I took in my son's girlfriend…she turned ENTITLED fast! | Reddit Stories | EP3140

0:00 Hey, this is Dakota.

0:01 And this is Keon, your favorite OK Storytime host, and we've got some great stories coming right up.

0:05 But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from the sponsors that keep the show alive. I took in my son's girlfriend. She turned entitled fast. Looks like she wanted to keep him. I, 43, a female, married to a 45 male, two female, disabled homemaker for 20 plus years. We also have a teen daughter in high school.

0:27 My son.

0:28 Just turned 19 and is in.

0:29 His first year of college.

0:31 Last summer, before school started, at 18, he hatched a plan with his internet girlfriend, also 18, male to female, and his friends to bring his girlfriend to come live with us without our knowledge.

0:45 Surprise!

0:47 In August, one of my son's friends bought a bus ticket for my son's girlfriend to come to my home. We were informed when she was already on a bus on her way here.

1:01 Oh, it's the you get what you get. You don't get upset. Surprise.

1:04 Yeah, it's like the only ask for forgiveness instead of permission.

1:09 Aren't you happy for me, mom? I'm in love. What are you going to do? Make her go back? She's on the bus. They can't tell that bus.

1:16 Yeah. Tell that bus to turn around.

1:17 They can't turn around.

1:18 Needless to say, we were shocked. I had just had a major career shift in January and was still trying to heal from severe burnout and and catch up financially from being unexpectedly unemployed for six months. At first, I refused to take her in. We had never met. My son and her only knew each other from the internet, and we didn't really have the resources to take on another adult child.

1:43 Do you think this is the first time he's meeting her in person? Ooh, there's no way, right?

1:50 They did say internet girlfriend right off the bat.

1:53 I wouldn't be surprised.

1:54 The first time you meet your internet girlfriend in real life, you're moving her into your parents' house?

2:00 Honestly, yeah. You're like, this is the first time I meet my girlfriend. I'm moving mountains.

2:03 This is Reddit, bro.

2:05 I'm moving mountains for my internet girlfriend that I've never met.

2:07 Oh, man. Oh, my gosh. It's going to be a 300 dude named Mark Henry.

2:11 It's like Napoleon Dynamite.

2:13 An NFL linebacker.

2:15 What's Napoleon's brother's name again? Napoleon Dynamite?

2:18 Oh, my God.

2:19 This is what it's feeling like.

2:20 Kip.

2:21 Yeah.

2:22 It's Kip.

2:23 Yeah.

2:24 Kip and La Fonda. Dude, honestly, Kip?

2:27 Kip had it in the bag. If this is a story about Kip, I support Kip fully.

2:32 Yes.

2:33 However, due to the timing and the lack of public resources, we decided to try... and agreed to help her get on her feet as an adult. She came to us from a Romani family. She had left due to how she was treated. She had a fourth grade education, a state ID, a photocopy of her social security card, and no birth certificate. She wasn't even sure where she was born at first or what her biological mother's name was.

3:01 According to her, her mom left shortly after she was born. So she was raised by her father and his family.

3:06 I thought I was going to say she was raised by wolves.

3:08 Yeah, raised in the woods by a bunch of squirrels.

3:11 Romulus and Remus, her cousins.

3:15 By the way, this comes from MindlessDependent39. If you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash ok story time subreddit.

3:21 I'm Dakota. I'm Riley.

3:22 I'm Keon.

3:24 We're here to read this story and give our thoughts, but we don't know everything. We just try to give good advice like a little goofball. So let us know what you think. We need to know what you would do down in the comments.

3:33 Thank you.

3:34 And OP says, we started with the basics. Social security card and insurance as she is diabetic and had limited supplies with her.

3:43 Oh my gosh, dude.

3:45 This is crazy. She's literally dumping her life. Making it y'all's problem. Okay.

3:50 That's crazy.

3:50 It's hi.

3:51 Hello. Nice to meet you. Welcome stranger that we weren't aware of. And okay. Now we need to get you social security.

3:57 Okay.

3:58 Yes.

3:58 Nice.

3:59 Nice to meet you. Build my life.

4:01 Yeah.

4:02 This is a little build my life.

4:03 This is create a character.

4:04 I mean, if you've got no birth certificate in a fourth grade education, you probably do need a little help building your life.

4:09 Fair. Fair.

4:11 So we resolved the birth certificate. I got her a cell phone, which her family had turned hers off. A fireproof briefcase for her documents and the medications she needed.

4:21 Dang.

4:21 We struggled to find balance in the household for about a month. Once my son went to college, we let her take his bedroom.

4:29 Oh, yeah, yeah.

4:30 So the son is now gone to college, and she's still living here?

4:34 Yep. It's a surprise. Surprise.

4:37 My girlfriend's staying with us.

4:38 It's someone you can take care of while I'm gone. I'm already an adult. I'm already taken care of. You can take care of her now. Okay. All right.

4:45 Surprise. My girlfriend is now your child. Thank you.

4:47 Can you get my girlfriend ready for society while I go to college?

4:50 Thanks, Mom.

4:50 Appreciate it.

4:51 I got her enrolled in the local GED program and found a certification program she could complete in a field she was interested in for free. We split the kids' chores between her and our high schooler and encouraged her to find a job to start making money for herself.

5:06 Dude, how does a sister feel about this? I totally forgot about that.

5:08 How does everyone feel about this?

5:10 Yeah.

5:11 This is insane.

5:12 This is.

5:14 Like, we're doing a great thing for somebody. That's great. But what?

5:18 I don't like the language encouraged her to find a job.

5:23 I think the language needed to be, yeah, you gotta have a job.

5:27 Fair.

5:28 You gotta do that. That's not a hopefully.

5:32 No, you're going to find a job.

5:32 Get out there and see what you can do.

5:34 So six months later, here's where we are. She has completed three of four GED tests. She's still struggling with math, but is still attending GED classes, though with less frequency. Her first job was at a fast food pizza place. She quit on her second day. Her second job was about a month and a half later. She was a hostess for a restaurant, and that lasted for about Three months.

5:58 She claims she was fired. She's often extremely lax in her chores and does not eat properly to maintain her health with her medical condition. She has also antagonized my spouse with rude comments such as, honor these nuts, in response to a text my spouse sent to the family chat that.

6:17 She was going to pick up food.

6:18 That's the fourth. There's the fourth grader. There's the fourth grade. Yeah, there it is.

6:22 You got to respect it, honestly. I don't think this person knows what they have.

6:28 I'm pretty sure. I don't think this person knows what that means.

6:31 Honor these nuts.

6:32 Oh, honor these nuts.

6:34 At one point, at one point they did. Yeah.

6:37 Maybe the first time, if it's like the 20th time you go, Hey, you know what that means, right? And that's very rude.

6:42 I think it was, you know, I think they were just trying to be a.

6:46 Little cheeky with it. A little goofball.

6:49 A little nutty with it.

6:50 I'll put that in the group chat.

6:51 I would like to know what the original message was for the word honor to show up in there. The OP's spouse was like, I'm going to pick up food.

7:00 Would anyone like.

7:01 It's that joke. Did you hear Steve Jobs pass away of ligma? It's like, who's Steve Jobs? Ligma balls. That's what it is.

7:08 Press F for respect.

7:09 Yeah.

7:10 Additionally.

7:11 There has been some suspicious activity on her part. She has a female internet friend whom she says.

7:17 I love you to in phone conversations.

7:21 That's okay.

7:23 All right. Let's share the love. But it might be sharing too much love. She's lonely. Her man's off to college. What kind of love? Living with her man's family. She's got to show some loyalty. She can't do whatever she wants. We have needs.

7:40 We have needs as human beings.

7:43 Oh.

7:43 Yeah. She's having all of her basic needs met right now. Except for one. Oh my gosh. Would you?

7:50 I made a mention to her that I had saved photos of her as a child from her bio dad's Facebook, which was public. And only a few days later, her dad and stepmother's Facebook pages just ceased activity. The day she was fired from her second job, quote unquote fired. Our whole family was invited to a family dinner by my parents right before she started work. We dropped her off, and she came right back out and said she was fired.

