My sister made BAD decisions…and I’m the one paying for the consequences! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3093

0:00 Hey, it's Keon.

0:01 And this is Carly, your favorite OK Storytime host, and we've got some great stories coming up.

0:06 But before that, we have a quick two minute break from the sponsors that keep the show alive.

0:11 My sister made bad decisions and I'm the one paying for the consequences.

0:17 That's a bad sister. I, male 21, have a twin sister.

0:22 When we were 12, we emigrated to When we started university, our parents paid for all our expenses so we could focus on studying and not worry about working to pay the bills.

0:32 They had one condition.

0:33 No having children before graduating, finding a job, and becoming financially independent. I've been with my girlfriend, who is also 21, for a year. My sister met Ed, male, 42 last year. From the start, my parents were against her dating an older man. They had many talks with her, but.

0:50 She insisted she... loved Ed.

0:53 Later, she told my parents she was pregnant. They are not supportive of the pregnancy, which upset her. She told them she didn't need their help, said she was quitting school anyway. And went no contact. By the way, this comes from Throwaway Sister Drama. If you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.

1:10 I'm Dakota.

1:11 I'm Sophia.

1:12 We're tired, but we're going to read this story.

1:14 In a tired way.

1:15 We're going to have our thoughts.

1:16 In a tired way.

1:17 I hope all of you have the same thoughts.

1:19 In a tired way.

1:20 And you can tell us what those thoughts are in the comments. She messaged me yesterday saying Ed broke.

1:26 Up with her and booted her out.

1:28 They had been having... problems.

1:30 And he has been seeing other women. She asked if she could live with me until she figures things out. She is due in March.

1:36 Here's the problem.

1:37 If my parents find out, they will probably cut me off financially too.

1:40 I do not want to get involved in this drama.

1:43 I am doing really well in school because I can focus completely on studying without worrying about work. My girlfriend, and we do not live together, thinks I'm being an a-hole. She says my sister is leaving an awful situation and that I need to help her.

1:55 Here are my options.

1:56 Be a good brother and a decent person and help out my sister and lose everything. Or tell my sister that you made your bed, so enjoy laying on it. What is the reasonable solution to this situation? How do I fix this without burning my future to the ground? There's an edit here. My sister is due soon. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough. When she first found out she was pregnant, she reached out to my parents. When our parents told her that they won't support the pregnancy, she said she and Ed are fine without them. Then after the breakup, she reached out. But this time, my parents refused to even talk to her. So she called me instead as a last resort. Ed is a loser with a crappy job. He is still legally married, but separated

2:31 for years from his wife, which he has children with.

2:34 And there are some comments from OP.

2:36 A downvoted comment asking why his parents would cut him off. Because there is a huge drama between my parents and my sister. They don't like the money they give to me going to her. If I do, I'll get cut off too, probably. Remember, I'm a person too, says Sorry, but yeah, you are the a-hole. Might not be easy, but our moral strength is tested on whether we do the right thing in the face of adversity, not just when it's the easy choice. If you leave your twin sister pregnant... That's right. I don't think OP's working at all.

3:02 His parents are paying for it.

3:04 I don't know, man. This is tough. I don't know. Can you lie about it?

3:07 This is way too sticky of a situation for us to be reading this at this time.

3:22 I was going to say the same thing.

3:24 This is way too much mental.

3:26 Her contact state is 2.15 in the morning.

3:30 In the morning.

3:30 We've been at it since 3 p.m. I mean, you either do that.

3:34 I really do think there needs to be a hard conversation about no one is in a position to be able to take care of this child and provide for it.

3:41 And you need to find something. I don't know, though.

3:45 Yeah, I mean.

3:46 If any other family could help.

3:47 Who knows? Like, crazy. Crazy.

3:50 Lil Dippered Glow says, Also, talk openly with your parents about your sister's situation and ask them if they think You should take her in or help her out. I realize you think they would cut off their assistance, but you need to know for sure. OP says, Unfortunately, my girlfriend can't. She lives with a roommate, too, in a studio, and I live in a studio apartment. All our relatives are back home. I'm going to call my parents and beg them to help her, which is my only option at this point. Penguin, it talks nom nom. I suppose that by living in Canada, you guys have strong laws that protect single parents and their children.

4:32 She should fight that in court if able.

4:35 You are in no obligation to help her, and she kind of made her own bed, and your life may be negatively affected if you let a baby move in with you. Opie says, that is if she goes after Ed. I mentioned about him helping, and she got upset and said, forget about him. Same commenter replies, unless something bad happened, she needs to act like a grown-up, because she is, and go to court, and not just forget He is the father of this child.

4:57 He needs to act like one. OP says, I completely agree.

5:00 He is the father. He should pull his weight. My sister wants nothing to do with Ed and expects me to help her.

5:06 I get it.

5:07 She is... my sister, but I don't want my grades to suffer either. OP also adds, Ed already has kids with his wife. I'm not sure if he even wants to be involved. It doesn't really matter what Ed wants. It matters what he did, which is knock up your sister.

5:20 He was already involved when he decided to date someone half his age.

5:24 Yes. He can be not involved and still help financially, but my sister told me to forget about him.

5:29 Lucy loves apples.

5:30 Surely you can help her in other ways, such as helping her apply for housing and benefits and supporting her emotionally when the baby is born.

5:37 The real a-holes are your parents, correct? Because what they did was rather callous.

5:42 Opie says, To another downvoted commenter, Do they have other siblings, and where is she staying?

5:59 We do have other siblings. We have an 11-year-old brother.

6:02 Whoa. Holy age difference, Batman.

6:04 She is, for now, staying at her friend's house, but she has to leave by Friday. And OP expands, well, I feel like an a-hole, but everyone warned her about this creep. Even when she got pregnant, my parents talked to her and she refused to listen. I agree that it's my parents' job to support her, but now I'm paying the price for her mistakes.

6:21 I just don't think anyone can raise this kid, man.

6:24 I don't think your sister can raise this kid.

6:26 It's rough, dude.

6:26 Weekly Conversation 8 says, It's a studio apartment. Her living there will probably be against his lease and seriously disrupt his life and education. Imagine trying to study with a crying baby and you have nowhere to go for a quiet place to study. OP says, Oh my god, I haven't even considered that. I doubt my landlord even allowed her and her baby to stay with me. She is unable to take care of her baby, says this commenter.

6:46 What is her plan? Live with you in your studio apartment for an unknown amount of time? Opie says yes until she comes up with a plan.

6:53 Why does she need to wait to come up with a plan? Your sister's ticking me off. I know she's in a bad position, but she is ticking me off. Her plan was, my twin brother, we're going to figure this out together.

7:04 Like, take pregnancy out of this picture, and it's so clear. Imagine this is a business decision. She's like, I'm going to take my life savings. I'm going to take all my money. I'm going to put it into this terrible business. And everyone went, do not do that. You're going to lose all your money. And the person you're going into business with is a crook. He's going to steal from you.

7:20 And she goes, no, you're all stupid. And I'm going to be a millionaire and rub it in your face. And she loses all of her money. And now she's like, I need your help. You'd go, absolutely not. You'd go figure it out. We told you, everyone told you what was.

7:31 Going to happen. You did it anyway. I'm not helping you.

