one particular actor who plays a very iconic character in the show.

17:53 Matt Smith.

17:54 I even knew who the character was, even though I'm not really into the show. And I'll admit, the guy is attractive. I have eyes, after all.

18:02 Okay.

18:03 Opie's funny.

18:04 Okay.

18:05 At some point, she jokingly asked if she could have a hall pass for him.

18:08 Who is it?

18:09 I need to know!

18:10 Tell me!

18:11 We need to know! Since this was clearly a ridiculous hypothetical that would never happen, I laughed and said, yes! Then thought nothing more of it. By the way, this comes from user IHateThatShow... F my life. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay. Storytime subreddit. I'm Keon.

18:28 I'm Sophia.

18:29 And we're here to give good advice. Goofily. That's all we know. We only know goofy things.

18:34 There's also stranger things.

18:36 That's like fantasy sci-fi.

18:38 That's true. That's true. Fair.

18:40 Let us know what you do in the comments down below and what you think.

18:42 Let us know what you think the show is.

18:43 Because we're really on that right now.

18:45 We're trying to figure it out.

18:46 As OP says, fast forward about four months, December 2024. So it's a modern show.

18:52 Okay. We know it's a modern show because they said that they've been watching. It's like probably a younger actor.

18:58 Yeah, yeah. Or their age. Yeah, of, yeah. My girlfriend and her friends went to a convention overseas where this actor and several others from the show were appearing.

19:07 Okay, big show, big show.

19:08 Big show. She invited me, but it was abroad. Who was she? And I couldn't get the time off work. That's what we're trying to figure out. All seemed to go well for her, and I was genuinely happy. She had such a fun experience. Then, uh-oh, a couple of weeks ago, her friend group had a falling out. What?

19:24 One of her friends reached out to me and told me my girlfriend had used her hall pass in Germany.

19:29 In Germany.

19:30 Okay, okay, okay. Germany Convention Center 2024.

19:34 The Mandalorian, Pedro Pascal.

19:37 Oh, that's a good one.

19:39 At first, I honestly thought it was a sick joke. I didn't believe it. But when I confronted my girlfriend, she admitted it without even trying to deny it. She slept with said hall pass. Ooh.

19:50 And that's when I go, Curly Pop, a hall pass is a joke.

19:55 To some people, it's not.

19:58 The correct way to approach a hall pass, if you have that in your relationship, you call your partner and you say, I have the opportunity to enact upon my hall pass. Yes or no?

20:09 OP just said, yeah, if you ever encounter this and you have the opportunity, You got the good.

20:15 But that's like a joke thing that people say.

20:17 Some people take that as not a joke.

20:19 I don't know.

20:20 I think that's stupid of the girlfriend if she just was like, it's not a joke. You said. That's ridiculous.

20:26 According to her, she met the actor during an autograph session at the convention. Later that evening, she and her friends saw him at the hotel bar and approached him. They all ended up hanging out, going to a few bars together, and eventually my girlfriend and this actor were alone. They kissed. Then, later that night, she left her hotel room and went to his, where they slept together.

20:47 Yeah, that's, yeah, I'm breaking up. Sorry.

20:51 As I was listening to this, I felt like I had been one-two'd in the stomach. The worst part is that she genuinely seems to believe she didn't do anything wrong.

21:00 She's dumb.

21:00 Because I had technically given her a hall pass.

21:03 Yeah, and I'm breaking up now because she's stupid. Also, I looked it up. Star Wars and Star Trek were the most popular at this convention. So it's one of those.

21:16 Listen, you're fantasy. I'm more sci-fi.

21:18 No, I believed you.

21:19 Oh, I know. It's one of those news shows. She admits she should have mentioned it sooner, but she's acting like the only real mistake was not telling me immediately.

21:30 I mean, that's one of many.

21:32 She said she wants to be transparent now that it's out. And she even showed me photos that back up the story. What kind of photos?

21:39 She's like, here's me kissing him.

21:41 Here's me in his bed.

21:42 Yeah.

21:42 So it actually happened. No, she definitely did that because she's like, this is my dream person.

21:49 She's obsessed with him.

21:51 Which, Opie says, I really didn't need to effing see.

21:54 Fair.

21:55 I feel sick. I hate that show now. I hate that dumb B-list pretty boy actor. Oh, man.

22:01 Who is this?

22:02 Who is it?

22:03 Who is it?

22:04 But I still love my girlfriend and that makes me feel like an idiot. Part of me wants to salvage this, but she's literally planning on going to Vegas where he and all the other actors are going to be next month.

22:15 Oh my goodness. Did he invite her?

22:16 100%. I asked her to not go, but she spent so much non-refundable money on this, she said I could come along and she'd even pay for me. She offered to introduce me to the guy to prove it's harmless, or I can have a hall pass from the show myself. Am I overreacting for still feeling like this was cheating?

22:34 Even though I jokingly agreed to the hall pass months before? We have an update.

22:38 I'm so sorry, OP. She full cheated on you.

22:41 She, I mean.

22:41 She full cheated on you.

22:43 But.

22:44 Even in scenarios where we have relationships that are poly, I would still consider this cheating because there was no communication. Yeah.

22:53 She should have definitely be like, hey. It's happening, but before it actually happens, like... Checking in. Yeah. Do I get the hall pass? OP, you should have never said it in the first place.

23:05 Yeah. I mean, I don't know.

23:07 I think I've, like, I've probably made that joke with my boyfriend.

23:11 But your boyfriend probably understands you.

23:12 Yeah, and vice versa. I feel like we've both been like, oh, my God, yeah, that person.

23:16 But, like, I feel like OP's girlfriend is so infatuated by that actor that, like, I don't think she needed the... have them. Yeah, I don't think she needed the okay go or like the green light. She's like, I'm taking that opportunity no matter what.

23:31 I don't think she cared. The fact that she hid it from you, I think shows that she knows at some part of herself that it was wrong.

23:39 You probably went, sure, you can have a hall pass. The fact that she didn't bring one up for you either. She was like, good, great. That's all I needed. I got the, I got the, he said yes.

23:49 Yeah.

23:49 We have an update. Who is it?

23:51 Who is it?

23:53 I've taken everything into account. I still feel sick to my stomach, but I know I was being an idiot and making excuses.

23:58 What?

23:59 Being in love with someone isn't easy. And I was stupidly trying to hold onto anything. Even though I said yes initially, looking back, I truly can't see how it was anything other than a joke. And not only that she should have clarified when it was actually going to happen.

24:12 Hmm.

24:13 Plus, since it's all come out, my feelings have clearly been disregarded.

24:17 Yeah.

24:17 I know what I have to do, but that doesn't make it any easier. I hope you continue saying, I've had so many messages asking who the man is. Yes. And we are on that same boat. He's from Star Trek, so give me my flowers.

24:33 You said Star Wars.

24:35 No, I said Star Wars, Star Trek.

24:36 Yeah. Well, I think that he's from Starfleet Academy because that whole cast is pretty attractive.

24:42 Let's be honest. OP's probably not going to put that man's name out there just because to cover face.

24:46 No, they'd be like, hey, you're freaking blah, blah, blah.

24:50 But OP continues saying, I hate that show now and I hope it gets canceled forever.

24:55 Mm-hmm.

24:55 I'm never dating anyone again who likes it.

24:57 LOL.

24:58 Nah, don't do that. Come on. I also didn't know the man was dating someone. F him too. Oh. Unless if they are like open.