8:17 Wait. Was she fabricating all of this?

8:22 Did she just quit her job to go to dinner?

8:24 I think they were going to.

8:26 A family dinner that she's not a part of?

8:31 So I thought she was hostess at this job, and they were going to do a family dinner together. at that restaurant and she just quit. Is that right? Uh.

8:38 The Facebook thing's weird. No, I don't think they were at the restaurant. I think it was like they were taking her to work and then she just like came right back out and was like, yeah, I'm.

8:47 Fired by the way. So she could get into food? I think so. Okay, weird, weird. I don't know.

8:53 She did have some other issues there. A new manager had started and didn't like her. She had been sent home the day before for not wearing a uniform and She claimed there was no uniform before the new manager, and we bought her new black shoes.

9:09 That morning for work.

9:10 I had the idea to have her make digital audio projects for sale for me instead of having a job. She doesn't want to do that, and now she does not want to do the certification program either. With her attendance at her GED classes, her lack of doing chores, and her entitlement, we are trying to just prop up her useless weight. And she's not even trying.

9:34 Am I the a-hole? And what would you do?

9:36 Hmm.

9:38 So... How could you be the a-hole?

9:41 You haven't even done anything wrong to her yet.

9:43 Your son dumped this woman on you. Then he went back to college. And now he's gone.

9:50 He's like, this is my girlfriend. She's your issue now. Thanks, Mom.

9:55 Bye.

9:56 He's probably catching some other tail out there.

9:58 This is all... And you know what? Regardless of this person's like experience or what's going on in their life, like I can't imagine being put in the position they were when it's like, yeah, no, my girlfriend from the Internet is on a bus. She's coming here right now. And I can't imagine doing anything but being like, well, we're buying her the first bus ticket back. Like, there's no universe in which this is going to happen.

10:24 Dude, I would have loved to try this on my mom and see her reaction. Oh, bro.

10:29 You bus in a girlfriend from another part of the country right before you go to college. You go, by the way, she's living here now. She's got a fourth grade education. And you're going to have to build her life.

10:42 She would have sent her to the sawmill. All right, first job, sawmill. You got to work from there.

10:46 Yeah, and then she's like, I'm not working at the sawmill. And then it's like, hey, I've got this stick with a picnic blanket on the back of it full of your stuff.

10:55 Go ahead and have a good day. Bye. What is that called?

10:58 I guess it's like the hobo pack? Hobo stick?

11:02 You did not just say that. Hobo? Hobo. Hobo Joe.

11:07 Hobo Bobo?

11:07 What is that called? It has a name.

11:10 I did remember looking it up once. The little hobo stick. The hobo stick. I made quite a few of those. A bindle? A bindle.

11:17 Hell yeah.

11:17 Homemade bindle.

11:18 I love a bindle. I had Hander a bindle say, hey.

11:21 Hit the bindle.

11:22 How much is a bus ticket? I can either give you a bus ticket or a bindle. I got two Bs on the table right now.

11:28 And one of them's got a ton of aura. Honestly, the bindle would be.

11:32 If you're out there bindle maxing.

11:34 I'm just thinking... I can't even think because I don't have kids, but if I did this with my parents living under their roof, I can't even think.

11:44 I can't even think because they'd be like, what? That's the hardest part to wrap my head around is the fact that it even happened.

11:51 I got to give props to this chick, though. Six months, rent-free. Getting some education, not really having to work or do chores.

11:58 Getting some education, but not really caring. This person's trying to build a whole life for you, not really trying.

12:04 Got a little situationship on the side.

12:07 Yeah, got a little I love you thing. Got another internet partner. I'm asking my son, do you know who this is? No, he doesn't. We don't even know how long they've been together.

12:18 What is his? There's a spooks here. Also, we're not talking about the Facebook thing. Those parents aren't real. Yeah, what was that? Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. Remember the family that adopted that like five-year-old girl? Oh, and it was like an adult? And she turned out to be like a 30-year-old person. Oh, an orphan? Remember that?

12:36 Yeah.

12:36 Yeah, yeah, that's probably what this is. I've seen so many different things about that. I've seen people be like, no, she was a kid.

12:42 No, she wasn't. Yeah, I've seen mixed reviews on that too. I'd like to get that kid in front of me. I'd make my judgment call.

12:49 Be like, you're 25.

12:51 Get to work.

12:52 Anyway. We've got some comments here. The internet's letting OP know what to do. Comment one says, I would never have let her move in in.

12:59 The first place.

13:02 I would give her and your son 30 days to get out. OP says, my son is usually at college about three hours away getting good grades too. Wow.

13:15 You know what? This is his life. Girlfriend? This is his problem to solve.

13:20 Guys, I think we're all missing the plot here. This is actually... OP's son is majoring in sociology, and this is all one giant social experiment.

13:33 It's like they used to do the egg.

13:33 This is how we got a scholarship. Yeah.

13:35 Yeah.

13:36 Oh, bro.

13:37 It's like Charlie took care of the egg, you know, in high school. We upgraded the egg to a Romani fourth grade educated girl.

13:43 Yeah. Yeah.

13:45 If that's what she even is.

13:45 Well, she was... To clarify, she was male to female, right?

13:50 That might be a part of why they were so able to take her in because Opie's wife is also male to female.

13:59 Oh, male to female? I thought it was female to male.

14:01 No, it's male to female. Oh, so that hit like a heart string. Yeah, then their son's girlfriend, male to female. So maybe that has to be at least some of it.

14:11 I don't think we've touched on how the parents have reacted to that on Opie's son's girlfriend. We need to give her a name. Also, A-Gal, this is hilarious. Son, I saw what you did for me. Now do it for my girlfriend.

14:24 Yeah.

14:25 You did such a good job raising me. Can you raise my girlfriend the same way?

14:29 Okay, Bug says... Triple the speed. Bug says, there is a lot of evidence that she was a child. Yeah. Okay.

14:36 We got another comment. Why did your son do this?

14:43 And I, at the only rea- Obi's reasoning, out of love.

14:46 I mean, guys, it's, it's, we can't even put this on the sun. We gotta put this on OP. This is, like, the equivalent of, like, taking your mom's credit card and buying, like, the Pokemon box.

14:56 And then, like, you don't, they don't find out until it's on the way.

14:58 And you're like, but it's already coming.

15:00 It's like, no, we send it back. Did you see the kid who you, who has a Minecraft YouTube channel and uses that credit card to buy $ 118, 000 worth of ads? To, like, serve it to people to watch his channel? No. Oh, my God. Did it work? There's a new YouTube video that's like, Mike is no longer allowed to upload videos about Minecraft. Oh, no. And it was....

15:29 Man, imagine that paid off. He's got, like, five million subs or something. We need to find this guy. Find that guy. Computer, find that Minecraft child. Anyway, OP on why her son did this. Because he thought it was the right thing to do. He has a form of autism that makes him unable to recognize dangerous situations.

15:47 And this is where you tell him this is a dangerous situation.

15:49 Where you explain it!

15:50 This is where you explain it. So he doesn't do this again, one, and he also should stop this now.

15:56 When going to college and making adult relationships, two.

16:00 I mean, if anything, you should have been like, okay, your girlfriend, if this is going to happen, you have to be able to sneak her into your college.

16:07 This is your problem.

16:08 Yeah. If you can't figure out how to secretly keep her in your college dorm, it's not going to work.

16:14 Welcome to the real world. Okay.

16:17 In fourth grade, he climbed under a stopped train trying to walk home.

16:22 It's a mental disability.

16:23 He was trying to remove someone he loved from a bad situation into a better one. He knows it was wrong. And has apologized for the issues it has caused.

16:31 That's just words.

16:32 I'm going to go ahead and say he knew it was wrong the whole time because he'd never told y'all about it. So he knew that that was not going to be able to happen.

16:39 Yeah.

16:40 Has there been things in the past where he has a friend coming over and he's let y'all know? He's like, he's out front. He lives four hours away. He's out front. Can he come over? Well, at least he's the one getting good grades. Doing what he's supposed to do. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Well, we do have an update.

