My stepkids DEMANDED to move in… and called my house their family home! -r/AITAH | Reddit Stories | EP3139

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0:11 My stepkids demanded to move in and called my house their family home.

0:16 Family home. Schmamily home. I like it.

0:19 I married my husband two years ago.

0:21 He has two kids. 24 female and 22 male. He had a very nasty divorce from their mom that was fought out over the course of years. Part of the reason for the marriage ending was she had a problem and blew through their savings and was running up credit cards he didn't know about to pay for it. The divorce finalized when the youngest was 16. She wanted the house in the divorce, which was a big part of the fight.

0:44 She ended up getting it.

0:45 Oh.

0:46 She immediately moved in her boyfriend and another couple and the house ended up getting destroyed and falling into foreclosure. And they then proceeded to squat in it and had to be forcibly removed.

0:57 Dang, what the heck?

0:59 Because my husband and his ex ended up also having to file bankruptcy, he had been living in a friend's basement when I met him due to his credit being wrecked.

1:09 This sounds like a horrible story.

1:11 Yeah. I was just going to say, dude.

1:14 God.

1:14 I was just going to say, dude. We've only got like the first part of it.

1:18 This does not sound fun.

1:20 Yeah.

1:21 I will tell you that much. This sounds like a crappy situation. And by the way, this comes from roundlife7460. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.

1:33 I'm Savannah.

1:34 And I'm Mike.

1:35 And we're here to talk about some stuff, give some advice, but we don't have all your answers.

1:39 We are only going to say what we would do. But if you know.

1:42 What you would do, put it in the comments.

1:45 I read them.

1:47 As Opie says, fast forward, we are married. He moves into my house. Got a prenuptial agreement. He can't be on the mortgage due to his credit anyways. God, I mean, his ex really screams. him in every ass.

2:02 I mean this guy sounds like a baller bro.

2:04 He can never have like a credit card ever and his ex and kids are living with grandparents his kids and ex don't like me they refer to me as that c word love sick that's awesome But at this point, they are all adults, so I'm not going to force things with them. Grandparents recently had to sell their home, and they are now living with their mom's friends. They asked if they could move in with us, and I said no. So I feel they want to. So the kids now, will they be homeless? houseless or whatever they say.

2:45 Unhoused, I think we call it.

2:46 Unhoused, yeah. Are they going, so these kids are now unhoused kids.

2:50 Yeah, just walking the streets.

2:52 Yeah, it's like they don't have anywhere, I don't know how old they are now, but they can't.

2:58 Get a place. Excuse me. Excuse me, sire. We lost the house because daddy couldn't make the payments.

3:07 Excuse me. Excuse me, sire.

3:09 Excuse me.

3:15 My parents up and left and we have nowhere to go. And my dad.

3:20 Do you have any pennies that you can give me, Shia?

3:23 My dad and stepmom won't let us live in the house, which I get.

3:27 I would like if they they literally are referring to you as the C word. No, you're not stepping foot in my house.

3:33 Sorry.

3:35 Until I get a better name.

3:36 You know, you don't call the people you like, but the C word.

3:39 Yeah.

3:43 I do, but in this case, it seems personal. I don't know why, but I have a bad feeling about this one.

3:52 Both got angry and started telling me that this was their dad's home and that makes this their family home, too. And it wasn't up to me if they could live there or not.

4:02 Excuse me. This is my house that your dad moved into.

4:05 Yeah.

4:06 Oh, my God.

4:07 He's not even on the mortgage.

4:09 He couldn't even sign the credit.

4:10 He couldn't be on the credit.

4:12 He can't even be like linked to this house right now.

4:15 And you're saying it's your family home that you've never stepped foot in.

4:18 Oh, my God.

4:20 Any more lies you want to tell?

4:21 Yeah, bro's rocking a 322 credit score.

4:24 Yeah, yeah.

4:25 He's like, oh, what am I doing?

4:27 Yeah, and the kids are like, can we move in to your home?

4:31 Oh, I'm sorry. Actually, I have no connection to this home.

4:35 Oh, dude. We got to keep this going, dude. Let's go.

4:38 They started spouting off every insult they could think of. I interrupted them and told them that, in fact, it was not their family home. And if they were looking for their family home, they need to go talk to their mom because she chopped it up and put it up her nose. And that wasn't my problem.

4:56 What?

4:58 Why did the mom snort the house?

5:02 I'm so confused.

5:03 I was going to say, what is this like Mr. Magoo thing that she's like doing? You know what I mean? Like what is going on here, bro?

5:10 I have no idea what just happened.

5:12 I'm ready.

5:13 I'm ready for it. I'm ready.

5:14 This took a turn, bro. It took a turn.

5:17 It was like, we were talking about, we were talking about like a family getting foreclosed and they're like, yeah. And then like my mom used like the deed as rolling papers.

5:23 I was like, what?

5:25 Oh, what?

5:26 Okay.

5:27 All right.

5:27 Cool. Nice.

5:29 She likes to party. Send her my way.

5:31 She's a C word.

5:33 She's a good one. Good C word.

5:35 She's the good C.

5:36 The good C. Yeah.

5:38 A huge part of the reason I don't want them here is that their mom has since squatted multiple places, forcing roommates to have to threaten her with eviction to get her out and basically told the last one she would leave for.

5:51 A certain amount of money.

5:53 Yeah, no.

5:53 The kids and her are very close and I don't want that happening in my house.

5:58 That's the end.

5:59 No way.

6:01 I mean, I don't want that to happen in anyone's house, truthfully, especially your house.

6:05 Yeah, yeah.

6:05 Because it seems like you worked for this house, and they're going to come in and, oh, it's going to be such chaos.

6:13 Don't even, no.

6:14 Just be like, hey, I'm married to your dad. You guys don't even like me. Why would you even want to live here? I know it's like a roof over your head, but.

6:23 You don't have anything to do with this.

6:25 No, this dude, I can't get over the squatting, though.

6:30 The squatting and like the mom she's like oh you can pay me a price to leave.

6:35 What that's not how this.

6:37 Works how about you just get out of my home.

6:40 I'm already paying the government to do this now like you're trying to get a piece of the piece of the pie too i am literally are you a cop are you a fed are you are you a fed you know you legally have to tell me if you're a cop.

6:52 Right yeah I don't know OP stand your ground do not let these people move in your house it's going to be a crap show and you don't need that so dig all ten toes into the floor and do not move they cannot force you to move or they cannot force themselves into your home and if that happens call.

7:13 The authorities then that's when you call the cops yeah.

7:16 That's when you call the cops and that's the end of this story we're gonna go to the next one.

7:21 I gave my sister-in-law one day to clean her mess, and she ignored me.

7:25 Oh, you don't clean your messes, you don't get dessert.

7:30 Mm-mm. No for you. My significant other and I have been putting up our brother-in-law while he's trying to move back. He's employed and is paying token room and board while he and his wife attempt to sell their house. It's been six months so far. My brother-in-law's spouse, Tina, is late 30s, a larger girl, and has some health issues.

7:52 I'm sorry. She's visited before and ruined decorative pillows due to having accidents on them.

7:58 Whoa.

7:59 As she likes to sit on our black decorative cushions. She's now been spending half of every month and shouldn't be in my home as a guest. She doesn't wear underwear under her nightgown and will stay in her nightgown the majority of the day. I've had it. I watched her ruin another decorative pillow by sitting on it and leaving discharge and urine on it. Oh, my God.

8:22 What's wrong with her?

8:23 Why is she not wearing anything? What's going on?

8:26 I gave her a day to clean it and she pretended it didn't happen.

8:30 No, I would have given her like an hour. That stuff is going to like seep in.

8:34 What?

8:35 I ended up throwing out the pillow in disgust and bleaching the seating mat underneath it. She then wore the same pee stained nightgown the next day and I watched her as she lifted it up. To sit down. What? Bear on my furniture. Crazy work. By the way, this comes from deleted. So yeah, listen, I wish I could delete that story and add one of yours over at the r slash okay story time subreddits. I'm Mike.

9:05 And I'm Savannah.

9:07 And today we're here to give good advice, try to give good advice, which should seem like sometimes... Just normal everyday advice. We don't know all the answers, but I think in this case we do. And if you agree with us, sound off in the comments below. So other than that, as OP says, we've spoken to her husband in hopes that he, she's married. jesus in hopes that he can tell her to wear underpants nicely i'm also considering getting her a box of incontinence pads and leaving it in the bathroom she uses am i the a-hole in this it's disgusting right yeah yeah this.

9:45 Is not normal she definitely has some sort of disorder whether that's like mentally or maybe physically that she like can't hold her bladder or something i really don't know what is happening.

9:56 Here but there is a problem.

9:58 For sure what if she what she was just, like, a gamer? You know what I mean?

10:03 Like, I don't know.

10:04 At that point, you have to wear, like, adult diapers or something because, like, there's no way you're just walking around with nothing on and just pissing all over.

10:12 What do you think she's doing, though?

10:15 I just don't know, and I don't really want to think about it. I don't know what she's doing.

10:19 What do you like? What do you think? What do you think she is doing?

10:21 Right.

10:21 Well, like what what could possibly. Listen, I've seen Breaking Bad five thousand times.

10:28 Right.

10:29 Yeah.

10:29 Not once did I piss in like like just ruin my pants, piss and shit my pants. OK.

10:37 Yeah.

10:37 There is no there's nothing on this. There is nothing on this planet. Get up, dude. Get up and use the restroom, bro.

10:43 Yeah.

10:43 You're like late 30s. There has to be something going on. There's definitely an issue here.

10:49 Yeah.

10:50 But I think, OP, I don't think that you're the a-hole in this. It is disgusting, and you're trying to keep a nice house. Who wants piss on their decorative pillows?

10:58 No one. It goes real great with this sofa that I got going on.

11:01 Yeah, like what?

11:02 Like, we have bathrooms for a reason.

11:03 Please use it.

11:04 Like, by any means, please help yourself to the freaking toilet.

11:09 I even got some pads in there for you. There you go.

11:11 Yeah, yeah.