7:34 This is the best help I could give you by making you figure it out at rock bottom. But there's a baby involved. OP also adds, When I asked her what her plan was, she had none. When is she planning to go back to work after giving birth? She has no clue. Is she going after Ed for support? Absolutely not. Then there's a permanent thing. She said no, but she has no one and wants my help. What does sister do for work? She now works part-time at shoppers and apparently not getting along with her manager. I really wish my parents would help her. I left multiple messages for my parents. They have not called me back.

8:04 And then later that day, I'm going to my parents' place on Friday and hopefully they won't cut me off too, but who knows really.

8:10 There's another update.

8:11 Two days after the first post, probably my last update, I managed to get a hold.

8:15 Of my parents.

8:16 It turns out they didn't reject my sister. They are willing to help her, but only under their conditions. She needs to go back to school when the baby is one. My parents will pay for her expenses and the baby's expenses. She's not allowed to party to date. or do anything like that. My parents basically said that if she has time to party or go on days, she has time to take care of her baby. They will help with childcare if she wants to study, rest, go to school, whatever.

8:41 She can move in with them until she graduates and gets a job that can support herself and the baby. In other words, my sister did not tell me the whole story. Your sister is a liar. I called my sister after this conversation and she said she didn't mention any of that because this is extremely controlling, misogynistic, and toxic.

8:58 I say, I say, do it, block. That's insane. Insane that she knew what was on the table and she still has the audacity to be like, misogynistic, toxic, can't believe him. Holy crap, your sister is, oh dude, block.

9:12 I think I would break down to her. And just be like, if you don't do this, you're destroying. So that you can destroy the life of yourself and your child. She said they can't control a grown woman or decide her love life. I told her this is really her only option. She said she's disgusted that I abandoned her and put my own happiness first.

9:30 Holy crap, Block.

9:31 I asked her what her plan was. She hung up.

9:33 I know I probably deserve to be called an a-hole, but I really cannot afford to quit school right now to help her.

9:38 And that's why you should not do that.

9:40 And yeah, if that was my twin sister, I'd be on my knees being like, you just gotta go home and do what they're saying.

9:46 They're not wrong. It's not misogynistic. It's not toxic.

9:49 She's still saying that stuff too? Block. You have a child.

9:52 You're gonna have a child.

9:53 What's your plan? To prove them wrong? I'd be like, you know what? Best of luck, sister. You had that option.

9:58 You say peace.

9:59 And speaking of peace, My sister-in-law.

9:51 Kept nagging us for a visit.

10:05 But I don't want her here.

10:06 You should visit somewhere else. I, 28 female, and my husband, 28 male, are expecting our first baby next month. We've been married for over six years, and it took us over a year to conceive. I live into the story. By the way, this comes from throwaway26225, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay.

10:24 Story time subreddit.

10:25 I'm Savannah.

10:25 I'm Sophia.

10:26 I'm Keon.

10:27 And we're here to give you some good advice, Goofly, but guess what? We don't have all the answers. You should tell us what you would do in the comments, because we're going to tell you what we're doing right now. My husband is in the military and deploys very early next year for a long time. We are prepared for that separation, but no, it will be hard on him to be a part... from our first baby during the whole remaining first year of his life. We have two months and a week where he'll be able to be present.

10:50 In that time, we have three sets of our parents visiting, each between five days to two weeks long. None have set days or durations except for my mom, who'd like to be here for the first two weeks-ish after birth. My father and stepmother will visit next for around a week sometime in early December to mid-December. No one is able to visit during the holidays and we live states away from most family. My husband's parents will be visiting in early January to mid-January from anywhere from five days to two weeks. They've given us different time frames and I'd love for them to stay longer rather than a shorter amount of time. We have my husband's brother and wife in the same town as us. They may be

11:28 moving early January to another state. Now to the tricky part. My husband's sister, let's call her Stacy, is in her mid-30s and has several kids. Stacy has been wanting us to have kids for years. When we were trying, I've received a lot of advice. And when it wasn't working, she made a lot of comments to others about how I truly didn't want kids. I do. and how she thought I was hiding medical information.

11:53 I wasn't.

11:53 I became very self-conscious and went to a specialist to get checked, and everything was normal. I told them, Stacy and my husband's family, and they kept asking which exact tests I did and for more information. I told them my OB said it could take a bit over a year for the last of the birth control pills I've been using for seven years to clear from my system.

12:12 I kept getting pressured, so I took an option from the specialist to try a timed conceiving method with medication assistance. After a short window, it worked. From there, Stacey told me what I needed to do to have a healthy baby. To try home birth or a center and to have a doula. I tried to do as much as she recommended, but I feel most comfortable at a hospital as I'm having a high-risk pregnancy due to a health condition I have.

12:35 Doulas cost $ 1. 5k on average and that wasn't in our budget. I tried to be very kind about it and explained to her my decisions as months went by. Every time I didn't agree to something, I don't want to try hypnobirthing. or told her I didn't know yet. We weren't sure if insurance could help with a doula's cost. I would get a lot of texts for days to change my mind.

12:59 We found out a doula isn't covered, and we told her we couldn't afford one. She offered to cover the cost, which is incredibly generous, and I initially said no because that's too much to ask for. But after a couple of days of her texting and my husband's mother calling us, there were some things I stood by, like finding out our baby's gender. My husband and I really wanted to know, and choosing a hospital to give birth at, but it's hard having my own opinions and trying to stick by them.

13:24 I don't want to upset Stacey and cause more stress for my husband, who also tries to stay in good graces with his family. There are many other things she wants me to do that I don't want to, but I do my best to make everyone happy and to prioritize my baby as well. There has been at least one week a month where I get days of text change on what to do and what not to do, and if I don't agree... it can get very blown up fast. A month ago, Stacey asked to come out for a few days to meet her son. My husband and I talked about it and decided to say no.

13:55 He has to go back into work starting in January to prepare for the deployment, and he could leave any time from the very end of January to early February. No solid dates have been given. After his parents leave in mid-January, we'd have a matter of weeks before he leaves. While we do get some time in December to ourselves and our son, we have this January to February window to ourselves as well. My husband doesn't get a lot of time to bond with our son before being gone most of 2026, and we don't get much time to adjust his parents and get to know our new immediate family.

14:26 We want to give our parents a lot of time to meet our son, and we also want time to adjust for ourselves. We explained this to Stacy, and she seemed to accept it after a few days of texts and calls. It was hard for my husband to get her to understand. If he weren't deploying, we'd be more than happy to have her over. My husband's grandmother just told us this week she'd be in the area for a wedding and wanted to visit during the time my husband's parents are visiting in January. None of our parents can be here at the same time. And his grandmother doesn't get along with most of his family. He hasn't told her yet that she can't stay with us because his parents will be here. But we could offer to

15:00 meet for a dinner if she stays nearby.

15:02 You should tell her.

15:03 Yeah.

15:03 Because it seems like she's going to be mad.

15:05 Yeah. This is only because she's already in the area. And we'd feel awful saying a complete no.

15:11 Say complete no.

15:11 So you're going to be like, yeah, you can probably stay here. And then when she gets here, she can't stay here.

15:16 What?

15:16 We can't completely tell her no. Yes, you can if there's no room in your house.

15:20 What?

15:20 My husband and I can be people pleasers at times and we struggle with letting people down. Stacey heard this and blew up my husband's phone after 6 p.m.

15:29 Last night.