16:56 People had lots to say about my choices. Everything from I was going to be buried in the woods somewhere to I am a saint.

17:06 Oh, we're back to the woods.

17:07 But at the end of the day, I am the one who has to live with my choices. After sitting down and discussing at length with my spouse, we decided to have the hard parent talk. We explained that we noticed their drive to pursue their education dwindling. their chores around the house lacking, and their general disposition going downhill.

17:29 We also explained that no matter what they feel inside their heart, they are an adult and capable of taking care of themselves. We sat down in agreement on chores that were expected to be done and the rules that were expected to be followed to complete her GED, which I'm happy to say she has, and a final date when she would be expected to move out, about one year from when she showed up at our house. Which means they got about another six months. Just another quick six.

17:59 If that's what you want to do.

18:00 Almost right after the vacation, her and my son decided to break up.

18:05 After, after, after, after. That says everything you need to know about the situation.

18:10 Says everything. Yeah. She's like, I want that vacation. And now I'm done. I got my, I got my enjoyment.

18:17 So what now? Does she still stay there? What do we do? Where is this in the lease? Where is this in the contract?

18:22 Has this girl ever said thank you? Has she ever seemed grateful for this?

18:26 Dude, she's entitled. I don't know.

18:29 You just said you accidentally adopted your son's ex-girlfriend.

18:33 Whoa. This is how that happens. You've adopted your son's ex-girlfriend. Oh.

18:39 She remained living with me while my son remained at school.

18:43 What? She started.

18:46 Dating another friend of hers about two hours away from here.

18:52 That's a pretty cheap bus ticket. Yeah, A, very doable.

18:57 And you say one-way ticket.

19:00 Oh, Lord.

19:01 We also learned that she had Social Security for her disability that she currently was not receiving. What is going on? She's got new girlfriend, new girlfriend, new boyfriend alert. Get out of here.

19:16 Go over there. Absolutely. Go rebuild your life over there. That's so awkward that she's still living there.

19:23 You can't raise your son's ex-girlfriend that they never even saw each other.

19:29 I love the initiative OP has, though. Putting her in GED, getting her a job.

19:33 Yeah, I mean, that's a very kind thing to do, but.

19:36 Also, never touched on the Facebook thing again. Yeah, what was that? Were those fake pictures? I think so. What's that fake? Why did they get blocked?

19:44 Did she get into your Facebook and block them from yours? Or was she making fake posts?

19:50 I think she was making fake posts and their Facebook just ceased to exist.

19:55 That is a whole other can of worms. Let her new partner deal with that one. Let's finish this. Over the last several months, she has resolved her social security payments, finished her GED, and even registered to learn how to drive. Today is her 19th birthday, and she came home with her boyfriend from her boyfriend's house to move her belongings there.

20:17 Let's go!

20:19 Okay, okay.

20:20 Let's go!

20:21 I thought it was going to be another domino thing of she brought her boyfriend, dropped her boyfriend off here, and went off to college.

20:29 Son, that's all you did for me, do for her. Hey, that's all you did for me, you do for him.

20:34 We're going to fix up the whole neighborhood.

20:37 What's that movie, Viltrum? What? Viltrum? No, that's a planet from Invincible. No, what's the one that starts with a V?

20:44 Is that the one with Jesse Eisenberg?

20:46 Vivarium. Vivarium. It's Vivarium.

20:48 I did not see that movie, but... You could watch it.

20:50 It's pretty good.

20:51 I feel like now I know the plot. This is the movie Vivarium.

20:56 It makes me mad because they use the number nine instead of eight, but watch the movie and you'll understand. Dude, number eights rise up. Because it's infinite. You know, if you put it sideways, it's infinite. And a nine's not. It's kind of sad to think about.

21:10 I know a lot of people do not believe that I should have made the choices that I did, but these are the choices I can live with. I'm so very proud of her for being able to get on her own two feet and find a life for herself that she wants and that she's pursuing. And she knows she can always come to me if she needs advice.

21:30 Or just a mom's shoulder to cry on. And that's the end of that story.

21:33 Sweet.

21:34 I mean, OP's so sweet.

21:35 Yeah, I mean, like, yeah. Is OP just a better person than all of us?

21:41 Maybe. Maybe.

21:44 Took in a troubled youth against her will, kinda, at first. And kinda was like, yeah, no, I'll turn you into a functioning adult. Then you can break up with my son and move two hours away with your new boyfriend that you met on the internet.

22:00 You know, Saint of the Day right here. Saints of the Day. We're going to give this one... Early and first to Opie. And everyone, the TLDR is wrong. A teenager with autism mistakenly spends $ 118, 000 on YouTube ads.

22:17 Parents confront him about his actions and set boundaries leading to breakup with girlfriend.

22:22 That's enough.

22:23 No, that could have been another side plot. That was like, they're like, when they were still in the writer's room, they were like, should we maybe? Should we have this side plot with the YouTube ads?

22:34 Alright, are we ready for this next story?

22:35 Yes, I'm ready. My mother accused me of destroying her life after I agreed to officiate my father's wedding. Wow, you must have really messed up that speech. I, 21 male, was raised by my father, 45 male, because my mom, 46 female, became very unwell after my birth and was hospitalized for several months. After that, she was not in the best situation. So their marriage wasn't old, and my father became my only parent. Before that, my mother was also not the best partner. She had her own struggles that made things difficult. Although my father was the sole custodian. Custodian?

23:18 Sole custodian.

23:20 Oh, man.

23:22 Could you? Did I say that wrong? No, that's right. Oh, I thought custodian was a guy that cleans like a janitor.

23:27 That is also custodian, but also custodian is like a caretaker.

23:32 So custodian is a parent. Yeah, a parent with an exclusive legal and or fiscal authority to care for and make major life decisions for a child.

23:41 Yeah, and it's like, you know, being a parent is kind of like being a custodian.

23:45 It is.

23:46 I can't wait to be a custodian. Always a new mess to clean up.

23:49 Last story, last OP was a custodian for that one girl.

23:53 Yeah. My mother had visitation. And she was allowed to see me supervised at first. Then I started to have unsupervised time with her, although my father was my main parent. When I was 10 years old, she met my stepfather, 43 Mel, who was a wonderful guy. And for a while, they were perfect. After they got married, when I was 13 though, things started to change. She stopped keeping up with the care she'd been receiving and thought everything was fine.

24:22 But dear reader, it wasn't. Things at home just became harder. When I was 16, my stepfather had to leave their house after a bad incident. He came to my father's house, and we had to get help so someone could look after her. After that, she went back into care for a long time, and the vid also extended her stay.

24:42 She was released into her sister's care in 2022. By the way, this comes from FunStrength27, and if you want to speak your own stories, go to the r slash okstories on subreddit. After my stepfather got divorced... He couldn't annul the marriage. He moved in with us because he didn't have anywhere to go. And my father isn't a man to leave someone to fend for themselves on the streets.

25:04 These people! What is this episode? Oh, man. I mean, like, okay, hey. This episode.

25:11 I mean, Good Samaritan type stuff.

25:13 This episode is called Keeping People Off the Streets. Yeah, yeah.

25:18 Hey, I mean, hey. Hey.

25:19 Hey.

25:20 It's a good thing, I guess. After a year of living together, they went on a date. It is a known fact that my dad is bi, but my stepdad was straight as far as we knew. What is happening? What is going on? Does this mean you get three Christmases? Whoa, whoa, whoa. Four Christmases?

25:44 How many Christmases do you get for this?

25:46 I think just three. Okay.

25:48 In a sabbatical.

25:49 I don't know, dude.

25:50 This is crazy.

25:51 Turns out he wasn't that straight. Okay, here we go. We got something now, fellas. We got something now. What? Not sad cancer, mom. He's just got a little squiggle in him. My mother didn't know they were together until she got out because I never mentioned it during the visits. After she got out, She didn't take it well at first, but she got used to it.