11:12 Anything. Anything you need, just ask. Please ask.

11:16 Oh, man.

11:16 This one's throwing me in for a loop. Well, we got answers, Savannah.

11:20 Thank God.

11:20 So, yes.

11:22 Real.

11:23 I'm A-U-D-H-D.

11:25 Yeah, I'm A-U-D-H-D.

11:27 And don't react appropriately. I didn't know if I was overreacting or underreacting. These words help. Thank you all. So it's her significant other's brother. And until he moved in, we, his wife and I, had spent more than a couple of hours together a day at most. I have a chronic illness myself. So I have tried to be tolerant and understanding and forgiving. Incontinence is a shameful topic. Size plays into severity of incontinence, I guess. Or issues. I do have a pic of the last cushion she sat on.

12:04 Oh no.

12:05 My home's theme is earthly colors. Blacks, browns, reds, and whites. Yes, I have black cushions and decorative pillows. Other than that, I think we're on the same page here.

12:17 Yeah, this is gross. And I don't know why. Maybe it's like a.

12:23 Well, here's the thing, dude. Here's the thing. I'll be open and real. I used to bed wet as a kid, right?

12:29 Yeah, I mean, as a kid, yes.

12:31 Yeah, you know. I think like... I'm going to try to give some advice here. You need to have a support system around you. You need to have people that are just like, yo... No, it's like really like weird to talk about. And it's like, it's very like, but you gotta just like open up, open up and talk, talk about it. So that way you can, people can help you.

12:50 Yeah.

12:51 There you go. Um, so we got an update. The roommate is employed locally. Their house is several hours drive away and he's supposed to be going home on weekends, but due to mountain passes, winter weather and illness, he hasn't been home in over a month. It's not the first conflict the wife and I have had.

13:08 Update.

13:09 The next morning, brother-in-law spoke to his wife. She now has incontinence pads and is wearing pants in the common area.

13:16 Good.

13:16 And we'll be leaving today.

13:17 Oh, good.

13:18 Thanks, everyone, for all the responses. I thought I was being crazy for being so upset about this. She hasn't left yet, but soon I'll breathe a sigh of relief. And that's that story.

13:30 Dang.

13:31 I mean, I'm glad that you could discuss that issue without having it be, you know, a sore subject or, you know, it blowing out of proportion or something. I, I.

13:41 Feel like you guys handled it very well.

13:44 And the best way that could have happened, which is now she is.

13:48 Uh, they just left her. Yeah. They did just leave her on this. I was like, all right, you get out of here. It's not your problem. It's not our problem anymore.

13:56 Uh, but yeah, I think.

13:57 What I said earlier, uh, hopefully the, hopefully the, the person that like has that problem, Fucking listen to that, dude. But also, yeah, you should have. She's pissing on your floors. Get her out.

14:08 Yeah, it's that's not cool.

14:10 And the fact that she like doesn't like tell anyone or clean up or anything, it's just like, oh, God, OK, this this is not OK.

14:19 Yeah.

14:19 So, yeah, thank God it worked out.

14:22 And that's the end of this story. We're going to go to the next one.

14:25 My sister-in-law joined our annual trip, then turned it into her honeymoon.

14:30 Oh, that sounds like a pretty expensive honeymoon. I.

14:34 32 female, met my husband Connor, 33 male, in Paris 11 years ago. We kept in touch and eventually found ourselves both living in a big city in America and began dating. Since we met in Paris, we go once a year, usually in September. It isn't really an exclusive romantic thing, so we have gone with friends or family on a few of these trips. It's just something we like to do together, but we don't mind sharing it too.

15:00 My sister-in-law Charlie, 30 female, and her fiancé Mike 31 female. I think that's supposed to be male. Asked if they could come this year. Sister-in-law and Mike do not have a ton of extra funds, maybe one trip every couple years. And Connor and I are able to take between four to five a year thanks to flexible work schedules and funds.

15:20 All right, brag some more.

15:23 Okay, brag. Sick.

15:24 About two months ago, Charlie and Mike decided they want to get married next month in a small ceremony instead of planning a big wedding. I've been putting an itinerary together for the trip. Lots of first time in Paris stuff that we haven't done in a long time or ever. So no problem for us. I use a Google sheet and just share it with the people who are traveling with us. Many of our trips are group trips. I shared it with them when we first booked and have been making casual updates until two weeks ago when Mike reached out.

15:54 By the way, this comes from.

15:56 Wait, I did what?

15:58 By the way, this comes from OKAssumption5306.

16:00 And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.

16:05 I am Savannah.

16:06 I'm Mike.

16:07 And we are here to talk about some stuff and give some advice.

16:11 But guess what? We don't have all of your answers. We're only going to tell you what we would do, but you should let us know what you would do.

16:17 Down in the comments.

16:18 As OP says, he called me to tell me that he has decided that this trip will be their honeymoon. I thought it was a little weird, but understood that they can't really afford multiple trips. Here is where things began to unravel. Sister-in-law doesn't want to go on her honeymoon with other people, so she called us and asked us to reschedule our trip so we are not there at the same time. Um, actually, no, because that's not how that works.

16:43 Actually, um, we want to go on our honeymoon that date. Can you change your date?

16:49 Oh, yeah.

16:49 Yeah.

16:50 I would love to be the most selfish person alive. That'd be pretty sick, right?

16:53 Right.

16:53 Yeah.

16:54 It's like, oh, yeah, let me just clear my schedule for you.

16:57 Yeah.

16:59 We said no to that, but said we can each do our own thing. I copied the Google sheet I had made and began working on the new one. Additionally, I separated the flight itinerary so they could control their own. Canceled the extra room I had reserved on my credit card, etc. Over the last few weeks, I have continued with our plans.

17:17 I have made reservations and such for just my husband and me. A couple of days ago, I got a call from my sister-in-law asking if I had made any other plans because the spreadsheet hadn't been updated. I said that I had been making plans, but just for Connor and me since we were taking separate trips. Apparently, they didn't realize that we were going to keep the arrangements we made for ourselves and expected them to make their own.

17:40 They thought we would replan everything and continue planning their trip. Sister-in-law is pissed that she lost out on the hotel rate I had, wants my room now. and the tickets for attractions I got for the times that we had planned. She is demanding we give her these things because we were being spiteful when we didn't explicitly tell them we would no longer be planning their trip. I thought them telling us they wanted to be alone on their honeymoon and us agreeing to make to this made it clear.

18:10 Mother-in-law said I should just give it to her since we go every year. That's not the point, though.

18:15 Yeah, you're missing the point.

18:16 Yeah.

18:17 You're missing the point there.

18:18 Well, you go all the time, and.

18:20 Yeah.

18:21 And it's a special thing that we do every single year.

18:22 Yeah, that's our thing.

18:24 Yeah, we've been doing it for the past, what, 12 years? And you're going to sit here and be like, well, you go all the time. Give them a chance.

18:31 Okay?

18:32 And then, so I'm going to cancel my trip. Should I plan yours?

18:35 Yeah.

18:35 Like, now you want to just take everything that we have? Not how it works. Plan your own honeymoon. What?

18:40 Like, I'm not in charge of that. I contend that I never offered to be their personal travel agent.

18:47 Am I the a-hole here?

18:48 No, you're not. No.

18:50 Yeah, no.

18:51 Not at all. And there is an edit to add here.

18:54 My sister-in-law and fiance had been dodging our phone calls after they said they wanted us to move our trip dates. They were annoyed that we wouldn't. So I sent her the following text after multiple attempts to contact them.

19:05 Me.

19:05 I'm going to go ahead and make any and all changes so we can avoid each other on the trip if that is what you want.

19:11 Sister-in-law.

19:12 That's fine.

19:13 Me.

19:13 Okay.

19:14 I will just make the changes and update the spreadsheet for you. Sister-in-law.

19:17 Okay.

19:17 Okay.

19:19 Sounds like a bit.

19:26 Oh, and there is a second edit to add.

19:28 Oh, OK.

19:30 The above exchange was a follow up to the phone call in which we explained that we would separate the flights and try to transfer the hotel reservation to them. This was the same call in which they told us they wanted us to change our trip. Okay, now there's an update. Yeah, no, you don't have to abide by their rules, because this is your trip, and you and them to come and then they want to make it about them. And then they're like, okay, well now that we're going to have, we decided we're having our honeymoon there.

19:56 No one can be in Paris when we're there. Everyone evacuate the city. It is ours now for the honeymoon.

20:04 Like ours is the, we have big Paris's. How big is, how big is Paris?

20:09 It's pretty big. It's pretty big.

20:12 It's a pretty big city. Pretty touristy. There's a lot of people there. So I would assume it's pretty easy to.

20:19 Avoid each other.

20:21 Yeah, I think trying to be in a town where you have maybe over a couple million, what, two, three million?

20:32 Yeah.

20:32 Maybe 16, 20 million? Who knows? Who knows, you know?

20:36 The....

20:38 First of all the.

20:38 Ego yeah yeah.

20:41 To just be like you know it's it's a who you're gonna cancel our plans yeah when we were gonna when we were gonna jump on your bed what.

20:52 Yeah sure we'll cancel our plans yeah for you to go on your honeymoon and be.

20:58 Well it's oh my god It's.

21:00 Just it's crazy to even ask that. And then to be like, oh, you know, she obviously she has explained the the the story wrong to mother in law, which is why she's on her side.

21:12 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

21:13 So whatever. I'd be like, actually, we have nothing to do with this. They can make their own plans. Sorry. Not sorry.

21:20 Mm hmm.

21:21 Update for anyone that is curious.

21:24 I reached out to sister-in-law again yesterday with the following email. I know you are upset with Connor and me about this whole situation, but I wanted to just try to clear the air. I guess I'm a little confused as to why you're so upset with us. I think we have been very understanding when it has come to your decision to make this trip your honeymoon. Connor and I respect your choice and are not upset about it at all.

21:47 I feel a little hurt that you have decided to cut contact over our decision to continue with our own plans. but I feel as though maybe I should explain a little bit about why we won't slash can't change our plans. The first reason is the cost that we would incur to change things around. The second is my parents are watching the pups for us and they change their work schedules around so the pups are not alone for.