15:29 She's mad that we are allowing the grandmother to visit but not her. Side note, I'm also not letting any more of my family.

15:36 Siblings, grandparents, etc. visit either.

15:38 She doesn't realize that we aren't hosting their grandmother but we plan to call Stacey tonight to explain this. My husband had to work until 11 p.m. last night and go in at 6 a.m., so we couldn't call her and chat then. My husband did respond to a few texts to tell her we are still keeping it to parents only and reminded her that I told some of my family no as well. This did not go over well.

16:00 Here is her response directly to me via our text chain. Hi, I just really want to see my brother as a father for the first time in his life. And it just so happens he has a time crunch before he leaves too. It hurts being lumped and compared to your aunt and sister or other family members when I'm his sister and I'm just wanting to see my brother and support him before he goes too. It would be amazing spending the time seeing him become a father. He got to do this for me and for her son and for his brother. It's that support from your side of the family. Husband literally only has his folks and me and I was literally only planning on three nights and then leaving because it's such travels and it's a lot

16:39 for me to go solo. So I was hoping I could do this and I've offered to stay at a hotel or their brother's house and I'm still being told no. Grandma blank doesn't compare honestly and there is a history there. Really hurtful and I feel a very personal dig even if husband says it's not. I'm not your side of the family. I'm husband's only other sibling other than brother.

16:59 Who lives there.

17:00 So I ask how could this not feel like a personal dig? I don't know why you wish not to allow me to come visit and support your husband as his sister. Especially since I offered to stay somewhere else. I'm really hurt deeply. After all the support and time and energy, it hurts to be told no and given all these excuses.

17:17 Shut up. Shut up.

17:19 I mean, I could see her side. I could see like she just wants to be supportive and help and whatever. And they're just like, no, not right now. You know, it might work for you, but it might not work for them. And it has to be, it has to work for both sides of the party. So I didn't text Stacey before or after this as my husband wants to do his best to handle the situation.

17:36 The last four days text chain ended two days ago.

17:39 It was about Stacey feeling like I'm very cold about pregnancy and not being open and honest when I've been very honest to a fault. I've told her about all of my health struggles. I'm even on bed rest right now because I've been incredibly sick this whole pregnancy. I'm so excited to become a mom and meet my son, but the pregnancy has been incredibly hard on my health.

17:57 I'm at risk for delivering early, so my husband is doing his best to help me manage anything stressful. He plans to call Stacey tonight, but Stacey did also threaten to cut us out of her lives last night, called their brother for hours until almost 11 p.m., has left family group chats today, and has called my husband's parents today, who now also want to call him. We try so hard to make everyone happy, and we almost caved to allowing her to visit despite our timeline, but now we feel lost. My husband's brother and his wife are trying to back us up, but I feel like a villain for causing this situation. Out of my husband and I, I've been advocating more for him to get as much bonding time with our son before he deploys. And I'm

18:36 a bit selfish myself wanting time to adjust with just us.

18:40 That's not selfish. It's your family. You're allowed to want to do stuff with just your family.

18:45 I know it will be a lot to become parents, figure out the new us and lifestyle, and to connect with our son as a solid team. As cheesy as it all sounds. Even our parents told us to do so months ago. But now I worry his parents may be changing their minds on that. My husband feels bad for telling Stacey no too and almost changed his mind yesterday.

19:04 He agrees though that we could really use this time together between parents coming and going. I also had an OB appointment today where they did warn me I may deliver early in the next week given the amount of symptoms I've been having four weeks prior to my due date.

19:17 Oh, he's got too much to worry about. Not even including sister-in-law.

19:21 You know, you have a high risk pregnancy. You're literally on bedrest. You're trying to figure out who can visit, who can't visit. Also, your husband is leaving to go do other things for work. Like you're trying to adjust as best as you can. And it's hard to allow other people to come in and be like, oh, you should do this, do this, blah, blah, blah.

19:37 And then just like, ah, and also your hormones are everywhere. I'm like, yeah. And you're pregnant.

19:42 Yeah.

19:42 If we end up having extra weeks of time with an early delivery, I'd be willing to try and have Stacy over at some point for a few days but we don't know for sure and we were pressured to give answers right away in the past so we did I'm so worried that this is causing a rift in my husband's family with us Stacy has severe anxiety which can be why we get a lot of texts at times about matters and I know she truly loves my husband and wants the best for him Am I the a-hole for standing by my husband and I's decision to not have her visit?

20:10 I believe that if.

20:11 I change my mind and cave, my husband will too. He would like her to meet our son and knows it would mean a lot, but he knows how hard it will be to lose more time with just us and hosting a lot of people within a month and a half of delivering our son. It's the easier route at this point to cave. I did offer Stacey to visit us after my husband deploys and we do plan to visit her, and his side of the family for Christmas in 2026 after he gets back from the deployment.

20:36 It absolutely stinks to have to wait so long, so I feel bad about the long wait for Stacey to get to visit and meet her son. He wasn't enthusiastic about visiting after my husband leaves. My husband mentioned this thread, and while I wasn't planning on posting here, I do think it would be wise for me to see if I'm being the a-hole. I want to do what's best, even if it isn't what I'd like. Next year will be hard no matter what, and I worry for my husband missing out on so many milestones in our son's life.

21:02 I'm going to do my best to let extended family meet him by flying out to visit everyone while he's gone. I'm going to make sure my husband gets all of the updates and as much time video calling our son as he wants. I want to make next year as easy as possible on him and us. I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong here, And I'm incredibly torn about this situation.

21:22 Am I the a-hole?

21:23 No. No.

21:24 No, you're not.

21:25 You're allowed to do what you want to do.

21:26 It's your baby. It's your family. Stop letting people bully you around. Would it be better if I changed my mind about Stacey visiting?

21:32 Stop, girl.

21:33 Stop it. Wake up.

21:34 Stop.

21:34 Stop letting her walk all over.

21:36 You stop caving because once you give her that she's gonna keep taking keep taking keep taking and just making she knows what's gonna make you cave and that's not cool that's not a great relationship to have especially with someone who you want to be close with and who you should be close with and i do think that maybe your husband needs to deal with her a little more um i think like he does and obviously he's busy and you're busy and whatnot and maybe just sit down and hash it out over the phone or something because i know she doesn't live there but There's not any problem with just trying to figure it out.

22:05 But that is the end of that story. I fired my little sister.

22:11 My husband secretly kept paying her.

22:13 Why is he doing that?

22:14 My husband, 40 male, and I, 35 female, run a company together. He is the CEO, and I am the COO. We work well as a team. He is more diplomatic and conflict-averse. While I focus on finances, operations, and making difficult decisions when necessary. My younger sister, 22 female, worked for us part-time while studying.

22:35 Over time, she.

22:36 Repeatedly caused problems, including trying to create tension between my husband and me, speaking negatively about colleagues, and making disrespectful comments towards me. After several incidents, we decided to terminate her employment. Although her employment officially ends on the 10th of the month, I recently learned that my husband promised to continue paying her until the end of the month because she wants to go on vacation with her friends, and I quote, she needs money. She made him feel guilty.

23:03 She has savings, I think, more than 6K. By the way, this comes from throwaway2204, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK story time subreddit.

23:13 I'm Savannah.

23:14 I'm Keon.

23:15 I'm Sophia.

23:16 And we're here to give some good advice, goofily, but guess what? We don't have all the answers, surprisingly. But we're going to tell you what we would do, and let us know what you would do.