25:07 Caleb mirror relationship.

25:10 Opie continues saying, a lot of people have commented I should use my hall pass in a way to screw her over. As funny as that would be, I don't want to sink to those levels.

25:19 Yeah.

25:20 It's the eye for an eye thing and everyone becomes blind. Yeah. Yeah. And Opie's distraught and upset. That is the end of that story.

25:28 Oh, wow.

25:29 I'm sorry, Opie. I'm sorry that you found this out. And this was found out through his ex's, or soon-to-be ex's friend. Because they even knew that was messed up. Yeah.

25:40 Oh, your girlfriend stinks, but at least she has her Star Trek lover now. I hope it was worth it.

25:47 All you say to your girlfriend or your ex-girlfriend is, live long and prosper.

25:51 Live long and prosper.

25:53 And that's the end of this story. We're going to go on to the next one. Hey, it's Keon, the silliest goose. We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

26:04 My girlfriend paid a stranger to flirt with me as a loyalty test.

26:09 Stop.

26:11 And there is a trigger warning for mentions of previously harmful exes. My girlfriend, 22, female, and I, 25, male, have known each other for 10 years now. I met her through her brother, who is still one of my best friends, when I was 15 and she was 12. Over the years, we became really close friends, but we were never interested in each other dating-wise until last year after we hooked up at a party and we decided we would give it a try. Give it the old college try. Things were going great. I really saw myself building a future with her, but over the years, A couple of things happened that started giving me doubts about us. Uh-oh.

26:44 By the way, this comes from Trust Issues Guy. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.

26:51 I'm Dakota.

26:52 I'm Sophia.

26:53 And we're going to read this story and give our thoughts and our little goofy advices, but just know we don't know everything. But if you know things, put them in the comments where we can read them.

27:01 Please.

27:03 And OP says, Incident 1. Seven months in, we go out for a weekend holiday with a couple of our friends... Two girls and a guy. There, she decides she doesn't want to share a room with me, but wants to share one with her girls, and I should room with my friend.

27:20 That's immediately weird.

27:22 She's just, she's for the girls, dude.

27:24 She's like, it's girls time. If I'm on a trip with my boyfriend plus friends, I'm not not going to be in the same room with my boyfriend.

27:33 Well, it gets worse, Sophia.

27:35 Oh, no.

27:36 She then proceeds to tell everyone we met that we're just F buddies. We're just bang buddies. And she's single. This really pisses me off. But I didn't want to ruin the mood. So I talked about it with her later that night. I ask her why she was telling those things to people when we had been dating for seven months, and she tells me because that's what we are, we're just having a bit of fun.

27:58 Oh, and I'm immediately cutting that off. I go, oh, okay, bye.

28:04 Conspiracy theory.

28:05 Yeah.

28:05 She's just doing this because you're her brother's best friend.

28:10 Doing what?

28:10 She's saying this because she doesn't want it to be weird that she's dating her older brother's friend. That's my conspiracy theory. That's why she's being, that's why she's moving weird.

28:20 I don't know.

28:20 This is because she thinks it's weird. We go back and forth until I get mad and my buddy suggests we go home. When we're packing our bags, I hear my girlfriend crying upstairs to her friends. And when I'm about to leave, she comes downstairs and asks if I want to talk. She tells me about her ex-boyfriend and how he was harmful and that because of him, she's afraid to let someone get close to her. Looks like I was not on the money with my take. This hit me like a ton of bricks.

28:47 Why?

28:47 I understood why she would be careful letting someone get close. We talked it out and I decided to stay for the rest of the weekend and we had a really good time. Incident two, 10 months in.

28:57 I don't know. I'm breaking up after the first incident. The second that my partner goes around, starts telling people in front of me, oh yeah, that's just my F buddy. I'm single.

29:07 I think given the context and the fact that it was in front of you and not behind your back. That you know of. If it was behind my back, different vibe. But also, yes, that I know of.

29:18 Mm-hmm.

29:19 But given the context, I would be like, okay, I can forgive this.

29:23 You get one strike.

29:24 For that, yeah. We're driving, and she noticed my ex-girlfriend from three years ago started following me on Twitter. I tell her how my ex sent me a message asking how I was doing, and we had a short, friendly conversation. My girlfriend gets mad and asks me what I'm up to, and... my ex.

29:40 Oh gosh.

29:41 I tell her it's nothing. I even tell her to look at the messages. This isn't enough. And it gets to the point where she tells me to pull over and calls her friend to pick her up. And that's the last time you deal with that.

29:55 Yeah, I'm done. I'm over. I'm like, okay, I cannot handle your moods. I cannot handle your insecurities.

30:02 Yes, no matter how justified your mistrust of me or your insecurities in this relationship are, they are not things I would like to deal with.

30:10 Nope.

30:10 No, thank you.

30:11 I wait until her friend picks her up and then drive home. When she comes home, she immediately apologizes about how she acted, how I never gave her a reason to not trust me, and how she's insecure because of her ex.

30:24 Yeah, like at a certain point, you can't use that excuse anymore. Mm-hmm.

30:27 It's true.

30:28 I tell her it's fine. Until a couple of nights later, she has a little too much to drink and completely breaks down. She talks about how she's such a terrible girlfriend and how I deserve better and I should be with my ex and how she'll never really trust anyone. I try to cheer her up and eventually she starts believing me and falls asleep.

30:45 Okay.

30:46 Incident number three, 14 months in, which was yesterday. We had plans with one of her friends, but I get a call that she has to work late and that I should meet her friend at the bar.

30:56 No.

30:57 Like immediately I'm like, no, let's reschedule.

30:59 I mean, if I'm friends with this friend, I'm like, okay, sure.

31:02 If I'm friends with them on my own, right? But if I'm like friends through my partner, then I'm saying, let's just reschedule. Yeah.

31:10 It's like, I'll wait. No big deal.

31:12 No rush.

31:13 When her friend goes to the bathroom, I get approached by a woman asking me if the person I'm with is my girlfriend. I tell her, no, she's just a friend. She then asks if she could buy me a drink. I tell her, no, thank you. I already have one. She then asks if she could give me her number so we could hang out later. I told her, no, I have a girlfriend and I'm not interested. Out comes my girlfriend with a huge smile on her face telling me I passed the test.

31:40 Oh, that's so funny. I don't have a girlfriend anymore.

31:42 Yeah.

31:43 And now she can trust me. Well, you can trust that I'm leaving.

31:46 Yeah. No, I literally, in that moment, I would turn to the woman that performed the test and say, oh, it's so funny. I actually am single now.

31:56 I just recently found out I'm single and I would love to take you up on that drink.

32:01 And then you walk away from this girl.

32:02 She paid this woman $ 50 to flirt with me to see what I would do.

32:08 Oh my God.

32:09 It turns out it was her friend's idea.

32:11 Yikes.

32:12 And she had done this to one of her ex-boyfriends.

32:14 Oh, and how did that go? Yeah.

32:16 Note that that says... ex-boyfriend i get upset that she still doesn't trust me after 14 months mind you and i'm done she starts crying telling me she's sorry but i tell her i can't deal with it anymore yeah agreed.

32:31 Brother agreed oh yeah big time agree this.

32:34 Is like the ultimate like bro walk i'm walking away i.

32:38 Walked after the first time i walked when she called me an f buddy after seven months of dating.