22:08 Too many hours.

22:09 I would be inconveniencing them by changing our dates. I hope this better helps you understand why we cannot make any changes.

22:15 Next!

22:16 Next!

22:17 I would like to address the planning confusion.

22:19 I acknowledge that there could have been some confusion regarding the separation of plans. In our phone conversation, you stated that you did not want to see us while on the trip. I understand that it was probably said in anger, but it was a bit hurtful. I forgive you as I do not believe you were being intentionally hurtful. That being said, we did not cancel anything or stop making your plans to be spiteful. And I hope that you believe me when I say that I would never do anything intentionally to try to destroy your honeymoon. In our conversation, I explained that I would reach out to the airline and hotel to see what could be done to separate itineraries, but also explained to you that I might not be

22:58 able to transfer everything and I would just cancel what could not be transferred. and I would put the info in the spreadsheets, which is exactly.

23:07 What I did.

23:08 I hope that you find peace in all of this, and that you will choose to forgive us for anything that we may have done that you feel was hurtful or spiteful. I can promise you that we never meant any harm in anything we have done, and want you to have a beautiful wedding and honeymoon. XOXO Gossip Girl.

23:26 Like, oh my god. But it like like beautiful format. Oh, beautiful.

23:32 I'm sure you typed it in MLA format.

23:34 Yeah. Beautifully done.

23:36 Are you a literature major?

23:37 Can I can I can I tell you something?

23:40 Yeah.

23:40 When you were when you were reading that letter out loud, I could hear the Times New Roman coming out.

23:46 That was, you know what I mean?

23:48 Like, you know what I'm saying?

23:50 12 font.

23:51 Yeah, 12 font.

23:52 Times New Roman, double spaced.

23:54 Double spaced.

23:54 Yeah, you know, you had.

23:55 With a header.

23:56 Yeah, you had the header up on top.

23:58 Page numbers, everything. That's, yeah.

24:01 No, that's insane.

24:03 I mean, I hope that that was the most clear letter I have ever read.

24:09 I haven't even written a letter like that.

24:11 Yeah, I've never.

24:12 Mine's like, hey, what up?

24:14 Yeah, yeah.

24:16 Do we have a problem here?

24:17 And it has sent from my iPhone underneath.

24:19 Yes, yeah.

24:20 Opie's like, no, no, no. No.

24:23 Yeah, this is crazy. She responded this morning and said she understands that nothing was intentional, but we still caused damage to their honeymoon that we need to make right before we are allowed to come to the wedding.

24:34 What?

24:35 So you have to right your wrongs before we invite you. I don't care if we're like related or anything like it. Just, you know, family is a fine line. Like, shut up.

24:47 Who is this girl?

24:48 Because we booked our Paris trip that we go on every year for the last 12 years. And now all of a sudden it's like.

24:54 Well, we wanted to go when you were going. So you should have known that.

24:58 Now it's ruined.

24:59 Yeah.

25:00 Now it's ruined. And no one can be in Paris except us.

25:04 Like, okay, I don't know what you want.

25:07 And you weren't clear. Like, OP, you were clear. Yeah. Sister-in-law was not clear.

25:12 Yeah, unlike what it was.

25:14 Unlike what we were doing. Like, no, you weren't clear. I had no idea what you were trying to tell me. So I just figured, oh, we're like, you know, you guys go, we're not going to go. So I canceled your trip. And now I'm the bad guy because I wasn't supposed to cancel it, even though you told me to.

25:30 Yeah.

25:31 I literally did the thing that you asked of me.

25:34 Yeah. And we're in the wrong? Why is it my job to plan your honeymoon?

25:39 Yeah.

25:40 Huh?

25:40 I don't do that.

25:41 That makes zero sense.

25:41 I'm not a honeymoon planner.

25:43 No, you got no, you got, nobody got the credentials, bro.

25:47 Yeah. My husband and I have decided to just let her know that we have done all we can to rectify the situation and that she needs to take ownership of her own mistakes. We then sent her a list of nice hotels that they could stay at that are similar in price to the rate we had gotten from our hotel. Then my husband called the hotel in Paris and upgraded our room to the Eiffel Tower suite that we stayed in for our honeymoon as a thank you to me for putting up with his sister. Whoa.

26:16 Okay, big bucks.

26:18 I see you.

26:19 Okay, money. Hey, get that large. Go get it.

26:21 Marrying him was the best thing I ever did.

26:24 Wow.

26:25 And that's the end.

26:27 Well, truthfully.

26:28 Yeah, sister.

26:29 She's annoying.

26:31 And like doesn't know how to communicate and then just blames everyone else for her problems. And it's like, actually, you didn't communicate any of this and we're not in charge of your honeymoon. Weird how you gave us that without even telling us.

26:43 Yeah.

26:44 Surprise.

26:44 Yeah.

26:47 Surprise.

26:47 You're a bad person.

26:48 Yeah.

26:49 Like, okay, cool. Yeah.

26:51 But, you know, you're going to enjoy your time, OP. You and your husband are going to have a great time per usual because you're actually in love and, you know, are reasonable about things.

27:00 Yeah.

27:01 Don't know how the sister-in-law's honeymoon is going to go, but, you know, wish them luck.

27:05 Yeah, leave that for them.

27:07 And that's the end of this story. We're going to go to the next one.

27:11 I told my sister she was delusional for wanting to hike dangerous trails after just a few hikes. She is. I, 25 female, have been hiking, rock climbing, and traveling for the past couple years.

27:24 Okay, multi-talented.

27:27 My sister Leah, 20 female, said she wanted to get into hiking and do a trip together. I was excited at the idea but told her she'd have to do some hikes to build some endurance and be in good shape for a hiking trip so that she would enjoy her time.

27:42 Fair, fair.

27:43 She lives about seven hours away from mountains while I live a couple hours away.

27:48 She came up to visit me and did four hikes and loved it.

27:52 Great.

27:53 Now we are trying to pick a destination. And all of a sudden she thinks she is a professional mountaineer and traveler. Who will only go to the most exotic destinations in the world?

28:03 What?

28:05 If you want to play at the U.S. Open, you got to hit some college courts first.

28:10 Am I right?

28:11 It depends.

28:11 Depends on the situation.

28:13 Oh, my gosh.

28:14 Some people are just good enough to go straight there. So let's see how this hiker does.

28:18 True. I've suggested the Azores in Portugal.

28:22 Our family comes from the Azores, so I thought that.

28:24 Would be a good idea.

28:25 But that's too basic.

28:27 Lofoten Islands in Norway are also too basic because it's in the continent of Europe and that's not cool enough. Okay, so I suggest Thailand. And again, that is also.

28:39 Not cool enough. Where does she want to go?

28:41 She wants to go to Socotra, Yemen.

28:44 Or Kyrgyzstan.

28:46 Kyrgyzstan.

28:47 She has only ever traveled to England as a 10-year-old, so I said I don't think that's a great idea and that she needs to lower her expectations a bit. By the way, this comes from OK Entertainment 4473, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.

29:02 I'm Savannah.

29:03 I'm Daniel.

29:04 I'm Riley.

29:05 And Daniel is my good college friend. He's here to help us read some stories, be goofy with us. And we're going to be reading stories goofily with Daniel. He's going to help us out today.

29:14 Let's do it.

29:14 Yeah.

29:15 As Opie says, today I see that she purchased.

29:18 An ice axe.

29:19 An ice axe?

29:21 An ice axe.

29:21 Are they going to a mountain?

29:23 They must be.

29:24 At this point, I am losing my mind a little bit because somehow after four hikes, Leah thinks she is a professional traveler and out near now, despite the fact that I tried to take her rock climbing and she could not make it up the easiest walls. How she thinks she is going to ice climb in a she plans on doing this she'd need to get on a plane to get to a mountain with ice climbing and is beyond me. By now, I'm pretty frustrated because she has no idea what she's even doing and is not living in reality. I responded and told her that she needs to be a bit more realistic as she doesn't have the money, experience, knowledge, skill, or fitness to go ice climbing. Dang!

30:01 That was five things!

30:03 I mean, it's true if you've never been and you're just gonna all of a sudden just go, I bought an ice axe, let's go ice climbing!

30:09 At first, I was thinking the girl was just wanting to go hike, Yeah. And I didn't think she even wanted to go ice climbing, but then she bought the ice axe.

30:19 Yeah, this is kind of left field, too.

30:21 But maybe she can do it.

30:22 Like, true.

30:23 Yeah, but it also, I would feel like you would need a lot of, like, training and skill to do that because that's super dangerous.

30:28 Just off the side of a mountain.

30:30 Just ice climbing.

30:31 One more key indicator.

30:33 She's 20.

30:33 20-year-olds can do anything.

30:36 Yeah, that's true.

30:36 And I stand by that.

30:38 Me too.

30:38 She also clearly has not done any research because if she had, she'd see that most people rent mountaineering supplies if they are going to ice climb as it's very expensive.

30:48 But maybe she's ready to use it again, you know? So she's going to save money in the long run. So it's good to buy a head.

30:56 I mean, yeah, but she'll have to buy more stuff. Like she got, she has that, but she also has to get all kinds of mountaineering supplies.

31:04 Well, she won't have to rent out an axe then.

31:07 As it's very expensive and also difficult to transport. Leah freaked out and says, I'm too negative. She's blocking me from her stories, and she's an adult, so she can do whatever she wants. Am I the a-hole for telling Leah that she's not being realistic?

31:20 Now, when it comes to siblings like this, I feel like a lot of times your siblings don't think that you can do what you can.

31:27 Dang, for real, dude.

31:29 And it's hard.

31:30 Talk that talk.

31:31 You know, she has her eye sacks.

31:33 She's excited.

31:34 So do you think that Leah's being the a-hole then?

31:36 Or not Leah, sorry.

31:37 Leah's the ice climber, right?

31:39 Yes.

31:39 Or the wannabe ice climber.

31:40 The wannabe ice climber.