23:25 Down in the comments.

23:27 Well, guess how my husband reacted to that?

23:30 He agreed.

23:31 This means she will receive several hundred euros she has not earned despite having very few financial obligations. She lives with my parents and doesn't pay rent and substantial savings. She was also the only one in the company who always asked if the money.

23:46 Will come punctually. It was never late.

23:49 It always bothered me, especially because she refused to do some of the tasks we gave her. It wasn't easy with her. But that's not the point. I just want to clarify that she did a lot of mistakes and once even refused to attend a team's meeting because we told her it will happen between 3 p.m. to 5 p.m.

24:04 and she thought it was not fair to make her wait two hours. Those two hours were paid, so she was sitting at home doing nothing. This caused a lot of tension and we had to wait for her during the meeting. It was embarrassing, but we talked to her and tried to explain that we do not accept this behavior, but her attitude never changed. Stupid me forgot how manipulative she can be. She did that a lot with my parents.

24:27 She also convinced my husband to pick up her work equipment because she doesn't want to bring it to the company. I called her and told her straight up that we are not paying her more than she deserves. Currently, we released her from her duties and placed her on paid leave until the 10th. She denied it first. Then she said, it's something I discussed with my boss and not with you.

24:45 She wouldn't even receive the extra money as salary just as bonus money. I told her she needs to bring the work equipment herself to the company, and she freaked out. It's just 30 minutes with the car, but she doesn't have a car. Guess who has a car? Our stay-at-home mother. And my sister is the youngest and only one who lives at home. However, I also told her she will only get what she legally deserves. So Reddit, am I the a-hole for telling my sister that she won't get any money from us? I am not responsible for her vacation, and I refuse to pay anything towards her vacation.

25:19 Why is everyone allowing her to just do whatever she wants?

25:23 This is so weird.

25:25 I feel like she's not even manipulating anyone. She's like, I want that.

25:28 Yeah.

25:29 And people just do it.

25:29 She's like, give me a job. And they're like, okay.

25:33 Okay.

25:34 Sure. Yeah, I don't really know what's going on.

25:38 How old was she again? She's the youngest. She's 22, living at home. Yes, there we go. I would first... I'd be like, yo, husband... Why? Why are you doing that? I mean, whatever makes it easier to get away from you and get away from this job. Great. But this is not fair. This is not fair in any way, shape or form. So why are we doing this?

26:07 Yeah, I don't know.

26:10 Can't she just like, I don't know, figure it out like everyone else in the world?

26:13 I don't know.

26:16 Is that too much to ask?

26:18 There are some comments.

26:19 Yes.

26:20 Comment one. He is not going to be a good CEO if he is like that. He will run the company into the ground. OP responds. I told him the same, but he says I'm cruel and heartless. Mind you, there was a time when we had nothing to eat and I made pasta with butter because we couldn't afford anything else.

26:36 I am not gifting money. I pay what I owe and that's it. Comment number two says he called you cruel and heartless because you didn't want to give your spoiled sister who essentially has no bills and insulted you and was a bad worker free money? Look into that more. Question him. Why does she have him concerned for her vacation?

26:55 Why did he hide it from you? She was eight when I married him. She is the youngest in our family and she knows how to get what she wants. I see that a lot with my parents. He said he didn't want any fights or arguments and she said it's not fair for her because she has to find a new job within three weeks and she's a student.

27:11 I think she made him feel guilty. No, there's no spicy related relationship. She's into girls. I know that many people cheat, but he is an introvert and not that kind of person. He is just too nice, unfortunately. One of my ex-co-workers did overtime. It was not approved and we had to fire him and my husband paid his overtime to avoid a conflict. I wasn't happy about that, but back then, not in the position I am today.

27:35 So your husband just.

27:37 So, yeah.

27:38 I don't know. That's a weird thing to do. I fired you, but you know what? Just because I want to keep things at peace, I will pay you after you're fired.

27:48 Yeah, it is weird to go behind your wife's back and just give people money.

27:58 The reason they got fired was because of that reason.

28:01 Number three says, the problem isn't your sister, it's your husband. He's the one who promised to pay her when she'd already been dismissed from employment. OP responds, yes, you are right. Thanks for your comment. He told her that he would pay for it out of his personal funds, meaning from our joint finances.

28:17 What?

28:18 As she has no legal entitlement to this payment. She cried and said that she really wanted to go on vacation with her friends and had already committed to the trip. My husband is an introverted person who does not have a large social circle and is easily overwhelmed by emotionally charged situations. He particularly struggles when confronted with tears or emotional pressure.

28:38 Sounds like your sister's forte.

28:40 Yeah, but also sounds like your husband needs to kind of grow some.

28:46 Yeah, where's that spine? Why are we such a CPP?

28:51 Comment number four.

28:52 She didn't earn the money, so there's no reason to give it to her.

28:56 She sounds problematic and entitled.

28:58 OP responds, she is. We once had a disagreement about vacation entitlement. Because she works part-time, she believed her vacation day should only be counted against the three days she works per week, which would have resulted in roughly 12 weeks of vacation per year. Our policy is that all employees receive the same entitlement of six weeks per year, which is already very generous. Legally, it would be four weeks, especially for part-time staff, as everyone except my husband and I works either 20 or 30 hours per week. We believe that our employees are happier and healthier when they are not overworked. When I explained that she was not entitled to 12 weeks of vacation, she became very upset and argued that she deserved it as a student and

29:38 even said that students should have more vacations entitlement in order to study better.

29:42 Shut up. Shut up.

29:44 Being a student isn't part of the job, though.

29:47 I'm a student. I deserve better than you.

29:49 Yeah, like, no. You're just like everyone else. You just happen to be a student as well. Like, if you don't like how it is, don't take the job.

30:00 I cannot wait for her to be an adult and be like, I'm an adult. I deserve better than you.

30:03 In reality, she works 20 hours per week and only attends university once a week.

30:08 Sorry?

30:08 Is that even a student?

30:11 That's not even a full-time student. Unless she's stacking all of her classes onto one day.

30:16 She's a student. Which is also, don't do that.

30:18 That's crazy. She wouldn't even be a full-time student if she was doing that. She's a student.

30:25 She has to study and she needs 12 weeks of.

30:28 Vacation for one day. Guys, you know what she is full time? A full time princess.

30:33 Aww.

30:34 Aww. Give her her tiara.

30:37 Yeah, you don't get any pay. You do get a tiara. There's an update.

30:40 First of all, thank you to everyone who commented. I wrote the original post late at night here in Europe while I was angry and I honestly didn't expect so many people to respond. Reading through the comments made me realize that I was so focused on my sister's behavior that I wasn't paying enough attention to my husband's role in all of this. A lot of you were right.

31:00 I mean, that makes sense. Yeah. OP's older, youngest sister makes sense. That's sibling stuff.

31:06 You've seen it your entire life. It's just there.

31:08 And you're like, I hate that.

31:10 Yeah.

31:10 But I think it's both obviously your husband and your sister.

31:14 Yeah. Especially because this wasn't the first time your husband has done something like this.

31:18 Mm-hmm.

31:19 My sister was disrespectful and her termination was long overdue, but my husband should never have made promises behind my back. For some context, I'm the operations manager of the company. We normally discuss every major financial decision together. I only stepped into this role because the previous operator's manager was terrible.