32:45 Yeah, wise, wise decision. I don't want to talk to her until I've thought about our relationship and I suggest she should do the same. That's where I'm at right now. She called me once today and I didn't pick up. She left a message about how sorry she was and how she really loves me and that it was stupid for her to try and test me. I really hope you guys have some advice for me.

33:02 Yep.

33:03 Break up. It's time to walk a thousand miles to Africa. You're done.

33:07 You're done. Your relationship is over. It's been over for months.

33:11 And you say, I hope that this teaches you how to be. And that you can't be this way. I'm not. I can't. I can't do this.

33:18 Yeah.

33:19 Because when's the next test?

33:20 You can't just keep blaming your ex.

33:23 Every single thing that happens to me forever now is going to be, is this a test? Is this a test? Am I being tested?

33:28 Because it's almost in the same vein to me as if your partner is still in love with their ex.

33:34 Yeah. It's like the opposite side of the coin.

33:37 Yeah.

33:38 Yeah.

33:39 That's a good one.

33:39 Well, we do have an update.

33:41 Oh, boy.

33:41 I really.

33:43 I really just hope it ends in the best possible situation for everybody here.

33:47 Please, please.

33:49 Today, I got a call from my girlfriend's brother.

33:51 Oh, yep.

33:53 Forgot he was a player. One of my best friends. He asks if he can come over and have a talk with me about what happened. Girlfriend told him what happened at the bar, and I was glad he saw why I was mad. He thought what his sister did was not cool. Especially 14 months into a relationship. But he asked me if it was worth throwing away what I had with my girlfriend over a stupid mistake.

34:14 And then you get to tell him, oh, she told you it was one mistake? There was a lot.

34:19 It's been a series. I told him it wasn't the only thing that bothered me. And told him about the other incidents, which he did not know about. He then started telling me the same story girlfriend keeps telling me when she lashes out at me. The harmful ex- Trouble trusting people.

34:35 For 14 months?

34:36 Yeah. I mean, I get it. But at some point.

34:39 At some point, you have to realize that you're not ready for a relationship. Yeah.

34:44 You know?

34:45 Yes.

34:46 I tell him I've heard it all before. And at this point, I don't believe she's ready to date someone long term. Yep. And she should get help.

34:54 Yep.

34:54 He tells me that he knows she really loves me and should get help. But if I bail on her now, she'll never get better at trusting people. He wants me to help her get better. You cannot be responsible for that.

35:07 Oh, that is not your responsibility at all.

35:11 If you break up with her, you'll never be able to fix her.

35:13 Yeah.

35:14 What? Nah.

35:15 No, I turn to him and say, oh, so you think a man will fix all of her problems? You think a relationship will fix all of her problems? It hasn't worked in a year. We've been together for a year and it has not worked.

35:27 He then straight up asks me if I want to break up with her. And I tell him I don't know, but it cannot go on this way. He tells me he would like it if we tried to make it work, but he can't make that choice for me.

35:39 Yeah, no, you can't. Leave me alone.

35:40 There's a second update.

35:42 Stop getting involved in my relationship. That's the problem, though, when you date your bro's sisters.

35:47 He's looking out for his sister and he's trying to look out for you.

35:50 Yeah.

35:51 Because to be honest. Three incidents in 14 months is not a lot of incidents.

35:57 But they were pretty awful incidents.

35:59 They've all been about the same thing, though.

36:02 Yes, about a lack of trust.

36:04 Update two. I met up with my girlfriend to have a talk about what happened at the bar. She wanted to meet at my place, but I preferred somewhere more neutral. Update two. I met up with my girlfriend to have a talk about what happened at the bar. She wanted to meet at my place, but I preferred somewhere more neutral.

36:21 She apologized for testing me. She told me she was going to get help dealing with her trust issues and really wants to get better. She still really loves me and hopes I'll support her, preferably as her boyfriend. But at this point, she'll take us being friends. I told her I was happy she's getting help, but I can't stay in this relationship just because of promises. I needed actions from her. She basically told me it wasn't an empty promise, that she realizes she needs to learn to trust people because even if I walk, nothing gets fixed.

36:50 She asked me to please give her one last chance. No.

36:53 We're at three strikes. We're at, she did a test. She tested you. She paid someone $ 50.

36:59 I don't think building something as fundamental as like the ability to trust your partner is something you can do while you're in a relationship with someone. I think you need to be at zero and be with yourself.

37:12 Yeah, because she's working from like, This is like base level. She's down here and she's trying like you want to be maybe here with your partner. She's trying to get from here to here. Just go get to here, girly pop.

37:25 Yeah, let's go.

37:26 Let's not go on hard mode.

37:27 I told her I'd give her one last chance. But it would have to be terms because I can't keep going based on hope. Yeah, you can't keep going with a contract either, brother.

37:38 Yeah, this sucks, dude.

37:41 She said she would do whatever it takes.

37:43 No, she won't.

37:44 Well, what if it takes breaking up?

37:45 Yeah.

37:46 She needs to get professional help. I'll support her in getting it, but I can't help with her issues. I tried for seven months and it's clear I can't do anything to help her get over it. No more tests or unreasonable outbursts. If it happens again, I'll walk and she'll also lose me as a friend. And see, this is where the problem starts. Because now... Because you.

38:04 Said that every time.

38:05 She's going to be operating from a place of, okay, even if I do feel these things, I can't express them. So now it just turns into a game of hide and seek with our feelings.

38:14 Yeah. Well, the problem is that she can have those feelings. But the answer is to not is not to have a test or tell friends that you're not in a relationship with this person, etc. It's to talk to your partner and say, hey, I'm having these feelings. Can you reassure me verbally?

38:33 Yeah. Our relationships. She damaged it, and it will take a while to fix. We had been talking about moving in together before all of this, but I made it clear that was off the table for a while. I wanted the key to my apartment back that I gave her. Her test made me a little paranoid, and now she's going to have to earn my trust back. She agreed with all of these terms. The only thing that kept bothering me was why she thought the test was a good idea. She told me her mom brought up a couple that broke up because the husband cheated. and made the comment about how he always looked like the perfect husband, just like your boyfriend.

39:06 Oh my goodness. Her family and friends stink.

39:10 Classic move. This made my girlfriend panic, and she went to talk to a friend who suggested she should test me. But I was more interested in the comments her mom made. It turns out her mom has been making these comments for almost our entire relationship. Things like how I'd end up leaving her and breaking her heart again. Thanks, mom.

39:30 How I looked a lot happier with my ex. And that once I go abroad for work, I'll find a mistress because they all do. Hey, your mom sounds like a sad, bitter lady.

39:42 Yeah, let me guess. She's divorced.

39:44 By the way, my work doesn't even send people abroad anyway.

39:47 Yeah, wait, what? I thought that was based on something. She just said, when you go abroad.

39:53 It's just based on vibes.

39:55 Okay.

39:55 Nobody knows this is going on. Not even her dad and her brother. I feel they should be in the know, and so does my girlfriend, but she's terrified she'll rip her family apart. What the F do I do with this? There's a third update. Man, it sounds like her family is just like, at.

40:10 Least her mom.

40:11 Yeah.

40:11 Super toxic.

40:12 Oh, yeah.

40:13 Incredibly so. I would be, I mean, this is unraveling an even bigger web of mistrust that she's learned from her ex and learned from her mother and her friend. She just surrounds herself with people that are terrible for her.