31:40 Well, I think I'm worried for Leah. I think her sister, I can't tell if the sister's worried or if she just doesn't think she can hang. You know what I mean?

31:50 Yeah, well, I don't think OP wants to go like she never mentioned going ice climbing or anything like that. I just feel like this is out of pocket, like what Leah's doing. But if she wants to go, I would say go. But like, you know, train for it, like do it with professionals who know what they're doing.

32:06 So you know what you're doing, like I think you're going on four different hikes.

32:10 And now you're going to be like, I'm going to go climb an ice mountain. That's a little extreme, I think.

32:15 But I want to see her try.

32:16 I would like to see her try, too.

32:17 I think Leah can do it. She's 20 years old, and that's just prime ice picking age. We all know this. Riley, when was your.

32:25 First ice pick?

32:26 At the age of four. See, Riley started early.

32:29 That's the way to do it.

32:30 It really is.

32:32 And Leah knows she's late into the game, so she doesn't want to wait for 16 hikes. She's ready to go now.

32:37 When did you start ice axing?

32:40 I'll be honest, never ice axed.

32:42 Wow.

32:43 Liar. Yeah.

32:45 But he'd be good at it if he did it.

32:46 But if you wanted to do it, do you think your siblings would.

32:48 Be like, yeah.

32:49 I'm giving the lie.

32:50 No, Leah wouldn't. Yeah. I think they would say no. I think, yeah.

32:55 I responded to her story of the ice ax saying, Leah, who do you think you are? To which she said, I don't know why you're so effing negative. I'm not even going to try to make my point here. It's effing useless with you. You effing crap on everything I do. I don't know why you think you have a say in what I do. I'm not an effing child. Leave me the F alone.

33:15 Leah, no.

33:18 No.

33:19 Leah, no. Leah.

33:22 She's not an effing child. She is 20 years old. Prime ice picking age. She has a point, but she's also coming in hot.

33:30 Yeah.

33:30 Yeah.

33:31 She's melting that ice.

33:33 She is.

33:34 I said, you aren't living in reality. You've been on like five hikes and don't even know how to rock climb. If you did ice climbing, you would rent the gear anyway because it's really expensive and difficult to transport. I'm literally trying to help you because you don't know what you're doing. To also give more context about why she said I'm so negative and I crap on everything she does, it's because I've told her I don't like the new guy she's seen because he has been caught in multiple lies, been possessive, and constantly stands her up.

34:00 Dude, here's what's probably happened, guys. This is my take.

34:04 Uh-oh.

34:05 I think the guy stood her up on an ice climbing date. Now Lee is ready to go with her sister because she's sad she missed the ice climbing. But sister doesn't want to go. So she's getting stood up twice. And this time by family.

34:18 Dang.

34:19 Daniel can see right through this one.

34:21 Wow. And that's the end of this story. We're going to go to the next one.

34:25 Hey, it's Smiley Riley here from OK Storytime. We're going to get back to these stories, but here's three minutes worth of ads from our sponsors.

34:32 My father's girlfriend flirted with my boyfriend at Christmas dinner.

34:37 Man, I bet that made the ham taste worse. I, 18 female, have been living abroad for two years now at a boarding school where I met my now boyfriend, 19 male, and have been together for 10 months now in the States.

34:52 I'm from Eastern Europe and go back home for the summer, spring break and winter break. My boyfriend's family doesn't really celebrate Christmas so I decided to have him come with me back to my home country. My parents have been divorced since I was a young teen when my dad, 44 male, cheated on my mom with his now girlfriend.

35:10 28 female.

35:10 Oh, gross.

35:14 That's nasty.

35:16 It's a very stereotypical relationship. The older rich dude with the hot young woman. She has her whole face done, Botox, lift, long, thick eyelashes, heavy makeup, etc. Which a lot of men here find it attractive as it can be the beauty standard.

35:33 My father always jokes.

35:34 How all men want her and how women want to be her, which makes me uncomfortable most times.

35:41 Makes me uncomfortable.

35:42 Yeah.

35:43 In that house, I'm seen more as a smart woman rather than a beautiful one because that title is already taken.

35:49 I don't know if you want to be the beautiful one at 19 years old with your dad.

35:55 This is just weird. Weird competition happening. Generally, I do not think I am hideous. I am just on the taller side and not as thin as she is, which makes me uglier in their opinion. By the way, this comes from Mulberry Huge 9340. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.

36:14 I'm Savannah.

36:15 I'm Daniel.

36:16 I'm Riley, and Daniel's my good college friend. He's going to be here reading some stories with us, helping us out, and we don't have all the answers, so if you guys have anything you want.

36:24 To add, add it down below.

36:26 Thank you, Riley.

36:27 Welcome, Savannah.

36:31 That's how he talked in college. He's come a long way, guys.

36:34 I'm a communication major.

36:36 Wow.

36:38 We are a communication major.

36:40 Yeah, we'll talk to you, baby.

36:43 We'll talk to you, baby.

36:45 As Opie says, anyways, our plane landed on the 23rd, but we stayed with my mom until Christmas when we went to my dad's house. There, I introduced him to everyone, including my dad's girlfriend, who was dressed in this skin-tight leather dress. Throughout the night, she kept sitting next to him, occasionally grazing his arm and talking to him however she could in English. Then when she got a bit tipsy, she told me that I should be careful to hold my boyfriend back because a lot of men tend to fall for her, followed by some other jokes made by my dad as well, where they were overall just insinuating that she should steal my boyfriend anytime as she is more attractive than me.

37:25 That is so weird.

37:26 Ew.

37:27 Well, he's giving her the green light, so go for it.

37:30 No! He's not giving her the green light!

37:33 I know.

37:34 No, it sounds like it, though.

37:36 You might have a point. You might have a point, dude. This is some weird family.

37:40 I'm not the most attractive one to my daddy. And my daddy wants to give his girlfriend to my boyfriend.

37:49 What kind of effed up Christmas dinner is this? I want to leave.

37:54 What?

37:55 What were you about to say?

37:57 I was going to say, the guy has not experienced a Christmas before, so this is his first introduction to Christmas. I think we should all remember that.

38:04 That is very true.

38:07 It is a time of giving gifts.

38:09 Whoa.

38:10 He's like, is this what it's like? And the dad has wrapped one up in a tight leather dress.

38:18 That is crazy.

38:19 Dang, good point.

38:20 Good point.

38:21 I didn't catch that. That must be a mind F.

38:24 There is a little bit left here. Any final thoughts you have?

38:28 I just hope that he's from Europe, right?

38:31 He's, I don't know.

38:32 First Christmas in the US? I just hope he can stay strong. Stay strong, man. Stay strong.

38:38 Stick to your guns.

38:39 Be a loyal man this Christmas.

38:42 There you go. I agree with that. I am on board with that.

38:44 I finally had enough of her nonsense and told her, in our native language, that she should stop thinking everyone wants to F her and her plastic face.

38:53 Whoa.

38:55 That was crazy.

38:56 Especially if they got a latex allergy.

38:58 Especially.

39:02 My father then yelled at me and told me I had no right to say such things, but before he could do anything else, I just took my boyfriend's arm and left. Most of my family thinks I exaggerated over a joke, but none of them know how I feel over jokes like these. My boyfriend said I had every right to say that, and so did my mom. I do not want to apologize to anyone, as I have always been the one to apologize to them, and I don't want to ruin Christmas night either. Am I the a Well, you did.

39:31 Ruin some people's Christmas night.

39:32 Yeah.

39:33 Well but is that really her fault they were coming on to my boy if i'm like at uh you know my family christmas and i have like my.

39:43 Bob well first of all this would never happen.

39:46 But to say like my sister if my like my sister was like coming on to my boyfriend or something i'd be like.

39:51 I hate it when that happens i'd be like what are you doing in that situation like It's tough because she didn't keep the peace. I think she had the keys.

40:01 Well, yeah, but I.

40:02 You've.

40:02 Got to stand up for yourself.

40:03 You do.

40:04 And your man.

40:05 It's his first Christmas.

40:06 Yeah, and he was probably very uncomfortable as well because he agreed with her.

40:11 He's like, yeah, that was overstepping and weird.

40:14 I hope he was uncomfortable. If not, the story could have gone a different direction.

40:18 Oh, my gosh, right?

40:19 I mean, yeah.

40:20 They come over for New Year's.

40:21 Oh.

40:23 New year, new me.

40:24 They're both in leather dresses.

40:26 Oh, gosh.

40:28 Oh my gosh.

40:29 So this weird comparison to your dad's girlfriend and your beauty is.

40:33 Yeah, that's.

40:34 Also really weird.

40:35 A little odd.

40:36 Yeah. Strange competition going on there for no reason at all, but whatever.

40:41 Whatever. And that's the end of this story. We're going to go to the next one.

40:46 I banned my family from my wedding. They got a bridal suit for my groom behind my back. Yeah, I don't think that's how it works. I, 24 male, am getting married to my fiance, John, 23 male. My mother's family is very traditional and religious and always believed I would be marrying a girl. So they're having a hard time adjusting. John is a model.

41:08 Ooh.

41:09 There are often times where he'll model clothes on the more feminine side and no one has a problem with it. My family have seen some of the photos and have often joked that John is pretty enough.

41:18 To be a girl. They're like, if he just wears a wedding dress, we'll be fine with it. Why not?

41:24 Which he would just laugh off as some joke. My grandfather is offered to pay for the suits. The deal was that he would get an opinion when it came to what our wedding suits would be, since they were paying. John and I went on different days, and fast forward, and I'm going to pick up the suits from my aunt's place. Right away, I can tell something's wrong. My suit is fine. But John's is white. John was adamant that he wanted a black suit. So I asked my aunt why it was white, but she said John chose it.

41:52 I didn't believe her. Something was definitely off. John isn't a large guy or anything, but the suit just looked far too small. I asked John about the suit when I get home and he just brushes it off. When I said it looked too small, he looked a bit panicked and said he'll take care of it. By the way, this comes from Salty Groom. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.

42:13 I'm Savannah.

42:14 I'm Keon.