31:38 And since then, I've introduced a lot of structure that simply didn't exist before. We didn't have NDAs or even a formal key Hanover process. Things are a lot more organized now, and the company is in a much better position than it was when I started. My husband and I are complete opposites when it comes to management. He's the good cop, and I'm the bad cop.

31:58 No, no, no, no, no. He's the giving cop. He likes to give. You're the realistic cop who knows that's not right. Big difference.

32:07 I don't mind being the bad cop because I'm fair. I'll always give people what they're entitled to, but I won't bend the rules just because someone is upset. My husband, on the other hand, hates conflict. He wants everyone to be happy, gets uncomfortable when people are emotional, and has a very hard time saying no. He's genuinely one of the kindest people I've ever met, but sometimes he's so trusting that it's almost naive.

32:28 At a point, it's not even nice anymore. He's just a CPP. He just likes to please everyone. I get it, but if he's going to be like a CEO or like a higher up, he needs to learn how to say no.

32:41 Yeah. This husband sounds like me. Dang it.

32:49 I feel like if someone asked you something, like your sister was mean to you, and then they said please, you'd be like, all right, you said please.

32:55 Oh, no.

32:55 If it was my sister, no. Now, if it was anyone else, yes.

33:00 Like a random stranger.

33:01 Yes.

33:02 Like, give me your wallet. You know what? Give me your wallet.

33:05 I treat strangers so well.

33:06 Give me your wallet.

33:08 I don't have it on me. Okay.

33:10 Wow.

33:11 That's all it takes.

33:12 Or else I would.

33:13 Anyone out there who sees Savannah on the street, go up to her, be like, could I have your wallet? Thanks. She'll do it.

33:20 You're like, well, yeah, what do you need it for? Are you going to do a magic trick?

33:25 Yeah. I would magically make your bank account look really bad.

33:29 After everything happened, he drove to the office and spent the night there. The next day, he talked to his father about the situation. His father listened to the whole story and then asked him, If it wouldn't be better if I were the CEO, that apparently hit him harder than anything I said. There is a little bit left here.

33:46 What are we doing?

33:48 This is a wake-up call for your husband. This needs to happen. The fact that he promised your sister the money, is it too late now? She doesn't deserve it. This is all really dumb. I'd be like, don't give her the money. If it were anyone else, I don't care. Sister, the random person that works here, Stop giving people money when they are terminated. It makes no sense.

34:12 Yeah, I'll be like, do you want to, like, how does, you know, people aren't going to take us seriously as a company if this is what you're going to do. If this, like, comes out that, like, you know, if we fire people, we still, like, pay them all this money.

34:26 Can you imagine? I work there for a day and you're like, you know what? We're firing you. You gotta let you go. Here's more money.

34:32 Yeah.

34:32 I'd be like, I'll quit every day.

34:34 Yeah.

34:35 Especially if it's coming from your personal funds. That's blatantly stupid. What are we doing?

34:44 It's not even like the company's paying. It's just like, oh, I just feel bad.

34:47 I'll pay you.

34:47 And it's like, no, that's our money. What are you doing?

34:51 Yeah.

34:52 Later, my husband called and apologized. He admitted that when my sister started crying, he completely shut down. He didn't know how to deal with it and just wanted the whole situation to end as quickly as possible because he hates emotional confrontation.

35:04 All right, OP, you start crying harder.

35:06 There you go. You just have to manipulate this man. Manipulate him more than your sister.

35:13 No, don't do that. That's bad. But you gotta be like... Stop it. Stop it. Grow a spine.

35:21 He promised me that he will never make financial commitments on behalf of the company again without discussing them.

35:27 With me first.

35:28 As for my sister, she will receive exactly what she is entitled to and nothing more. The extra money that was promised is off the table.

35:35 Nice.

35:36 If she doesn't return the company equipment she still has... The value will be deducted from her final paycheck, which I've already made clear to her, so that's where things stand. My husband apologized, my sister isn't getting a special payout, and hopefully this whole mess has taught us that family and business are usually a terrible combination.

35:55 Dang.

35:57 Sometimes, yeah.

35:57 Yeah, sometimes I can see it. But if you guys are understanding and have good communication and work well together, then.

36:06 Yeah, some people work.

36:07 It's just any workplace.

36:08 Yeah, some people can work well together. Other people can't. I have always worked with my friends, no matter what, and it's so funny.

36:14 Bless you.

36:15 Bless you.

36:16 Thanks.

36:16 And so I always find it really funny that some people can't work with their friends.

36:20 They're like, no, I can't. I only work with my friends.

36:22 Yeah.

36:22 It's terrible.

36:24 Yeah.

36:24 Yeah, I hate it. Why are you closing a window?

36:29 It's daft in here.

36:31 Daft? It's daft in here.

36:33 It's daft.

36:34 Two.

36:35 Let's go! Usa! Usa!

36:37 Usa!

36:38 Yeah, Butterfly, just give Kion the updates throughout the stream.

36:44 Well, Sofia was like, I just hope both teams win.

36:48 I didn't say I hope both teams win. I said it doesn't matter which team wins because I.

36:52 Win either way. Come on, Elmo. Pick a side.

36:56 I'll pick a side for the next one. This one doesn't matter.

36:59 This is like the biggest one for you. What are you talking about?

37:01 Whoever wins, I win.

37:05 True.

37:07 It's fine for me.

37:07 Do your parents care? Do you, like, text your parents?

37:10 My parents don't care about sports. My family's not sports people.

37:15 I feel like the World Cup is more than just sports, though.

37:17 Yeah, I mean, like, in that sense, like, we're like, oh, that's cool. Like, wow. Ronan Q, what are.

37:25 We talking about? We're talking about balls.

37:26 Wait, was that the end of the story?

37:27 Yeah. Yeah, that's the end of that story.

37:29 That was the end of that story, and we got another one coming right up.

37:32 Hey, it's Keon, your favorite short king. We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My brother kept a secret hidden from his partner, so I stepped in. Ooh, big step. My brother, 27 male, was in an accident when he was 19. This accident changed everything about both his life and the lives of my sister, 22 female, myself, 24 male, and our parents. Four years after his accident, both my sister and I became his caregivers. Years have passed and my brother has mostly recovered to the point where he can live on his own and function almost like anybody else.

38:04 We're all so incredibly proud of how far he's come and so happy to see him back to his old self again. This is where the issue started. His new boyfriend, 28 male, is the sweetest, kindest, most upfront person on the face of the planet. He's also very open and honest about his own hardships that he's faced in his life, and is always talking about how honesty is the most vital part of his healing process. When my brother first started seeing him, I figured that he would have already told him about his disability. And yet, three months later, when I officially met his new boyfriend, it became blazingly obvious to both my sister and I that he never told his boyfriend.

38:37 Well, why would he need to?

38:40 By the way, this comes from user NewTangalo1719. Or Tangelo? One of those.

38:46 Tangelo. Tangelo.

38:49 And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoreTime subreddit. I'm Kian. I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia. And we're here to give good advice goofily. We don't have all the answers. We only know what we do. So let us know what you do down in the comments down below. As Opie says, I wanted to talk to his boyfriend right away, but my sister told me not to. That I should let my brother tell his boyfriend in time. I agree.

39:10 Yeah, that's not your thing to tell.

39:12 Yep.