40:31 Just a big web of sticky nonsense coming from people she trusts. Update three. After our talk, We came to the conclusion that in order for her to get the help she needs, two things need to happen. She needs to move out of her parents' house and away from her mom. And we need to tell her dad and brother what's been going on. Girlfriend was hesitant. She didn't want to break up her family, but I convinced her about at least telling her brother. So if mom tries to manipulate other family members, we at least have someone on our side. We called her brother over and informed him of our talk and our plans. He was happy we were able to work things out and promised his support.

41:12 When we told him about what his mom had been doing, he was furious. He had noticed she'd been making offhanded comments to him, too. He supported telling her dad and offered to let her stay at his place for as long as she needed. We met their parents the next day. Her brother and I agreed she needed to confront her mother.

41:29 She told her parents what had been going on and how she was going to get therapy.

41:33 The moment.

41:34 She mentioned therapy her mom flat out refused, insisting she didn't need it and that therapy was for crazy people.

41:43 And for you, girl.

41:44 Sounds like somebody who can't talk to a therapist because they don't like what they say.

41:49 Sounds like someone who needs therapy.

41:51 Her dad tried to calm things down and said she should be allowed to get it, but her mom only got louder. Should be allowed is crazy because.

41:59 Yeah, she's an adult?

42:00 Because she is 22. She's an adult?

42:02 Yeah.

42:03 When I said that if her mom wasn't willing to help her, I would, her mom turned on me completely. accusing me of manipulating her daughter since day one, which is funny because that's what mom did, and driving a wedge between her and her children. Her brother shot back that if anyone was making his sister paranoid, it was their mom, which sent her into a screaming fit about being disrespected in her own house and threatening to call the cops. Well, we have zeroed in on the problem, haven't we?

42:32 Yep.

42:32 And there it is. I am impressed that Opie stuck around. And seemingly, yeah, we've discovered who the real culprit is. You've unmasked the Scooby-Doo villain.

42:45 Yeah, it turns out your ex-boyfriend wasn't the only person who was harming you in your life.

42:50 No.

42:51 It's also your mother.

42:53 What?

42:53 Shocker. Then came the part that really got to my girlfriend. Her mom started pleading with her, saying I was just like her harmful ex and would hurt her the same way, reminding her that she was the one who was there for her before. Oh. Savior complex.

43:11 Yeah, I'm the one who had helped you. I'm the only one who loves you.

43:16 My girlfriend finally snapped back that I actually cared about her, unlike her mom. And that all her mom had done for years was throw her past mistakes in her face and rain on her happiness. Her mom told her that if she refused to learn, she could pack her bags and get out. And my girlfriend simply told her that was the plan all along.

43:36 She's like, don't worry, I'm going. And dad just sat there?

43:39 Dad's just been soaking it in, arms crossed. Sitting there thinking, should I.

43:47 Be married to my wife?

43:49 Thinking, how much do lawyers cost? Oh, boy.

43:54 Her mom then left the room, and her dad went after her. We started gathering my girlfriend's valuables and clothes, and as we were trying to leave, the police arrived.

44:04 Come on.

44:05 Her mom called them, telling them I was kidnapping her daughter... And had bad intent when she tried to stop me.

44:12 Yes, this man who is my daughter's boyfriend is kidnapping my 22-year-old daughter who is leaving willingly.

44:20 Please, please, please, please, please tell me she gets charged with false reports.

44:24 Yeah, that would be great. That would be awesome.

44:26 Please, please, please, please, please.

44:28 Send her to jail. Take her away, boys.

44:31 Such a serious thing to also falsely report as well. Girlfriend explains to the cops what's going on. Meanwhile, mom's yelling at them to arrest me.

44:40 Arrest that man. Arrest him.

44:43 The cops end up arresting her instead.

44:45 Yes.

44:47 Love to see that. The justice system prevails today.

44:52 Pow.

44:54 Big wins.

44:55 Girlfriend hugged her dad goodbye, telling him she'll call, but it's not good for her to be at home right now. They were both crying. We went to her brother's place, unpacked everything, and that is the end of our night. Today, Saturday, girlfriend gets a text from her dad. Mom came home and smashed all the things we couldn't take and talks about how she doesn't have a daughter anymore. Yeah, crazy.

45:19 What is that complex? Let us know in the comments what complex this is because it's so clear that it's like, Something messed up in her brain where she's like, no one else can have my daughter. I'm the only one who's allowed to show up for her.

45:33 Yeah. She belongs to me. Right.

45:36 And now that she's gone, it's like full blown nuclear meltdown.

45:40 It's the, it's the, you know, mother Gothel tangle.

45:44 Yes.

45:45 Yes, exactly.

45:46 Girlfriend doesn't care. She's happy she's out, and she has her first therapy session next Wednesday. I'll do my part, and it seems girlfriend is willing to do hers. We have a long way to go, but at least we've set the first steps. And that is the end of that story.

46:02 Wow, y'all really pulled it back. I did not have any faith in your relationship, let me tell you that.

46:07 Yeah, it was really on the outs there for a second.

46:10 I wanted to be done in the first, you know, first foul.

46:15 One strike, you're out.

46:15 Yeah, truly. I was done on the first strike. And here we are, three strikes later, a whole move out and a crazy mom.

46:25 All those strikes belonged to the mother.

46:27 Yeah, wow.

46:28 The mother!

46:29 Sometimes I guess you're... Joke's on me, I guess.

46:34 And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go on to the next one.

46:38 My boyfriend's friend keeps flirting with him right in front of me?

46:42 Excuse me, that's mine.

46:44 This is going to sound like a typical insecure girlfriend, but I promise. It's not like that. My boyfriend and I have been together for over six months and he's really great. He has a friend that he's had for years who is a girl. Normally, I'm not the type to be all like, you're not allowed to hang out with a single girl alone. But I'm considering telling my boyfriend that he's not allowed to hang out with this girl alone. This girl is obviously so into him. and she def wants me to know she's coming for him.

47:14 She keeps saying stuff like, you don't know him like I do yet. We used to all go to that place together all the time before you guys started dating. Oh my gosh, remember when we went on a hike, just the two of us, Josh? That was the best day. She also had cute pet names for him, but I didn't like that, so as soon as I heard it, I told my boyfriend I didn't like it and he made her stop. I asked her straight up if she's into him and her response pissed me off so much.

47:41 She was like, I know it's intimidating how close he and I are, but don't worry. You're the girlfriend. I'm just the friend.

47:48 Right?

47:49 With the smug smile on her face, I got so mad, but I couldn't talk to my boyfriend about it yet. By the way, this comes from throwawayjohn095553. And if you want to see my own stories, you know where to go. I'm Riley.

48:01 I'm Savannah.

48:01 We're going to read the story goofily. If you have anything to add, please add it down below. I want to tell him to cut her out of his life so bad, I don't know if I can do that. My boyfriend's dad passed away two years ago with a heart condition. He told me that his dad... was his best friend growing up, so it hit him really hard.

48:18 He was the only family my boyfriend had. Apparently, this girl really helped him get through it. She apparently was there for him throughout the whole thing. That's why he says she's like a sister to him. That's why I don't know what to do. I already asked him to set some boundaries, like she can't text late at night or come over to his place unannounced all the time, And no interrupting our alone time together. My boyfriend doesn't realize that she's into him. Kinda don't blame him on that one because all of her flirts are subtle enough that he doesn't realize. But enough to get me riled up.