42:15 And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we do. So let us know what you would do in the comments.

42:21 Is that perhaps your suit?

42:24 Is it perhaps your size?

42:26 That's what I'm wondering. Is this perhaps OP's suit, the white one? Because OP said it was too small for his fiancé, but is it his size? And do they want him to wear white?

42:39 Oh.

42:39 See, I thought that they just wanted the model to be, like, more, that's the girl.

42:46 So that's why they, like, put him in white, but I don't know why it didn't fit.

42:48 Yeah, it doesn't fit.

42:50 I couldn't help but feel maybe John was pressured into choosing white. He's a bit of a people pleaser, so it wouldn't surprise me. I ended up looking up the suit online to see if I could order one in black so that if he liked it, we could refund my grandfather. As it turns out, they ordered a women's suit for him. Oh, well.

43:11 Now, why did we do that without asking?

43:13 No, but why did we do that at all? But is he a woman?

43:17 No. No.

43:18 What are we doing?

43:20 I honestly thought it was a mistake at first and that maybe my grandfather somehow chose wrong. So I asked John about it when he got home and it broke down. Apparently, my grandfather told John that every wedding needs someone in the bride role. And since he's marrying into our family, it should be him.

43:34 Oh, no.

43:35 Every wedding needs a girl, even if you're not a girl. My aunt has been pressuring John into losing weight to fit into the suit they bought for him.

43:44 That's insane. Again, this guy is a model.

43:47 Yeah.

43:47 You should lose weight so that you look better in that suit, so that suit fits you.

43:51 How about just give me a suit that fits me?

43:53 I don't know. We could just do that. Is that weird?

43:56 And I'd convinced him their family would only accept him if he wore a white bridal suit.

44:01 That's what they would do to accept him?

44:03 I just don't understand why they wouldn't just get a suit that fits him.

44:06 Yep.

44:06 Just get a men's white suit. Why does it have to be a woman's? And that's not even all. My grandaunt has been buying John a lot of hair accessories that are extremely feminine and has even suggested he get a new engagement ring. I've never been so pissed. Conservative people are so weird.

44:24 So weird.

44:24 Because they hate trans people. But then also they're like beach pants. Wear women's clothes.

44:31 Yeah.

44:32 Yeah.

44:32 It is weird that they're like, well, you know, we don't like the men on men action. We like men on women. So but we really don't like pants. But good thing that you identify as a man. But we're going to dress you up as a woman.

44:44 Yeah.

44:45 Yeah.

44:45 So we'll figure out a workaround.

44:48 Don said he didn't tell me about any of this because he just wanted to keep the peace. And that just made me more upset. I ended up uninviting them to our wedding.

44:56 Fair.

44:57 My mom called and demanded to know what happened. And she was deeply shocked and ashamed when I told her everything. She says it's not acceptable, but that they're having a hard time adjusting to this new kind of wedding.

45:08 It's not a new kind of wedding.

45:09 Yeah.

45:10 The wedding is the same.

45:11 It's two guys.

45:12 It's just two men. Literally, the same thing's gonna happen. It's just two guys, and you're gonna see him kiss.

45:19 Yep. Whoa!

45:20 Uh-oh!

45:21 Raise the arms! Hold on, someone call the fire department!

45:25 My cousin says that if the suit was such a big deal, then John should just wear a dress, since.

45:30 He's used to wearing girls' clothes.

45:32 That's not it.

45:35 This is so weird. This is so weird. I uninvited them too. John's family are all on my side. My mom says that I was overreacting by uninviting everyone that disagrees with me and that I should let them come if they apologize to John. I'll admit I was harsh, but I also don't think I'm in the wrong. Am I the a-hole? And we do have an update.

45:56 No.

45:57 No.

45:57 Not at all.

45:58 What do you do with these people?

45:59 I don't know.

46:00 It feels like O.P., Did give them a chance.

46:02 Yeah.

46:02 And they just kept doubling or tripling down that like, we need feminine stuff or like dress to impress or like what?

46:10 I'm just picturing them putting little bows in his hair.

46:12 They're like, perfect.

46:13 You're ready for your wedding day now. And there's like extensions and like, what are you doing?

46:17 He's just completely almost there. You're just marrying someone else at that point. Yeah. Like what? Can I just be, I don't know.

46:24 So strange. Happy in my own skin? Like, I already have an issue with that.

46:28 And now I have to, you know, accommodate for people for my wedding?

46:32 No.

46:32 How about, let just let me be who I want to be.

46:35 Yeah, you could just not come if you don't like it.

46:37 Emma Wilkins says, God.

46:38 I'd elope. Yeah, I think that would, if you're going to invite.

46:42 Them or disinvite that many people, we might be getting into elope territory. John and I ended up deciding that if my family apologized to him, they would be able to come to the ceremony. But not the reception. John was the one who suggested it, and my mom was on board with the idea as well. We returned both suits, and John's grandparents offered to pay for any we chose by ourselves, regardless of.

47:03 What they looked like.

47:04 Okay.

47:04 Okay, at least John's grandparents are cool.

47:07 Yes.

47:08 They would even pay the shipping fees so they'd be here on time.

47:11 Bless them.

47:11 All the offenders, except for my cousins.

47:13 Ended up apologizing to John, but only my aunt looked somewhat genuine about it, especially after we explained the deal. I thought that would be it, but I was wrong. Yesterday, we got a return on our deposit for our reception menu. The owners said they ended up double booking and could no longer host us. Their policy says they can refund up to the week of an event. As far as the website says, the day is still free. My mom has been getting texts nonstop from her brother, and we have come to the conclusion that her uncle somehow convinced the owners of the venue not to host us, presumably because they were pissed about not being able to come to the reception. So now John and I have no venue and are positively freaking out.

47:54 Sue them.

47:55 If you can prove that they still have that day open, I would take pictures of all of that.

48:00 Say they called us.

48:01 They said that they were not free and then call them back and say, hey, we're going to sue you if you don't give us our date back.

48:07 That's just ridiculous.

48:08 I don't even know how that even happens.

48:10 We've been scrambling all day trying to find one last minute because we have everything booked. An invitation sent out, but no place for anyone to go. So, yeah, as if the situation wasn't already bad enough. I may end up posting another update if we're able to sort this out. And we do have a second update to them.

48:26 To them.

48:27 You got to do something. I mean, how?

48:29 Like, they just canceled it?

48:31 Yeah.

48:32 Week of.

48:33 That's so wrong.

48:34 Oh, my God. So wrong. Everyone needs to write a Yelp review.

48:38 Yes.

48:38 Yes.

48:39 If you can't sue them, write a Yelp review.

48:41 Everyone in your family. Everyone needs to.

48:44 Update two.

48:44 Before we get into the update, I think you just like really ham up the like, oh, are you doing this because you hate queer couples? Are you doing this because we're both men and you don't want us to be at your venue?

48:55 Yeah.

48:55 Because what is the reason?

48:56 Did they give a reason?

48:58 No.

48:59 They said double booked.

49:00 But it's not double booked. It's not double booked. Yeah. I go, not double booked. What's up with that?

49:07 Update two.

49:09 It's been an absolute ride over here. My brother-in-law ended up calling to request the venue in his name, as everyone suggested, but it was in fact already rebooked. My mom got a call saying her uncle sent in a higher deposit in his name, claiming he was covering the cost for us to compensate for a higher headcount. He was essentially dangling the venue over our heads in order to make us go back on our word about not having the side of the family at the reception. I'm not sure how any of that works, and it seems incredibly unprofessional on the venue's part.

49:38 To them, Yeah.

49:40 John was willing to give in and just allow everyone to come at this point, mainly because we needed a venue and it was impossible to find a new one with such a short time frame.

49:49 I was not.

49:50 And given everyone's collective outrage on the original post, I had enough. They had mistreated John behind my back, insulted our relationship, and they did not deserve to celebrate our marriage. One of the groom's ladies came to the rescue and offered up her small property about 30 minutes from the original site.

50:07 Bless her.

50:08 Aw.

50:09 We transformed the place into something that somewhat resembles a wedding venue in the two days leading up to it, and it looked really good in the end. It had somewhat of a rustic, woodsy vibe, which John and I actually really liked. In fact, we liked it so much that we decided to have the ceremony there as well.

50:24 One of John's cousins was officiating, and the original location had a refundable deposit as well, so it would all work out. The wedding was perfect and the greatest day of my life. Despite the pitfalls, John and I had a truly fantastic day. I did not tell my mom's family about the change of plans. I told them that they could come to the reception. at the venue they paid for and that i was sorry for being disrespectful to them oh baby tricked them they're gonna show up and it's empty oh and they paid for it love that it was probably expensive oh yeah there's no way it was cheap they were not pleased when they realized we had switched venues for both events and thankfully they were unable to get the new address My uncle demanded

51:09 we refunded him for the deposit, which we obviously didn't. John and I blocked all of their numbers after sending them the early drafts of the wedding photos, which were edited so it looked as if I were wearing a wedding dress just to piss them off.

51:21 Nice.

51:22 That's hilarious.

51:22 That's really funny.

51:23 You should do the thing where it's like you have like really fake blush on and like blue eyeshadow and stuff.

51:29 Like really go all out.

51:30 Yeah.

51:30 We've decided to go no contact with all of them, something that we probably should have done a long time ago.

51:36 My siblings have as well, and my mom is low contact.

51:39 I think it all worked out.

51:41 I agree.

51:42 Except if you guys don't finish this story by suing the venue, I will be mad.

51:49 Sue them.

51:50 Revenge. They can't cancel on you like the week before.

51:53 Yeah.

51:53 No, that's crazy.

51:55 Yeah.

51:55 Revenge is a best dish served cold. Well, there you go.

51:58 There's a little bit left. And there you have it, folks.

52:02 I still don't know why they chose to act the way they did, though some of their more creepy behavior has come to light. Neither of us are willing to go into depth on everything my family has done. But needless to say, I'm fine with never speaking to them ever again. John said in a few years he's open to maybe seeing them at any potential family events. But he's far too kind. We have decided, though, that when kids come into the picture, they will not have any contact with these people. And before anyone asks, everyone at the wedding left the original venue a harsh review.