26:15 No, there's no way someone gets used to that.

26:17 Until they announced their engagement after the recent legalization of same spicy sleep marriage in our country. My mother took it hard.

26:29 I think they both took it hard.

26:30 I think one person's taking it harder than the other. No. Technically.

26:34 I think all three are taking it hard, just a different way how you want to take it.

26:37 I don't think your mother's taking it at all anymore.

26:39 Honestly, if I'm a mom and I hear this, I turn right back around and I go back into whatever institution I was in because I'm like, I'm going to need some more time in there.

26:49 That's way better than reality.

26:51 Yeah, I'm just, I gotta, I gotta, I'll see you guys later. I gotta get back in there.

26:57 At first, it was just calls and messages, but she was really upset when she heard I would be the officiant. She tried to smash her sister's car outside her home, but luckily she was stopped by her caretaker, and she is currently at home waiting for a spot to open up somewhere where she can get proper support. She can't.

27:18 She's going right back in.

27:19 Mom's condition, she got gamma radiation poisoning. She's going to hulk out and smash her sister's car?

27:26 How big is this lady? After this happened, I went to see my mother. She tried to ask a lot of questions, but she rambled. And she said, how could I be the one to tie them together? And how could I betray her?

27:40 Technically, if you really look at it that way, Mom, you're the one who introduced them.

27:45 Yeah, I think.

27:45 Technically, that's on you.

27:46 I think there's... Very little to do with those guys getting together because of OP. I don't think OP's doing anything wrong, really.

27:56 When I asked her how I had betrayed her, she said, you were helping your father to destroy my life by taking everything and everyone I like, including you. At that point, I was just thinking about leaving. And I calmly said to her, I don't care. Go figure it out yourself. I will be a part of this conversation. And left the house. I feel like an a-hole. And my father's family is giving me a hard time for being so sharp and emotionless. I don't know why, but they always have a soft spot for my mother. But my mom's siblings say I did the right thing. Am I the a-hole?

28:31 This is backwards. Usually it's the other way around. The father is like, yeah, you did the right thing. And the mom's side of the family is like, no, you shouldn't have done that. But it's flipped. Yeah. What? They're like, what, the backward?

28:43 Maybe their intentions are good. I think mom's family is like, yeah, no, she's got to hit some kind of bottom if it's going to work out.

28:52 Bikini?

28:53 But yeah, I don't know. Your mom is what we call mentally ill.

28:58 Yeah. Okay. Based off of OP's actions, where are you guys? Is he the a-hole for this or not? Guys in the chat, say a-hole if OP's the a-hole, not the a-hole if he isn't. I can see where he is the a-hole.

29:12 No. No.

29:14 How? Yeah, how?

29:16 Explain.

29:17 So, his mom's going through a really hard time. We have a history of her having mental illnesses.

29:22 That's not on OP.

29:23 It's not on OP. And I know he doesn't have to adhere to this conversation, but he can still be like, I see where you're coming from, Mom. Kind of bear it and then walk away. Rather than being, I give up on you.

29:38 Yeah, or do you think Opie could have at least told Mom when Opie was visiting Mom? Hey.

29:43 No.

29:44 Hey, this has been going on. Because imagine you're out and you want to see one person. Like, someone... Oh, man, dude. Try and wrap your head around that. Like, your ex, your ex, and now your new ex.

29:58 Is with your old ex. Yeah. I think... Yeah. I think, though, her priority while she was in was making sure that her mind was healing. And anything that could disrupt that would hurt or hinder the process that she's made so far.

30:13 So it's the.

30:15 I think that this was a situation that should have been left up to the power of the coin.

30:21 I think.

30:21 Your mom's like, you've betrayed me and you're allowing them to take everything and everyone from my life. And you go, you know what, mom?

30:27 Heads or tails?

30:28 Are you Two-Face?

30:29 All right, heads, I officiate the wedding.

30:31 Tails, I don't.

30:32 We leave it up to chance.

30:33 Wow. Because this isn't about me betraying you. I don't know what you're talking about. So we'll leave it up to the coin.

30:39 What about rolling dice? Double or nothing? Now, I haven't been known to roll a mean dice.

30:44 We did roll the dice last night.

30:46 You guys did roll the dice last night?

30:48 Yeah, I think a game of chance could.

30:51 Maybe lighten the mood a little bit here. You know? Oh, YouTube, what do you think? YouTube, where are you? Also, Facebook, where are you? Did we ever figure out Facebook?

31:00 Yeah, no. It's there, but it's not there. Oh.

31:02 Guys, say something.

31:04 Something.

31:04 Say something before the reptiles take us. Seeing someone lose it like that is scary. I worked in a mental institution where caregivers and other patients have been unalived in the past. It also housed people. who had previously unalived other people.

31:21 Ah, he was the best guy around.

31:24 It's easier to have sympathy when you're not the one putting up with the bat crap crazy lady first-handed. Okay, good point, the blind one. No, I just think people are quiet right now.

31:34 Yeah, for some reason it didn't show not the a-holes from a lot of people.

31:37 Oh, weird. Okay, so we did get a lot of not the a-holes. Okay, great.

31:40 I don't know why. Great, great, great, great, great. Maybe they considered it spam, like Melissa. Maybe it was just a bunch of people spammed it.

31:46 Oh, interesting.

31:46 That's why.

31:47 Hey, this is Riley, your favorite Southern Belle. We're going to get back to these stories, but here's three minutes worth of ads from our sponsors. Update! Hello, it's me again. A lot has happened in six days, not even a week.

32:01 Hey, a lot can happen in six days.

32:05 My mother is in the hospital, though not for the reasons you'd think. She had a heart issue and needed treatment. She is doing better and is much more comfortable now. Also, thanks to my grandparents... They have arranged a long-term spot for her. My grandparents tried to get me kicked out of medical school for being so cruel and uncaring towards my mother. I'm also in medicine, studying at the same medical school my grandparents graduated from in Turkey. Oh, they're all in Turkey. Hmm.

32:34 Probably like.

32:35 Hmm.

32:36 Like middle of Europe.

32:37 So they're trying to be like, this man already betrayed his Hippocratic oath. He told his mom... I don't know, man. You can figure it out. I can't do this right now.

32:48 They wrote a long letter saying I was foreshadowing the oath of my profession with my own personal feelings. Therefore, I wasn't suitable for medicine and I should be kicked out. Luckily, our vice dean saw through the letter and called me to learn about the situation. And he also congratulated my parents on their marriage. and said he's hoping to attend the wedding.

33:11 What a cherry on top.

33:13 Oh, you're good.

33:14 I got you. By the way, congrats. I want to go to that wedding. That sounds really chill that your stepfather and your dad are getting married.

33:22 Not only did you not get me tossed out of medical school, the vice dean's.

33:26 Coming to the wedding. All right. And he's bringing gifts.

33:30 Everyone knows the vice dean is the cool dean. The head dean is like.

33:33 Yeah, you know why?

33:34 Vice dean? Those had a party.

33:36 You know why? Because that vice dean's got vices.

33:38 And vice dean is also the head of air conditioning. Sorry, I was making a community reference. You ever see community? Yeah. Vice dean was the AC guy, and that's what Troy went to do, to be the AC guy. I don't remember the AC man. I don't remember the.

33:51 I only remember the dean who was always doing something crazy.

33:54 Yeah, yeah, yeah. At the opening. He was in a couple episodes. Both me and my parents are now no contact with my grandparents. My father said they were always like this, and because of that, he was mostly raised by his grandparents' aunts and uncles. My grandparents willingly took over my mother's care plan, and her siblings have stepped back.

34:14 She will be transferred to a long-term residential facility near Athens, where my grandparents have their summer house. As far as we know, they have arranged her transfer to her insurance, and everything else. My father and I were disowned by my grandparents, and they took us out of their will and decided to start a fund for medical students coming from lower-income backgrounds. Okay. In a way, your will is helping others. Yeah. That's good for them. Good for them, I guess.

34:43 Yeah. Yeah, sure.