39:13 Especially if your brother is recovering. And he's like back to his old self. Yeah.

39:18 Now.

39:18 Yeah, don't ruin it. Little B.

39:21 Well, OP continues saying that time never seemed to come. Almost a year later, I went to help my brother move into his boyfriend's apartment and there was no thought or care.

39:49 That's so messed up.

39:50 That's bad and wrong.

39:51 A-hole move.

39:54 That is badong. Bad and wrong.

39:58 Badong. That's badong, baby.

40:01 His boyfriend had told me that he was very aware of his disability, but what he knew only scratched the surface. I explained what things my brother might need help with, even though he never asked for it, and I figured it was over. A week ago, my brother called me, cussing me out for going behind his back and sharing those details with his boyfriend. I thought I was helping him.

40:21 Figured it was too much for him to explain on his own, and I'd rather sleep at night knowing that the man in bed next to my brother knew how to help him completely. My brother insisted that it wasn't my story to tell, and I get that to an extent, but the story did need to be told. So, am I the a-hole? And there's an edit, but I think you're the a-hole.

40:39 Yeah, I think you're the a-hole. I don't, you didn't need to tell him that.

40:43 Like, obviously this was a big thing for him, and you need to let him say that. That's like, Basically, you know, that's like stealing his.

40:52 Like chance to come out.

40:54 You know, it's like he I guess it wouldn't I couldn't relate it to dating because you would know. But but it's like, I don't know. It's just something that he has to do himself. And, you know, they have to sit down and have that conversation.

41:10 And so.

41:11 They will i mean you can talk to your brother about it and be like hey i really think you know try to convince him to tell it but you you can't take that away from him you.

41:18 Know truly i mean his boyfriend did know on the surface of what's going on your sister told you you literally asked your sister should i tell him and she said don't it's not your place it was never your place to tell him yeah i don't know i think it was an a-hole thing to do uh There's an edit. For added context, yes, there is an aspect of danger and safety that does come into play. If I didn't think it may save his life one day, I wouldn't have told it. There is an aspect of his disability that would be almost impossible to hide from a stranger, let alone his partner. They've been dating for a year, so you think his partner wouldn't know? So, that very visible aspect was the part that his boyfriend did know about.

42:00 My brother has never been ashamed of his disability. That's why I found it so strange that he had kept so much of it hidden from his boyfriend. And there's a consensus. What do we think?

42:12 I think you're the a-hole. I think they're going to say you're the a-hole. You should have at least gone to your brother and said, hey, I've noticed that you're doing things that, you know, you shouldn't be doing because of your disability. Have you talked to your partner about that?

42:27 Yeah. Consensus.

42:28 A-hole.

42:29 Yeah, we kind of called that. Opie continues saying, And we all agree on that. Update three days later. So, I was up all last night reading the comments and going over the situation with my girlfriend. This morning, my girlfriend and my brother's boyfriend got the two of us together to talk about it through. They had been both dealing with our separate freakouts for the last week and had already decided to get us together before I had made my post. She's actually the greatest person on the planet.

43:05 Now there's two people that's the greatest person on the planet now. You said that about your brother's boyfriend and now your girlfriend.

43:12 They can't all be the greatest.

43:13 Who's the greatest? Me!

43:16 Why hasn't he mentioned me yet? I'm really, I'm concerned. Did they forget about me?

43:22 Opie continues saying, my brother and I had a long conversation about everything that happened. I started off with him cussing me out and me apologizing. And then we talked about his accident and the years afterwards for the first time. Usually we just talk about... It says sporks.

43:39 Sporks.

43:40 I think it's sports.

43:42 I also think it's sports, but I really hope that it is sports.

43:45 I really want it to be sporks. It says sports with a K.

43:48 I truly hope what they usually talk about is sports.

43:52 Which is hilarious. But I'm going to go with sports. So usually we just talk about sports or he updates me on what's going on with the fam back home. But we had a real conversation about our feelings. Neither of us talk about that stuff. We were raised to be real men and keep those to ourselves. Lucky for us, we have partners who are very in tune with their more mushy sides. He told me how he felt like I never stopped seeing him the way that I did the night of his accident. And he's right. I think for years I've seen him the way that I saw him that night. I'd never really gotten to tell him about what that was like on my end. I had been so caught up in making sure that he was okay that it never really occurred to either of us that...

44:29 I probably wasn't. There are a lot of things that you can't unsee. He never knew what that felt like for me to have gone through that and never be able to talk about it to him. He was always the person I came to when I needed someone. I'd call him when I'd fall off my bike, if I was getting picked on in school. I felt like I couldn't talk to him about that night because I figured that he didn't want to relive it. Turns out he also really wanted to talk about it with me, but figured I felt the same way. And ah, brothers, siblings.

44:55 What do we think? What do we think about the situation?

44:58 Now you're telling me to think about something else.

45:00 Thoughts, thoughts, thoughts, thoughts, thoughts, thoughts, thoughts. I.

45:06 I mean, I really... Truthfully, I only want to know what this accident was.

45:12 And I feel like it probably has something to do with, like, mental illness, which is why they're not, like, saying.

45:16 Anything about it. Because I feel like if it was, like, you know.

45:19 No, it was an accident.

45:20 Yeah.

45:22 But, like.

45:24 Well, if you want to know about the accident, I guess you have to talk to the brother, because... What did we learn about this? It's not your place. Yeah. Nothing. Holy crap. What did we learn about this? Nothing.

45:39 You can't.

45:40 It's not your accident to talk about.

45:42 It's not your accident to talk about, even though I really want you to tell us what the accident was.

45:48 I feel like I'll have a better understanding of what this was.

45:51 Okay.

45:51 Sounds like a major car accident type thing.

45:54 Yeah.

45:54 I feel like it's a major car accident because he can't. like get up or like he had trouble with with things like lifting it looks like so hmm um no i think you did the right thing let's go ahead and finish up this story savannah learned nothing if you can learn from my mistake speaking about learning learn this okay okay ready for this yeah Disability is different for everybody, and it's not something you can really comprehend until it happens to you or a loved one. What makes sense to you in your head may not be the best actual answer, and what works for one person might not work for you. As for the people who called me ableist and infantilizing, we're all doing this for the first time.

46:38 Nobody is an expert on how to deal with this stuff. It's my first time on the planet as much as it is yours. I know that there's nuance to this stuff. I'm trying to do better. Also, I told him that I posted it on Reddit for advice, and now he has nicknamed me Reddit Guy. And I have a feeling it's going to stick for a while. Opie says, Hug your fam. They're the best people you're ever going to know. Oh.

47:01 Sweet.

47:02 Endearing.

47:03 That's a very nice ending. Yes.

47:05 I'm glad it didn't go into something, like, horrible and blow up.

47:10 I'm like, I don't like you.

47:11 I'm never talking to you. No contact.

47:14 Yeah.

47:15 I think.

47:16 No one prepares you for this, especially with a traumatic event like that. I think it is like a big car accident or something like that. You don't want to assume, but something with this major that kind of impacted everyone's lives. But good on you, OP. Way to actually talk about your feelings with your brother. It only took you that long.

47:39 Best of luck. That's the end of that story. We have another one coming right up.

47:43 My sister-in-law rejected our trip offer, then wanted it two weeks before we left.

47:49 Rejected.