52:34 Was it petty? Yes. But none of us care. It's honestly not petty.

52:38 It's not petty. They screwed you over.

52:40 You should tell people that you had a really bad experience.

52:43 Yeah.

52:43 It's like, hey, we were canceled on the week before.

52:46 Yeah.

52:47 Because they double booked, except my terrible uncle booked the place after.

52:52 So clearly they weren't.

52:53 Yeah. Yeah.

52:54 So there you go.

52:55 You're just telling, you're warning people. It is a genuine warning. Both John and I would like to thank everyone for their support as well. And for all the well wishes as we go on to start our lives together. And that is the end of that story.

53:08 How lovely. Congrats, everyone.

53:11 I refuse to give my sister any more money.

53:14 She said I'd never see her baby. Well, you're definitely not getting money now.

53:18 My sister, 23 female, is living in supported living accommodation and has always had problems with money. She spends more on cigarettes and booze than food for herself or her bills and is constantly asking my mother and me, 26 female.

53:32 For help.

53:32 I admit.

53:34 I have been weak and given in to her and loaned.

53:37 Her probably about 5,000 pounds altogether within the last year. And it was just dawning on me that I need to seriously help her manage her finances and stop funding her poor choices. Or my mother and I are going to be in the red from giving her money. Well, she called me today with the news that she's pregnant.

53:57 That's Smoking, right?

54:02 Yeah, that's the perfect thing.

54:04 Right?

54:04 You've probably been drinking and smoking.

54:06 I don't know.

54:07 Right?

54:08 She is ecstatic.

54:10 She's already blown all her food money on baby toys, clothes, and is applying for a council house now that she's going to have a baby.

54:17 It's better than booze and cigarettes.

54:20 I asked who the father is. Apparently, she's been sleeping with the man who lives in the same accommodation, and she doesn't want to tell him and doesn't mind if he doesn't want a part in her child's life. She wants to raise the baby. I know this baby is going to make her even more broke and desperate for money.

54:34 And I just don't know what to do. Obviously, I told her I was happy for her and told her for the hundredth time to please be careful with her money. And she said she was going to stop smoking and drinking for her baby, which I hate to say.

54:47 But I doubt. By the way, this comes from... Throw away sister.

54:52 And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.

54:55 I'm Savannah.

54:56 I'm Sophia. I'm Keon.

54:57 And we need to talk about some stuff, get some advice, but we don't have all your answers. We're only going to tell you what we would do, but let us know what you would do down in the comments. As Opie says, I can't even really visit her that much since I relocated for work and live halfway down the country from her. I would obviously book a train to see her if I knew what to say. I just don't know how to tell her that I can't keep giving her money.

55:21 She's pregnant and broke.

55:22 I know she won't take it well, but I also know she cannot keep asking for money from her family and in turn do nothing to change her bad habits. Well, she's been doing that for years and no one's really called her out. So, I mean, hopefully the baby will die. make her more responsible but i honestly doubt it.

55:41 Yeah unfortunately i i don't think this is going to turn out well which is so sad but there's really not much like if you gave her money she'd probably just use it for the for anything but yeah yeah So the best thing that you could do is directly buy things, you know, like diapers and things that the baby would need rather than giving her the money.

56:03 True, true.

56:05 What do I say to her?

56:06 I don't want her to hate me or go to my mother saying that I'm not helping her. I just don't know what to do.

56:11 And there's an edit.

56:12 I'm no longer going to fund my sister and I have arranged to visit my mother on the weekend to talk about everything with her. It sounds like she's also starting to see that neither of us can keep doing this. I'll update in a week's time after I have had a good talk with my mom and let you all know what went down.

56:28 Thank you all again. And there's an update a week later.

56:31 Yeah, I think it's fair to not give the money again. I think if you wanted to help directly buy things that would be the best thing to do in this situation.

56:40 Yeah because she's just gonna spend it on god.

56:43 Knows what yeah and i really hope she does stop drinking and smoking for the baby's sake me too but also that's horrific.

56:53 Yeah it's just really sad because already she was in a really bad situation and then this baby's coming into this bad situation.

57:01 At this point use that money to put her in like rehab.

57:05 Honestly, I thought you were going to say something else. And I do have another idea.

57:09 You could use that money to save for like a college fund for this baby. Like you could start, you know, saving for like some sort of schooling. Well, unfortunately, you can't really send people to rehab unless they agree, which I doubt she would.

57:25 We just go surprise. Got him.

57:28 Update seven days later.

57:30 So I booked train tickets up to my hometown five days earlier to meet my mother. For this, however, who should contact me on the evening of the 18th of December asking for 50 pounds, but my sister, reason, she'd seen some lovely baby clothes and just had to buy them, leaving her with no money for necessities.

57:49 Oh boy, here we go.

57:51 Do we think she has like a substance problem or a spending problem?

57:54 Or both?

57:55 Both.

57:55 Yeah.

57:56 She clearly has been spending all of her money on substances. Exactly.

57:59 And now baby clothes. Yeah.

58:00 I'm getting, does she not work or maybe?

58:03 No.

58:04 So she doesn't work.

58:05 She just, she just lives in a like subsidized. I, well, I mean, at least we haven't heard anything about a job. It seems like she just lives on like government, like unemployment.

58:14 Yeah.

58:14 Maybe like, Because they're in the UK, so there is like social programs that like help people who don't have, like can't afford housing.

58:23 I told her no, I would not be giving her any money. Secondly, that I could not and will not keep funding her irresponsibilities and that she needs to sort out her priorities. Example, food and prescriptions. Well, as you can guess, she was not happy with this. She started crying big fat crocodile tears, asking what she was supposed to do as she had three pounds.

58:45 To her name and no food in the house. I go look at all the baby clothes and go, why? See, that's why.

58:53 Yeah, it's just there are things there are wants and there are needs and you can't decipher the difference.

58:59 And that's a big issue.

59:00 And that's a big issue as one for yourself and another as a parent, because you are about to be a parent.

59:07 You have to take some responsibility financially.

59:10 That's crazy. In a sense, she found like the infinite money glitch that she's not working and Yeah. It's going to stop eventually.

59:17 I apologized and refused again, quite sternly at this point, because I hate being guilt tripped and suggested she buy herself something cheap that could last a while.

59:25 Example, some dried rice or pasta. This just agitated her even more. She started shouting that I need to stop telling her what to do, and she knows how to look after herself.

59:34 Obviously not. Wow.

59:35 And I'd be like, do you?

59:36 No.

59:37 Oh, because you're coming to me asking for money and then criticizing me when I don't help you.

59:41 Yeah.

59:41 How about you just spend your money correctly and maybe save and buy things that are necessities, not wants. Yeah.

59:49 Just look at her and say, well, if you know what you're doing, then don't come to me.

59:53 Yeah.

59:53 Not helping you.

59:54 She started asking me if I loved her and if I even cared that she was pregnant.

59:58 Oh, here we go.

1:00:00 Guilt tripping.

1:00:01 God.

1:00:02 I told her that she should have thought about how bad she is with money before getting pregnant, that she's going to make her debt problem worse, and I am not going to be dragged under her.

1:00:11 By paying for her child. At this point, we were both fuming.

1:00:14 She was calling me all sorts of names and yelled that I was selfish and heartless and that she was going to tell our mother that I refused to help her in her time of need. Exasperated, I just said, fine, blank, tell her. If she has any sense, she will say the same thing. Goodbye, and hung up. She kept trying to call me after that.

1:00:33 Every time, I just let it ring out.

1:00:36 I then started getting texts, one of which threatening that I would never see my niece or nephew because I'm such an effing a-hole and she wouldn't want me around her children. I ended up calling my mother at that point to warn her that my sister would most likely be coming to her next to beg and told her to please not give in and fund her as this was something I wanted to discuss with her the next day.

1:00:57 She said she wouldn't and then I turned my phone off and got an early night.

1:01:01 That's nice.

1:01:02 And he's like, you know what?

1:01:02 I'm going to bed.

1:01:03 I'm done.

1:01:04 I tried to have an early.

1:01:05 Night last night. You didn't?

1:01:07 Nope.

1:01:08 Just kept looking at houses. That's my life now.

1:01:12 So on Saturday, I take the two hour train to my hometown and I meet my mother at her house.

1:01:18 After unloading Christmas.

1:01:19 Presents, we had a long talk and I wasn't surprised to hear my sister had been contacting her asking for money that very morning. Thankfully, my mother told me that she had said no.

1:01:29 She couldn't.

1:01:29 Money is tight for her, too, at the moment with Christmas coming. being only a few days away, and she could not spare it. My mother got the same kind of guilt tripping and my sister told her everything that I said to her on the phone in an attempt to get my mother to be mad at me. Fat chance that was. As my mother told me, she agreed with everything I said. As she carried on relaying my sister's words, she started crying as she recounted what she said to her. It was horrible seeing her like that, and she told me that she hated telling her daughter no, but she had already had to sacrifice so much for her and was only just beginning to see that she had to start putting her own needs first now. We

1:02:05 both had a bit of a cry, and I told her I would be there for her no matter what, which then gave way to laughter as my mother said, Oh, no, no, no. Don't you dare let me become another bloody witch to you. We both agreed 100% that we will not give my sister any money, but we will both go to see her and try and talk to her calmly about her options.

1:02:26 Key word being try here. We both know that she will be angry and try to guilt us more, but we agreed that we need to tell her face to face.

1:02:34 This is tough.

1:02:35 Sorry about your mom.

1:02:36 Yeah, it is a tough situation because it's like, of course, you want to help your daughter. Yeah, of course you do. Especially in like this time of need, if she's actually telling the truth about being pregnant and having no money for food and all this stuff.

1:02:46 It's like, yeah, I do feel bad for you. But in a sense, you are doing it to yourself.

1:02:49 Yes.

1:02:50 And anything I try to help you with, you would not use. It's like giving, you know, a rope to someone in a hole and they just burn it. I mean, she's already using some of these opportunities and yet is not using them to her benefit.