34:44 Yeah. My father was relieved to hear this. Luckily, our extended family has rallied behind us, and they don't talk to my grandparents either. My grandparents were always acting like they were superior to everyone else because of their professions, but our family couldn't cut them out because of me and my father, and they hadn't been given a so concrete reason to do so. Now, they have that reason.

35:09 The wedding is still going on with full force. Full force. That's a full force wedding. Does this make your dads gay now or are they still bi?

35:20 I mean, you know, if bi is a spectrum, they're definitely leaning one way right now.

35:25 I think you can move. I think the needle moves around on that, right?

35:28 Yeah.

35:29 Yeah. My needle's just hard left, by the way. You should talk to a doctor about that. I should.

35:36 Get that checked.

35:37 There's a hard 90 degrees left, doc.

35:39 What's going on? My parents have found a venue and they love the place. My father is also doing well for himself. He is a stock analyst and managed to retire when I was 13 years old, so he has a lot of money.

35:52 Dang.

35:53 So he doesn't have a significant budget limit. My stepdad is also not in a bad position either, and their finances have been combined since the 2020 pandemic. So our money situation is pretty all right.

36:06 Don't be modest.

36:08 Here's my question.

36:09 Don't say pretty all right.

36:10 Here's my question. Pretty all right. Got the house in Greece? That's... That's bi erasure, guys. Bi erasure.

36:18 We're not erasing any bi people.

36:20 No, no. I was just making a joke. I knew they were still bi. Just made a gay dad joke. Here's my next gay dad joke. You guys ready? Who is planning this wedding? Two dudes planning a wedding? I don't know. Yeah, that would be... That would be fun to see.

36:34 I wonder what kind of Turkish delights they're going to have at this wedding.

36:39 Hopefully the good ones. Because I've seen, I know that I am stereotyping here because I've seen an episode or this TV series where this couple gets their dream wedding, but the guy has to plan it. Oh. And it goes horribly wrong because the guy's like, oh, what is her favorite color? What is these things? I think these guys are way more intentional. I just, I was thinking like, oh, ha ha ha.

37:01 That would be, that would be sad. It would be sad if like both. Both of them had bad tastes. They're trying to plan a marriage and they realize neither of them know anything about the other. And they're just like, did we trauma bond over our mentally ill ex-wife?

37:14 And then they just make their whole wedding about mentally ill. This is going down a bad road.

37:19 They accidentally make their whole wedding about how we came together because we shared an ex-wife. And now we'll share our next life.

37:28 Coda saved it. Dakota saved it, guys. That was a good save. Holy cow. Toasted that.

37:32 Our next life is two bi dudes. Two dudes who are not straight fully.

37:38 Like to swing. They're probably good at the swing dancing.

37:40 Okay, so continue this.

37:41 That is the most bi form of dance.

37:44 Continue this story.

37:44 What do we think, guys? What do we think about these jokes? So wait, the dads have been together for a while and they just are now getting married. Why is the mom taking it so hard now? Did I miss that? No, bug.

37:53 The dad's got, stepdad got taken in to bio dad's house when bio mom had a full blown like episode and had to be institutionalized. And while they were living together and mom's in, you know, like inpatient, they ended up getting their thing on because it's known that OP's bio dad is bi. And stepdad turned out to not be so straight. And then they fell in love and got married. And then once mom got out of the institution, they said, surprise!

38:28 We're engaged.

38:29 We're engaged now.

38:31 Yep.

38:32 Yep. Yesterday, I saw my mother. She was still sad, but she wasn't blaming me or anyone. She was blaming herself. She said she was incredibly sorry for not being the mother I deserved. And she was glad to have two of the best people she loved married. As my parents.

38:46 All right.

38:47 Okay. Good. That's good. It's becoming wholesome. I don't know what brought about such a change in her, but I hugged her and I told her it will be all right. She said she would try to be two, and she also apologized for her siblings for being a burden after I left. I will plan therapy for next week. At first, it'll be online, but after September, it'll be in person because she's in Izmir and I will be in Thessaloniki. Thessaloniki. Thessaloniki.

39:15 I will also be starting my clinical years. So much more nerve wracking situation for me. That is all at least for now. Update two. Oh, now here we go. First line. I never thought I would be back. Well, here you are back. again. Predictions? There's a polycule now. Whoa. You have more parents. Polycule marriage. Your parents are multiplying by the second.

39:37 You're getting those three Christmases. Well, no, I guess now it would be one Christmas.

39:40 It's at eight.

39:40 It might be at eight now. Eight Christmases. What's the 12 Christmases? Who would know? Three.

39:45 How many Christmases did Vince Vaughn have?

39:47 In that movie? I think it's four. I think it's four Christmases. From my head. Yeah.

39:51 This could go horribly wrong or great.

39:55 This sounds like the... Those are our two options. What's the opposite of Mamma Mia?

40:00 Daddy Dia.

40:02 Yeah.

40:03 Papa Dios. Papa Dia.

40:06 Papa Pia.

40:07 Up date two.

40:09 Oh, man. This is what's giving right now. This is it.

40:11 Yeah.

40:12 I never thought I would be back, but some big things happened. First of all, my grandparents apologized. Yes, this was something none of us were expecting. They said they had judged me unfairly and they shouldn't have expected me to be that understanding in a situation that was too personal. But the apology stopped there.

40:29 Yeah, no, they're like, okay, we're sorry. Like, we want you back in our life. That's on us.

40:34 Yeah.

40:35 The money's still not coming back to you.

40:37 They didn't apologize for also trying to sabotage your entire life and career.

40:41 Yeah.

40:42 They didn't say anything about how they shouldn't have sent that letter to the vice dean.

40:46 For my father, though, they said they were ashamed to have him as a son because he was a disgrace.

40:53 Yep.

40:53 To their surname and legacy. My father only laughed and said, then why do you bother to talk to us? They said, we want you to know that we won't support your union and you won't be allowed at our funeral. They turned to me and said, now you can do whatever you want, but if you support them, then you are not one of us. I just looked at them and said, well, you can leave now.

41:15 That's so funny to me that they want to be like, you can't come to our funeral.

41:19 I'd be like, are you going to stop me? I'm sorry. What are you going to do? What are you going to do if I show up? You're going to get up? Say, get out of here. Get out of here. You're getting up the funeral. Get out of here.

41:33 It's the, we're sorry, but.

41:36 Yeah. Nah, these people are. After that, I started my fourth year and some professors looked at me during the first day really concerned. One of them approached me asking about some rumors my grandparents had spread about my situation and my finances. I was just shocked and showed my bank account. They said my grandparents had mass emailed them.

41:57 We now have at least 15 solid pieces of proof. of those emails, and my father and I are opening a defamation case against them. My mom is currently at one of the best caretake facilities in Greece. That's probably why her mind has shifted so much and why she seems to be in a way better place. Yeah, dude.

42:16 If I was in a Greek facility, I'd probably be feeling great. I would like to be in Akros. They got feta. They got olives. They got honey. More olives. Yeah. Oh, even more olives. What do you think?

42:31 It's really good. I'm not going to lie.

42:33 Her siblings have visited her twice, and they say she looks much better now and calmer. Her doctors are thinking of settling her into a residential home so she can have some normalcy in her life while still being supported. They are even planning to find her a part-time job as a Greek-Hebrew interpreter. My mom's side is half Hebrew, half Greek, but no, I don't speak any Hebrew. Shalom!

42:56 My therapy is going well. I just passed my first clinical exam with an 88 out of 100, and my father and stepfather are getting married on Christmas Eve. So that's it. I think I've got the hang of having a Reddit account, so I will hang around if there's more. Not with posts like this anymore. Okay.

43:14 Fair.

43:14 A little happy ending. Yeah. Weird on the grandparents, but we'll take it.

43:18 Yeah. Good for your mom getting better. Gets the care she needs. Good for your dad's getting married.

43:23 And, uh, yeah. Good for everybody, right?

43:27 Good for everybody.

43:28 We love a good for everybody, except for those grandparents.

43:32 Dude, crazy that they're still spreading that misinformation. I love it.