48:52 I know my boyfriend isn't into her at all. And he's completely friendzoned her. But it's still so frustrating. I hate to admit it. She's so good at getting under my skin. I don't know what to do. I really need some advice. Thanks, Reddit. If you have a big enough ice block and you tie it to a rope and then you tie her ankle to the other side, you guys are in the middle of an ocean. By the time she sinks down, the ice block will dissipate and there will be no evidence that you tied it around her ankle.

49:18 What does that have to do with literally.

49:20 Anything i'm just saying this is how you can get rid of her oh sure.

49:23 Well then bring it out to the boyfriend what are you doing.

49:26 She's mentioned little things i don't like this nickname i don't like this i don't like that But nothing to the extent of I don't want her around. I don't want her to intrude our alone time.

49:36 But they've only been together for six months.

49:38 Half a year.

49:39 That's a reasonable time.

49:40 Does she have the right to say this?

49:42 Yes, if she's infringing on the relationship, then yeah, she does have a right. If she feels threatened by this girl and this girl has been giving her weird side comments and being like, I'm just the best friend, right?

49:53 Screw you. And guess what?

49:55 I'm going to tell my boyfriend and be like, yeah, she's crazy, whatever, la la la. And he's going to sign with me. And if he doesn't, then that's on them.

50:02 Thanks to everyone for the advice. I've decided that I will tell my boyfriend everything she's done so far and see how he handles it. To be honest, I was hoping I'd avoid telling my boyfriend about it, but she left me no choice. In the meantime, I don't know how I'll bring it up to my boyfriend, but I'll figure it out.

50:21 Update.

50:21 After reading the comments, I decided just to bring it up with him without telling him what I want to do. To avoid sounding controlling, I sat him down and told him that some of the stuff she says really makes me uncomfortable. I told him that I feel like she's undermining our relationship. I gave him a few examples of the stuff she said and done that I still don't appreciate.

50:44 He still doesn't think she's into him. He's convinced that she's acting this way because she probably feels like they're drifting apart as friends because he's in a serious relationship now, which is frustrating me a little, to be honest, because it's clear to me that she wants him, but being subtle about it. She said that regardless of her intentions, if her actions are making me uncomfortable, he'll have a talk with her about it. I was happy. He said that because I was really nervous and anxious to see how he'll react. I was afraid he'll take her side.

51:17 He can be a dummy sometimes, so I was worried that he'd bring it up with her in the wrong way. Like saying, my girlfriend doesn't want us talking anymore and stuff like that. But he nailed it. He told her in a text, dude, I know some of the stuff you've been saying in front of my girlfriend lately, and I've been wanting to talk to you about it. It's mad disrespectful and uncomfortable. We're cool, but just stop that crap. Naturally, she acted all innocent and confused. She was like, what?

51:43 You know, I'd never do anything that would upset you. I think you're misunderstanding and stuff like that. He doubled down on it anyways. I could tell he felt somewhat guilty after telling her off like that. And I don't know if he's convinced that she's trying to undermine a relationship or not.

51:59 But.

51:59 I'm so glad that he had my back on this. You passed the.

52:03 Test, man.

52:04 You did. Truly is.

52:05 If you choose, if your partner is feeling uncomfortable, you have to, I mean, you don't have to choose them but in this particular situation yes you should choose your partner your partner should come first before anyone else obviously but you know there are some things situations where that's not possible.

52:22 But this one i think you handled very well agreed agreed good job i'm honestly kind of glad this whole thing happened it gave me a better idea of what kind of man he really is he even said he'll stop hanging out with her alone If that makes me feel uncomfortable. He was also low-key mad at me for waiting this long to tell him I was uncomfortable around her.

52:40 It's a new relationship. It takes a little bit. She doesn't really know her place.

52:43 Yeah, and you didn't want to cause any riff in anyone's relationships or, you know, anything.

52:49 Save to say that the best possible outcome happened. He really put her in her place. And not gonna lie... It made me feel really good about it. All I could think of was, I won, LMAO. Thanks to everyone for encouraging me to tell him because even though I knew that's what I should have done, I was still scared to do it for some reason. I even thought about potentially just avoiding her for good, which sounds ridiculous now that I think about it because I shouldn't have to hide from her. I guess I'm just not good at confrontations. Thanks for the helpful advice, everyone. Okay, story time here. I knew a girl back in Tennessee. We were part of like the same church group. She was my friend since 16. But one of the things she

53:26 would do whenever guys would be in relationships with like her girlfriends would have guy friends or like boyfriends or whatever. She would say, oh my gosh, remember guy friend whenever we would used to do this. I know you for so long. Well, like comparing like that, like doing that thing. And these guys would start getting interested in her. She's pretty.

53:43 And they would break up with their girlfriends and kind of pursue her. And then she would kind of block it or just kind of like wait for them to crawl to her and would not have that type of relationship with them anymore. It would only happen in the context of the boyfriend being in a relationship with a boy.

53:56 It was weird. It was really weird. She wouldn't agree to it. A lot of her friends realized it and it was kind of weird. Like I thought she was a good friend of mine and I asked her to go to coffee because I had something in my life happen where it was like, I'm moving to LA. You've always wanted to move to LA. How have you explained that to like people? And she's like, I don't hang out with guys one-on-one. She said that before, but I'm like, it's coffee. It's in a public place. It's not going to feel like one-on-one because all of our friends are going to be around because everyone goes to that coffee shop.

54:19 But it's kind of weird. She got married recently.

54:21 Well, she found her man.

54:22 Good for her. Good for her. I don't know why girls do that whenever guys are in relationships.

54:28 I don't do that.

54:29 Have you seen those memes where it's like a girl, whenever you're in a relationship, she puts on makeup. Oh my God. It's been so long since I've seen you.

54:36 I've just never done that.

54:38 Good for you guys. We got another story coming right up.

54:40 My girlfriend hasn't worked in three years and won't even look for a job.

54:45 Okay.

54:45 You got to do it now.

54:46 I have been dating a girl some years younger than me. She still lives at home and is an only child. Her parents pay for most things as she doesn't currently have a job. When we met, she admitted she wasn't working and couldn't really afford to date and suggested low-cost activities. As such, I've been covering dating expenses while we've been dating.

55:05 but told her I would only do this on a temporary basis, at max about three months. We're about a month in now and she recently revealed she.

55:13 Hasn't worked in nearly three years.

55:15 She also revealed she hadn't been looking for work at all. She doesn't even have an up-to-date resume. We have had several serious talks about the situation as she hasn't been looking for work and it really concerns me. I've been really clear that I can't see us lasting past the three-month mark unless she finds work because I'm not willing to support a partner long term. Her refusing to even look after being told, that makes me think she doesn't take me very seriously or doesn't take my feelings on the situation very seriously. I'm gutted each day when she tells me she spent it doing something other than job searching, which I've yet to hear about her doing. By the way, this comes from Advanced Dance. And if you want to

55:52 submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.

55:55 I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.

55:57 And we are here to give some good advice in a little goofy way, but we don't have all your answers. Let me tell you what we would do, but let us know what you would do down in the comments. She is very loving and respectful when she visits my place. She does chores without being asked. She cooks most of the meals when she is here. She frequently cleans up before I'm finished eating because she's a faster eater. She really does try to contribute to the household in domestic ways.