1:03:04 You know, like it's not actually using them in a way that like.

1:03:08 Yeah.

1:03:08 Would help her or her, you know.

1:03:10 Soon to be child.

1:03:10 Which is unfortunate because they're put there for a reason.

1:03:14 Especially in the UK.

1:03:15 Yeah.

1:03:16 Like even more so than the US, like way more than the US.

1:03:19 They have these like safety nets.

1:03:21 It wouldn't matter because.

1:03:22 She doesn't want to help herself.

1:03:24 Yeah.

1:03:25 It truly comes down to them and what they want to do and if they're going to in their choices. If they choose to not help themselves, that's on them, you know? And don't come crying to me saying, I have no money.

1:03:36 I have no money.

1:03:37 Well, what did you spend it on?

1:03:38 Oh, I just saw these really cute clothes.

1:03:40 I wanted for my baby. So yeah.

1:03:43 Like, come on.

1:03:44 You don't even know gender. You don't know anything. Like, come on. Like, how about some food?

1:03:49 Eat some food. Get a can of soup. Like, come on.

1:03:52 Something.

1:03:53 Mmm. Canned soup.

1:03:55 We have also been looking up some local support groups centered around new mothers and living well on a budget. We are going to put these forward to her and ask that she give them a try. My sister usually goes to my mother's for Christmas, so I have no idea how she is going to be around her if She will even turn up this year having been rejected.

1:04:14 I usually stay at home with my husband but me and him have agreed that this year we will drive up to my mother's house tomorrow to spend it with her. If my sister turns up so be it. We will talk to her then as a family but if she doesn't At least we will be there to keep mom company on Christmas Day. It's going to be an interesting one this year for us. Thanks for all your help on the previous thread, guys. And I hope you all have happy holidays.

1:04:37 Happy holidays.

1:04:39 And that's the end of this story. We're going to go to the next one.

1:04:43 My mother misused my credit behind my back, so I deleted it entirely.

1:04:47 Yay, erase that crap.

1:04:49 I turned 20 yesterday and had a nice weekend away from home and just got back to this mess. My dad's birthday is coming in September and my mom wants to take him to Punta Cana. The thing is, she can't afford to pay the full amount straight away. My mom used to have her own Klarna account, but after missing 99% of her payments and late fees building up, they eventually banned her account for unreliability to keep up with payments. So she asked me if she could use mine.

1:05:13 This was in 2024. And I said she can use it for stuff that she needs, but not to go crazy on it because I was conscious of my credit score.

1:05:20 I would never let anyone who's.

1:05:22 Really bad at paying off their debts use anything related to mine.

1:05:26 Yep.

1:05:27 That just seems like common sense to me. But it is her mom.

1:05:30 Yeah, it is family, but also doesn't dismiss you from having bad spending habits.

1:05:34 Yes.

1:05:35 She hasn't listened, and until Christmas, she had too many payments building up. I told her to stop buying so much stuff, or I'd put payment authentication on my account. She didn't listen again, so I changed the settings to send a code to both my number and email to verify that I'm making the purchase. Since I enforced this, she stopped buying as much and resorted to using her ClearPay.

1:05:55 By the way, this comes from Audrey Hepburn, lover. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.

1:06:01 I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.

1:06:03 I'm Keon.

1:06:04 And we're here to give good advice, Goofly, but we don't have all the answers, so if you've got answers, give them here.

1:06:09 Is OP Gregory Peck? Mmm, Audrey Hepburn lover.

1:06:13 Oh.

1:06:13 OP says, I've been planning to delete my Klarna account for months now, since the start of the year, and I thought I was going to until we had an argument while on vacation a few months ago over money, and she made my dad ask me for the verification codes so she can use pay in 30 days for our overweight luggage. When I realized what she was doing.

1:06:32 I said I didn't get any coats. And she came in and screamed at me to send her the coats.

1:06:37 Oh.

1:06:37 I'm not.

1:06:38 You know what?

1:06:39 I'm distancing myself. Yeah. Seems like she's just using you for your money.

1:06:44 Then once we made up and flew back home, she said she can't afford to pay the full amount in 30 days. I said if you need to split it into three, then that's fine. But don't use pay in six or pay in 12. And she completely went against what I said and used pay in 12. Why do you keep letting her get away with this? Yeah. I was so mad at her for this, and she promised she would pay off the rest by the end of June.

1:07:05 She hasn't.

1:07:06 Now she's planning my dad's birthday vacation in Punta Cana. She already asked me if she can use my Klarna, and I asked her if there's another way she can pay for this trip. She said there wasn't another option. Aw, I guess you can't go on the trip.

1:07:19 Yeah, to frickin' Punta Cana. Shout out to the Dominican Republic.

1:07:23 Demonican.

1:07:24 Demonican.

1:07:24 The Demonic Republic.

1:07:25 Demonican. You're gonna make me demonic if you keep doing this, Mom.

1:07:30 That could be banned.

1:07:32 Yeah.

1:07:33 So I told her, if you want to use my Klarna, then use pay in three or pay in six. OP, fool me once. What's going on? You've been fooled 12 times.

1:07:42 OP's like 21, like a little baby. But like, OP's 20.

1:07:46 She keeps having this happen. She's like, why?

1:07:48 She kept insisting she needs to use pay in 12 because she can't afford the first two options. I reminded her again that I want to delete the account. She said, I can't delete the account because I'm still buying stuff with it. I said, that's exactly why I want to delete it. Anyway, I reminded her once again, if she wants to use my Klarna, then she can't use the pay in 12. And her response was.

1:08:09 If she can't use pay in 12, then she can't take my dad on vacation.

1:08:12 Aw, guess you're not going on vacation. Yeah, like live in your means.

1:08:16 I don't understand. It doesn't have to be some extravagant thing, you know, for like a birthday or vacation.

1:08:21 Take him to the Golden Corral.

1:08:22 Yeah, or just like go on like, A nice little picnic somewhere.

1:08:26 Like, I don't know.

1:08:27 I love that. I love doing things like local. I mean, I also love traveling. I'd be down for a trip if it's not going to put me in debt. Yeah.

1:08:35 I'm also trying to save up to move out and to get a car. She knows this, but she says, I'm sure you still wouldn't be able to afford it. Every time I mentioned my awareness of my credit score, she just laughs it off. I would have deleted this account if she hadn't used the pay in 12 behind my back. I've already asked her to pay the rest of that off soon. And she said she can't afford it.

1:08:54 Huh, interesting. OP, stop letting her. I'm so tired of this.

1:09:00 I can't seem to get her to listen to me and we do have an update if the update isn't i punted her off of all of my accounts and deleted this so that she can't ruin my credit score then i don't know why we're here I'm just.

1:09:12 I'm giving her the hey, listen from Navi from Legend of Zelda. Hey, listen.

1:09:16 Hey, listen.

1:09:17 Hey, listen.

1:09:18 Hey, listen.

1:09:19 Hit them with the hey, listen.

1:09:20 Huh? Yeah, that's all my advice. I have no new advice. Stop doing this.

1:09:24 I feel like OP's doing it because they're still young and they're like, it's my mommy.

1:09:28 Absolutely.

1:09:29 It's your mom. You don't want to piss off your mom. And also, you want to help her in her time. And also, you don't want to be the reason.

1:09:35 You know, your dad's vacation's ruined or something.

1:09:37 It's like, it's a lot of pressure.

1:09:39 Yes. But also, it's not your responsibility as the child to pay for your parents' stuff. And ruin credit score? Yeah.

1:09:48 Yeah.

1:09:48 A lot of the advice I received was US-based, if he continues, such as freezing my credit. But I am in the UK, so I looked into the UK equivalent.

1:09:57 Fuck.

1:09:57 I've now cleared all the outstanding Klarna payments on my account, including the ones my mom had been using my account for. I've deleted the account and following the advice I was given and will pretend that the account was banned due to late payments. My mom will be angry about this for sure, but at least I saved myself from letting this go on even longer. I've also checked my credit reports with Experian, Equifax, and TransUnion, and there are no loans, credit cards, or other accounts I don't recognize. Some people warned that my mom may have taken a loan out in my name, but my reports show that everything is clear.

1:10:29 As an extra precaution, I registered for CIFA's protective registration. which adds an extra layer of identity checks if someone ever tries to apply for credit in my name. I also wanted to clear something up because I saw a few comments asking why my dad wasn't stopping this.

1:10:43 He is completely oblivious.

1:10:45 My mom has never told him how much debt she built up using my Klarna. And she told me once that if I ever told my dad how much she owes, I wouldn't be welcome in my house anymore.

1:10:55 Oh my God.

1:10:56 So she knows that she's doing it. And she knows that your dad would not approve.

1:11:00 Yeah.

1:11:01 So tell him.

1:11:02 Yeah.

1:11:02 Wow.

1:11:02 Keep it secrets.

1:11:03 Come on for real from your own husband because she's spending too much money as i stated in the last post i'm currently in the process of saving enough money so that threat was something i had to take seriously oh because they're still living together oh yeah that makes sense i understand this story a lot more now if you're still living together it makes sense why op's like.

1:11:25 Okay well i'll help Oh, sorry. That hit me like five minutes later. No, it's okay. Dang.

1:11:33 If it ever came to that point, my partner and his roommates would be more than willing to let me stay at their place. I've decided that I'll be staying with them for a few days just to have some space.

1:11:42 I mean, OP, I think you're doing it really smart.

1:11:45 Yeah, I agree.

1:11:45 I think this is the best option for you.

1:11:47 You're saving yourself because it's like, yeah, I want to.

1:11:50 Help my family out.

1:11:51 I want to, I don't want to make everyone mad at me. You know, there's like so much pressure on you, but also look out for yourself. You don't want to be in debt the rest of your life. You don't want bad credit that follows you everywhere.

1:12:01 Everywhere.

1:12:01 Especially like trying to get, you know, a place for yourself. Like, That's the first thing they checked is like, you know, your credit score or anything like that.