47:50 My spouse and I had been planning and booking our Europe trip for April 2026. We finalized all our tickets and reservations in November 2025. Around the same time in November, my sister-in-law announced they would have their wedding in October 2026. My spouse and I immediately offered, as an early wedding gift, to pay for them to travel with us on our Europe vacation.

48:13 Including flights, hotels, and activities.

48:17 I don't know. That's a fun gift, but they have to plan a wedding.

48:22 That's true, but....

48:25 I mean... That time frame?

48:26 That's in.

48:27 Seven months? Eight months?

48:30 Ish.

48:31 I don't know.

48:32 I don't know.

48:34 Sister-in-law refused because it would be weird, and they preferred to save their PTO for another destination they have yet planned.

48:42 Fair enough.

48:42 This Thursday, literally the last full week of March, the sister-in-law called and said they changed their minds and wanted to redeem her offer and tag along. Our trip is literally in less than two weeks. I looked up the last minute flight tickets and hotels and everything is massively expensive now. Yeah, it's last minute. By the way, this comes from KindGround3549, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash ok story time subreddit.

49:05 I'm Savannah.

49:06 I'm Keon.

49:06 I'm Sophia.

49:07 And we're here to give some good advice, goofily, but guess what? We don't got all the answers. We'd only tell you what we would do, but let us know what you would do down in the comments. As Opie says, we literally would have to spend almost $ 4, 000. more than if we had booked for them in November 2025. I told my spouse I no longer wanted to pay for that.

49:26 We're doing well for ourselves, but that is a ridiculous money difference. I volunteered to be the bad person and told them we could no longer offer that gift to them.

49:36 That's not being a bad person.

49:37 Yeah.

49:38 Everyone knows... If you book a trip two weeks in advance, or not two weeks in advance, two weeks before the trip, it's going to be a lot more money than when you booked it, say, six months in advance or before the trip. It's, what?

49:53 Yeah, it's just a, you just can't do that, especially for like an international trip. I could see if like you were going maybe like the next state over or like the next town over or something like, yeah, okay, whatever, last minute, that's fine. But these are like international flights and hotels and everything.

50:10 Kind of common sense. Yeah.

50:13 You got to like make sure you got that down.

50:17 Like when they did it in November and they were going in April, I feel like that's like perfect time.

50:22 Yeah.

50:22 You know?

50:23 Yeah.

50:24 Inevitably drama ensued and the entire vibe is very awkward at the moment or some family members sympathize with me while others said along the lines of well it's just the thing with weddings everything is expensive and you offered am i the a-hole.

50:40 Whoever said that is dumb i would be like all right let's look at the price comparison from november to now yeah what are you talking.

50:48 About Yeah, everything's expensive.

50:50 You know what I would do? I would just give him the money that you paid for, like, originally for your tickets. And he'd be like, there you go. Happy wedding.

50:58 Yeah.

50:59 Ugh.

51:00 Yeah, honestly.

51:01 I'd say, oh, then I'm just going to, like, give you more money towards your wedding then. Or, you know.

51:07 Use that money for your trip.

51:08 Yeah, another trip. Yeah.

51:10 For whenever you want to do it.

51:11 Yeah.

51:11 Yeah. It's done.

51:13 Easy.

51:14 Very easy. Very simple.

51:15 There are some comments. Comment number one, I'm having a hard time believing that anyone would say you should honor an offer made months ago that now costs.

51:24 $ 4, 000 more.

51:24 Who genuinely thinks that's reasonable? OP responds, naturally, the aunties who don't have any stake in this drama. Seriously, I don't even know how news travels this fast considering it's not even been two days. Comment number two says, not the a-hole, but info please. Were they going to go on an early honeymoon? Being a wedding present, I guess, led me to the assumption that your trip coincided with their honeymoon?

51:48 OP responds, thanks for your thoughts. The trip would.

51:50 Be before their wedding since they're traveling in April and their wedding is in October. On number three says, they not only declined your generous offer, but said it was weird. So why is it suddenly not weird anymore?

52:03 Not the a-hole. OP responds, thank you for your thoughts.

52:06 I assume when they said weird, they meant it would be like a long, awkward double date.

52:11 But I agree. Why not weird now?

52:13 Comment number four says, I'm guessing they realized what an overseas honeymoon would cost them right now and the threshold of weirdness they were willing to deal with adjusted.

52:22 Ha ha.

52:24 Number five says this person does not sound.

52:26 Aware of how life works.

52:29 Yeah. Like I said, it's kind of common sense. Why would you guys offered this six months ago? The offer is gone.

52:40 Also, how can they now get time off two weeks away? That was an incredible offer to make in the first place. If they do go, I wish you the best of luck. It does not sound like they've traveled much if they think it's plausible to tag along to Europe two weeks away. OP responds, the sister-in-law owns their own artisan business and the fiance is a consultant, so I guess they can work from anywhere.

53:02 Uh, there's a little bit left. Okay, so would you do your offer? Or would you be like, you know what, you can come.

53:10 The offer expired. I gave you that offer six months ago. Or eight months ago. What have you. Not two weeks. Um... We took it out.

53:19 That's what I mean.

53:19 Best thing I would do, and I said it already, give them the amount of your tickets, like what you paid for as like a wedding gift and be like, you know what? It won't be weird. You can do this for your honeymoon or whenever you guys want to travel. There you go. Very easy. Those aunts, of course, someone has to say something. I would say, shut up. Pay for it then. Where's your wedding gift?

53:40 Yeah. I would be like, okay, if you guys feel so bad, why don't you pay for it?

53:45 Oh, you don't want?

53:46 Okay, got it. Then go away.

53:48 Yeah.

53:51 There's an update.

53:52 Thank you, folks, for your thoughts and for suggesting the option to offer my sister-in-law the original money that we would have paid for them in November.

54:01 I'm a simplistic man. I cause it as I seize it.

54:04 He knows. Wait, say that again.

54:06 I'm a simplistic man. I cause it as I seize it. Yeah.

54:10 I thought we had the wide angle. No, I mean, you can turn it on if you want.

54:16 Overwhelmed in our fluster and frustration, we didn't even think of that. We will offer to gift them the money plus the KitchenAid we already bought as a replacement gift. We honestly don't want any drama and hope this will be water under the bridge. Comments. Comment number one, not the a-hole. I just find it funny that you replaced a European trip, flights, accommodations, and activities with a KitchenAid.

54:38 V responds, my sister-in-law mentioned to their mom that they had been wanting a KitchenAid for some time. Where we live, KitchenAid, Cost starts from $ 400 to $ 500. They're pricey.

54:50 Yeah.

54:51 We didn't really want my mother-in-law to pay that much, so when the sister-in-law said no to our vacation offer, we bought the KitchenAid instead.

54:58 Oh.

54:59 And that's all.

55:00 Dasty aunt.

55:02 Well, you know, I hope that your sister appreciates that gift and doesn't, you know, start complaining about that.

55:10 At least she's getting a gift.

55:11 Yeah.

55:13 Some people just bring, like, a gift card. to a wedding. It's like $ 50, which is sad.

55:19 I mean, if you, I mean, $ 50 is something that you want. Yeah, I feel like I've been to a lot of weddings where people just like gift money.

55:27 Yeah.

55:27 Which I think is good. Yeah. Usually it's like $ 100, but it's whatever you have.

55:33 Yeah. Gifts are gifts. Be happy you got a gift.