56:19 We are also very compatible in the bedroom. I'm realizing this probably isn't going to last, and I don't know how to gracefully deal with the situation. I'm 100% on board to keep seeing her if she'll genuinely begin... looking for work, but I'm more and more feeling like this is going to turn into a situation where she'll run out of money and look to me to fix it, which I'm unwilling to do. I'm willing to cover the dating expenses for up to three months as I've told her.

56:43 but I'm not willing to lend slash give her any money. I feel like if she can't afford to see me as a consequence of her not working and not even trying to, that's her basically having broken up with me due to disinterest. Is this a twisted way to see it? I'd feel differently if she was actively looking for work.

56:59 Am I wasting my time hoping she will get motivated and begin applying? I am reluctant to throw away such an otherwise fantastic relationship Similar hobbies, life goals, interests, long-term plans, spicy hobby. In what is a very small dating pool, sapphic community. However, a partner's independence is critical to me, and if she can't demonstrate her ability to achieve it, This is going nowhere fast.

57:21 Okay. So this is interesting because we didn't have genders. I did not know. I just assumed my straight brain. Yeah.

57:28 Oops.

57:28 Dang it. I mean, it is interesting because this is a sapphic relationship, but has very traditional, you know, looking set up here.

57:37 A traditional microscope.

57:40 A traditional way of looking at it sure yeah i mean they've just like approached it a very traditional way and i'm interested in i don't know in why like what made this girl operate this way you know has she tried other relationships tried to do this in our other relationships and not succeeded.

58:00 Or maybe in her other relationships they made her stop working You know, or yeah, or.

58:05 She was like she could be bi and she could have dated men who were more traditional and then is applying that to a queer relationship. We don't know.

58:12 Please help me with setting good boundaries here. I broke things off shortly after I posted and read your comments to do so. It matched what my friends and Ed were saying. We remain friends with benefits and see each other about once a week or a clearly defined period of time. She knows I'm continuing to date. I've been very upfront about it. But has told me she probably won't be dating until she solves her job situation. Not like she could afford to unless her date always paid for her anyways.

58:37 She admitted a week.

58:39 Or so into the friends with benefits thing that she wasn't going to act on the job situation until it became an emergency with immediate consequences. And said she could see her current situation continuing until her parents downsized their home and punt her out.

58:52 Which is years off.

58:53 She said her last girlfriend ended things with her for the same reason. Clearly, I made the right call. I was really upfront with her that I'd be willing to consider a relationship in the future if she was independent, but her lack of progress in that area was a deal breaker for me.

59:06 I think you made the right decision, OP. Yeah, she's not gonna change. and no.

59:10 That's not part of your, you know, you want someone who has ambition, who has drive, who has motivation, and she clearly does not.

59:17 Some people don't. And sometimes people make it work. I really think within like the first maybe year, six months, I don't know what the timeline is, but especially not in the first month, you shouldn't be wanting to change your partner. Really?

59:31 I don't know.

59:32 Really? Like at all? Maybe not at all.

59:34 Like, I don't know.

59:35 I don't know what the level of change is allowed that you can want, but I think to this level, you shouldn't want to change your partner that much. It's just incompatibility.

59:43 She says she understands and knows her not working as a deal breaker for most people. She just hoped that I could look past it and see what a great person she was. I said I could clearly see she was a wonderful person, but that financially supporting someone, barring medical issues with a long-term partner, is a hard no from me and from almost anyone with good boundaries, especially at the beginning of a relationship.

1:00:04 Independence is spicy.

1:00:08 She pouted a bit and then offered a friends with benefit arrangement, which I accepted because, well, that side of things.

1:00:14 It's great.

1:00:14 She is back on her medication at my urging and is starting therapy soon, so maybe that will help to motivate her. But if not, I have a date with a woman who works in my industry on Tuesday and have been here.

1:00:26 Apps again.

1:00:27 It's not hopeless out there, and I get to have good spicy sleep in the meantime.

1:00:30 Win-win.

1:00:31 Thanks all for your advice.

1:00:34 Oh, please. You can't put her down. You can't punch her down. You can't bring this girl down. You push her down, she's coming right back up. She pops right back up. She says, don't worry, I got a friends with benefits situation. She said, don't worry, my life's freaking great. I'm getting it on both ends. I'm single and ready to mingle. Hey, I got on the maps. But that's the end of that story. And we got another one coming right up. I let my boyfriend crash for a week.

1:00:58 Now he won't move out. Oh, buddy, it's move out o'clock. My boyfriend, 30 male, and I, 23 female, have been dating around two months. In that time, he has quit his job for another job that didn't materialize and had to move out of his apartment because the lease was up and he was jobless. And at the time, he was planning to move to another place after starting the new job. He's been staying with me since then. about a month and it seems like he's not really trying terribly hard to find employment. He's put out resumes but not gotten any interviews and I doubt it's because of lack of experience or something. We live in a service industry oriented town. It's generally not that hard to find something to do in that industry. So for the past

1:01:36 month I've been paying for everything. Food, drinks, when we go out, haven't charged him for anything. He does help around the house, which I appreciate, but I didn't sign up for living together after a month of dating. I agreed to let him crash with me because he was supposed to be starting the new job like a week later, and presumably once he got paid, he would have moved on.

1:01:55 This has stressed me out a lot. I really wasn't ready to live together, and I thought that was clear. And just seeing that nothing was changing for the past month was making me extremely uncomfortable. So I started pulling back a bit. I'm a person that needs a good bit of alone time, and I literally never get it now.

1:02:10 He's always there. I brought this up last night because he asked me if something was wrong, and I calmly explained that while I wasn't going to punt him to the curb, I needed him to find his own place as soon as possible, and I needed him to be out of the house a few nights a week so I could recharge. This did not go over well. By the way, this comes from Deleted, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash showcase story time subreddit.

1:02:32 I'm Sophia.

1:02:32 And I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do. So let us know what you would do. In the comments. He went crazy. He said I lied to him for the past three weeks because I didn't tell him I wasn't happy with him staying there. I was just hoping that he'd find a job so I wouldn't have to make it seem like I was punting him out with no options. He can't understand how I don't have enough space even though we are together literally the entire time I'm not at work. He was going on and on about how much he cares about me.

1:03:01 And how he's tried so hard to make me happy, etc. And I just feel like he didn't hear me at all. Yeah, it sounds a lot like him, him, him. Like, oh my gosh, what am I going to do? And how could you do this to me?

1:03:15 I don't know, dude.

1:03:16 Get a job. That's what you're going to do? This has happened in the past where I try to calmly bring up an issue when I'm not even mad just to communicate with him. And he turns it around into a woe is me type thing. Is it so crazy that I don't want to live with someone I've only been dating for two months? Especially when they aren't even supporting themselves right now? I don't know what to do.

1:03:34 I don't have anyone to talk about this. Most of our friends are mutual and I feel like I'm going to end up without friends if I don't handle this well. I wasn't even trying to break up when I told them I needed space and to live separately. But his reaction made me question that and think maybe we should.

1:03:49 There is an update. What do you think? Yeah, I think that this isn't going to work out.

1:03:53 You're already like, you know, having this huge like blowout after dating for two months and him not getting, not looking for a job, not getting a job.

1:04:01 And then also being like, I'm just going to stay here. And it's like, actually, dude, I'm not your mom. So no, I don't have to pay for you. And I don't have to house you. Absolutely. There is no responsibility to this 30 year old man. Update. I got home yesterday. I posted this while at work, and he immediately called me asking if he could come over to get some clothes.