1:12:08 So like you. And that's what she's trying to move out. Exactly. So like, don't let your mom ruin this for you.

1:12:14 You're doing all the right things.

1:12:15 Agreed.

1:12:16 Going forward, she will no longer be using my Klarna account. There is no longer an account to use. The comments on my original post made me realize that I was essentially a doormat and I needed to put firmer boundaries in place and protect my own financial future.

1:12:31 You're young and you're learning. Yeah, you're learning. Yeah. learn it's good that you're learning now rather than 10 years later.

1:12:36 We haven't had any like irreversible damage and you're also unlearning yes unlearning from her in a good way thank you to everyone who has made me realize that no matter how brutal your comment was i still appreciate it however because this is the internet i have also gotten some comments calling me stupid dumb.

1:12:54 And one person even asked me if i am really stupid That is not right.

1:12:59 I'm still a human being learning to say no to my mother after years of giving in.

1:13:04 Any hateful comments have been reported.

1:13:06 As they should.

1:13:07 Thank you again to everyone who commented and encouraged me to take this seriously.

1:13:11 I'm glad, OP. That's the internet. The internet's going to be brutally honest or just cutthroat.

1:13:18 But good job, OP. You're fixing it. And that's all that matters. But we've got another story coming right up.

1:13:25 Hey, it's Keon, your favorite Filipino here. We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

1:13:32 My father-in-law told everyone I was lazy because I sleep.

1:13:36 During the day. Because I'm being Batman at night. I.

1:13:38 32 female, work overnights in a very demanding medical field. My sleep schedule has always been nocturnal, so this feels more natural to me than working days... and brings my stress down. My husband is gone five days out of the week as a truck driver, and my days off are the same days he's home, thanks.

1:13:58 To my seniority. So technically, in a sense, you are Batman at night because you are saving people. There you go. Modern day hero.

1:14:07 And we are both night owls during this period.

1:14:09 My mother-in-law recently passed away. So my father-in-law, 60s male, sold everything and moved to where we were and has been included in my family events. At Christmas, my brother pulled me aside to let me know that my father-in-law is telling anyone who will listen that I am lazy because I sleep all day.

1:14:24 Hey, idiot, what are you doing?

1:14:26 Huh?

1:14:26 What's your job?

1:14:27 Retired.

1:14:28 Yeah.

1:14:28 Quitter.

1:14:30 I work 12 to 24 hour shifts at my job during the day.

1:14:34 No.

1:14:34 No. Yeah, no. This is literally my time to rest.

1:14:56 Yeah.

1:14:56 Good night.

1:14:57 I am usually asleep by noon and have to be up for work around 8 or 9 p.m. I've sat these people down to explain that I am an overnight emergency worker and that I need my sleep.

1:15:07 By the way, this comes from throwawayphilishu.

1:15:09 And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.

1:15:13 I'm Savannah.

1:15:14 I'm Keon.

1:15:15 And we're here to talk about some stuff, give some advice, but we don't have all your answers. We're only going to tell you what we would do.

1:15:21 But, you know, why not? Let us know what you're going to do in the comments.

1:15:23 Let's share this moment.

1:15:24 Hmm.

1:15:25 As OP says, my husband sat my father-in-law down and explained to him what I do, how I need my sleep, and that he's being a little freak. My father-in-law maintains that a real job doesn't have overnights.

1:15:37 What are you talking about? What are you talking about?

1:15:40 That's like so many jobs. Like not all of them you can do during the day.

1:15:45 You have to do it during the night.

1:15:46 Yeah.

1:15:47 Like what do you think? Everyone just goes to bed at a certain time. Like the night just stops. Like the city stops once it's at night. What are you talking about?

1:15:54 I don't want to have to cut contact with him because we are the only family he has left.

1:15:59 My husband stands.

1:16:00 Behind me and says if I want to cut him out even just to let him have a time out he's game. I also don't know how to address my whole family about this. My mom combats it as much as possible but his way of thinking is starting to permeate them too.

1:16:15 And there's an update. You know what? We're gonna have a fun family day. Well, technically family night. Everyone's gonna come to my job and see what I do.

1:16:20 Yeah.

1:16:21 I'll give you passes.

1:16:22 Like, I.

1:16:22 Oh, are you guys too sleepy? Is that sleep time?

1:16:24 Hmm.

1:16:25 Yeah.

1:16:26 It's like so many people work nights.

1:16:28 You have.

1:16:29 Like, anyone who is an essential worker essentially will work a night.

1:16:33 At least... Once. I mean, a lot more than that.

1:16:37 How moronic is that to say people who work nights aren't a... Like, those aren't... That's not a job.

1:16:43 What?

1:16:43 It's like, what about, like, people who work at, like, pit stops or, like, gas stations or.

1:16:48 Anywhere.

1:16:48 Like.

1:16:49 airports medical yeah any of that stuff there's so many things you can say it's.

1:16:52 Like nope everything closes at 10 p.m that's it everyone goes to bed yeah yeah like huh there's an update i dealt with my family members at a family gathering over the weekend i saw my sister one of my family members who had been texting me reminded her that i'm asleep at 3 or 4 p.m when she texts If she texts me first thing in the morning, like when she leaves for work at 7, maybe I can do whatever favors she needs before.

1:17:17 I go to sleep. I told her that I wouldn't be adjusting my schedule to do her favors.

1:17:21 She seemed to understand.

1:17:22 Over the weekend, my husband and I sat down with my father-in-law one last time to try to get him to understand that I am a medical professional. I work nights and that my nights are as hard as working a day shift.

1:17:35 Oftentimes even harder way harder anyone in the medical field shout out to you like it is rough especially because you were like have you seen those before and after like going into my shift as a nurse or like you know doctor or something and they come back and looks like they went through war yeah.

1:17:49 I'm sure i mean you're seeing all these people you're seeing horrible accidents.

1:17:53 You know show them the pit show them the show them like this like one of the episodes from the pit it's like that's my day-to-day Yeah.

1:18:00 Like literally any, like, you know, SVU, whatever, like, it's like, I don't know.

1:18:05 Do you think it's just Grey's Anatomy?

1:18:06 Yeah.

1:18:07 It's just, just show them Grey's Anatomy or House.

1:18:09 I've been watching Grey's Anatomy and it looks really easy. Why is, why is everyone, you guys are all medical professionals and getting unalived. What's going on?

1:18:15 Yeah.

1:18:16 Just imagine how, trying to explain to your father-in-law, it's just like, hey, yeah, take your day shift, but just imagine it in night.

1:18:22 Yeah.

1:18:23 He goes, can't comprehend that.

1:18:25 He's like, I don't get it. No, no, sleep. I sleep.

1:18:28 No, you sleep. I don't sleep. You don't sleep?

1:18:31 Oh, I see you sleeping all the time.

1:18:32 No!

1:18:33 Dumb.

1:18:35 Dumb.

1:18:36 I brought up my mother-in-law and reminded him how she called 911 at 2 a.m. when she had her first heart attack. I told him the person on the other end of that phone had a real job. The EMTs who came to take her to the hospital had real jobs and the ER nurse and doctors that treated her have real jobs. I told him that yes, I could take a day shift, but I would be unhappy in the end because I'm not wired to be awake during the day. Today is an exception because I'm on vacation and had a dentist appointment.

1:19:03 Yeah, this, I just don't understand.

1:19:05 Does he like, what job did he have that he never had to work a night shift?

1:19:10 Day man.

1:19:10 He was just day man.

1:19:11 Day man.

1:19:13 Oh.

1:19:15 Heck yeah. So I'm so happy you locked it on the, we clocked that immediately.

1:19:20 Yes.

1:19:21 I've been watching a lot of reels of all this.

1:19:23 Just watch it. It's so good.

1:19:25 No, I mean, I have watched it.

1:19:26 Great.

1:19:27 Yeah.

1:19:27 Yeah.

1:19:27 No, it is insane.

1:19:29 Yeah.

1:19:29 He's, he's day man. Fighter of the night man, which is UOP.

1:19:33 Champion of the sun.

1:19:36 Yes.

1:19:37 Fighting for friendship and for everyone.

1:19:39 Master of karate and friendship for everyone.

1:19:41 Yes. So good.

1:19:43 Wow.

1:19:43 All right, let's finish this up.

1:19:45 After the discussion, he point blank told me that my chosen hours weren't conductive to having children.

1:19:51 Shut up, dude.

1:19:52 You're so, you're such a moron.

1:19:54 Thanks thank you thank you awesome anything else when i reminded him that when his son and i got married 10 years ago we both agreed that we weren't having children he had some choice words my husband punted him out of the house and my family will stop inviting him to family gatherings not the outcome i wanted but hopefully he'll come around And there's an edit. To be clear, he did not live with us, but near us. My husband threw him out of our house that evening.

1:20:20 Okay.

1:20:21 Yeah, I didn't.

1:20:21 You said that earlier. I got that. You explained to him in just like baby terms. You're like, so super like Batman. Batman's at night. Batman works at night. Batman needs to rest during the day. But Batman doesn't do that.

1:20:33 So I think it's more of just the he's like, well, what if you have children?

1:20:37 Then what?

1:20:37 And it's like, we don't want children.

1:20:38 We don't want children. And even then we can.

1:20:41 Yeah, great.

1:20:41 Then he doesn't comprehend that.

1:20:42 Do you think babies just the babies nap during the day, too?

1:20:46 Yeah.

1:20:46 You should get a job.

1:20:47 They should get a job.

1:20:49 Yeah.

1:20:50 Babies nap like so much. And also sometimes will not sleep through the night. That's also a job that I may have to do overnight.

1:20:57 Okay.

1:20:57 At this point, it's just a brick wall.

1:20:58 Yeah.

1:20:59 Turn around. There's no reason to argue with a brick wall. It's pointless.

1:21:02 Yeah.

1:21:03 Just keep doing what you're doing. You're changing lives.

1:21:05 Thank you for what you do. Shout out to all the medical professionals and everyone who just works at night too. Truthfully, if you work at night, good for you. Could never do it. Could never do it. I appreciate that you do it because I couldn't. But that is the end of that story.