43:37 They were like, we realized that we treated you unfairly, so we're going to cut you off again, actually.

43:43 Even worse.

43:44 We just wanted to let you know that, just straight up, if you support.

43:48 Them at all, we will no longer be speaking to you. It's like, oh, okay, bye. We already talked about that.

43:54 That's the end of that story.

43:56 Officiating their wedding.

43:57 What do you think?

43:58 Oh, yeah.

43:59 Yeah, you burnt the bridges. You caused this. This is your fault.

44:02 Yikes, yikes, yikes. All right.

44:04 My wife demanded I abandon my newfound daughter or lose our marriage.

44:10 I guess it depends on how you found her.

44:12 Back when I, 51 male, was 16, I met a Mexican girl, Ann, in my school who was new and immigrated to the States.

44:23 It's that Marty Robbins song. And in the west Texas town of El Paso, I fell in love with a Mexican girl.

44:31 She was absolutely gorgeous and had a very distinctive look. We dated for five years, and I had always considered her the love of my life. We went to the same college together and always talked about getting married. Her family wasn't very keen on a white kid like me dating her. One day, she asks to meet me at a local park and tells me she has to skip town.

44:52 I asked why.

44:54 And when I would see her, she acted like she couldn't talk long and just said she didn't know, but she was doing this for my safety.

45:00 And that was the last time I saw her. No! Whoa. This sad la-la land. That lady's pregnant. With her baby?

45:11 That lady's pregnant with his baby.

45:12 That's why she had to skip town? Yep. Why wouldn't she ask to help out?

45:17 Anyways, I don't think the family would have supported that.

45:20 Heartbreaking.

45:21 Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host here. We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. I moved on eventually, but I always thought of her. When Facebook became a thing, I tried to find her, but never did. Eventually, I got married to my wife, 50 female, when we were in our early 40s. She already had two kids from a previous marriage who were both preteens at the time.

45:44 I've provided for them, but they were never warm to me. I don't really begrudge them for that, but I never felt appreciated with everything I sacrificed to provide. They are now in their early 20s. By the way, this comes from ThrowingMIDA, a new kid. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.

46:04 Fast forward to six months ago, a new girl, Beth, started at our office. And when I saw her, I was shocked. She was the spitting image of Anne.

46:14 What? She just started? Out of nowhere? No, this is planned. This is planned. She found you, right? She had to have found you. Absolutely. Could be a small town. When I got the chance to talk to her privately, I asked her if her.

46:24 Mom's name was Anne. She said she honestly didn't know because she was adopted, but she had been hunting for her biological parents for years. She only had one photo to reference. I asked if I could see it, and she said she would bring it in the next day. I kept this from my wife.

46:42 Oof, okay.

46:43 I didn't want to say anything if I didn't 100% know, and she is the jealous type and never liked hearing about Anne.

46:50 Oh. Sure, this will make the jealousy better, right?

46:54 Also, you not telling, I don't know.

46:55 Well, if you're not 100% certain it's Anne's kid, then you would have made this whole big thing up out of nothing. True. I see his point.

47:03 True, true, true.

47:04 But if we do figure it out and he doesn't tell her still, I'm on your side.

47:08 We're just in the evidence gathering phase of our investigation.

47:12 Yes.

47:12 The next day, Beth brought the photo and.

47:15 It was Anne. Oh my God! It's Anne. But this happened at a chance, though, that she started working here.

47:20 Did it?

47:20 That's what it seems. That's what it seems. That's what it seems. Right? Is that what you get it to?

47:26 Sometimes life works in a funny way, but I don't know. Maybe Anne told her. Like, who knows?

47:33 Who knows? God could have brought them together. That's a good point.

47:35 Fate, destiny, luck, unlucky, I don't know.

47:40 Quantum mechanics.

47:42 It's happened. You can't, yeah, you can't take it back.

47:44 So, I see the photo. It's Anne. I told her my story.

47:49 We both came to the realization she was old enough to potentially be my daughter.

47:53 Oh, it is her kid. Dude, this is crazy. Fate. That's fate, bro.

48:00 We planned to get a paternity test that week. I was hesitant to tell my wife because I suspected she would forbid it.

48:06 How would you forbid it? It's already happened.

48:09 Yeah, you can't unbirth her.

48:11 I would be so happy if Angie was like, I have a kid. I'd be like, no way. Let's bring her in. Let's get it over. That's me. That's me, though. But I'd be happy. Yeah, it could be. It could be a, oh, great. Especially at 50, your kids that you already have don't really like you. You now have someone that likes you.

48:30 It's a fresh start.

48:32 Yeah, how do you guys get along at the office?

48:34 Oh, it's a fun father-daughter kind of vibe. Gotta be.

48:38 So, I think my wife will forbid it. Well, she is my daughter. 29 years later, and I have a daughter. We were both overjoyed to have found one another, and she asked if we could start building a relationship.

48:55 I want to cry.

48:56 I came home that day and told my wife everything.

48:59 Here we go.

49:00 She was livid. No! No!

49:03 Not because I was keeping this from her. Like, what I thought she would be upset over, understandably. My wife thinks I would choose Anne and Beth over her.

49:14 Which, I think you would. I think you should.

49:17 I think you got i think you could because he held out till he was.

49:20 40 to get married yeah you got you guys she got what two kids that don't.

49:24 Like you she's a very jealous person which.

49:27 Is like come on come on come on if you're like oh that's cool i'm like cool but if you're like Ew, gross.

49:34 You can't be. Now I'm like, I want to go be with, I want to go be with my one day one. Yeah.

49:38 Cause the, the thing that got away, she should.

49:41 Be mad that OP kept this from her, but that's not even the reason she's mad. Yeah. That's mad. Cause she's like, Oh, so you love them more than me.

49:49 Hey honey, guess what? Just found out my daughter 29 years, by the way, crazy, not bad about that. She just mad instantly, instantly jumps to you'd leave me for them. What?

50:01 And you go, now that you mention it, it's a good idea.

50:04 Do you want me to leave? Pretty good idea.

50:06 I hadn't thought about that. But now that you mention it.

50:08 It could be a sweet deal.

50:09 Sounds like a good deal. I'd take that, dude.

50:11 I'd take that deal. That's a dang good deal. Okay.

50:14 My wife doesn't want me to be in contact with a girl who isn't more of your child as much as our kids are to you. She feels that by building this relationship, I will see her kids as less of mine. I got mad and said that her kids are her kids, and I've been happy providing for them. But I am not their father. I am their stepfather, and sometimes I don't even feel they think that. She is forbidding me from this relationship, but I am ready to take a stand on this, and we have an update.

50:48 Okay. Where are we standing?

50:50 Okay, so let's put ourselves in the shoes of OP's wife.

50:54 Okay. I'm wearing pumps.

50:55 Yeah.

50:55 You're wearing pumps.

50:57 You're wearing Skechers. Your partner says, hey, honey, got a new kid. This is a long lost kid that I had from a previous relationship a long time ago.

51:09 She's 29?

51:10 And I want to start a relationship with this kid.

51:14 Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

51:16 It's either me or her.

51:17 I got to say, let's get the coin back out, right? Let's do a coin flip for this. Let the power of the coin decide.

51:25 I don't know if it's even worth a coin. Heads, I have a new daughter. Tails, I don't know. Here's the dang evidence.

51:33 No habla espanol.

51:34 Here's the dang evidence. He said so many nice things about Anne. Yeah, dude. And I haven't really heard many nice things about... Is her name Beth? I think so, yeah. I haven't really heard that many... No, no, Beth is the daughter's name. Beth is his daughter's name. I haven't really heard that many nice things about his wife, let alone...

51:51 And the only thing I've heard about this family is that his stepkids don't really like him.

51:56 Yeah, exactly.

51:56 That's not a life worth living as a man.

51:58 We don't have a name for one.