1:04:19 It was raining. I said fine. Predictably, he came over and started being manipulative, telling me he's been out in the rain all day and has nowhere to go. Even though at this point I had not yet even punted him out of my apartment. Eventually, I got him to leave. He succeeded in making me feel crappy. And honestly, I wasn't nearly assertive enough. Bear with me. I left my apartment for a while to get my mind off everything.

1:04:42 Just went to a local bar and had one drink, then came home. Was gone a maximum of 40 minutes. Come home, open the door, and he's on my couch. He was passed out, wasted. I just got in the shower and hoped he would sleep it off and we could have a real conversation in the morning. I get out of the shower again and he starts going nuts, twisting my words, even though I said nothing negative at all, just saying horrible things and refusing to listen to me.

1:05:05 I asked for my key back and he said F no and locked the door behind him and started accusing me of trying to steal his stuff. He has some expensive equipment in my storage room. I told him, no, I don't care about your equipment at all, but I'm not dealing with this and I need you to leave and you can call me tomorrow about your stuff. I am now scared and now we call the police. Yeah, no, because he is.

1:05:26 Under the influence and is now trying to manipulate you, feel bad, and is kind of getting a little aggressive.

1:05:31 He wouldn't leave, so I did because I couldn't take it.

1:05:34 There is a reason this guy is single when he's 30 and also doesn't have a home and doesn't have a job.

1:05:41 He.

1:05:42 definitely is a moocher, takes advantage of people and then flips it around on them and makes them feel bad. He's taking advantage of you.

1:05:47 He is trying to make.

1:05:48 You feel bad for what? What should you feel bad for? For not letting this man who doesn't have a house, doesn't have a job, has no ambition to work, has, you know, nothing really to his name. Not, Taking care of him?

1:06:01 Not your job. It's not your job at all. You basically don't know this man. It's been two months. This is a weird, weird man. And now you're finding out way too much about him.

1:06:09 Yes.

1:06:10 I called my friend and went to her place because I didn't know where else to go. She's close with him as well, and I talked to him earlier about everything before he was wasted. Even then, he had told her a story that didn't even make sense regarding what I had said the night before about needing space and wanting to live separately. It was so helpful to know that someone else we both know realizes I'm not crazy and was there for me. When I left, she told me to call if I got home and he was still crazy. I went home and he was passed out again.

1:06:35 You got to call the police and pump this guy out.

1:06:37 Yeah, you can't just sit there and be like, well, you know, I'm going to wait till he's awake.

1:06:41 No, no, because every time he's awake, he yells at you. Yeah, this is very like toxic.

1:06:47 Yeah.

1:06:47 So I went in my room and locked myself in. In the morning, he was gone. It was a terrible night and I felt incredibly unsafe. But in a way, I'm glad it happened because now there is not a single doubt in my mind that this has to end right now. Change your locks. Change your locks. I let my landlady know and she is changing the locks.

1:07:05 Change your locks.

1:07:07 Oh, change your locks. She lives upstairs so I can get the key when I get home. I'm also going to have her with me when he comes to get the rest of his crap. I can't just throw it outside because he has musical stuff and it rains a lot here. And also someone would inevitably steal stuff left outside for more than a little while. And that's the end of that story. I don't care if all of his stuff gets stolen. He stinks. He's a stinky man, baby.

1:07:30 Yeah.

1:07:31 And also to make you feel bad about housing someone and paying for them.

1:07:35 How dare you?

1:07:37 Bye.

1:07:39 I'm glad that your mutual friend was on your side. I was a little worried that he would have poisoned everyone against you.

1:07:44 Yeah.

1:07:45 But it seems like he's a little too crazy. And people are like, that doesn't sound real. Exactly. So good riddance. But that's the end of that story. And we got another one coming right up. My boyfriend lied about being married for months. Then his wife got pregnant. Ooh, bad timing.

1:08:01 I met this guy in a bar about a year ago and we hooked up. We started regularly having spicy sleep and things progressed from friends with benefits to a relationship. However, a couple months into our relationship, he revealed to me he was married.

1:08:15 Oh, come on, dude. And that's when I go, well, what's your wife's name and phone number? No reason. How do you do that? Yeah, I don't know. That's crazy.

1:08:26 He convinced me that their marriage was unhappy. He planned on leaving her soon and how much he loved me. Instead of doing the sensible thing and walking away, I stayed with him. I had fallen for him really hard, though I stayed as the other woman. A few months further on, he told me he had left her, but for now they were staying living together for convenience. I know I was stupid to believe this, but I did.

1:08:49 There were other little red flags that I just blocked out, such as only ever meeting one of his friends, but he would tell me constantly how much he loved me and we would be together properly when his divorce was finalized I did truly love him and believed everything would be okay and kind of understood why he didn't want people to know until the divorce was final I met with him at the weekend and he delivered some crushing news.

1:09:12 His wife was pregnant, and he was ending it with me because he has to focus on her and his child. This, of course, revealed that he had never left his wife and probably never had any.

1:09:22 Intention of doing so.

1:09:23 The whole divorce thing was a lie, and he had been stringing me along for months. I know I should never have gotten involved with a married man, but it's too late now, and I will regret it for a long time.

1:09:33 By the way, this comes from Trueway.

1:09:36 19 and if you want to spend your own stories go to the r slash okay story time subreddit i'm savannah i'm sophia and we're here to tell you some stuff gets you some advice but we don't have all your answers you only tell you what we would do but let us know what you would do down in the comments my question is do i tell his wife i suppose he has done the right thing now by getting rid of me but i still feel awful about the whole thing i do kind of want to tell her but i don't know if that's just because i want to spend But she obviously doesn't deserve this and I don't know whether telling a pregnant woman what her husband has done is the right thing to do.

1:10:09 You should tell. You should tell her. Tell her. Don't be the a-hole. I mean, you already are the a-hole. Yeah, but don't be more of an a-hole. Don't be more. Tell her before she gives birth to this child. Yeah, be a little less a-holey. Yeah. And also, when she inevitably leaves him. Don't you go for it. That's what I was going to say. I'm like, yes, tell her regardless of, you know, what the consequences are. But also don't do that with the mindset of, oh, if she leaves him, then he's free for me. Like, don't do that.

1:10:40 That's going to be way worse. Yeah. Edit.

1:10:42 So the consensus seems to be I should tell her. How do I go about this? Is there any way to this gentleman?

1:10:50 I mean, honestly, if you want just anonymous. Yeah, you can send, you know, like a letter, email. I don't know what information you have. Yeah.

1:10:58 But, you know, if he has socials, go through his socials. I'm sure he's friends with his wife on it. I'm sure he probably posts with his wife.

1:11:04 You'll find her. Yeah.

1:11:05 The majority of replies stated that it was best for me to tell her regardless of my motivation for doing it. And I found the replies from some of you really helpful.

1:11:13 So thank you.

1:11:14 I did have some responses saying I should just walk away and leave it. These were valid points, but I still thought I would want to know if I was her. Though I decided to wait a little. I was still intending to tell her, but I thought it was best for me to cool down a little. work out how I was going to tell her and gather evidence. I didn't want to come across as some crazy scorned mistress.

1:11:32 I was pretty sure I found her on Facebook and LinkedIn, which gave me her email address. I decided it was best to do it via email. I don't know how many times I wrote something out, but I just didn't know how to word it. Anyway, a couple days after my original post, I still hadn't told her when I got a text from him. I hope you're doing okay.

