You Can Handle Anything, and That's the Problem: Capacity vs. Capability When You Were Raised by a Toxic Parent

Too many cycle breakers know that moment when your phone lights up with the latest family emergency and you drop everything to try to calm the storm.
When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, you learn early on that keeping the peace is what keeps you safe. So, when there's a crisis, of course you spring into action.
In this episode we dive into:
• The difference between what you're capable of and what you actually have the capacity for
• The cost of being designated the family fixer
• The "I should be able to handle this" story, and how it keeps you stuck in burnout and self-blame
• One honest question to ask yourself this week that brings real clarity to how you spend your time, energy, and resources
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