51:59 Have you seen the video? It's kind of depressing, but it's like, yeah, the best you can get as a man is working full time at Lowe's and going back home to a daughter that kind of despises you after working nine hours and getting through two hours worth of traffic. And that's the American dream. And you're divorced. So you're trying to get out there dating, but it's just so hard and tiring and you're losing your weight. Yeah. If there's some love and joy in your life, you kind of want to keep it. That's what I'm seeing.

52:27 Yeah, that is the most important resource.

52:30 But you're just down the line.

52:31 Die on it. I'm dying on it with you.

52:33 I found on this. I found this new kid that's mine. And like.

52:37 Did the DNA test and everything?

52:39 Did the DNA test. I'm excited. And your partner says, I forbid you to even, like, sucks to suck. I work with her.

52:49 Great. You got married once before. What's going to stop you from doing it again?

52:53 We're done.

52:54 Common denominator. You know what?

52:55 I just came up with a brand new saying no one's ever said before.

52:58 Uh-oh. People always want what they can't have. And I think....

53:03 Get a load of this guy.

53:04 I think that might apply when OP's wife goes, you can't have any relationship with them. Whoa, so you just think hot Anne is going to walk back into your life. Hot Mexican Anne is going to walk back into your life and hold your hand while you raise your 30-year-old daughter.

53:19 I forbid this. Lego Queen says the fact that they would give the option says all they need to know and would make that decision so easy. Anyways... You're.

53:27 Mad about my past that I didn't even know about.

53:30 Let's see what happens here.

53:32 Crazy.

53:33 Update.

53:33 I want to add that this all came to a head, and now she is seriously using the it's her or me ultimatum. Prior to this, we had a happy marriage. She doesn't work. And I provided for the family our whole time together.

53:48 Wow, she's really biting the hand at feet, huh?

53:51 Well, no wonder she's so insecure. It's like, if you leave, it's also her entire life. Like, existence is going to change. She has been in hysterics over this, saying, Beth just wants to get money out of me.

54:06 Projection. She doesn't even have contact with her mother. She's been trying to find... Oh, my.

54:10 I do think it's kind of absurd, though, that, like, that it would just be like, oh, I randomly found you.

54:16 Like, mmm. It's a good horror movie. I don't know about that. It's a good horror movie. What?

54:21 What?

54:21 This whole concept is a good horror movie.

54:24 Oh. Yeah. Yeah.

54:25 Oh, yeah. I thought you were saying there was a horror movie called I Randomly Found You.

54:29 No, no, no. I was like, what?

54:31 I agree with you, Dakota. There's no way this is just like, yeah, maybe it is fate.

54:35 I think it's way too convenient.

54:37 Call it fate. Call it karma.

54:39 I'm starting to rethink our whole relationship, but I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable by saying I'm absolutely going to make an effort to be in Beth's life from now on as her father. I realized I didn't specify a timeline. Beth started six-ish months ago, but I hadn't talked to her because of the vid and whatnot and truly didn't even really bother looking at her intro email.

55:02 It was only until last month when our offices started to open up that we got to be in the same physical space and I saw her in person for me to ask her about her mom. My wife has been livid and unbearable to live with these last couple of weeks.

55:16 I've tried to talk.

55:17 To her, but she keeps telling me She needs more time. I realize we need a therapist, but her ultimatums are bothering me. And there is more from OP in the comments. OP says, once my wife cools down and lets me calmly talk, I will definitely bring up having a therapist.

55:35 Seriously.

55:36 I guess you could say I never fully moved on from Anne. But after so many years, I see my wife as my primary partner and the person I knew that I would grow old with. Beth and I talked after we found out the result. She asked me what I felt comfortable with in terms of relationship building, and I told her I would be ready for whatever relationship she wanted to have because I was excited to find out I had a daughter. It's also nice that we sit relatively close to each other at work, And can have lunches together.

56:19 This is crazy. It's crazy. I love this for him.

56:23 I think they did just find each other randomly.

56:26 I don't know. I think so. Anne says, she just wants your money, says the woman that doesn't work. Or says the one who doesn't work.

56:33 Yeah, exactly. Yeah, she's like, just after your money. It's like, well, the money I give you?

56:39 That money?

56:39 There's a second update. I mean, are we divorcing? Yeah.

56:43 Yeah.

56:43 You're giving me ultimatums? And what are you standing on? On what grounds are you standing on?

56:48 Well, you don't really have that many cards to play.

56:50 I'm saying.

56:51 You don't work. Your kids don't really like me. They're just there bearing. They're just like getting through it.

56:57 What are you offering to me?

56:58 Yeah, I think it does kind of speak where if you've been married.

57:04 I don't think we have a timeline of how long they've been married, but.

57:06 If you're married to somebody and like this happens and your thought isn't, Oh, you lied to me and you hid this from me. It's, Oh, well you're going to fall in love with your ex and leave me and raise and, and live with your daughter and your ex. I don't think that's your end. I don't think you can be married to that person. You don't trust that person.

57:27 And if you are that guy, if you're OP and you're like, yeah, I kind of do feel like maybe I do. I would want to be married to Ann and, You shouldn't be married to the woman you're married to right now.

57:38 Yeah. I don't know. I hope they find Anne. Update two.

57:42 I just wanted to clear up a few things. My wife did used to work when I met her. She stopped five years ago, but hasn't worked since. And I wish I had an explanation for why or why I hadn't brought up how that bothered me.

57:55 But it is what it is.

57:57 She just stopped.

57:58 I wish I had an explanation for why. Guess I'll never know.

58:01 Hey, honey, why don't you have a job?

58:03 She forbade herself. She's like, I don't want to work anymore. I forbid myself.

58:06 I forbid this conversation. I've spoken.

58:09 I didn't let her know it bugged me. I just didn't want to pressure her. Despite this, she has always been great at housekeeping and does do legwork with errands. Beth has lived in the same city area as myself her whole life. I've lived here my whole life for the most part. We work for a large company downtown.

58:27 While it is bizarre she got a job in my department, it happened. I don't doubt we would have eventually found each other through some other means, especially given we are in the same career field.

58:39 Aww.

58:39 When I say she is the spitting image of her mother, I mean she looks exactly like her mom. The only thing she inherited from me seems to be her interest in the legal field.

58:52 That's so sweet. Are you guys going to go in on the divorce together? You guys going to work on it together?

59:01 Finally, everyone keeps commenting on how she just is insecure over my long lost love obsession.

59:07 I need to be clear.

59:09 Let me be clear.

59:11 Uh the only reason i brought ann up was because she's relevant to the story early on in my wife and i's relationship we discussed past relationships and relationship trauma we commiserated together about what that did for us mentally or emotionally and And after a few snarky comments from her about Anne, I.

59:28 Said we wouldn't talk about it anymore. And we hadn't for years.

59:32 Did you say all that like that was a resolution? You're like, just to be clear, we've never been cool about this. And I just decided we should never talk about it ever again.

59:42 I hope he seems to do that a lot with his current wife.

59:45 Yeah, I think so. Oh, we haven't talked about it in years. It's not a problem.

59:50 It was a one and done. You know, we talk about it and it's good.

59:54 I love my wife. All right, Chance the Rapper.

59:56 But maybe the veil is lifting for me, and I'm realizing that despite her loving me, she might see me more as just financial support.

1:00:04 Yeah, bro, I don't think she love you. She love your money.

1:00:09 I don't like thinking that because we had amazing times together, and to think that it might have been a facade hurts.

1:00:15 Jalen?

1:00:15 Update three.

1:00:16 Father-daughter divorce. Father-daughter divorce dream team.

1:00:20 Hmm. Colon.

1:00:21 The movie. Yeah. Coming to you this Christmas. This is definitely... This could be... This could be, should be... This should be a movie. This should be a movie. I could see a horror spin on it, and I could see... Yeah. A horror spin would be... Because Beth is actually Anne, and she's infiltrating the family.

1:00:38 No! Oh, yeah.

1:00:39 Anne's a vampire.

1:00:40 Anne's a vampire poses as their daughter.

1:00:43 Spinning image of her. I think so.

1:00:45 Hmm.

1:00:46 Oh.

1:00:47 All right.

1:00:47 Whoa. Whoa.