1:11:48 I know this isn't easy for you, but it isn't easy for me either. I do miss you, but I hope you understand why I have done this. This probably doesn't help, but my feelings for you were real and I'm sorry. In some ways, I appreciated an apology, but it also left me in more of a mess. All I wanted to do was reply, but I stopped myself.

1:12:05 Maybe this is a little weird, but I went for a run as it gave me a chance to leave my house. leave my phone and think without any distractions. It made me realize he obviously isn't really that committed to her if he is texting me again within days and he is a manipulative liar.

1:12:20 Yeah, he's not committed to her. He's been cheating with you for months.

1:12:24 Girl, if a run makes you think clearly, run for as long as you can.

1:12:28 Run longer.

1:12:29 It gave me the push I needed to actually tell her. My initial email just asked her if she was married to him because I wasn't 100% sure I had the right person and that I really needed to talk to her. She replied only, are you the sloot who effed my husband? Why the eff are you contacting me now? So she already knew about me. I had no idea what to reply, but I apologized and told my side of the story.

1:12:53 It then became clear that she had found out months ago and he had told her he had ended it with me.

1:13:00 Wow, so he's playing both sides.

1:13:03 Yeah.

1:13:03 What a weird situation we got here. We're so shocked. Oh, my goodness. He's just a silly, silly guy.

1:13:10 Yeah, wow.

1:13:11 He doesn't know any better. He's just a little guy. Oh, he's a little nifty little liar. He goes, did I do that?

1:13:17 Oh.

1:13:18 I think this was around the time he told me he.

1:13:20 Had left her because things did get a little weird with us then. I just put this down to the fact he had left his wife. Never once did he try to break up with me. Initially, she was quite aggressive towards me, understandably, but I could quite easily prove that he had convinced me they had broken up. It is obvious that his line was way effing worse than I thought.

1:13:39 Final thoughts? I mean... I think everyone here sucks. Yeah, everyone sucks here except for the wife. Sorry about that, girly pop. I hope you and your baby are good. Yeah. Take this guy for all he's worth.

1:13:51 Yeah take all his money yeah that evening he turned up at my place she had punted him out and he wanted to stay with me there was no way i was letting him in so we had an embarrassing argument outside anyway he left eventually and i haven't heard anything from either of them since maybe she'll take him back because she obviously had before but i don't know i know some people think i was only doing this to clear my conscience and spite him which may be partially true, but I don't feel any better. I feel awful knowing I have contributed to all this and effing up all these lives, though I know I probably only feel a fraction of what she is feeling. I regret a lot of what I've done, but I don't regret

1:14:31 telling her. It was tempting to just walk away from it all, but I know if I was her, I would want to know.

1:14:36 Well, you did the right thing in the end, even though you did the wrong thing in the beginning. Yeah, it took you a while to get there. You got off track, but.

1:14:43 You know, we started on the trail, got farther and farther, and now we're back on.

1:14:48 Now we're back on. Everything's fine and dandy-ish.

1:14:51 Yeah.

1:14:51 Just stay away from him. Stay away from her. Don't get involved with other married men.

1:14:55 Yeah.

1:14:56 But that's the end of that story, and we got one more coming up for y'all.

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1:15:07 My partner left me outside for hours, then called me dramatic. Uh, excuse me? My partner dropped me off at my mom's at 1 p.m. He was going to go see his friend to have lunch and then come back to my mom so we could all spend a little time together. It's 9 and he still hasn't left. My mom sleeps early.

1:15:24 It's 10 now and he still hasn't left. But I have to leave, so I explain to him, look, I gotta leave because my mom needs to lock her door. Bear in mind, he lost a set of our keys, so he has the only keys. He says he left and then 10 minutes later messages me that he's only 44 minutes away. So I get a cab home. I finally get home and call him and he still hasn't left.

1:15:45 I live in extremely, extremely rough area. He thinks it's funny and is laughing on the phone. I lose my crap. out and now it's 12 and he still hasn't left i'm still waiting outside so i broke up with him he's forcing me to send him proof i'm actually outside which i am and i just found that even weirder my phone's passing away i don't live locally to anyone i know it's 12 40 so i knock on the neighbor's door and ask if i can climb the garden fence as i knew i had left the garden door unlocked they let me thankfully i pack all my partner's stuff in bin bags by the way this comes from secret key 2124 And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.

1:16:22 I'm Sophia. And I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we do. So let us know what you would do in the comments. He has the nerve to come home at 2 a.m. and call me childish and then say, it's not like I was cheating. I was just with my friends. My problem isn't that he was with his friends. My problem is that he left me outside alone, knowing I was alone in a bad, bad area for three hours. And if I had knocked on the neighbor's door, I would have been outside until two.

1:16:47 Are you for real?

1:16:48 And he also got upset I involved the neighbors. Dude, what am I supposed to do?

1:16:51 I can't get in the house.

1:16:53 Yeah, I, for real, I would have Ubered back somewhere. Or I would have called like a locksmith or something. I don't know.

1:16:59 OP.

1:17:00 Good job with the breakup. That's good. Yeah, I support that. I do think that maybe self-preservation skills need to go up. I would not have waited three hours there, especially if my phone was dead. I would have called someone else. Am I being dramatic or is it not really a bad thing to do to someone you claim to love and care for? Because I would never do that. And we do have an edit. What do you think? Definitely break up.

1:17:20 Yeah.

1:17:21 Gone.

1:17:21 Bye.

1:17:21 This guy has clearly no cause of concern for you.

1:17:24 Yeah.

1:17:25 Just like absolutely no sense of urgency to make sure you're in the house. Ridiculous.

1:17:31 Yeah.

1:17:31 A real man would be like, oh, here, take my key because, you know, you're going to be home before me and all this stuff. Or a real man would have actually freaking communicated what time he was coming Yes, so you didn't leave your mom's house.

1:17:45 I don't know. I just want to thank you all so much for your responses and for taking your own time out of your day to respond to me and make my feelings feel validated. As sometimes I can genuinely be a fool and in the past have been very quick to forgive. I will not go back. And thank you for ensuring I wasn't dramatic. As I was starting to feel that maybe I did overreact, but it's clear as day I didn't. And my two year relationship genuinely meant nothing. He finally woke up and started to apologize.

1:18:10 I told him he didn't even know why he was apologizing. And he went on to say I'm just possessive, controlling and dramatic. That I shouldn't have messaged him that many times or called that many times. It's not because you were cheating. She didn't think that. Yeah. She needed to get in the house. That's the only reason she's pestering you.

1:18:25 I mean, come on. It's like if you had, I feel like if you broke your arm or injured yourself or something, you'd be like, oh my God, hello, hello, hello. Can you help me? I'm in danger and he'd be like, stop texting me.

1:18:36 I'm not cheating.

1:18:37 God. So needy. I just said whatever. I can't be asked to argue. I'm dramatic.

1:18:43 I'm dramatic.

1:18:43 This is why your apologies mean nothing. Because you apologize and then blame me regardless. But we're finished. So you don't have to worry about being. controlling or possessive anymore you go your way and i'll go mine mic drop that was nice i love to see it yeah screw that guy whatever he doesn't care for you no and you don't have to care for him Yeah. End of story.

1:19:03 It's over.

1:19:03 You can go find another friend to hang out with. And I bet he was cheating, honestly. But that's the end of that story and the end of the episode.