55:35 I don't know. I feel like for a wedding, money is good.

55:40 Yeah, I've been liking, I've been going to a lot of weddings recently for my friends and they just have like a thing. They're like, what they want. Like a, I can't think of the list. It's a list, but I can't think of what it's called.

55:49 Like a wedding registry?

55:50 Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love the registry. Registries are nice.

55:54 Yeah, because then I'm like, what's the cheapest thing? I can't wait to make one. What do they put on them?

55:59 Registry?

56:00 Usually, so like wedding, so like wedding ones, it's usually stuff for like a house.

56:05 It's for like, like it's like new pots and pans.

56:08 It's for like cooking stuff. Organizers. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

56:10 Oh my goodness.

56:11 Like, new like, Plates, new silverware, stuff that they want. It's really great.

56:17 Like a composter or something that they've always wanted or something like to start a garden or something for.

56:22 Your house or towards their honeymoon. That's what I did for my my my friend's wedding. They were like, we want all these things. And people were like, it's kind of like it looks like an Amazon like.

56:31 Yeah.

56:32 Wish list.

56:33 Yeah.

56:33 And like, oh, someone's already got that. Cool. That's done. Someone's got that. Cool. Done. And they're like, donate to just our honeymoon. And it's cool. You're like, all right, here's like three meals on us and like a bunch of drinks. Get drunk.

56:45 I feel like my boyfriend and I would want to do like, I don't know if we would want something like expensive for a honeymoon. Like, I feel like we would just go on an adventure, you know?

56:56 What?

56:57 Should we just do a backpacking trip? Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like, I feel like. We'd probably do something like that. I don't think we would need a bunch of money for that. Well, I mean.

57:06 Let's get to the engagement first. I'm just thinking. She's like, I'm so excited about the registry.

57:12 I know.

57:13 I can't wait.

57:14 To plan the things that I want.

57:15 That's the wedding. I want the registry.

57:17 My wedding in five years.

57:19 There's also like they do it for baby showers as well. And like babies, you know, because they.

57:25 Have a registry.

57:26 I'm not ready for usually it's just diapers.

57:28 And usually that's like the registry is like with like Target.

57:31 I did that for a friend to diapers. They're like, listen, money or diapers, just diaper. Diapers are so expensive. Yeah.

57:38 Diapers or like any like, you know, baby formula.

57:42 Yeah. People always say like, oh, I don't want that many baby toys because they grow out of them so quick.

57:47 And that's the end of this story. We're going to go on to the next one.

57:50 Hey, it's Carly, Keon's girlfriend, here.

57:53 We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My friend's family blamed her for getting cheated on, so I refused to stay silent.

58:02 Yeah, you shouldn't. Call them out.

58:04 A bit of background. I'm Middle Eastern in ethnicity, but was born and raised in the UK, so I'm very westernized in my thinking. This story involves my friend, who is of South Asian background. We are all in our mid-30s. I've been friends with my friend, let's call her Tara, since the age of eight. So nearly 30 years. She and I would be in each other's houses all the time.

58:23 Even after we grew up and moved away for university, got jobs, got married, and had children, we kept in touch. Tara got married in her late 20s. She's doing well as a solicitor and has been working since the age of 16. She used to invest her savings in stocks and in ISA, and at 25, she bought her first house.

58:40 Wow.

58:42 Nice well we can't all be like you tara must be nice tara it's a nice detached three bedroom in a cul-de-sac in cash before she got married.

58:52 In cash crazy.

58:55 This sounds insane what i hope you continue saying like i said she does very well for herself by the way this comes from user c12342 and if you want to submit your own stories go to the r slash okay story time subreddit i'm kian.

59:10 I'm savannah i'm sophia and we're.

59:12 Here to give good advice goofily we don't have all the answers we only know what we do so let us know what you do in the comments down below please As Opie says. So she got married, had two kids, and she and her husband used to split all the bills 50-50. But Tara was responsible for all the holidays and excursions since she earned a lot more. They always kept their finances separate. Anyway, she found out that her husband had been sleeping with her cousin? Her cousin and she had been raised in the same household in a multi-generational setting. So she considered her cousin a sister. Tara punted her husband out and went scorched earth. After getting a divorce lawyer, and after two long years, she finally

59:50 got divorced. She managed to keep her house and her savings, and she had primary custody of her children. She found out that her husband had been taking money from her account behind her back, so she negotiated in her divorce agreement that he would not go after her pension, child maintenance, or spousal support in return for her not pressing charges for fraud. Her lawyer was a shark. Scary. and got a good deal for her. Unfortunately for Tara, her family did not stand by her. To them, divorce would bring shame on the family. And as we are Muslim, it is acceptable for her husband to have a second wife.

1:00:23 When she pointed out that her cousin and her husband were not married and were having a spicy related relationship, it was dismissed. In the end, she cut all contact with her entire family. Her children only see their father twice a month and not overnight. From what she said, he's not interested in them and usually leaves them with her former mother-in-law. So Tara's mother phoned me, wanting me to get Tara to speak to her again. She said, I didn't raise her to an abandoned family, and she needs to raise her children in a two-parent household.

1:00:52 Oh, so we should just dismiss everything that the, you know, husband's doing. It's better to just stay together and make it work.

1:01:00 Do it for the kids.

1:01:03 Like, that's not going to help the kids.

1:01:06 Sorry, it's not. I would be on the phone and be like, shut up. Her husband was stealing money from her, cheating on her, and you think that's all good? You think that's okay? If you think that's okay, great. Stick in your old ways. I would say shut up. Dumb.

1:01:27 The TLDR is wrong, by the way.

1:01:29 Opie says, I answered back, saying, you also raised her cousin and made it okay for her to open her legs for a married man and be a homewrecker, so I'm not sure you can talk about raising people right. Opie continues saying, her mother was stunned into silence, started to cry, then hung up the phone on me.

1:01:49 Good.

1:01:50 Good. I understand that within our culture, it is very hard to cut off your parents. But in my opinion, her mother chose her niece over her daughter and decided that the family's image is more important than her daughter's well-being. However, I was really harsh and rude in my tone. And we are taught to respect our elders. And this is where I felt I may have been the a-hole. And that's the end of that. No, you stood up for your friend and you stood up for what's right.

1:02:13 Yeah.

1:02:14 So, no, you're not an a-hole.

1:02:16 I don't think so at all.

1:02:17 I don't know if an elder was being that snarky and stupid. I'd call him out.

1:02:22 Same.

1:02:23 Well, I would try to, but then I'd be like, oh, sorry, I don't know. But I would be like, I don't know.

1:02:29 I don't know. Is it rude to be saying the truth? Is it rude to be saying the truth? It's all honesty.

1:02:41 Is it rude to be saying the truth? Is that what you're saying?

1:02:43 Yeah.

1:02:44 No.

1:02:45 You can, we, me and Dakota just read like a story yesterday where like, the guy was mean to his wife and he was like, no, I was just being truthful.

1:02:54 And it's like, but you could have said it in a non mean way.

1:02:58 It's like, it's how you say things. But also in this situation, just don't go after my cousin.

1:03:04 I don't know.

1:03:05 Is that, did we have to use big brain thinking on that one?

1:03:10 Apparently. Hmm.

1:03:13 That is the end of that story. Oh, and the end of this episode.

1:03:15 Oh,