1:00:48 There's a lot of dark places that script can go. Okay, we've got an update number three here.

1:00:53 Thank you, everyone!

1:00:55 For your insights, however mean some of them were last night. I am not a pushover. I'm just not interested in unnecessary arguments. I have enough of that kind of environment at work. We haven't had many issues pop up in our marriage other than the kids' attitudes sometimes. But they were teens, and I also acknowledge I should have been more proactive in bonding with them. I do love and care for my stepchildren. Yes, I spoiled them a bit, but I have been making boundaries with them that predates the Beth revelation.

1:01:22 No, I don't believe my wife.

1:01:24 is a gold digger, but I do believe in this case she does care more about financial stability than understanding my relationship with Beth. I don't want my marriage to end because I know she loves and cares for me. We've had great times and I'm very much in love with her. I was harsh in my wording before and I apologize to anyone who thought I was being misogynistic.

1:01:43 I had a long grueling conversation last night with my wife. I'm really not ready to share. I don't want added judgment.

1:01:51 On my end. Oh, it wasn't good on hit. You gave us everything you needed right there, buddy. I can say it wasn't very good or bad. It just is. But we're talking now. All right, we've got a little bit more here. Let's see if there's a sick, unexpected twist at the end of this story. Opie marries Kat's boyfriend.

1:02:09 Opie married... I was about to say... Because they were both bi the whole time.

1:02:13 We are trying to work past this, but I am feeling disheartened. For now, I am continuing seeing Beth... Learning about her adoptive family. We're planning on going to dinner this weekend to meet. Most of you have been so warm to this old man. And I am eternally grateful for all your kind words. And that is the end of that story. No, I forgot. This whole thing about, it's like Beth and Anne. Beth was adopted.

1:02:38 Yeah. Yeah.

1:02:39 So Anne wasn't even in the picture really.

1:02:41 Anne has no connections towards Beth or OP. So then it's like, yeah, whoa, whoa.

1:02:46 Yeah.

1:02:47 Whoa. Yeah, okay.

1:02:49 Then your wife doing that is like extra.

1:02:51 Way extra.

1:02:52 This is what OP sees. Yeah. Do I go with my wife or do I go for Beth and build a relationship with my daughter?

1:03:02 Daughter you gotta you gotta work down to the bottom of a very deep muddy pit in therapy if you want to get through this because i can't imagine that level of jealousy being in a marriage in a man like it's crazy it.

1:03:17 Is crazy you know what you got to do didn't seem like you're the biggest fan of your wife i know you say you love her and all this stuff but i'm not really hearing i i see that but i don't i don't believe it yeah yep.

1:03:28 You think you think your wife would at least try to like compromise at least a compromise.

1:03:32 Dude that's just wild it makes me think she's in love with somebody especially i forgot that it's like and she was adopted so ann's not even around she's not she's not and she has no connections towards ann or op until recently with but she's.

1:03:49 Like oh but beth looks just like her so it's just all she's gonna do is remind you that woman dude whatever Uh, we.

1:03:57 Have, that's the end of that story, by the way.

1:03:59 All right, sweet.

1:03:59 But we have some comments.

1:04:00 All right, let's do it.

1:04:01 Well, we do have some comments from a previous video. This video is Bridezilla wants me to cosplay Game of Thrones for her wedding. And this was posted September 5th, 2026. The TLDR for the first story.

1:04:15 Is as follows.

1:04:16 OP was thrilled when her college best friend Lila got engaged until she learned the wildly elaborate plans for the big day. Lila and her fiancé Ben had become completely obsessed with Game of Thrones during the pandemic, and they wanted a full-themed wedding. Bride and groom dressed as their favorite characters, bridesmaids and groomsmen in custom costumes, an expensive lace front wigs, guests wearing their house colors. But when LP finally sat down to research the two characters the couple planned to dress as, she discovered something about the.

1:04:50 Pairing that made her know about entirely. And if you're curious to know what that pairing is, you can go watch the full video. Horrific. Horrific.

1:04:58 Wild. We won't spoil it. If you want to know, go listen to that crazy story. We'll get some comments from it.

1:05:05 It was horrible.

1:05:06 Honestly, these comments might contain a little bit of spoilers. It won't tell you who, but it might, you know, let's just get into those comments.

1:05:13 Point in the right direction.

1:05:14 Yeah. Because I remember the story, and this story was wild.

1:05:18 It got so much wilder.

1:05:19 Yeah.

1:05:20 If you're not a Game of Thrones fan, that's okay.

1:05:23 The bride just kept asking for more and more, and then it got creepy.

1:05:26 Yeah.

1:05:27 And let's start with these comments from that fantastic story. Misspell4897 says, I like Game of Thrones story. Imagine if the bride and groom dress up as the Lannisters, and I know it.

1:05:38 So, yeah, the fact that that's not what they did, Just lets you know how bad it had to have been.

1:05:44 They thought it was going to be Jon Snow and Ygritte. Ygritte.

1:05:47 Ygritte.

1:05:48 Which is a different variation of a redhead and.

1:05:51 A guy with curly hair. And here's another comment. Yeah, if you don't know Game of Thrones, it's okay. You can start. There's always time to start. But here's another comment, which... I love. Oh, this is from Dancer of Boreal saying, sitting here going, please not the Lannisters. Please not the Lannisters.

1:06:06 Please not the Lannisters.

1:06:07 Edit. Never mind.

1:06:08 I wish it was the Lannisters.

1:06:11 I think I'm remembering now. Do you want me to? I'm pretty sure I remember it, but. It was bad. It was bad, bro. So bad. Yeah, no, that's so bad.

1:06:21 That's so unbelievably the worst.

1:06:24 And the reason why it was so even much worse. Just so bad. She was her protector. Just so, so bad. So bad. Oh, take it away.

1:06:32 A couple more comments here that we'll get into because this one was a fun story to read. Deadhead8323 says, I'm sorry, but having those Game of Thrones custom theme outfits have to be more expensive than a regular outfit for a wedding?

1:06:45 Screw whimsy.

1:06:45 I'm not destroying my wallet for something like that. I would let her just have the wedding vibe and go uninterrupted without my presence.

1:06:52 Fair.

1:06:53 Yeah, what would be the cheapest Game of Thrones character you could dress up as? Oh, that little, one of the orphan boys.

1:06:59 The Starbucks cup. You know, remember the Starbucks cup?

1:07:01 The Starbucks cup. The infamous Starbucks cup.

1:07:05 Maybe I just give myself a tail and I'm a dragon.

1:07:07 Yeah.

1:07:08 Just give myself a little tail.

1:07:10 And one last comment here from Let's Patch It Up saying, Why would anyone want a Game of Thrones wedding thing? The only wedding I remember in Game of Thrones was the red wedding.

1:07:20 Nope.

1:07:21 Also, if this is what the bride demands and plans to keep their dresses, then the bride can pay for it and stay dressed in red. No one survived that wedding.

1:07:30 No one did.

1:07:31 Spoiler alert.

1:07:31 And to answer your question, the cheapest outfit you can get from Game of Thrones is a prostitute.

1:07:36 Well, yeah, because they would have no clothes. But then you end up paying for whatever the fine is for public indecency. I think maybe cheapest costume?

1:07:45 Bran. Wheelchair. I mean, it would be really lazy.

1:07:49 It would be really lazy, but if you were sitting in a wheelchair and you said, which Game of Thrones character am I? It wouldn't matter what you were wearing. They would probably guess... The one in the wheelchair.

1:08:00 You have to guess, like, you have to get, like, a specific wheelchair.

1:08:03 Oh, you'd have to get, yeah, you'd have to get, like, the old, like, wooden wheelchair.

1:08:06 There's also a hilarious bit about this whole universe by a comedian. I'll have to send it to you. Yes. Is that it?

1:08:12 That is it, yes. Those are the comments. Go hear about that story. That's a crazy Game of Thrones story, especially if you like that stuff.

1:08:18 Guys, that's the end of this episode. If you love us, make sure to subscribe. We love you. And see you tomorrow.